Female by Design

God is a good Creator, full of peace, joy and celebration. The enemy is the author of chaos. Times like this can feel overwhelming. We can choose to see chaos and become afraid, living in fear and becoming paralyzed. Or, we can choose to see the power and beauty of God and learn to carry His banner of celebration.

Let's lean into the goodness of God and choose to walk in His peace, His joy and His celebration through shared language. That's what Heaven in Your Home Family Music is all about.

In today's episode we welcome Kathryn Brunner, my real life friend who is a beautiful singer/songwriter who collaborated to bring Heaven in Your Home Family Music to your home. We will unpack the vision, the purpose and the meaning behind these culture-shifting songs.

Listen in, be equipped and encouraged as you take hold of the JOY and CELEBRATION of God and the crown of His creation, YOU!

Listen to Heaven in Your Home Family Music:

Spotify

Apple Music

YouTube

Related Episodes:

Body Talks with Kids Series, Episode 96 - 99

Shifting Culture through Music in your Home, Episode

Teaching Your Kids about Sex with Kristen Miele, Episode 141

About Kathryn Brunner:

Heaven in Your Home Family Music is a beautiful collaboration with Kathryn Brunner. Kathryn is a seminary trained singer-songwriter and music educator.

She lives in the DC Metro area with her husband and two daughters whom she homeschools. Kathryn is fiercely passionate about equipping families to walk faithfully in the truth of God's word. Heaven in Your Home Family Music is an outworking of that passion. With an educator's mindset, she is also driven to help children grow in an understanding of music to equip them to serve their communities and the world.

She is the founder of Musik at Home, an online music education studio for children ages 0-10 where she offers vibrant early childhood and piano courses that are available on the web, mobile app, Apple TV and Amazon Fire TV.

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Keep learning with Francie! Join the Discipleship Circle group mentorship. This is a SWEET community of women, connected with the purpose of seeking God's heart for their reclaiming

a redeemed view of sex and sexuality. Inside the circle, we will explore and discover the good news about God's heart for sex. Learn more here: Discipleship Circle

Francie is partnered with MyCounselor.Online as a resource for Biblically based counseling, including sex therapy. You'll receive a 25% discount on your first session. Click here

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Your body is good, with value and purpose.

Your gender is intentional and meaningful.

Your sexuality is full of meaning and purpose.

The story of God is written on your body.

As you think about stewarding sexuality, walking in more freedom, the next step is to begin to impart the truth of celebration and joy into your children. We are called to be fruitful, multiply and take dominion. So, as we live out the goodness and freedom of God, becoming more healed, fruitfulness flows into the next generation.

Lean in and let's unpack the big ideas and the practical application for you as you continue to teach and disciple your children.

Resources Mentioned:

Every Body is a Gift: God Made Us to Love, by Monica Ashour

Every Body Has Something to Say, by Monica Ashour

God Has a Plan for Boys and Girls, by Monica Ashour

Before the Sex Talk: A Theology of the Body Approach for Parents and Mentors, by Linda Noble and Linda Stewart

Listen to Heaven in Your Home Family Music:

Spotify

Apple Music

YouTube

You're Invited:

Keep learning with Francie! Join the Discipleship Circle group mentorship. This is a SWEET community of women, connected with the purpose of seeking God's heart for their reclaiming

a redeemed view of sex and sexuality. Inside the circle, we will explore and discover the good news about God's heart for sex. Learn more here: Discipleship Circle

Francie is partnered with MyCounselor.Online as a resource for Biblically based counseling, including sex therapy. You'll receive a 25% discount on your first session. Click here

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His master said to him, 'Well done, good and faithful servant. You have been faithful over a little; I will set you over much. Enter into the joy of your master.' Matthew 25

In the parable of the talents, the ruler gave three different servants talents to manage while he was away. While we see the command was the same, we see three different heart postures, actions and results.

Let's dive into Genesis 1 and observe that our sexuality, our body, our gender and sex, pleasure and desire are gifts from God we're called to steward.

So often in our Christian culture we're afraid of sexuality, our bodies and pleasure. We just don't talk about it. We silence it, we bury it and we put it away and talk about other things. But God wants us to grow this gift, not bury it. But how do we grow it and how can we be like the first two servants who are faithful?

In today's episode we'll continue the conversation of stewarding sexuality and explore what it means to invest in these gifts and grow like the first two faithful servants. This episode is full of practical application you can apply today.

