Joyful Courage for Parenting Teens

Eps 461: Guilt and shame - The Art of Connected Parenting, part 2


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Join Alanna Beebe, Julietta Skoog, & Casey O’Roarty, the three founders of Sproutable, as we dig deeper into finding the why of the work we do. This week, we’re talking about guilt, shame, and self-doubt. All parents feel guilt, shame, and self-doubt about aspects of their parenting, even us as ‘experts’ - especially us! Today, all three of us are sharing stories of times we’ve felt (or still feel) guilt, shame, and self-doubt around our parenting.  


Parenting is a place where those hard feelings often pop up. There are a lot of layers to this, and the power of hindsight can leave us feeling regretful about things we did or didn’t do. What do we do with these crappy feelings? What can we do in the moment when we feel shame creeping up on us?


Takeaways from the show

  • All parents feel guilt, shame, and self-doubt sometimes 
  • The power of hindsight 
  • Digging deeper to examine your values 
  • Society’s “supposed to’s” 
  • “It’s much easier for me to see my child be different and make waves, but it’s much harder for me to be different and make waves.” 
  • Parenting is a journey with lots of opportunities to keep practicing 
  • The way our kid’s behavior reflects on us 
  • Accepting and advocating for our children for who they are 
  • Why we like getting calls from school 
  • Leaving room for kids to have their own perspective 
  • “Tell me more” 
  • Why we avoid labeling our kids 
  • Doubting your parenting intuition 
  • Finding the answers for your self-doubt 
  • Moving from stopping behaviors to building missing skills 
  • Worthiness & value are innate

  • For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here.

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