In Part 1, I argued that the four main sources most people learn about romance from—media, family, religion/culture, and friends—are all unreliable in different ways. None of them are optimized for truth, and each comes with its own incentives, blind spots, and distortions.

As I said, I'm not the first to notice that we're failing, as a society, to provide good answers to these questions. There are researchers from various fields trying to provide answers, some rigorously, and some… less so. There are also communities and influencers trying to create a fifth source of romantic advice, independent from the traditional sources, each with their own biases and incentives.

The Counterreaction: Red, Black, and Blue Pills

I don't know if you've noticed, but at risk of being a stereotypical old man despairing over the youths of the day… I think the kids actually aren't alright, this time.

Not because I think they're doing something wrong by my own values or frame of what romance "should" be, but because the data shows unprecedented levels among the younger generations in lack of dating experience, loneliness, and confusion that enables the unprecedented popularity of "give me money and I'll tell you what no [...]

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(00:54) The Counterreaction: Red, Black, and Blue Pills

(03:52) The Empowering Red Pill

(09:13) The Comforting Black Pill

(12:54) The Virtuous Blue Pill

(16:26) Evolutionary Psychology

(23:20) Building An Honest Map

(24:13) Nurturing a Truth-Telling Community

(27:23) The Conversations Youre Not Having

(29:11) Some Good Sources

(32:13) Walk the Land

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