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How do you feel about setting boundaries? Are you worried it may alienate you from friends, family, or loved ones?

In today’s episode, Melissa Urban joins me to discuss her journey with boundaries, from learning what they really are to setting them with her close connections. Together, we also unpack how boundaries are kind (not selfish) and make us more (not less) free.

Melissa Urban is the Whole30 Co-Founder and CEO, a recovered addict, New York Times best-selling author, mother, podcast host, nature churchgoer, and boundary wizard—in a nutshell. Her latest work, “The Book of Boundaries”, is available for pre-order on her website (linked below).

Join us as we discuss:

• What boundaries really are and how they show kindness to our close connections
• The importance of setting boundaries with yourself as an act of self-love
• Navigating conflict with healthy boundaries
• Attachment styles in conflict
• The importance of re-evaluating boundaries regularly as your life and situations change

Hang Out with Melissa:

• Order Melissa’s Book on Boundaries
• Visit Melissa’s Website
• Find Melissa on Instagram
• Follow Melissa on Twitter

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How do you feel about “quiet quitting”? I love it. And I’ve been encouraging people to quietly quit for years, so I’m happy to see this work make it to the mainstream.

In today’s episode, I unpack how to quietly quit your work, your relationships, and your constant attempts at self-improvement.

Tune in to hear more about…

• Why we should rebrand “quiet quitting” as sustainable living
• How to recognize when your work is unsustainable
• Why you should quit performing perfection for yourself or other people
• How to release unrealistic expectations
• Why you don’t need “self-improvement”
• My wishlist of everything I wish we could all quiet quit right now

This episode is great for overachievers, perfectionists and people-pleasers. Listen in if you want support quiet-quitting anything or anyone in your life.

LINKS

• Preorder my book Needy from your favorite indie bookstore or from Amazon

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Why do we deny ourselves the grace we offer others? What makes us so “special” that we don’t deserve it, too?

In today’s episode, I open up about the depths of my struggle with perfectionism. And I share how I’ve unpacked my ideas of “good work” and “success” to keep doing my work, even when its not perfect.

Tune in to hear more about…

• The idea of “terminal specialness” and why we deny ourselves the grace we offer others
• How perfectionism becomes interwoven with professionalism
• My personal Bad Place scenario that’s forced me to reevaluate what “good work” means to me
• Why burnout is not a moral failing
• The audacity & authenticity of showing up imperfectly

This episode is great for anyone who feels pressure to be perfect. Listen in if you want support releasing perfectionism and giving yourself permission to be who and how you actually are.

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How do we balance hope and despair, expansion and collapse, survival and rest?

In today’s episode, Carmen Spagnola joins me to discuss how she cultivates a small and delicious life in the face of collapse. Together we explore the realities of not being able to meet all our needs, what happens when we’re under-resourced (and what happens when we’re ecologically resourced), and the paradigm shifts we need around needs.

Carmen Spagnola is a Le Cordon Bleu-trained chef turned trauma recovery practitioner, clinical hypnotherapist, and kitchen witch. As a chef, author, and facilitator, Carmen holds space for renewal amidst turmoil. Her work is an invitation to re-enchantment, soul nourishment, and a deeper and more animistic relationship to the natural world. She provides frameworks and skills to create cultures of collective care in precarious times.

Tune in to hear more about…

• Sitting with your needs when they can’t be met
• Finding hope & feeling despair in our collapsing world
• Taking care of ourselves in survival moments
• Attachment theory and how we approach our needs
• Recognizing yourself as part of an ecosystem

Hang with Carmen...

• Find Carmen on Instagram
• Visit Carmen’s website
• Listen to Carmen’s podcast, The Numinous Podcast
• Buy Carmen’s book, The Spirited Kitchen: Recipes & Rituals for the Wheel of the Year

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Winter Camp is open! Join me for five weeks to reclaim yourself with weekly experiments, cozy craft-alongs, fireside sessions, and a community of excellent humans who get it. This isn't another obligation on your to-do list, it's permission to finally put yourself first without the guilt spiral. Doors close Friday, January 9th. Claim your seat at maraglatzel.com/winter-camp.

