Joyful Courage for Parenting Teens

Eps 119 Solo Show - Deconstructing Natural Consequences and Personal Responsibility

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    Content:

    Personal Responsibility and Natural Consequences

    • Natural consequences are what happens when we stay out of the way – they occur when we let things unfold
    • What do we want most for our kids? What are our desired outcomes for this whole process of parenting?
    • Reference to a poll on my personal FB page
    • Who lets their 14 year old daughter hang out in her room with her boyfriend?
    • Two lists activity from Positive Discipline class
    • The only place that our kids can develop life skills is inside of experience… and in relationship with a healthy adults supports that as well…
    • Their experiences inspire and inform future decisions
    • There is a lot learning that we are robbing our children of because we are getting in the way
    • Parents internal experience takes over
    • Mindfulness matters when we are supporting our kids in developing personal responsibility
    • Natural consequences happens when adults don’t get in the way
    • This is a dance – boundaries are respectful kids need them, we need them
    • Kids need to feel the tension
    • Mistakes allow natural consequences – when we let them feel the consequences that show up, that we aren’t IMPOSING there is lots of room to learn
    • Example – homework
    • Help them to expand their perspective of what THEY want
    • Check your assumptions… and check in with your child
    • Humans LONG to be listened to, seen
    • Kids learn personal responsibility through experiencing having the opportunity to BE personally responsible
    • What matters is the relationship – bonded in unconditional love and mutual respect
    • Allow the natural consequence the power that they have
    • Our kids want to feel connected, as though they matter and that they have influence
    • Tools: co-creating routines and agreements, loosen up, ask questions, check your unspoken messaging, family meetings
    • joyfulcourage.com/family-meeting-ecourse
    • We all want our kids to grow into cooperative, contributing adult living good lives
    • What already exists when they make mistakes is powerful!

      • Coming up next week – talking with Robin Sabbag about raising a teen daughter.

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