Fix CPTSD Podcast | Psychology and Philosophy in Narcissistic Times with Richard Grannon

This is the ultimate protection against narcissists.

Flashbacks disregulate you and make you an easy target.

You knowing what you really feel is what narcissist fear the most.

(00:06) The Reason Why You Need to Reduce Emotional Flashbacks

(02:22) If You’re Flashbacking, You Won’t Be Able to Say What’s Real and What’s Not

(06:31) Narcissists Use Reactive Abuse

(08:09) Is BPD Inherently Evil and Bad?

(10:29) Are There Any Simple Tricks?

(14:22) Inability to Tell the Difference Between a Real Emotion and an Emotional Flashback Reveals Emotional Illiteracy

(19:05) Talking About Creating an App for Emotional Literacy Work

(21:32) The Emotional Literacy Course Focuses on Emotions, Not on Story

(23:23) Answering Questions About Courses

(24:27) How to Get Over the Fear of Going Out After Splitting From Someone Emotionally Abusive

(25:59) Wrapping Up

Is the total cure for CPTSD possible? Can we work toward it together, and how?

Many therapists are helpless in cases of personality disorders or CPTSD.

That is because the MODEL they're using is not very effective in terms of making people get better.

So can we create better models instead?

(00:05) Richard Explains His Project's Background & How It Became About CPTSD

(05:32) Therapists Gave Up on People With CPTSD and Personality Disorders

(10:24) Can We Have a Total Cure for CPTSD?

(12:27) More Complex Element of the Problem

(15:15) Objective Constancy, Map and Territory, Sanity & Getting Traction

(19:04) Establishing Causality Will Make You Get Better

(22:35) Be Your Own Therapist (Receive AND Transmit)

It can apply to women too!

What are the most important mistakes when approaching attractive person?

You don't need to be cool and amazing to meet them.

Being yourself is well enough, but there are some things that work against us in that context.

I have discussed them here, so listen in!

(01:03) Putting Girl on a Pedestal

(04:15) Good-looking Girls Have a Really Hard Time

(06:23) Stop Yourself From Trying to Impress

(08:22) The Problem of Needy, Nasty Vibes

(10:54) Your State Transmits & Approach Avoidance

(12:29) Try to Make It Simple (Being Centered and Polite)

(15:56) Get Your Emotional State in Order Before You Approach

People pleasing is an addiction.

That means you can be aware of it and stop it.

Please only do the test here https://qst.darkfactor.org/ and please offer permission for the researchers to use your results - the more data from the largest sample size, the better!

(00:01) Introduction to Dark Traits

(00:47) Breakdown of the 9 Dark Core Traits

(02:20) The D Factor & Correlation

(02:46) On Utility Maximization

(03:11) Richard's Results

(04:00) The Idea for a Better Model

(05:56) On Moral Disengagement

(08:18) How That Model Could Be Used in Therapy?

Borderline Personality Disorder is often misdiagnosed CPTSD, or a result of it.

We're going to discuss it's main symptoms and characteristics.

If you want to understand borderline better, this is the right episode.

(00:11) Richard's Experience With Borderline & What is BPD?

(03:03) Impulsivity of BPD & Compassion

(06:38) CPTSD as a Cause of BPD

(10:22) How Can BPD Move Forward?

(12:13) Other BPD's Symptoms and Problems

(14:11) Idealisation and Devaluation

(15:04) Fear of Abandonment

(18:01) Dissociation and Inability to "be in the Moment"

(19:12) If You Want to Heal You Will

What is it about them that makes them so attractive?

Why are you attracted to them?

There are certain psychological processes that might be at play.

This episode will make it easy for you to understand it and do something about it.

(00:11) Your Parents Interactions as Partners

(00:44) What Needs Are Being Fulfilled?

(02:47) Look for the Traits in Yourself

(04:17) Extreme Measures to Get Rid of Addictions

(05:19) Acknowledging Forms of Narcissism in Your Choices

(12:04) Wrapping Up

I'm going to give you one weirdly simple tip, that will help you get your life in order immediately.

This is one weird old school coaching tip no matter what you face in your life right now.

No one has a right to bully you into doing something.

You are an adult who make his own choices.

Find out how a bully operates and how to respond with courage.

(00:38) Breaking Down the Bullying (Threat, Agenda and "or Else...")

(04:04) Obeying vs. Saying No (Should You Go to Secondary Location?)

(10:33) Does the Threat Merit the Response?

Most narcissist are comorbid with borderline - what does it mean?