A few years ago, Debra Driscoll was living in Brooklyn, navigating a long-distance relationship and a life split between the city and the sea. Then, in 2020, her world was turned upside down.

Instead of seeing this as a setback, Debra took it as an opportunity to fast-forward her dreams and create something beautiful. 

Now Debra is a spiritual teacher and energy guide who, from her home in Tobago, runs a thriving community, Big Life Magic, which is made up of people who are looking for a space to grow and transform, and for others to witness and celebrate their transformation. 

Today’s episode is all about finding those spaces where we can truly show up as ourselves – not just who we are now, but who we dream of becoming, filled with people who believe that anything is possible for us.

In this episode you’ll hear about:

• Debra’s split life in New York City until 2020 – followed by her move to Tobago, where she started Big Life Magic, which focuses on spiritual guidance and energy work
• The concept of "believing mirrors,” where friends reflect and affirm each other's potential and dreams
• Not asking people about past or current selves, but instead: what do you want? Who do you hope to become? And how can I support you to get there?
• The power of getting out of your bubble and seeing other places, other people, and other ways to be in the world
• Advice for people looking to find similar transformational spaces for themselves and questions to ask themselves, like: what do I want in my life now? What do I need?

Resources & Links

Learn about Debra’s company, Big Life Magic, and her book, A Series of Surrendor: a Memoir of Grief.

See Friendship IRL Episode 91, “How to Stop Dreading Parties and Take Charge of Your Guest Experience.”

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