By Elaine Froese
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In this episode, my guest is a teammate, conflict transformation facilitator, organization transition coach, and dairy farm partner from Chihuahua, Mexico, Crisol Gonzalez. Tune in to hear our discussion on how being aware of and taking personal responsibility for the role you play in conflict is crucial for success.
We explore what the Karpman Drama Triangle has to do with dysfunctional dynamics in an attempt to bring awareness to what roles you and your farm family members may be playing to contribute to conflict. Additionally, we discuss the work of Dr. Marshall Rosenberg and nonviolent communication, the difference between an emotion and a feeling, and a range of useful tools for conflict resolution.
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Timestamps
0:00:30 Introduction Crisol Gonzalez
0:01:18 Karpman Drama Triangle
0:04:23 Who in your farm family is playing the ‘victim’ role?
0:06:15 Why the ‘villain’ gets nothing accomplished in family meetings
0:07:37 How to get everyone to the table
0:08:27 Women are tired of being the mediator in the middle
0:10:55 Getting triggered quickly
0:11:13 Dr. Marshall Rosenberg and nonviolent communication
0:11:47 Crisol’s work in the local school system
0:12:36 The difference between an ‘emotion’ and ‘feeling’
0:15:45 The Conflict Dynamics Profile
0:17:50 Writing it out before talking is a powerful tool
0:21:59 Using voice notes if you don’t like to write
0:22:55 Asking permission before offering feedback
0:25:03 Conflict Basics 101 and dysfunctional dynamics
0:28:30 Having each other’s back
0:29:36 Are farm women getting what they need?
0:30:34 The Farm Family Transition Membership and breakout rooms
In this episode, Elaine introduces good friend, spunky seniorpreneur, speaker, author of the award-winning book Return To Center, and clinical therapist Patricia Morgan. You’ll hear some awesome insights on how using ordinary language is one of the most powerful tools in her toolbox as a therapist, and yours as a farmer.
Elaine and her guest examine how Patricia’s discovery of Polyvagal Theory in 2020 led to a better understanding of what stress actually is, how it affects the nervous system, and how the simple use of intentional words can change everything. This episode provides listeners with some actionable tips and tools they can start using today, to stop catastrophizing and start returning to center.
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0:00:00 Introduction to Patricia Morgan and her award-winning book
0:00:46 The motivation behind Patricia’s book “Return To Center”
0:01:43 Polyvagal theory - a new understanding of stress
0:02:33 Using ordinary language vs complex medical terminology
0:04:08 How Patricia helps people return to center
0:08:38 Challenging triggering thoughts
0:09:50 What is an “Emotional Bank Account”
0:12:53 Catastrophizing and triggers
0:14:40 Rocky Mountain Couples Retreat
0:15:40 Jumping to conclusions and mind-reading
0:16:36 How are you, really?
0:17:28 Emotional reasoning
0:18:12 Expressing emotions is one the best positive conflict behaviors
0:19:46 Judging, name calling, and labeling
0:20:22 The danger of ‘You Are’ and ‘I Am’ statements
0:22:28 The power of the word “wow”
0:23:20 Hurt vs afraid
0:24:35 How the need to be right is wronging your relationships
0:26:15 Self-compassion
0:27:48 The three emotional states and the one you wants to work towards
0:30:00 Accessing mental health services
In this episode, Elaine welcomes friend, farm partner, and University of Nebraska agricultural economist, Jessica Groskopf. Elaine and her guest discuss one of the most challenging topics for many farm families - financial transparency in farm transition.
From addressing your biggest financial fears (whether you’re the owner or the heir) to the importance of having honest conversations around expectations, this episode offers practical insights for farm’s facing transition. Jessica highlights key strategies for ensuring financial transparency, the biggest generational differences when it comes to finances, why there IS such a thing as good debt, and some of the best questions every farmer needs to ask.
