In this unit we're going to explore the reasons behind our low self-esteem, anxiety and depression problems, and take a dive into the revolutionary Complex PTSD model.

(00:00) Introduction

(03:02) What is CPTSD? Part 1

(06:56) What is CPTSD? Part 2

(10:45) How the Love-hate Attention of a Parent Influences the Child

(15:50) What Are the “Recordings” and Where They Come From

(19:24) What Might Happen if a Person With CPTSD Goes Into Therapy

(24:33) How to Stop These “Recordings”?

Part 2 focuses more deeply onto practical solutions for dealing with the core issue behind our unpleasant state.

(00:00) Talking About the End Goal

(04:44) Certain Key Skillsets That Need to Be Strengthened Part 1

(08:45) Certain Key Skillsets That Need to Be Strengthened Part 2

(11:19) Critical Thinking and Boundaries

(15:16) Emotional Dysregulation Causes Psychosis

(19:43) Emotional Flashback Management Skill

(21:40) Goodbye

Now, this is the bread and butter of HEALING. 

You want to start thinking and feeling in new ways, right?

This last, third part of the minicourse will teach you how to make that happen.

(00:00) A Little Reminder of What’s Been Said in the Previous Sections Part 1

(02:57) A Little Reminder of What’s Been Said in the Previous Sections Part 2

(08:04) How Do We Convert the “Bad Parent”?

(11:34) You Actually Have to Have the Will to Fight

(15:24) The Unconscious Side of the Work

(18:24) How Do We Lay Down New Neural Pathways?

(21:28) A Brief Explanation of What the New Messages and the New Ideas Are

(25:33) Flooding Yourself With Loving Messages Part 1

(28:08) Flooding Yourself With Loving Messages Part 2

(29:04) The Beginning of the Next Section

(30:21) The Good Feelings

(35:10) How to Thicken the Effect

(39:31) The Good Phrases That You’d Love to Hear Every Day

(42:48) Your Emotions Count

(47:59) Talking About the Second Audio Hypnosis

(53:07) Wrapping Up

Authenticity is more and more rare in our society.

Yet it is crucial if we want natural, human to human connection.

Why is it so hard for codependents to be authentic?

What you can do to deal with your codependency?

It's a priceless thing, so if it's important to you as well, check out this episode.

** Stay tuned for the new, upcoming course mentioned by following Richard (links in the podcast description) or by using the mail newsletter at www.spartanlifecoach.com

(00:01) Origin of the Term "Codependency"

(02:26) Authenticity in the Context of How Codependency Operate

(08:02) Manifestations of Trauma, Codependent's Fawning

(13:34) How Do We Stay Authentic in Our World?

(16:54) Richard's False Self in Social Media & "Codependent Anonymous"

(23:19) Practicing Our Authenticity and Watching Our Addiction 

(25:31) We're Learning to Transact Love Since Our Childhood

(30:53) Setting Hard Boundaries (Does It Feel Safe to Love Them?)

//Q&A Section//

(36:04) "Why do you feel you can't you be your authentic self online?"

(37:38) "What to say to a friend in a bad relationship that is hurting her, but she won't let go?"

(38:17) "Hello Clarice! Do you still hear the lambs cry?" (on 'Silence of the Lambs' character)

(40:11) "Why did my NPD go into an apoplectic rage when I set boundaries?"

(41:45) "Will you explain codependent and our manipulation tendencies?"

(43:18) "How do we deal with our narcissistic parents?"

(44:40) "As you heal from codependency and fawn response, how does your idea of an ideal relationship change?"

(52:37) "Do you think ID is the false self?"

(52:54) "Isn't it more 'natural' to be a narcissist or a psychopath since humans have a need to survive at all costs, and we can only do that  by achieving power in society?"

(56:46) "Can you give advice and first steps to healing and finding our true self?"

At some point of our recovery, we have to integrate a healthy superego into our psyche.

You want the opposite of internal criticism.

You want an inner support and encouragement.

An inner, responsible and protective adult, who ALWAYS has your best interest at his side.

Discover more about that by listening to this episode.

** Stay tuned for the new, upcoming course mentioned by following Richard (links in the podcast description) or by using the mail newsletter at www.spartanlifecoach.com

(00:01) What is Having a Healthy Superego About?

(05:24) Re-parenting From Childhood

(09:11) Internalized Self-image of Being Worthless

(13:07) Learned Self-abandonment & Dissociation

(15:28) Toxic Superego Inducing Flashbacks

(18:17) Victim Identity & It's Narcissism

(22:09) Rewriting the Ideologically Infected Narrative

//Q&A Section//

(33:37) "How do you control chronic daydreaming, dissociation?"