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I recently received an email from a Needy listener who wrote, “We’re taught that being mean to ourselves will make it better. But it hasn’t worked. One day we’ll unlearn it…maybe.”

So in today’s episode, I’m talking about our combative relationships with ourselves, and how we can unlearn being mean to ourselves by practicing self-trust.

Tune in to hear more about…

• Why being mean to ourselves doesn’t help us grow
• Why self-trust is the antidote to self-cruelty
• My new vision for trustworthiness, where we don’t compare ourselves to machines
• How to develop a relationship with yourself that allows your humanity in, rather than holding your humanity at bay
• Why failure is important for developing self-trust
• Making space for the grief that comes when you unlearn what you’ve been taught

This is a tender episode that’s great for anyone who struggles with their inner critic. Listen in if you want support unlearning negative self-talk, turning toward yourself with grace, and accepting your needs.

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How do we find our way forward when we don’t have role models or road maps?

In today’s episode, Nicole Antoinette joins me to discuss how she cultivates a perpetual conversation with herself. Together we explore the pressure to conform our creativity & our careers to societal expectations, the guilt that arises around meeting our needs, and the release of letting something end.

Nicole Antoinette is totally obsessed with the question of how we close the gap between what we say we want and what we actually do—without being assholes to ourselves along the way. She works as a community-funded writer (Wild Letters) and podcast host (The Pop-Up Pod), and facilitates a variety of retreats and co-working groups. Offline you can probably find Nicole in the mountains—she's a long-distance hiker with 4,700 miles of experience who loves nothing more than sitting in the dirt and eating her favorite snacks after a full day of putting one foot in front of the other.

Tune in to hear more about…

• Cultivating community and digital intimacy
• Struggling to find role models for honoring desire and working differently
• Having honest conversations with ourselves
• Learning to quit negotiating with our needs
• Accepting how our needs shift and change
• Championing more graceful endings

Hang with Nicole:

• Find Nicole on Instagram
• Visit Nicole’s website
• Listen to Nicole’s podcast, The Pop-Up Pod
• Buy Nicole’s new trail journal, What We Owe to Ourselves

Love Needy? Pretty please subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify and leave a rating & review.

Really love Needy? Join the Needy Podcast Inner Circle! Courses, discounts, quarterly Q&As and more for a one-time or monthly donation of any amount. Exclusively for folks who love the Needy podcast. THANK YOU.

Winter Camp is open! Join me for five weeks to reclaim yourself with weekly experiments, cozy craft-alongs, fireside sessions, and a community of excellent humans who get it. This isn't another obligation on your to-do list, it's permission to finally put yourself first without the guilt spiral. Doors close Friday, January 9th. Claim your seat at maraglatzel.com/winter-camp.

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How can we have energy for the things we want to prioritize without burning out because we’ve prioritized too many things?

In today’s episode, I talk about making sustainable commitments and how to decide what to devote your precious resources to. This is an invitation to say no more often, and a lesson in how to identify your priorities so saying yes feels better than ever.

I also get really honest about why I re-committed to the Needy podcast after a year-long hiatus, and how I’m applying these lessons to the return of the show so it can be sustainable now and in the future.

Tune in to hear more about…

• Three signs that a commitment is unsustainable
• How to figure out what to say no to & what to say yes to
• The magical thinking that we can do everything (hint: we can’t)
• Identifying what you need to make good on your commitments
• The Needy podcast hiatus & our recent comeback (now with more support!)
• Your invitation to join The Needy Podcast Inner Circle!

This episode also marks the launch of The Needy Podcast Inner Circle! If you love this show and want to support me in producing it sustainably, please consider making a one-time or monthly donation of any amount to join the Needy Inner Circle. You’ll get delicious treats, discounts for future offerings, quarterly Q&As with me, and more as thanks for your support. Join now and receive instant access to the recording of my beloved workshop, Your To-Do List Makeover. 

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Where are you in the journey from maiden to mother to mature feminine? How do you know where you are or want to be?

In today’s episode, Sarah Durham Wilson joins me to unpack her evolution from maiden to mother and share how she tends to her needs as she creates rites of passage for women all over the world.

