Fix CPTSD Podcast | Psychology and Philosophy in Narcissistic Times with Richard Grannon

There are really only 3 reasons for lack of motivation.

You may think you're just lazy or lacking self-discipline when that is almost never the case.

We're going to discuss these reasons in this episode, so that you have good understanding of what is going on.

With that understanding you will be able to recover your drive and motivation to live a passionate life again.

(00:01) Stating Today's Topic

(05:55) If You Ask Why, You'll Find How

(07:48) Psychology is Created to Find Something Sick in an Individual

(11:16) If You Don't Have Motivation, You Might Be Depressed Part 1

(15:46) If You Don't Have Motivation, You Might Be Depressed Part 2

(17:35) What is Depression and Why Does It Happen?

(21:45) Emotions Are a Part of You, You Can't Switch Them Off

(25:50) Suffering is a Part of Life

(30:35) Motivation/procrastination and Superego Injunction

(35:37) Talking About Hitler Taking Drugs

(39:34) How Do You Deal With Lefty Liberal Fascists Equally as Tyrannical as Far-right?

(43:56) Listening to a Viewer's Story: Procrastinating Because of a Heartbreak Part 1

(49:10) Listening to a Viewer's Story: Procrastinating Because of a Heartbreak Part 2

(55:48) Listening to a Viewer's Story: Accusing a Person of Something That Isn't True Part 1

(1:00:44) Listening to a Viewer's Story: Accusing a Person of Something That Isn't True Part 2

(1:03:45) Wrapping Up

"What we focus on grows stronger" is the main theme of this live Hangout including Q&A.

Many interesting topics have been covered, revolving around the things one can do to make a positive change in his life.

(00:31) If You Fail to Deliver a Message Through to the Unconscious, None of the Useful Stuff Sticks

(01:59) Our Brain is Kind of Set Up to Be a Pain Seeking Machine

(05:59) Telling a Story Part 1

(10:27) Telling a Story Part 2

(14:03) You Can't Tax the Best Things in Life

(19:21) Get Back to Reality

(22:52) Richard Talks About How He Made a Difference and Changed His Life

(24:22) Abused People Tend to Become Abusive

(26:34) Time is a Flat Circle

(30:18) Responding to Short Comments

(31:57) Richard Talks About One of His Nightmares

(34:04) Richard Talks About What He Personally Gets From Making These Videos Part 1

(38:56) Richard Talks About What He Personally Gets From Making These Videos Part 2

(43:49) Responding to Short Comments

(47:58) Artificial Intelligence Already Affects Us

(51:59) Responding to Some Comments and Wrapping Up

The past can be really painful.

Not being able to let it go hurts.

But what if it was never the case?

Maybe it's not about erasing our past?

If you want to deal with the emotional pain, this is the right episode.

(00:00) Introduction - Richard's Story of Temple Walk

(06:00) The Point - a Metaphor of Roots and the Temple

(07:59) So How Do We Let Go of the Past? (Not Knowing & Humility)

(11:17) Aliveness & Suffering

(13:16) Awareness of Pain, Alertness, Care and Paying Attention

(14:49) Auto-therapy and Expressing Feelings 

(18:38) Accepting the Pain & Systemic Approach

(20:23) Depression as a Deep-rest

(23:21) Don't Use Cleverness to Avoid Pain

Starting a new relationship after emotional abuse can be really hard.

Here are the most important points you need to know if you want that relationship to be healthy.

Sticking to them will make you a strong and mature person, being able to build a fulfilling connection.

Start working on these now.

(00:17) Dealing With Emotional Dysregulation First

(01:35) Where Does CPTSD Come From?

(03:49) What is Super-ego and How Does It Become Hijacked?

(06:59) Super-ego, if It's Not Being Dealt With, Will Keep Inducing Emotional Flashbacks

(12:20) What You Need to Do if You Want to Be in a Healthy Relationship

(16:27) "If the Rule by Which You Lived Has Led You to This Point in Your Life, of What Use Was the Rule?"

(20:06) Wrapping Up

This is one of the most powerful and yet most underestimated techniques.

People tend to think something is too simple to work. But then are astonished when they actually try it.

It's easy for your mind to fall into thinking about the problem. But how did that worked so far?

No more. You want to move forward.

In this episode you will discover how to switch your focus to accelerate your healing.

To see the other tutorials go to: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hG-frPf8Iq8&list=PLwPU59DePqmPqqVg-0n_dcPT1bYxd6_wY

(Fortress Mental Health Protection System)

(01:41) Nobody is Coming to Save You

(03:54) #1 What can I DO today to help myself heal?

(07:32) #2 What can I do to support myself? (+ examples)

(15:03) #3 What can I do that moves me toward healing and having fun?

(16:34) Putting Chaos Back Into Order

This is a quick one.

Do you find yourself slacking off?

You procrastinate and the longer you do it the worse it gets?

Listen on how to get back on track.

(00:46) Failure & Patience

(02:21) Accepting Discomfort

(04:50) Bravery & Spartan Attitude

How do you know if the relationship is abusive?

Say the magic word "no" and watch the reaction.

You have been conditioned to not be able to say no.

But remember it is your right to have boundaries and every boundary is a "no".

Can narcissism cycle and breed over generations? What are the parental errors and how you can avoid them?

(00:21) Brutal Reality of Family Unit

(02:30) Empaths Creating Narcissism?

(05:01) Overachiever Syndrome, Differences Between Generations

(07:47) Be Careful With Affection and Giving Too Much Attention

(10:29) Parents Need to Teach How to Grow Up (On Parenting)

Do you care about your appearance? Are you worried how others see you?

You may think that you have to be beautiful, and if you don't, you'll have a hard time with people.

Turns out there are deeper, more important things than simple, outside appearance.

I'll show you real life examples of how that rule plays out.

(00:18) Reading and Braking Down Today's Question

(09:42) Your State is More Important Than Your Looks

(13:09) Richard's Experiment

(19:13) It's Our Responsibility to Let Others Know Who We Are

(21:50) Everyone's Cool When You're Cool (Richard's Personal Example)

(27:05) Example of How Reality Tunnels Work

(31:03) Giving People Different Energy & Natural Prejudice to Strangers

Lot of people just passively drag through life nowadays.

Our culture fosters toxic passivity and that is a problem.

If you are here, you probably want something better.

If so, listen to the solution in this episode.

(00:01) Richard Explains Why He Stopped Face-to-face Counselling & Why He Got Back to It Now

(04:04) Importance of Personal Sense of Right and Wrong

(08:34) Passivity is a Consequence of Not Having Any Moral Philosophy

(13:12) We Are Trained to Be Seen Through Robot’s Eyes

(17:58) The Connection Between Healthy Boundaries and Moral Philosophy

(20:06) Does Porn Have Any Useful Function?

(25:32) Does Porn Destroy True Love?

(26:35) The Ancients Knew That Overindulgence Didn’t Lead to Anything Good Morally

(28:40) Are Those Who Make Pornography Sexually Autistic?

(30:35) Isn’t Labelling a Person With Toxic Passivity Problematic?

(31:59) Does General Population Find PTSD Ridiculous?

(35:12) Toxic Passivity and Solutions to It

(37:27) How to Deal With Friends Who Don’t Recognize One’s PTSD?

(38:53) Is Toxic Passivity Rooted in Learned Helplessness?

(41:45) Emotional Flashback is a Commonly Misunderstood Term

(44:39) Ruminating is an Emotional Flashback

(49:39) Talking About the Weezer and the Foo Fighters Concert

(52:46) Tips on Being Articulate

(55:12) Goodbye