(34:08) "How do you create more loving and present patterns into the subconscious, not fall into the old patters?"

(35:17) "Will the course give one a healthy self-worth, not wanting to be invisible?"

(39:41) "The objective truth is what's so traumatizing?"

(40:33) "Do you believe that almost 50% of the world population are narcissists?"

(46:52) "So superego is one who speaks in mind?"

(47:42) "Do you think that overthinking can destroy the mind?"

(48:48) "How supportive are spiritual practices in this maturation process? Or are they antiquated practices that do not belong to modern man, only lead to spiritual bypassing?"

When it comes to handling the narcissists, these 12 rules are absolute necessity.

Make sure you got everything in check!

(00:20) #1 Admit and Identify

(00:27) #2 Test: How Does It Make Me Feel?

(00:43) #4 Clarify the Boundary Between You and Them

(01:04) #5 Clarify the Boundary That is Not Acceptable 

(01:12) #6 Be Aware of the Agenda

(01:22) #7 Physically Escape

(01:38) #8 Detach and Observe

(01:51) #9 Accept Defeat

(02:01) #10 Manage Your State

(02:16) #11 They Need Your Pain

(02:26) #12 Don't Discuss Personal Matters

You can’t flip out of NPD obviously but when you have two narcissists together it seems to me they take turns to be “prey” (vulnerable) and “predator” (grandiose).

In this video I’m talking about classic echo/enabler/fawn people pleasers rather than vulnerable narcissists.

However, at this point I’m wondering how thin the veil between the two may be.

I include myself in this assessment by the way.  

It’s just a hypothesis, for your consideration.

Have you felt unseen and disrespected by a narcissist?

The ego helps us to make distinctions and boundaries in the world.

That is partly why narcissists are so abusive and dismissive.

If you want to want more, listen in! The episode include references to Sam Vaknin's work.

(00:00) Hello

(01:18) Narcissists Are Ego-less

(06:10) What is Ego According To Eastern Philosophy

(09:49) The Narcissist is Never Really Interacting With the Outside World Part 1

(15:17) The Narcissist is Never Really Interacting With the Outside World Part 2

(20:28) Projective Identification

(24:39) "Why Am I Terrified Of Male Figures That I Admire?"

(26:02) Talking About the Covert Narcissists

What are psychotic disorders, how do they form and how to heal them, about love, marriage, sex and more. Sam Vaknin and Richard Grannon discussion.

(00:00) History of the Term Psychosis

(06:27) Difference Between Internal and External

(08:45) Psychotic Disorders and Their Relationship With External World

(11:35) Narcissists and Their Relationship With External World

(12:46) Borderlines and Their Relationship With External World

(14:37) Psychopaths and Their Relationship With External World

(16:40) Is It Possible for People With CPTSD to Develop Psychotic Disorder as a Response to Trauma?

(20:11) Formation of Narcissism in a Child and What Happens Next

(21:25) Borderline Response to Trauma

(25:40) The Reason Why Most Borderlines End Up With Narcissists, Abusers and Psychopaths

(31:03) Key Principle to Healing Borderline

(32:50) Why Peace in a Home Makes Borderline Worse?

(34:40) Personal Disorders and Their Reaction to Love

(39:18) Erotomaniac Stalking is a Form of Narcissism

(41:30) Personal Disorders’ Issues of Intimacy

(45:10) When Marriage in Long-term Relationship Work, is That Because the Bridge Between Internal and External is Strong?

(50:50) Love is a Synthesis Chemical Reaction

(52:50) How to Keep Marriage Strong

(57:25) What’s the Point in Marriage Taking in Account Today’s Morality?

(1:00:00) Difference Between Sexual Exclusivity, Monogamy and Marriage

(1:03:34) What is Monogamy Historically and What It is Now

(1:06:27) What is Marriage Historically and What It is Now

(1:10:32) Giving a 100% is Setting Your Partner for Failure

(1:15:49) Confusing Altruism With Giving a 100%

Eating disorders are often the case with the victims of emotional abuse.

They can have BAD implications and you don't want to allow it to happen.

How can you better treat this problem?

Listen to some new, and hopefully useful approaches here!

(00:01) Introduction

(02:19) You Can Only Cure an Individual Case

(03:39) What is Bulimia and HOW People Do It? (Examples)

(08:22) Self-harm Connection

(11:35) What Can We Do About That?

(14:08) How Mindfulness Can Help, Part 1

(15:54) Quick Note on Complex PTSD

(20:47) How Mindfulness Can Help, Part 2

(24:52) Compassion

(27:33) Change the Metaphor & Acknowledge the Program That's There