Pillow Talks

E204: Confessions Of An Overactive Bladder


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If you’ve ever joked about “peeing just a little” when you sneeze, or you’re the kind of person who always has to know where the bathroom is, this one’s for you.


Vanessa is sharing her personal (and super vulnerable) journey with bladder issues: how it started, the surprising symptoms, the anxiety it caused, and the expert-backed tools and tricks that actually helped.


We asked our community if they’ve experienced bladder problems — and 62% of women said yes. So if you’re in that group, or just curious to hear a side of health and intimacy we’ve never talked about before, tune in. This episode might just be a game changer for you.


Here’s a peek at what we cover:

  • That awkward moment when you realize… something’s off
  • The role of pelvic floor physical therapy (and who V followed to learn more)
  • Bad habits no one tells you are actually bad
  • The urologist visit from hell (you won’t believe what they said)
  • How Vanessa trained her bladder like a dog (yes, really)
  • Small changes that made a HUGE difference — and why Vanessa finally sleeps through the night

  • Disclaimer: This episode is based on personal experience and is not intended as medical advice. Always consult with your doctor about your individual health needs.



    Links & resources in the episode:
    • Expecting and Empowered
    • The Vagina Whisperer


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