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Timestamps
0:00:03 Hello and Personal Shout Outs
0:00:51 Introduction to Jessica Groskopf
0:02:05 Jessica’s Webinar
0:03:09 What are Your Biggest Financial Fears?
0:04:48 The Owner Generation and The Sunset Years
0:06:05 Having Honest Conversations
0:07:49 Your Parents Don’t Owe You Anything
0:09:46 Getting A Clear Picture of Your Compensation Package
0:12:13 Good Debt vs Bad Debt, There is a Difference
0:15:33 The Generational Differences in Attitudes About Debt
0:17:39 Keeping The Books and Financial Transparency
0:20:15 Living Expenses for the Average Farm Family Today
0:24:36 What’s Good Practice for Bank Accounts
0:26:52 Where is it Written That Only Women Do Farm Books?
0:29:30 Strategies for Transitioning From The Older to Younger Generations
0:33:31 Jessic’s Stress Test
0:36:22 Some Great Questions for All Farmers
0:41:00 Jessica’s Top Three Takeaways For Financial Transparency
In this episode, Elaine connects with podcaster, agriculture entrepreneur, mom of two, and farm wife, Emily Reuschel. You’ll hear about Emily’s journey from fourth-grade teacher, to non-profit leader, and how she eventually ended up as a leader for rural women in the world of entrepreneurship, podcasting, and coaching.
Emily talks about her own personal development, the habits that have supported her success, both personally and professionally, and what it means to invest in yourself, transform your mindset, and start living life on purpose. You’ll discover that it IS possible to heal, grow, and experience joy in alignment with the things you truly want.
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SPEAKING - book Elaine for your next event
COACHING - find your Farm Transition Coach
MEMBERSHIP - become at Farm Family Harmony Member
RESOURCES - download for FREE
CONTACT - take the next steps in your transition
BURNING QUESTION? Submit it here for Elaine or her coaches
Timestamps
0:00:03 Introduction to Emily Reuschel
0:00:54 Emily’s backstory and current passion for women in agriculture
0:03:22 Emily’s many roles and her how her life on the farm has evolved over the years
0:05:38 Investing in personal growth and considering new possibilities
0:06:52 Counseling is about recovery and coaching is about discovery
0:07:33 Practices that have helped Emily and her husband stay emotionally strong
0:07:57 Chasing after the “arrival fallacy” and how it leads to burnout
0:10:30 A powerful exercise to shift away from burnout
0:13:27 Elaine’s battle with postpartum depression and the importance of mental wellness
0:14:13 The garden metaphor
0:16:15 How Emily helps women find the time to discover what they truly want in life
0:17:13 Emily’s favourite question to remove expectations
0:18:30 Everything is figureoutable
0:21:46 The importance of good friends, connection, and relationships
0:22:32 Healing yourself vs expecting someone to be your everything
0:23:52 Finding your people, despite age differences
0:25:02 Being the kind of friend you want to have and taking personal initiative
0:26:20 Elaine’s shout out to all the older women listening
0:27:37 Getting your partner on board with your growth trajectory
0:31:20 Men in ag are showing up more in the personal development space
0:32:52 Google Calendar is your best friend
0:33:30 The best to learn more about Emily and final thoughts and encouragement
In this episode, Elaine connects with podcaster, agriculture entrepreneur, mom of two, and farm wife, Emily Reuschel. You’ll hear about Emily’s journey from fourth-grade teacher, to non-profit leader, and how she eventually ended up as a leader for rural women in the world of entrepreneurship, podcasting, and coaching.
Emily talks about her own personal development, the habits that have supported her success, both personally and professionally, and what it means to invest in yourself, transform your mindset, and start living life on purpose. You’ll discover that it IS possible to heal, grow, and experience joy in alignment with the things you truly want.
Access the full show notes for this episode at elainefroese.com.
