Gay Men Going Deeper

Falling in Love With The Fantasy


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Some of us don’t fall in love with people, we fall in love with an idea of them. The story, the potential, the fantasy of the perfect boyfriend who finally makes everything click. But that idealized version of love often keeps us chasing what looks right instead of what feels real.

In this episode, Michael DiIorio and therapist, Michael Pezzullo, explore how fantasy, perfectionism, and external validation shape the way we love- and why chasing the ideal often keeps us from the real thing.

We’ll unpack:

  • What it looks like to fall in love with potential - and why we do it 
  • How to tell the difference between healthy excitement and mental storytelling
  • How seeking the “perfect” partner keeps us single or dissatisfied
  • How to stop chasing the ideal and let love be more organic and human
  • Whether letting go of the fantasy means “settling for less”
  • If you’ve ever been in love with potential or the picture-perfect relationship, this conversation will help you come back to reality…where real connection actually happens.

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