What do therapists mean when they say someone has a "victim mentality"? In this episode, we unpack this flippant term and explore what’s going on underneath it. We recognize that "victim mentality" is applied to several distinct phenomena. We discuss the difference between being an actual victim of harm, using "victimhood" as a protective defense, and unprocessed grief or trauma. We also examine how "victim mentality" is often used to discredit marginalized people and survivors of violence. Finally, we explore how, as therapists, we can respond with more understanding for where the client is coming from and skill to navigate these nuanced situations.

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Alison McCleary
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Jordan Pickell
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