Resources Mentioned:

The Vagina Bible by Dr. Jen Gunter

The Gift of Sexual Pleasure for Women by Joyce and Clifford Penner

Rethinking Sexuality: God's Design and Why It Matters by Dr. Juli Slatery

You're Invited:

Keep learning with Francie! Join the Discipleship Circle group mentorship. This is a SWEET community of women, connected with the purpose of seeking God's heart for their reclaiming

a redeemed view of sex and sexuality. Inside the circle, we will explore and discover the good news about God's heart for sex. Learn more here: Discipleship Circle

Francie is partnered with MyCounselor.Online as a resource for Biblically based counseling, including sex therapy. You'll receive a 25% discount on your first session. Click here

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His master said to him, 'Well done, good and faithful servant. You have been faithful over a little; I will set you over much. Enter into the joy of your master.' Matthew 25

How have we as the church buried the gift of our body, our gender and our sexuality? As we continue our discussion of the parable of the talents in Matthew 25, we observe the servant who buried the talent, hiding it in the ground, did so out of fear. This third servant believed a lie about the Master, therefore he buried what was given to him.

In this episode, we will look at Genesis 1 and parallels to Jesus's parable in Matthew. Let's uproot lies and lean into the good garden gifts. What would it look like to walk in freedom, seeing the goodness of our image bearing beauty and the unity that leads to fruitfulness in married intimacy?

Let's learn a fresh viewpoint on stewardship and experience the joy of our Master

You're Invited:

Keep learning with Francie! Join the Discipleship Circle group mentorship. This is a SWEET community of women, connected with the purpose of seeking God's heart for their reclaiming a redeemed view of sex and sexuality. Inside the circle, we will explore and discover the good news about God's heart for sex. Learn more here: Discipleship Circle

Francie is partnered with MyCounselor.Online as a resource for Biblically based counseling, including sex therapy. You'll receive a 25% discount on your first session. Click here

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His master said to him, 'Well done, good and faithful servant. You have been faithful over a little; I will set you over much. Enter into the joy of your master.' Matthew 25

When you think about the parable of the talents your mind instantly gravitates toward stewarding your finances, your gifts, or even your health. But, have you ever thought about the faithfulness that might flow from stewarding your sexuality?

We get to steward the gift of our sexuality, with purpose and intention over the course of our life. And, faithfulness brings great benefits,including the unity that leads to fruitfulness within the context of marriage. Sex is not a duty, not a chore, not something to check off your list. It is something to enjoy, to pursue, to delight and to receive great pleasure.

Let's learn a fresh viewpoint on stewardship and experience the joy of our Master.

Related Episodes:

Great Sex Grows: Introduction, Episode 119

Great Sex Grows…When I Shift My Mindset, Episode 120

Great Sex Grows…When I Tune Into My Body, Episode 121

Great Sex Grows…When I See Sex as Fun, Episode 122

The Ripple Effect of Sex, Episode 4

You're Invited:

Keep learning with Francie! Join the Discipleship Circle group mentorship. This is a SWEET community of women, connected with the purpose of seeking God's heart for their reclaiming a redeemed view of sex and sexuality. Inside the circle, we will explore and discover the good news about God's heart for sex. Learn more here: Discipleship Circle

Francie is partnered with MyCounselor.Online as a resource for Biblically based counseling, including sex therapy. You'll receive a 25% discount on your first session. Click here

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We look to our Creator and see that sex is part of His creation, made with meaning, purpose and beauty. As you personally reclaim what God created and called good, the next step is to be able to have conversations with your kids.

There's never been a more vital time for intentionality as we teach, lead and invest in our children's hearts and worldview.

In today's conversation, my guest Kristen Miele will break down some of the hard questions that can cause stress for caring parents. Gain the confidence to clearly articulate answers and guide your children to understand their bodies and sexuality as it points back to our good God.

Rather than shame and silence, we can replace fear with curiosity and be empowered to have honest, consistent conversations that honor God and His gift of sexuality.

About Sex Ed Reclaimed:

Sex Ed Reclaimed existes to break the cycle of silence in the Christian world on the topic of sex with Sex Ed Reclaimed, LLC as a premier choice for adults seeking to honestly engage the next generation. Sex Ed Reclaimed specializes in God honoring and accessible sex ed for children 3 to18 years old. Find resources here.

