“In order to improve for good, you need to solve problems at the systems level.”  This week I am looking ahead and thinking about the new year.  Instead of setting the same goals that don’t get done this year I want to be different.  So I thought more about becoming someone who does those things rather than simply thinking about an outcome goal.  I share an article from James Clear about the importance of systems that help you enjoy the process of accomplishing just as much as outcome.  I also tell you a little bit about the idea of setting a direction or intention instead of a goal.  It keeps us a little more open to making the process work.  Then I also share this great article from Ashely Jansen. First she has some great reflection questions before you even set your direction or goal.  Then, second,  as we put a system in place to plan for hardship. Which means we may not be super motivated to do it but putting something in place that we will follow through anyway despite that.   Lastly, I remind you of the importance of keeping promises to ourselves.

For show notes go to www.findingthefloor.com/ep204

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“Christmas Day is God fulfilling His word!”  In this episode I confess that almost halfway through December we still haven’t put up our tree.  And I have been thinking about all of the traditions, decorations, songs, gifts and what it all means.  I wonder if I can still feel the spirit of Christmas without all of it?  So I share some things that have helped me refocus my efforts and remind myself of the true meaning of Christmas.  I remind myself about love and thinking of others.  Then learn a great new idea that making peace with your family at Christmas parties was one of their purposes.  I also share two stories, each an LDS missionary, who learned the real meaning of Christmas when far away from home.  So I hope I can regroup to remind myself of the gift of this season and its true meaning.  

For shownotes and references come by www.findingthefloor.com/ep203

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Thanks to Seth Johnson for my intro and outro original music. I love it so much!

“Our beliefs influence our thoughts, and those thoughts determine our actions.” This episode, I explore the idea of belief and how important it is in our lives. I mentioned at the beginning that Thanksgiving being so late in the month, I have begun to think that I am already behind on Christmas.  I noticed how this thought which could become a belief is not really helpful to me.  I mentioned Inside Out 2 that gave such a good visual on how we get beliefs.  I share how beliefs can be empowering or limiting.  And what belief can help us to do in our lives.  Then I also share a bit about how detrimental self-doubt can be.  Belief really does rule how we see the world, so let’s be mindful of what we are choosing to believe.  

For show notes go to www.findingthefloor.com/ep202

I would love to hear from you! You can reach me at [email protected] or dm @findingthefloor on instagram. Thanks for listening!!

Thanks to Seth Johnson for my intro and outro original music. I love it so much!

 “Maybe when you start recognizing the blessing you have, others will reveal themselves.”  I really love reflecting on the things I am grateful for each day!  In this episode I am sharing a lesson I gave my daughter’s young women’s group in our ward last spring which I am also going to share with my extended family at our Thanksgiving gathering.  I wanted to share in case you might want to use all or a part of the lesson for your family at Thanksgiving too.  I am a big proponent of a gratitude practice.  It really can help you overcome the negativity bias and help you to recognize more of the blessings you have in your life. It has so many health and social benefits that I share as well. The most important thing is showing gratitude is a way of showing faith in our Heavenly Father and Jesus Christ. I will have these quotes and screen shots from my powerpoint on my website for this episode if you choose to use them for Thanksgiving as well.   

For show notes and the info for this lesson come by www.findingthefloor.com/ep201

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Thanks to Seth Johnson for my intro and outro original music. I love it so much!

 I am in celebration mode - it is episode 200!  In this episode I look back at some of my favorite episode topics over the past 4 and a half years.  I mention how much my life has changed in the past 5 years as well as how much I have learned and grown from all of the things I have shared on the podcast.  Some of the podcast episodes I mention, the 90/10 Principle, The science fair project struggle, The expectation series, Pet Peeves and Keeping commitments to yourself.  Then I also highlight some of the books that I have loved sharing about.  A few that I mention are, The Confident Mind, Atomic Habits, 7 Habits of Highly Effective People and I Don’t have to make Everything all better.  I have loved sharing these past 200 episodes with you!  

