Why do we care what he thinks if you pay or you don’t pay? 

Why are you making a big deal out of it? … This is the old thing about wanting him to like us.

 I’m gonna do this so he’ll like me. 

This is not what Siren is.
Feminine energy is not about making the best choice to get the best man —  That’s not what attraction is. 

Attraction is authenticity.

Your authenticity in that moment is that you’re feeling confused. 

You don’t know whether to pay or not pay or what to say, and while you’re trying to make that decision, you’re going, ‘Wait, I’m strong; I should be able to do this,’ and all of a sudden you’re in your head trying to figure it out. 

I feel cherished and valued when he pays, but I’m nervous that if I show up like that, how is he going to take it? That’s old sh*t. Not power.

Power is: no matter how I feel, I can express that.

 No matter what’s going on for me, I can speak that. 

I do not need to try to figure out what he wants to hear. 

What we’re aiming for in Feminine Energy is finding what you’re feeling, what makes you feel good, and sharing that.
This is stuff that flies in the face of everything we’ve patterned our habits and how we act around men… And we’re turning this all around—baby step by baby step.

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Love, Rori