Sarah Durham Wilson is a women’s Rites of Passage Leader and Writer. Her offerings are rooted in Archetypal Mother work and resurrecting the Rite of Passage from Maiden to Mother. She has taught courses and led retreats for thousands of women over the past decade and works with private clients. Her first book, Maiden to Mother is out with Sounds True Publishing in June 2022.

Tune in to hear more about…

• Longing for the rest and the play of mystery
• Mothering & re-mothering our children, our creations & our selves
• Rites for passage for moving from Maiden to Mother to Mature Feminine
• Mara’s affirmation “I am the woman for the job”
• Honoring your capacity as a human and a mother
• The challenges of the book-writing process & the music that nurtured our books
• Control & spontaneity in our daily routines
• Meeting our needs to heal our wounds

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Winter Camp is open! Join me for five weeks to reclaim yourself with weekly experiments, cozy craft-alongs, fireside sessions, and a community of excellent humans who get it. This isn't another obligation on your to-do list, it's permission to finally put yourself first without the guilt spiral. Doors close Friday, January 9th. Claim your seat at maraglatzel.com/winter-camp.

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The Needy podcast is back! A year since our last episode! HI!!

Do you ever find yourself thinking “I’ll do that that thing I want when the world gets back to normal…” Or “I’ll finally create my book/podcast/business when my life isn’t so messy…” Or even “I’ll spend time with my spouse once our kids are out of the house…”?

In today’s episode, I talk about how all-or-nothing thinking gets in the way of fulfilling our needs. I break down why postponing our dreams until the timing is right or the situation is better or the opportunity is perfect will never bring us the life we want. And I talk about how to begin doing what is doable, so you can have the life you want and need now, not when things are more convenience/easy/better/perfect.

Tune in to hear more about…

• What all-or-nothing thinking is and how it harms us
• The many ways we compartmentalize our lives and defer our desires
• How to quit “wouldn’t it be nice…” thought patterns
• How to figure out what you need & do what’s doable today

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Winter Camp is open! Join me for five weeks to reclaim yourself with weekly experiments, cozy craft-alongs, fireside sessions, and a community of excellent humans who get it. This isn't another obligation on your to-do list, it's permission to finally put yourself first without the guilt spiral. Doors close Friday, January 9th. Claim your seat at maraglatzel.com/winter-camp.

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Making decisions that are right and true for ourselves can feel like a sticky, uncomfortable process. What does it actually look like to go through the emotional ups and downs of deciding to live life differently than anyone you know?

Today’s guest, Cait Flanders, is here to share her experience. She is normalizing what it looks like to opt-out of traditional expectations and live a creative and intentional life.

Cait Flanders is the author of Wall Street Journal bestseller, THE YEAR OF LESS. Described by Vogue as “a fascinating look into a living experiment that we can all learn from,” it has been translated into 10 languages, and sold more than 190,000 copies. Her new book, ADVENTURES IN OPTING OUT, is a field guide to opting out of expectations, changing paths, and leading a more intentional life. Powell’s Books says it, “offers a sturdy and flexible framework to navigate whatever path you are currently on.”

In our conversation, Cait shares all about her experiences of opting out, growth and learning through experimentation, and working through the fear of trying something new. Whether you’re on the precipice of making a change or have walked this path many times before, Cait’s insightful stories will broaden your opting-out plans.

Tune in to hear more about:

• Why it’s not so simple to choose differently
• How to be less precious about your process, even though you don’t know where it will take you
• Why a contemplation period before opting out can feel longer than you think it should (and why that’s totally normal!)
• The squirmy process of actively standing up for yourself and your decisions 
• Navigating relationships as you opt in to the life you want
• Why you don’t need a “big picture” vision for your life to live more intentionally
• And why you’re never too small (or young, or old, or alone, or whatever) to make big decisions for your own life

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Winter Camp is open! Join me for five weeks to reclaim yourself with weekly experiments, cozy craft-alongs, fireside sessions, and a community of excellent humans who get it. This isn't another obligation on your to-do list, it's permission to finally put yourself first without the guilt spiral. Doors close Friday, January 9th. Claim your seat at maraglatzel.com/winter-camp.