A meltdown is almost always an EMOTIONAL FLASHBACK.

What does it mean? Why do we experience a flashback and what can be done about it?

When you understand what is going on, it's easier to manage these intense emotions popping up.

This is what you must know:

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(00:07) Getting Started, What is CPTSD and Flashbacks?

(04:24) How to Deal With a Meltdown?

(08:20) Shortly on the 4f Stress Responses (Fawn, Fight, Flight, Freeze)

(09:33) Acknowledging the Flashbacks

(14:47) A Child Cannot Conceptualize Traumatic Events

(19:28) Burning in the Neuropathways, Conditioning, Shock

(24:47) Combat Veterans PTSD and BPD Connection

(31:05) Calling Out Flashbacks, Finding Triggers and State Management

(33:27) You Need to Be Careful With Relationships

A hangout from 2016 discussing political and cultural topics (including intimacy, porn and sex) including a Q&A section.

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-> This is a brand-new course (as of August 2020) dealing with issues related to codependency, people pleasing, and more.

(00:07) Brexit and Politics Part 1

(05:09) Brexit and Politics Part 2

(07:49) Why People Defend Donald Trump

(12:17) Conspiracy Theories Are Comforting

(16:12) Politicians Don't Really Want to Make Unpopular Decisions

(20:32) Where Are the Bosses?

(23:30) We're Living in Some Weird Mutated Version of 1984

(25:05) Advice for All of Us

(29:33) Narcissism Has Become a Mainstream Cultural Value

(32:14) Don't Overcomplicate Complicated Problems

(37:35) How Can I Move on and Put Them Aside Without Avoiding and Suppressing My Emotions or Simply Bypassing?

(40:04) Sex in a Modern Society According to Slavoj Žižek

(41:32) Porn Binging to Self-medicate

(47:10) Love is a Multidimensional Realm Where You Also Can Get Hurt

(51:05) Change Everything

(54:37) The Hangover Feeling of Being Unattractive

(59:22) What Hollywood Will Teach You About Intimacy is Guaranteed to Hook You on Antidepressants

(1:04:11) The Key Problem is the Narcissistic and Absent Father

(1:09:08) If a Man is Fully Formed Emotionally Mature Adult With a Backbone, What Can Some Seductress Chick Really Do?

(1:11:16) No Parent Needs to Do Anything Particularly Amazing, Just Be There

(1:12:51) Grief That Needs to Be Expressed

(1:17:02) Choosing the Wrong Men

(1:21:01) Reading the Last Question

(1:24:18) Many Narcissists Have a Great Sense of Humor

(1:27:04) How People With CPTSD Can Be Useful to Certain Institutions Part 1

(1:32:52) How People With CPTSD Can Be Useful to Certain Institutions Part 2

Silence of the Lambs has been one of my favorite books.

And the movie adaptation is, in my opinion, the best book to movie adaptation ever.

It's a fascinating story seen from the perspective of narcissistic abuse.

The main characters and their relationship portrayed, can give as a great insight into the "abuser - victim" dance.

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(00:23) Characterization of Clarice Starling

(04:16) The Predators and Prays Worldview That Hannibal Lecter Tries to Teach Clarice

(07:52) Is Lecter a Psychopath or a Narcissist

(10:01) Hannibal Lecter Seducing Clarice Starling

(17:40) Clarice Seeing a Lost Lamb in Dr Lecter

From all the nasty habits one can have, people pleasing is the one that is often overlooked, yet VERY impactful.

It manifests everywhere, where we interact with other people.

And that's a BIG portion of your life.

People pleasing will sabotage your interests, damage your self-respect and thus your well-being.

We want to get rid of that and be a sovereign adult instead.

Here are 5 quick tips that will help you to overcome the people pleasing habit.

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(00:00) Quick Introduction to the Concept

(01:15) #1 Putting Yourself First

(03:30) #2 Deal With Your Guilt

(05:52) #3 Accept Other People Suffering

(09:12) #4 Ask for What You Want

(11:09) #5 Be Courageously You (Ditch the Act)

(13:42) "How to deal with the bad conscience after saying no and feeling the others' disappointment?"

(14:55) "What do you think about this statement: it's ok to be disagreeable sometimes. It feels like people pleasing is neurotic agreeableness."

(18:55) "The fear feels existential. What to do about it?"

(19:50) "Does "Accept others suffering" also include the suffering of the narcissist?"

(20:24) "How do you start to find the real authentic you under all the people pleasing?"

(21:10) "What about addictions? (and codependent relation with reality)"

(26:01) False Self and Bringing Back the Real Self

(28:05) "Do you think the prey/predator role-playing in BDSM is "Useful" at all?"

(30:26) "Do you feel like there's a point in childhood where the child actually chooses a path of either prey or predator?"

(36:04) "Is feeling undeserving the same as feeling guilt?"

(36:22) "Give me some self assertiveness tips not to be afraid to argue/fight?"

(37:32) "Thoughts on DBT?"

(38:25) "Can you give us any pointers on dealing with adult children who are mentally unstable and codependency please?"

(39:32) Answering Short Questions

(40:58) Recap

(42:45) #6 Develop a New Ethic

Motivation doesn't come from nowhere!

It's a natural force pushing you forward to what's important to YOU.

Either it's presence, or lack of it, is a valuable signal.

In this episode we look into what is the PURPOSE of "goals", and how to use the goal setting exercises to summon your motivation.

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-> This is a brand-new course (as of August 2020) dealing with issues related to codependency, people pleasing, and more.