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About Kristen Miele:

Kristen Miele, founder of Sex Ed Reclaimed, has been educating youth on the topic of sex for the last 12 years. She's taught in hundreds of diverse settings including 2 different countries. Kristen has experience teaching ages 3 and up on content related to sex and sexuality. The vision for Sex Ed Reclaimed came to her in November 2021 and it became an LLC in 2022. Kristen has one daughter, Emma Joy, who is 4 years old. She's been married to Anthony since 2012. They live in Columbus, Ohio with their daughter and a very fat cat.

Related Episodes:

Shifting Culture through Music in Your Home, Episode 112

Body Talks with Kids: Clarity, Confidence and the Critical Need to Shift the Conversation, Episode 96

Body Talks with Kids: Celebrating the Body, Celebrating God, Episode 99

You're Invited:

Keep learning with Francie! Join the Discipleship Circle group mentorship. This is a SWEET community of women, connected with the purpose of seeking God's heart for their reclaiming a redeemed view of sex and sexuality. Inside the circle, we will explore and discover the good news about God's heart for sex. Learn more here: Discipleship Circle

Francie is partnered with MyCounselor.Online as a resource for Biblically based counseling, including sex therapy. You'll receive a 25% discount on your first session. Click here

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Way better than anything Hollywood could ever portray, today's guest Alexa PenaVega shares her vulnerable testimony of finding more in her marriage. How do you go from a wife who really doesn't feel very excited about physical intimacy to finding celebration and joy?

In this episode, Alexa and Francie chat about the fruitfulness that has flowed from pursuing oneness, their callings as mothers to disciple their children and be the best source for all things, including sex.

Note: This episode endured technology challenges and you may note uneven audio levels. Thank you for your patience with the audio, but the contents of the conversation are filled with beautiful truth, testimony and thoughtful ideas.

About Alexa PenaVega:

You may know Alexa PenaVega as an actress from hit shows like Spy Kids. But, today you can hear more about her desire to honor her husband, Carlos PenaVega, and pursue a mutually satisfying sexual relationship. Their book, What if Love is the Point is a must-read, overflowing with both laughter and honest reflections, the PenaVegas' incredible story—from the red carpet, Spy Kids movies, and Big Time Rush to Dancing with the Stars to marriage and now parenthood will encourage you.

You're Invited:

Keep learning with Francie! Join the Discipleship Circle group mentorship. This is a SWEET community of women, connected with the purpose of seeking God's heart for their reclaiming a redeemed view of sex and sexuality. Inside the circle, we will explore and discover the good news about God's heart for sex. Learn more here: Discipleship Circle

Francie is partnered with MyCounselor.Online as a resource for Biblically based counseling, including sex therapy. You'll receive a 25% discount on your first session. Click here

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All the things you wished you knew before you said I do.

Whether you're engaged, newlywed or find yourself in a mentoring relationship, this conversation will give you a fresh perspective on preparing for sex before you say, "I do."

Join this vulnerable chat as a welcome Bethany Beal, from the Girl Defined ministry and podcast.

How should you prepare for your wedding night?

What advice and resources are helpful (and how to know if it's not)?

What kinds of expectations should you set for the wedding night?

And, most importantly, this is an invitation to take a breath of fresh air and view physical intimacy as a journey that happens over the course of your marriage, not something you arrive at on your wedding night.

Tune in and get real talk about fears, insecurities, hygiene and even lubricants. Friend, this is a true girlfriend chat that I pray will bless you.

Resources Mentioned:

Sex, Purity, and the Longings of a Girl's Heart: Discovering the Beauty and Freedom of God-Defined Sexuality, by Bethany Beal and Kristen Clark

More about Bethany Beal:

Bethany Baird is a Texas born and raised girl, wife, mother of two and is the cofounder of Girl Defined Ministries. You can learn more at girldefined.com or at the Girl Defined Show.