Discover more about our guest: Emily Reuschel
Elaine Froese Resources:
Watch this episode on YouTube
SPEAKING - book Elaine for your next event
COACHING - find your Farm Transition Coach
MEMBERSHIP - become at Farm Family Harmony Member
RESOURCES - download for FREE
CONTACT - take the next steps in your transition
BURNING QUESTION? Submit it here for Elaine or her coaches
Timestamps
0:00:03 Introduction to Emily Reuschel
0:00:54 Emily’s backstory and current passion for women in agriculture
0:03:22 Emily’s many roles and her how her life on the farm has evolved over the years
0:05:38 Investing in personal growth and considering new possibilities
0:06:52 Counseling is about recovery and coaching is about discovery
0:07:33 Practices that have helped Emily and her husband stay emotionally strong
0:07:57 Chasing after the “arrival fallacy” and how it leads to burnout
0:10:30 A powerful exercise to shift away from burnout
0:13:27 Elaine’s battle with postpartum depression and the importance of mental wellness
0:14:13 The garden metaphor
0:16:15 How Emily helps women find the time to discover what they truly want in life
0:17:13 Emily’s favourite question to remove expectations
0:18:30 Everything is figureoutable
0:21:46 The importance of good friends, connection, and relationships
0:22:32 Healing yourself vs expecting someone to be your everything
0:23:52 Finding your people, despite age differences
0:25:02 Being the kind of friend you want to have and taking personal initiative
0:26:20 Elaine’s shout out to all the older women listening
0:27:37 Getting your partner on board with your growth trajectory
0:31:20 Men in ag are showing up more in the personal development space
0:32:52 Google Calendar is your best friend
0:33:30 The best to learn more about Emily and final thoughts and encouragement
In this episode, Elaine converses with good friend and well-renowned farm consultant, Dick Wittman from Lewiston-Clarkston, Idaho. Elaine and her guest dig deep to uncover some of the biggest issues holding farm families back from reaching success in their farm transition.
Dick Wittman offers guiding wisdom from his many years of experience in the ag industry. He explains some of the key issues that cause resistance, and practical, uncomplicated strategies to become a proactive farmer. You’ll learn more about Wittman’s Guidebook and why Elaine hails it as an incredibly powerful tool towards better transition.
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Timestamps
0:00:03 Introduction to Dick Wittman
0:01:57 The key issue to the farmer’s resistance to getting good help
0:02:47 The difference between a salesman and an advisor
0:03:41 The importance of financial transparency
0:05:17 The questions you need to ask to take fear out of the equation
0:07:58 How to find Dick Wittman online
0:08:30 Investing in Dick’s Consulting Management Binder
0:09:07 How humiliation is having a negative impact on moving forward
0:09:47 Why farm families are so resistant to paying for a good advisor
0:11:58 How one advice of can save thousands of dollars
0:12:30 Elaine’s explains “a fair exchange of value”
0:14:43 Why farmers aren’t taking advantage of available tools
0:16:01 What the proactive farmer does to succeed
0:16:42 Dick’s guidebook is a transformative tool
0:19:01 What you can do to start moving forward with your transition planning
0:21:46 The importance of culture, and how it wins over strategy
0:23:53 Women can be a better rural resource by being champions of change
0:24:43 Commit to rolling up your sleeves and doing the work
0:26:12 How you can save $400 an hour
0:26:51 Booking a Discover Call with Elaine
Welcome to Season 3 of the Farm Family Harmony Podcast with Elaine Froese and guests! In this season’s opening episode, Elaine connects with midwestern farm wife and mom from Northern Illinois, Mary Pat Sass. Prepare yourself for some awesome ag insight!
Mary shares how she balances her many roles on the farm with motherhood and marriage, getting clear on what she wanted her life to look like, and how counseling, coaching, date nights, and babysitters have all helped her in creating that life.
