Joyful Courage for Parenting Teens

Eps 115: Solo show - Exploring trust and surrender as I navigate all there is to learn while raising a teen

Listen Later

Content:

  • The tension of being a parent educator WHILE IN THE EXPERIENCE of parenting
  • Parenting for the long term…
  • Keeping in mind brain development
  • Mistakes are opportunities for learning
  • Everyone should have a voice
  • Relationship matters
  • Kindness, firmness and trust
  • Bumps up against the mainstream idea of reward/punishment model
  • My own experience of punishment/consequences as a teen
  • Noticing the societal pressure of “she should pay for her mistakes” while also noticing that we have a really good relationship and are exploring her choices together
  • All we can do is increase the likelihood that our children will grow to be responsible, respectful members of society
  • In the process of learning to make choices, our children will make bad choices
  • I know I am not alone in this rub
  • We want our children to feel as though we are our safe harbor
  • Surrender is so complex… or maybe just the depth is profound
  • GRACE: workshop for women through boldlyembodylife.com
  • If trust is our intention, then we have to start with trusting ourselves
  • We then can evoke trust in our relationships
  • Then our teens can lean into trusting themselves (and getting it wrong sometimes)
  • The design of the universe is bigger than me, bigger than my child, and we are all going to be okay – might as well trust that God has our back
  • Trusting what I don’t know, what I can’t know, what I am still on the path to understanding
  • Fear grips the inside of my body, my energy tightens up – shorter breath, tight belly
  • “When fear is present, the teacher is in the room.” – Krista Petty Raimer
  • Events/ experiences are an invitation for me to evoke what I want more of in my relationship with my daughter
  • Neutral/ Think Tree – feeling our feet, grounding into our body, top of our body is open, flexible, available
  • Finding neutral is not about the absence of anything, but about the availability of everything (thank you Mary Jo!)
  • Neutral allows space for relationship with our children
  • The most powerful tool we have for influencing the behavior is the relationship we cultivate and nurture with them.
  • Lisa Damour – swimming pool analogy
  • There is flow and impermanence to the cycles of connection/disconnection that show up
  • Find your people that are going through similar experience and hold a similar parenting style to share raw and vulnerably
  • We are practicing all the time – either our auto pilot OR something new and different
  • Being intentional allows us to GENERATE more of what we want into our life!

    • Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

    ...more
    View all episodesView all episodes
    Download on the App Store
    Joyful Courage for Parenting TeensBy Casey O'Roarty
    • 4.8
    • 4.8
    • 4.8
    • 4.8
    • 4.8

    4.8

    247 ratings

    More shows like Joyful Courage for Parenting Teens

    View all
    ADHD Experts Podcast by ADDitude

    ADHD Experts Podcast

    1,328 Listeners

    Respectful Parenting: Janet Lansbury Unruffled by JLML Press

    Respectful Parenting: Janet Lansbury Unruffled

    3,658 Listeners

    Mindful Mama: Raising Kind, Confident Kids Without Losing Your Cool | Parenting Strategies For Big Emotions & More by Hunter Clarke-Fields

    Mindful Mama: Raising Kind, Confident Kids Without Losing Your Cool | Parenting Strategies For Big Emotions & More

    446 Listeners

    Full-Tilt Parenting: Strategies, Insights, and Connection for Parents Raising Neurodivergent Children by Debbie Reber

    Full-Tilt Parenting: Strategies, Insights, and Connection for Parents Raising Neurodivergent Children

    982 Listeners

    What Fresh Hell: Laughing in the Face of Motherhood | Parenting Tips From Funny Moms by Margaret Ables and Amy Wilson

    What Fresh Hell: Laughing in the Face of Motherhood | Parenting Tips From Funny Moms

    1,002 Listeners

    AT Parenting Survival | Raising Kids with OCD & Anxiety by Natasha Daniels: Child Therapist, Child Anxiety and Child OCD Expert

    AT Parenting Survival | Raising Kids with OCD & Anxiety

    1,220 Listeners

    In It: Raising Kids Who Learn Differently by Understood.org, Gretchen Vierstra, Rachel Bozek

    In It: Raising Kids Who Learn Differently

    247 Listeners

    Raising Good Humans by Dear Media, Aliza Pressman

    Raising Good Humans

    1,890 Listeners

    THE AUTISM ADHD PODCAST by Holly Blanc Moses

    THE AUTISM ADHD PODCAST

    636 Listeners

    Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry by Lynn Lyons LICSW, Robin Hutson

    Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry

    461 Listeners

    Ask Lisa: The Psychology of Raising Tweens & Teens by Dr. Lisa Damour/Reena Ninan

    Ask Lisa: The Psychology of Raising Tweens & Teens

    100 Listeners

    Good Inside with Dr. Becky by Dr. Becky Kennedy

    Good Inside with Dr. Becky

    4,511 Listeners

    We Can Do Hard Things by Treat Media and Glennon Doyle

    We Can Do Hard Things

    41,561 Listeners

    This Is So Awkward by Peoples Media, This Is So Awkward

    This Is So Awkward

    328 Listeners

    Divorce with Sam and Leah by Sam and Leah

    Divorce with Sam and Leah

    43 Listeners