"Being in the now" has become more and more popular lately.

It's a bit tricky when it relates to trauma.

Have you come upon, or practiced mindfulness teachings?

This is what it boils down into.

(00:01) Would I Recommend Eckhart Tolle to Recovering People?

(02:46) Different States We See Reality From

(09:23) Our Culture Binding Us to Material World

(13:53) How Does Spaciousness Help to Heal?

(21:58) Reality is Not My Business

(30:28) Holding Onto Stuff

// Q&A Section //

(33:53) "To be responsible for 'reality' could eventually make you codependent?"

(36:17) "Does the more time of no contact help recovery?"

(37:41) "Refusing to participate in the codependent dance is hardest the first time, it get easier doesn't it?" (Richard about his codependency in business)

(41:56) "Could you tell us some more about archetypes, like the sad baby?"

(44:26) "Is codependency and messiah complex the negative side of egoism? What would be the positive aspect?"

(47:02) "How do I break off with my boyfriend who is not a good match because of unaddressed CPTSD issues?"

(53:46) "I heard you help others make money online, how can I get that kind of help from you, do you have a product?"

(55:57) "Is dissociation a coping strategy built into one of your archetypes?"

(59:31) "What do you feel on forgiveness?"

Narcissist needs a stage to shine on.

He needs a fertile ground to do his thing.

That ground is created by codependent's toxic passivity.

A codependent has learned to take on others problems.

But in the same way he can learn that other people are OTHER PEOPLE, and their stuff is their stuff.

Divorce can be a tough deal.

Divorce with a narcissist is like a double-tough deal.

This is where divorce specialist Sara Davison comes in.

(00:01) Getting Started

(00:46) Sara Talks About How She Ended Up Being a Divorce Coach

(06:47) “What Type of Advice Do You Typically Find Yourself Repeating Again and Again?”

(07:47) “Why Do You Find That People Are Often Ending Up in a Situation Where They Don’t Have a Support Group?”

(10:11) Discussing Why the Divorce Statistics is So Sad

(14:20) “When You’re Coaching People With Particularly Difficult Relationships, What Proportion of That is Because They Might Be Dealing With Someone Personality Disordered?”

(17:50) Sharing Personal and Financial Information When Going Through a Divorce

(20:13) Is It Common When People Refuse to Get a Lawyer for Divorce?

(22:22) The Wish to Make a Divorce Hard and Make Other People Suffer Sounds a Little Cluster B-ish

(24:36) Would Thoroughly Knowing What Marriage is Before Getting Married Help?

(27:08) Talking About Coaching People That Have Difficulties Accessing Children After a Divorce

(30:59) So the Court System Favors the Dysfunctional?

(35:21) “Why Do You Think So Many People Are Getting Divorced Now?”

(41:09) How Can One Get in Touch With Sara if They Need Her Help During Divorce

Can you make your symptoms get better in less than 30 days?

Well, everyone's situation is different, but this is what I've done to achieve that.

**Find the course mentioned at: www.spartanlifecoach.com

How is anorexia connected to social media usage?

Why does it enhance body dysmorphia in adolescents?

And most importantly - what can be done, and how you can help a person struggling with this?

(00:00) Getting Started

(01:15) Anorexia and Social Media – the Simplest Perspective

(03:26) What Does the Published Research Say? Part 1

(07:04) What Does the Published Research Say? Part 2

(11:15) Why is It This Way? Part 1

(14:06) Why is It This Way? Part 2

(17:43) The Super-ego Injunction to Perfectionism

(20:24) Pathway to Healing

(24:19) Richard Talks About His Instagram Experiment

(27:52) Wrapping Up

Why people can get EXTREMELY upset and angry when they got their instagram account shut down?

The answer is a very primal, psychological mechanism, that may also explain, why people are anxious without their phone.

This is not an easy topic, but I did my best to make it digestible.

The super ego is a part of our psyche that has been with us for a long time.

It has played a tremendous role in our development.

Unfortunately, it can also hold us back.

This episode will make you better understand that phenomena.

** Find the course mentioned at: www.spartanlifecoach.com

(00:01) Super Ego - Inner Critic, and Their Injunctions

(04:04) How the Super Ego Supposed to Be ("The Other People Part")

(11:42) When Things Go Wrong - Toxified Trauma-based Super Ego Becomes What We Call "The Inner Critic"

(17:55) Narcissists Trigger Negative Super Ego Injunctions

(19:33) Why NPD Can Toxify Our Super Ego (More Intimacy = More Impact)

(28:06) Summing Up

How to become an adult, attention addiction, inner child and more, covered in this Q&A session.

(00:00) Getting Started

(00:29) Richard Summing Up and Revising His Work So Far, Part 1

(05:37) Richard Summing Up and Revising His Work So Far, Part 2

//Q&A Section//

(11:14) "What have you noticed over the years about any correlations between intelligence, trauma, the self-actualization process, CPTSD recovery, etc?"

(13:42) "For people with childhood trauma, is it more an issue of learning how to grow up and becoming an adult?"

(15:07) "How do you feel about adult children of alcoholic meetings?"

(15:24) "How can you tell the difference when you're in a healthy state vs. using avoidance techniques?"

(16:54) "Is heartbroken the same as being addicted to the attention a narcissist gives you? Because it seemed more like withdrawals."

(20:29) "Is emotional literacy exercises another way to connect to the inner child?"

(21:38) "What's up with anyone who consciously chooses to 'never grow up'?"

(22:24) "Does an apparent hurt inner child need to be integrated or let go of?"

(24:31) "How come you've become so wise?"

(26:07) "Does marriage go against our primal instincts?"

(28:14) "Being oversensitive vs. being emotionally abused?"

(28:57) "Any advice on protecting your mental health when working with BPD clients?"

(29:36) "If you're able to really love somebody, you don't live only with your primal instincts"

(30:34) "You're so patient with people. How do you re-charge so you don't get cranky?"

(32:29) "How to get NPD girlfriend out of my house without letting her tears stopping me?"

(36:02) "Why are we hypernormalizing emotionless sex and how to survive in this world of that kind of dating?"

(40:08) You're Not Qualified to Live in a Narcissistic Way

There is not much of Socratic method in political debates.

So much that it's hard to really call it a debate.

When you actually see that, it can be a strong motivation to learn the Socratic method yourself.

You want to be wise, calm and collected like a sage, not all over the place like another politician.

(00:00) Getting Started

(02:45) How People Argue Over Politics

(06:14) The Socratic Method of Debating and How What’s Happening Now is the Opposite Part 1

(10:01) The Socratic Method of Debating and How What’s Happening Now is the Opposite Part 2

(12:42) Our Political Narrative is Unconsciously Moving Towards and Gearing Up to War

(13:45) Some Cluster B Disordered People Don’t Care What Political Side They’re on as Long as They Have a Voice

(17:53) We Need to Remember That the Representation of the Opposite Political Side is Not Real

(21:35) It All Starts With You So Slow Down and Learn How to Debate

There's a way in which addiction is seen, that is outdated.

Simply - it all comes down to changing one's feelings.

Understanding that is key to "healing" the addiction.

These perspectives will make you 10X more confident in your ability to get over the addiction.

(00:39) Addiction as a Desire to Alter the State

(01:31) Cold Compassion and Systems Thinking

(02:24) What is Lost? What the Drug is Giving? (Emotion, Need, Etc)

(05:24) Humans Are Addictive Creatures by Nature, Taking Away the Judgment

(07:13) Addiction, Pain & Isolation

(09:12) Endogenous vs. Exogenous Drugs

(11:29) Addiction vs. Conditioning (Important Difference)