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Episode #1099
What do you do when your wife tells you she's been faking it for 30 years?
Is it a test? Is she trying to get a reaction? Or is this the beginning of the end?
In this episode, we unpack a real story from one of our men whose wife told him she was never truly attracted to him and only stayed for the kids. Most guys would get defensive. They'd argue the facts. They'd collapse into shame. Or they'd chase.
He didn't.
He stayed grounded. He stayed curious. He didn't make it about himself. And that response alone changed the dynamic.
We talk about what a safety test actually is and why so many men fail it. We break down how to hear the emotion underneath the words instead of reacting to the content. And we get honest about the other possibility too, that maybe it's not a test at all. Maybe it's complete.
If that's the case, how do you move forward without falling apart? How do you make sure your worth isn't tied to the relationship? How do you handle it in a way you can look back on without regret?
This is a real conversation about staying steady when everything feels uncertain. About not chasing. Not collapsing. Not reacting. But standing firm in who you are, whether the marriage rebuilds or ends.
If your relationship feels shaky right now, this episode will challenge you in the right way.
If you're not sure where your marriage stands and you want clarity on what to do next, we've put together a free training that walks you through the exact framework we use to help men turn things around.
Get access to the free training here: https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales
By Tim Matthews & Doug Holt4.9
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Episode #1099
What do you do when your wife tells you she's been faking it for 30 years?
Is it a test? Is she trying to get a reaction? Or is this the beginning of the end?
In this episode, we unpack a real story from one of our men whose wife told him she was never truly attracted to him and only stayed for the kids. Most guys would get defensive. They'd argue the facts. They'd collapse into shame. Or they'd chase.
He didn't.
He stayed grounded. He stayed curious. He didn't make it about himself. And that response alone changed the dynamic.
We talk about what a safety test actually is and why so many men fail it. We break down how to hear the emotion underneath the words instead of reacting to the content. And we get honest about the other possibility too, that maybe it's not a test at all. Maybe it's complete.
If that's the case, how do you move forward without falling apart? How do you make sure your worth isn't tied to the relationship? How do you handle it in a way you can look back on without regret?
This is a real conversation about staying steady when everything feels uncertain. About not chasing. Not collapsing. Not reacting. But standing firm in who you are, whether the marriage rebuilds or ends.
If your relationship feels shaky right now, this episode will challenge you in the right way.
If you're not sure where your marriage stands and you want clarity on what to do next, we've put together a free training that walks you through the exact framework we use to help men turn things around.
Get access to the free training here: https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales

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