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Timestamps
0:01:49 How Mary’s role on the farm evolved, from scouting to motherhood 0:03:47 Finding flexible ways to stay involved with operations while mothering 0:04:23 Elaine shares a story of her own struggles of parenting while farming 0:05:11 Childcare strategies and keeping kids safe on the farm 0:06:05 Drop-in style childcare, and dividing and conquering with Josh (Mary’s husband) 0:07:35 A new season of life and the importance of boundaries 0:08:59 How the roles of Mary’s mother and father-in-law have changed 0:11:24 Impacts of over-committing and getting clear on what Mary wanted her life to look like 0:12:36 Staying organized, keeping the marriage healthy, and the decision to take Sundays off 0:15:40 Mutual respect, feeling valued, and asking for what you need 0:17:08 Getting counseling as personal investment for growth 0:18:35 Elaine’s big epiphany and how therapy is getting destigmatized 0:20:26 Date nights, babysitters, and bartering with childcare 0:22:21 Permission to ask for what you need 0:22:59 Dealing with burnout, anxiety, and overwhelm 0:26:28 The biggest challenges women in ag face in finding their place on the farm today 0:29:34 Realizing they couldn’t do it on their own and how coaching helped 0:33:29 Connecting with Mary via Instagram and her podcast Beyond The Crops
In this episode of the Farm Family Harmony Podcast, we're joined by our favorite retired, but not really retired accountant, Glenn Dogterom, who brings decades of experience working with farm families to our coaching team. Together we dive deep into the art of mentorship for farm transitions. Glen shares insights from his years of working with farm families in southern Alberta, emphasizing the crucial role of mentorship in successful transitions by providing professional transition strategies. From building trust to fostering open communication, Glen highlights the key characteristics of effective mentors. We explore professional transition strategies for navigating the complexities of transition, including the importance of financial transparency and managing risk in farming. Whether you're a seasoned farmer or just beginning your agricultural journey, this episode offers valuable insights into building a successful farm transition. Tune in to learn how mentorship can shape the future of your farm family!
"We have this thing in our practice that says, 'Change is inevitable, growth is optional.' And I think that's a great way to look at whether or not people are going to have the flexibility."
Timestamps
12:30 - 14:00: Learn Glenn’s experience working with farm families as an accountant and financial planner, emphasizing the importance of mentorship in successful farm transitions.
18:45 - 20:15: Discover the essential qualities of successful mentors in farm transition, including good listening skills, building trust, having an encouraging demeanor, and reliability.
26:10 - 28:30: Hear the significance of financial transparency in farm transition and the mentor's role in facilitating understanding of financial aspects for the successor.
36:50 - 39:20: Learn the necessity of patience in farm transition, particularly in waiting for the next generation to gain off-farm experience and skills before returning to the family farm.
47:10 - 50:00: Explore strategies for managing farm debt and equity in farm transition, including options for successors to acquire land or shares in the family business, and the importance of financial planning.
54:20 - 56:40: Address challenges and opportunities for young farmers in accessing resources, such as grants and government support, to help build their own enterprises and gain economic traction.
Glenn Dogterom is a dedicated professional with a deep-seated passion for empowering farm families through transitions. With a robust background as a public accountant and financial planner, he honed his expertise within the agricultural sector, specializing in guiding farm families through the intricate process of succession planning. Glenn's commitment to facilitating smooth transitions and fostering sustainable legacies has propelled him into the role of a Farm Family Transition Coach, where he continues to make a meaningful impact on the farming community. Learn more at: https://elainefroese.com/coaching/coaching-team/
We hope you found this episode of "Mentoring For Great Management Transition” as insightful as we did and learned some professional transition strategies for easy transition! Share your thoughts in the comments below—we're all ears! Your experiences and perspectives are what make this community thrive. Let's keep the conversation going!
