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Hello and welcome back. Today, I'm going to delve a little deeper into the issues we have about our self-worth. The reason for this is because many people come to me with relationship problems, feeling unappreciated or undervalued. Regardless of the relationship issues they present, the common thread is doubt in their self-worth. This doubt manifests in how we view ourselves and what we believe we deserve, ultimately affecting our relationships.

You may relate to the idea that two people can enter the same difficult relationship but respond differently. One might assert themselves while the other struggles with shame or guilt. The success of our relationships reflects what's going on inside us, not just the relationship itself. So, let's talk about self-worth and its limitations.

Our self-worth is based on past experiences, especially during our formative years. Explicit experiences, like critical parents, and implicit ones, like feeling flawed despite parental support, shape our self-worth. We create upper and lower limits for our worth based on these experiences.

The upper limit is what we believe we're worthy of receiving or achieving. Anything beyond this makes us uncomfortable or guilty. We either reject it or feel undeserving. The lower limit is what we won't tolerate in relationships. We're unlikely to accept treatment below this limit.

As our experiences fluctuate within our worth bandwidth, we adjust our expectations accordingly. If someone treats us above our limit, we may feel guilty or reject

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Welcome to Trauma Bonding to Secure Relationships with Dr Sarah — the podcast that helps ambitious individuals and couples heal trauma bonding and toxic relationship cycles to build secure attachments and loving healthy relationships.

Hosted by Dr Sarah, psychologist, relationship strategist, and founder of Heal Trauma Bonding and Relationship Success Lab, this show guides you through practical tools and deep insights on:

✅ Healing from trauma bonding, anxious attachment style, and codependency
✅ Building emotional resilience and secure attachment styles a
✅ Improving communication, empathy, and emotional intimacy
✅ Reclaiming your identity, boundaries, and self-worth
✅ Creating lasting relationship happiness and passion

Whether you're recovering from betrayal, navigating codependency, or simply ready to break free from the past, this podcast gives you the clarity, strength, and strategy to move forward

We hope you got massive value from this episode for your own healing and relationship progress.