For show notes and references for all the episodes mentioned come by www.findingthefloor.com/ep200

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Thanks to Seth Johnson for my intro and outro original music. I love it so much!

“Some of the most beautiful parts of our world are created through conflict….”  In this week’s episode I am sharing what I learned about the difference between conflict and contention.  After finishing such a contentious election it is good to talk about how we can welcome conflict.  I share how I really love the idea that conflict is essential in creation. I also share how we need to remember to use love and respect as we learn of differing ideas and opinions.  I also mention that  instead of usually wanting to avoid conflict, I can now look at it a whole new way.  I can learn to create a space where conflict is welcomed and handled with love and understanding.

For show notes and references come by www.findingthefloor.com/ep199 

I would love to hear from you! You can reach me at [email protected] or dm @findingthefloor on instagram. Thanks for listening!!

Thanks to Seth Johnson for my intro and outro original music. I love it so much!

 “I can be myself with her.”  In this episode I am going to share some thoughts about love and marriage after having my son’s wedding a few weeks ago.  I share the idea that being loved for who you really are can help you blossom and love others because you can forget to worry about yourself and how lovable you are.  I also talk about how we as humans like to love things, my example of my cute and cuddly dog.  I also make a point about loving as Jesus Christ, being more able to be ourselves when we actually think less of ourselves.  There are a lot of thoughts about love. 

For shownotes come by www.findingthefloor.com/ep198

I would love to hear from you! You can reach me at [email protected] or dm @findingthefloor on instagram. Thanks for listening!!

Thanks to Seth Johnson for my intro and outro original music. I love it so much!

“Happy day! All is well!”  This is the last in the series using the book, The The Parent’s Tao Te Ching: A New Interpretation - Ancient advice for modern parents by William Martin.  This episode I share 3 new passages.  With topics like, Respect, trust and confidence as a parent.  So many great thoughts - working on using  respect and kindness when you children behave or misbehave.  I talked about remembering that we are all part of the Tao and that all is well.  I also share the lyrics to the Hymn, Come, come ye Saints.  Then I discuss confidence in making decisions, that an answer will come to you when you need them.  So many really good things to ponder and work on.  Also a reminder I will be taking a break for the next two weeks, and will be back with new content in November. 

For show notes go to www.findingthefloor.com/ep197

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Thanks to Seth Johnson for my intro and outro original music. I love it so much!

What has your child failed at recently?  Today’s episode we continued taking a look at a few passages from the book, The Parent’s Tao Te Ching by William Martin.  This episode is all about failure being our best teacher.  These passages remind us how wonderful it is to be human and with that comes mistakes.  There are also messages freeing us as parents to realize our life experiences in their fullness both the happy and sad, success and failure all help us to teach our children.  I share a few experiences of my own failure and hardships.  I also relay the story of Sara Blakely, the founder and inventor of Spanx, who was asked by her dad each night at dinner when she was young what she had failed at that week which helped her not be afraid of failure. 

For show notes go to www.findingthefloor.com/ep196

I would love to hear from you! You can reach me at [email protected] or dm @findingthefloor on instagram. Thanks for listening!!

Thanks to Seth Johnson for my intro and outro original music. I love it so much!

 “Create space within your heart and your children will always rest secure.”  In this episode, I share a few more words of wisdom from the book, The Parent’s Tao Te Ching: A New Interpretation - Ancient advice for modern parents by William Martin.  I chose 3 different chapters that have similar themes.  To learn to relax your grip with your children and rely more on the Tao.  To make room and not fill all of your children’s time and to be still, open and spacious.  Simple ideas and good things to think about.  

For show notes come by www.findingthefloor.com/ep195

I would love to hear from you! You can reach me at [email protected] or dm @findingthefloor on instagram. Thanks for listening!!

Thanks to Seth Johnson for my intro and outro original music. I love it so much!