In this episode of the Farm Family Harmony Podcast, I meet with Arlen Motz of Agribusiness Mindset. We discuss the importance of self-belief and curiosity, highlighting how these elements are crucial for empowering oneself and others. We explore their application in farm transitions, farm planning, leadership, and grain marketing, with Arlen sharing insights from his coaching and leadership training. Prepare to gain valuable perspectives on maintaining open communication, managing emotions effectively, and embracing a growth-oriented mindset. Whether you're dealing with fluctuating grain prices or navigating family dynamics on the farm, this episode provides practical tools and insights to help you thrive.
"In my journey, I learned that believing in yourself and maintaining a curious mindset can transform how you navigate challenges on the farm. Empower yourself first, and then empower others." - Arlen Motz
We have discussed grain marketing, farm challenges, and much more here are the timestamps.1:45 - Discover the importance of the emotional factors affecting planning and marketing in farm transition.
2:20 - Learn Arlen’s personal experience with farm transition and marketing canola crops with his father-in-law, offering practical examples of navigating intergenerational farming challenges.
8:50 - Hear how to build self-belief and empower oneself and others through curiosity, to cultivate a growth mindset for personal and professional development.
10:40 - Gain insight from Arlen’s example of addressing a misunderstanding with his father-in-law through respectful communication, demonstrating practical conflict resolution techniques.
11:39 - Learn the importance of progress over perfection in relationships to maintain harmony and continuous improvement in family farming operations.
14:00 - Unlock strategies on how to build trust and collaboration in family farming.
Arlen Motz is a certified personal and business mindset coach with a passion for training leaders on how to be the best they possibly can be. Learn more by visiting: https://www.agribusinessmindset.com/
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We hope you found this episode of "Rats, The Price Went Up After I Sold! Ag Mindsets" as insightful as we did, especially with the valuable grain marketing tips! Share your thoughts in the comments below—we're all ears! Your experiences and perspectives are what make this community thrive. Let's keep the conversation going!
In this episode of the Farm Family Harmony Podcast, Elaine meets with guest Lewellyn Melnyk who shares her personal journey of overcoming mental health struggles while growing up on a farm in Manitoba. Her book, "Rooted: How I Stay Small Town Strong When Life Gets Hard, and How You Can Too," serves as a guide for rural women in agriculture, offering insights and coping mechanisms for navigating life's challenges. From the importance of connection and vulnerability to the role of music and self-care, Llewellyn emphasizes the need for open conversations and prioritizing mental wellness in farming communities. Through her own experiences and those of others, she highlights the power of resilience and the value of seeking support. Join the conversation as Llewellyn discusses the significance of understanding one's values, setting boundaries, and taking small steps toward better mental health.
“I think as farmers and people working in the ag industry, we are very susceptible to mental health challenges in the circumstances that we live in and work in. And so it's very, very important that we have boundaries and make those boundaries for ourselves and stick by them."
Timestamps
0:49 Lewellen emphasizes her motivation behind writing her book and what she wants listeners to discover.
4:12 Discusses supporting new mothers from Postpartum depression to hormonal changes.
7:53 Explores emotional connection, vulnerability, and the prevalence of loneliness in rural communities.
16:36 Emphasizes the importance of self-care, setting boundaries, and putting your mental health first.
19:09 Touches on discovering signs of loneliness and the significance of checking on others.
22:32 Discusses setting boundaries and prioritizing well-being for farmers.
Lewellyn Melnyk: Author, Farmer, and Mental Health Advocate
Lewellyn’s new book “Rooted” is a prescriptive memoir that tells the story of her own struggles with anxiety and depression and offers tips on how to stay small-town strong when things get tough. Mental health is one of the biggest threats to rural communities, and Lewellyn has made it her life’s work to start more discussions around this topic, advocating for agriculture, women, and mental health. Visit https://www.lewellynmelnyk.com/ to learn more.
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I hope you found this episode on Rural Roots & Mental Health as insightful as we did! Share your thoughts in the comments below—we're all ears! Your experiences and perspectives are what make this community thrive. Let's keep the conversation going!
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