(00:14) What is Motivation & a Goal REALLY

(01:51) What the Goal Setting Exercise is for?

(03:55) Presenting the Exercises Part 1

(05:49) Quick List of Emotional Needs Related to Our Goals

(08:44) Presenting the Exercises Part 2

(10:19) Goal vs. Direction

(12:06) Lifestyle Congruent With Values?

(14:07) Presenting the Exercises Part 3

If there's one thing without which no technique is effective, it's this.

With the sheer will you can do anything.

Ancient people knew that well.

Now is the time to put that to use in practice!

(00:17) Introduction

(02:33) The Skills Need to Be Drilled

(04:35) Why People Won't Apply the Technique?

(08:40) Ferocity of Intent

(12:57) I Am Going to Make This Work or Die Trying!

Social media influence our lives in a large way.

How do they influence our character and behaviour?

What does the research say?

Find out all about it in this episode.

(00:41) On "Plugged in" Documentary

(02:04) What Do You Believe Narcissism Stems From?

(04:18) Spoiling is Abuse, Does Overpraising Raise Narcissist?

(09:29) Social Media Usage Correlation With Mental Health Issues

(12:16) Social Media Breeding Narcissism?

(17:13) To What Extent Social Media is Accountable for the Rise of Narcissism Amongst Millennials?

(22:30) Between Young Males and Females, Who Do You Believe is More Narcissistic and Why?

(28:30) Not All Social Media Users Are Narcissists, but Those Platform Do Turn Otherwise Normal People Into Attention Seekers

//Q&A Section//

(32:26) "How to kill social media?"

(33:41) "Those of us who are traumatized, are at higher risk of injury and addiction of social media?"

(34:16) "How much do you think the self-empowerment cultural phenomena has normalized or even idealized narcissism?"

(36:17) "How do you know when you've successfully installed a new unconscious rule and it's ok to move to the next one?"

(36:46) "How do you feel about social media and it's effects on youth suffering anorexia?"

(38:21) "How do you explain to adults and children the importance of empathy?"

(39:49) "Why did you say that you hoped that Peterson phenomena was over?" (Zizek debate)

(44:44) "I like Paterson's take on responsibility"

(45:39) "Where to look for good moral philosophy?"

(47:02) Make Friends With Your Superego, He Helps You to Act According to Your Values

(50:14) "To think thoughts to the end, not just one sentence like in the media" (debating vs. arguing)

(56:23) "Have you knew of PTSD case in which the psychological condition could have caused physical illness?"

(57:44) "Language gets diluted and full of fillers these days"

Why would some immigrants families display narcissistic tendencies?

What are the psychological dynamics taking place?

(00:00) Stating Today's Topic

(04:57) Where the Narcissistic Personality Type is Typically Born Into According to Sam Vaknin's Book

(06:12) How and Why the Immigrant Families Encourage Abstention From Social Contacts

(07:56) As Your Status is Constantly Brought Down Externally, You Need to Find Semi-delusional Ways of Elevating Back Up

(10:39) Envy, Rejection, Self-isolation and the Kind of Shared Psychosis Among a Unit

(15:41) Emphasizing the Efficacy of Some Arcane Logic the Unit Possesses

(17:49) The Unit Adopts a Transactional Approach to Life and Regards Certain Traits as an Expression of Superiority

(19:06) Narcissists Compulsively Deny Any Form of Attachment to Anything

(23:27) Emotional Involvement Preventative Measures of Narcissists

(28:08) Narcissists Rejecting Adulthood

(30:14) The Intimate Partners of Narcissists Eventually Become Annoying to Them

(33:17) Wrapping Up

Questions and Answers session from April 2020 - covering both psychology, and current events comments and questions.

(00:07) How do you recognize the difference between CPTSD and narcissism?

(02:08) Covert narcissist & schizophrenic seems the same. Why?

(03:13) What does BPD look like in a work environment?

(05:04) Will life on earth be worth living 50 years in the future?

(06:38) Has social media helped or harmed humanity?

(10:24) What is your view on dominance hierarchy?

(11:13) How come if a covert NPD person tells in self talk to oneself that they want to behave nicely they will still display unsocial behavior?

(13:13) Is the clapping & banging of pots and pans for the NHS a form of social conditioning?

(15:25) How would you define a boundary? Are social media used as a tool to destroy our boundaries?

(22:22) Clapping for the mailman

(23:21) Should I wait til after lockdown to end the relationship with covert NPD?

(25:11) They are letting the inmates out of prisons and locking up normal citizens for not being good citizens? (difficult state of NHS and other systems)

(34:25) What do you think of the London Real/David Icke video ban?

(36:00) On YouTube censorship

(41:46) Have you seen how the definition of terrorism was changed in the last 10-20 years?

(44:51) I do worry this wisdom will only be useful in hindsight. I cannot understand how people cannot see the repeating patters in history (on fascism)

(49:08) This is more like communism

(52:43) What do you think the post C-19 world is going to be like?

(1:01:05) I've checked on Bill Gates talking about the depopulation thing on ted. It's totally misunderstood (on importance of debate & asking questions)

(1:07:20) Saying money is dirty, is that for getting all the money from people? (cashless society)

(1:08:52) If 5 geezles is a weapon, won't the 5 geezles hurt the cult that come up with it, as well?

(1:13:57) How does growing up in gang culture affect the child growing up in it?

(1:21:38) How to know if I am a narcissist?

(1:22:13) Goodbye

There are a few things to remember when dealing with smear campaigns.

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Check out how to go Spartan Style on it.