Related Episodes:

Inner Healing, Sri Lankan Honeymoon & Sex for a Year, Episode 1

Rethinking Sex: Recovering a Biblical Lens, Episode 3

Your Wonderful Female Body Series - Episode 104 to Episode 113

Great Sex Grows Series - Episode 119 to Episode 124

You're Invited:

Keep learning with Francie! Join the Discipleship Circle group mentorship. This is a SWEET community of women, connected with the purpose of seeking God's heart for their reclaiming a redeemed view of sex and sexuality. Inside the circle, we will explore and discover the good news about God's heart for sex. Learn more here: Discipleship Circle

Francie is partnered with MyCounselor.Online as a resource for Biblically based counseling, including sex therapy. You'll receive a 25% discount on your first session. Click here

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"God takes our brokenness and turns it into our passion." Joy Skarka

With vulnerability and authenticity, Joy shares her story which includes sexual trauma that led to a struggle with pornography. As a girl struggling with porn, she felt isolation and carried tremendous shame. Yet, there is help and healing. And, we are never alone in our struggle.

This episode is a rich discussion across many topics including sexuality, discipleship, singleness and pornography, with encouraging theology and an unpacking of our need to be known, loved, and to give and receive love. We all experience some sort of sexual brokeness and are far from the naked and unashamed innocence God created in the garden. Let's walk in more freedom, through vulnerability, and know that God cares about your sexuality.

Mentioned in this episode:

The Soul of Shame, Curt Thompson

Authentic Intimacy

The Birds and the Bees

Good Pictures, Bad Pictures

Related Episodes:

Body Talks with Kids. Clarity, Confidence and the Critical Need to Shift the Conversation, Episode 96

Body Talks with Kids. Connecting to the Meaning of YOUR Body, Episode 97 Body Talks with Kids. Big Picture Vision, Small Phrases to Create Impact, Episode 98 Body Talks with Kids. Celebrating the Body, Celebrating God, Episode 99

More about Joy Skarka:

Joy Skarka is passionate about creating spaces to free women from sexual shame. She serves as Director of Discipleship for Authentic Intimacy, where she leads online small groups for women with unwanted sexual behavior. She coaches and teaches Christian leaders how to help women find freedom from sexual shame and pornography. I have a published chapter in Sanctified Sexuality: Valuing Sex in an Oversexed World. She is a graduate of Dallas Theological Seminary with a MA in Christian Education and jumped right into her doctorate. In 2021, she graduated with her Doctorate degree in Educational Ministry from DTS, focusing on helping women find freedom from sexual shame.

You're Invited:

Keep learning with Francie! Join the Discipleship Circle group mentorship. This is a SWEET community of women, connected with the purpose of seeking God's heart for their reclaiming a redeemed view of sex and sexuality. Inside the circle, we will explore and discover the good news about God's heart for sex. Learn more here: Discipleship Circle

Francie is partnered with MyCounselor.Online as a resource for Biblically based counseling, including sex therapy. You'll receive a 25% discount on your first session. Click here

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What's okay for Christian marriage in the bedroom?

Maybe that's the wrong question. Married sex can be a playground, filled with creativity and adventure. In this episode, we'll reframe the question and perhaps help you process and give yourself permission for a little bit of adventure and freedom in your marriage bed. God created you in a wonderful way and designed married intimacy as celebration.

The bodies of a husband and wife are designed to fit together perfectly and there isn't a mandate saying you need to add anything. Sex toys are simply tools that you can introduce to your married intimacy "menu." Consider these thoughts on sex toys as you process what is good for your marriage.

Related Episodes:

Re-framing Novelty- How Monogamy Doesn't Equal Monotony, Episode 85 Becoming Sexually Adventurous - Pt. 2 with Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill, Episode 132

Invitation to Discover Your Wonderful Female Body, Episode 104

Your Wonderful Female Body - Clitoris, Episode 105

Your Wonderful Female Body - G-spot, Episode 106

Your Wonderful Female Body - Erogenous Zones, Episode 107

Your Wonderful Female Body - 4 Stages of Sexual Response, Episode 108

Your Wonderful Female Body - Sexual Desire, Episode 109

Your Wonderful Female Body - Sexual Arousal, Episode 110

Your Wonderful Female Body - Orgasm Pt. 1, Episode 111

Your Wonderful Female Body - Orgasm Pt. 2, Episode 113

Resources mentioned:

Merry Marriage Gift Guide

We Vibe

Married Dance - use code MerryMarriage for savings

Unlock Your Orgasm: Through a Christian Lens, Bonny Burns

You're Invited:

Keep learning with Francie! Join the Discipleship Circle group mentorship. This is a SWEET community of women, connected with the purpose of seeking God's heart for their reclaiming a redeemed view of sex and sexuality. Inside the circle, we will explore and discover the good news about God's heart for sex. Learn more here: Discipleship Circle

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