The Luella Jonk Show

Episode #61: Letting Go of Control is Your Greatest Strength


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In this deeply personal episode, I'm opening up about one of the most challenging yet transformative concepts I've encountered both in my practice and my own marriage journey—the radical freedom that comes through surrender and what true obedience actually looks like.

If you're someone who feels like you're constantly holding the reins tight, afraid that everything will crumble if you're not managing every detail—whether you're an entrepreneur burning the candle at both ends, a mother feeling responsible for everyone's emotional temperature, or a wife who's become more of a manager than a partner—this episode is specifically for you.

I have also attached a companion piece for this episode - a 6-minute guided meditation for finding peace through the release of control. Scroll down to the bottom of this description for the link.

We'll explore together:

Why the fear of being a "doormat" keeps us trapped in exhausting control patterns—and what Christ-like obedience actually means

How my own marriage separation taught me the difference between self-protection and true surrender

The spiritual burden so many women carry—and why being "nice" isn't the same as being loving

How stepping back from micromanaging actually creates space for grace to work in your relationships

The powerful difference between enabling and entrusting—especially with adult children

Drawing from both my 25 years as a therapist and my own lived experience, I'll share why tenderness isn't weakness, how Jesus modeled true strength through obedience, and the profound peace that comes when we stop trying to be everyone's savior.

🔔 This isn't about becoming passive or voiceless—it's about discovering the fierce, faithful kind of trust that transforms both you and your relationships from the inside out.

I'll also be sharing the beautiful Surrender Novena prayer that has become a cornerstone of my own healing journey.

If this resonates with your heart, please share it with someone who might need to hear that they can finally take their hands off the control dial and trust in something greater.

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Companion Meditation Audio: 🎧 6-Minute Guided Surrender Meditation - Releasing Control to Find Peace

A gentle, guided meditation to help you practice the art of surrender. In this peaceful 6-minute audio, I'll walk you through a visualization of laying your burdens at the feet of Jesus, breathing the Surrender Novena prayer into your body, and experiencing the profound relief that comes when you finally stop trying to carry it all. Perfect for starting your morning with trust or ending your day by releasing control. Listen whenever you feel the grip of anxiety or the weight of trying to manage everyone and everything around you.

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