Fix CPTSD Podcast | Psychology and Philosophy in Narcissistic Times with Richard Grannon

Robin Williams, just like others, wasn't free of Adverse Childhood Environment.

(00:00) Getting Started

(02:14) Some Comedians Are Miserable

(06:28) Analyzing the Facts From Robin Williams's Life Pointing to the Roots of CPTSD

(11:04) Further Analysis

(15:43) Summing Up

You cannot REALLY overcome procrastination.

That's because it's not what they say it is.

The issue might be somewhere else, because our unconscious have a greater impact on our behavior.

If you ever wondered why you're perfectionistic or how to finally start getting shit done, you might find some explanations here.

(00:41) The Roots of Perfectionism

(03:02) The Brain is Hard-wired for Parental Validation

(04:58) Attachment Styles

(07:55) Procrastination as Unconscious Blocks

(11:08) Procrastination is Not Laziness & Natural Tendencies to Be Lazy

(13:22) Overcoming Perfectionism & Perfectionism Inducing Culture

(17:42) Just Doing First, Then Correcting (Business Advice #1)

(21:17) See the Human (Business Advice #2)

(23:21) Forget Perfect, There is No Such Thing

What happens when you hesitate to demand what you want?

If narcissists are so ruthless, so you should be.

It's important that you set you boundaries immediately without a second-thought, and in this episode I'll show you why.

(00:05) Don't Pity People (It's Not Compassion)

(03:10) Saying No and Demanding What You Want

(04:15) The Symbolic Violence & Threat

(07:10) The Longer You Leave It the Worse It is

(10:24) If You're Thinking of Saying No, Say No Early

(13:00) Narcissistic Psychopaths Push and Boundary Test

(13:50) It's the Same at Micro-level as at Macro-level

You might have heard that you can be gaslighted by the narcissist, but... unfortunately it may not end there.

Narcissistic abuse victims forums are a big thing right now.

Is the narcissism discussed there a good representation of what it actually is?

What if they have fallen a victim to overall, cultural trend to mythologize narcissism?

These are good questions worth knowing the answer to - if you're curious, listen to this interview with narcissism expert - Sam Vaknin.

(00:25) Provoking People to Confront Reality & Sadism of That

(06:01) Narcissism and Good vs. Evil Split as a Model for Seeing the World

(11:53) Did Sam Put Himself in a Position of Scapegoat for Narcissism?

(16:07) Sam Announcing His Diagnosis, Being "Narcissist by Proxy"

(17:43) Overt vs. Covert Narcissist, Inferiority Complex, True vs. False Self

(24:13) Narcissism Underlies All Our Mental Health Mechanisms

(26:33) The Words "Empathy" and "Narcissism" Has Been Overused

(30:56) Victims Echo Chamber

(32:40) Narcissists Actually Do Have (A Type of) Empathy

(36:35) No Interest in Research, but Treating Narcissism as Pornography

(39:47) Elastic Defenses & External Locus of Control

(42:14) Calling Yourself a "Magnet" and Absolving Responsibility

(44:44) We Keep Repeating Our Unresolved Conflicts

(46:06) Victimhood is Very Rewarding

(49:16) Narcissist is a Modern Substitute for an Antichrist

(51:00) Popularization of a Term "Narcissism" & It's Strong Explanatory Power

(53:45) Narcissism Has Become Adulterated, Cultural Phenomena

(57:18) Goodbye

Reality is the way it is, and the "Beautiful Soul" is failing to see it.

(00:05) Playing the Beautiful Soul a.k.a. Oprah Winfrey Reality Tunnel

(03:13) The Problems That Idealisation Creates

(06:27) Myth of "The Right Person"

(08:06) You're on Your Own

(09:55) The Medium is the Message & Reality Templates

(12:00) In Our Culture We're Reducing Others to Resource

(13:08) The Double Bind of Marriage

(15:52) Summary

Is it difficult to get traction in your life?

You always seem to self-sabotage right before achieving your goal?

That can be emotionally and soul-wrecking problem. One can feel stuck in a loop without hope to get out of it.

Maybe the solution is where we haven't searched before.

I will help you to deal with the internal blocks holding you back. Let's get into it!

(01:02) Corrosion of Will to Move Forward

(02:17) Borderline Mother & and Pros of Feminism

(08:03) Mother Entangled With Her Child, Punishing for Individuation

(13:59) There's a Woman in Every Man, and a Man in Every Woman (Yin Yang)

(16:16) Disordered Parents Emotional Abuse and Manipulation

(21:11) Why Can't I Assert Myself?

(25:05) Teenagers Setting Their Boundaries and Individuating (Parental Advice)

(27:17) Reducing Emotional Flashbacks to Move Forward

(29:32) How to Use Mental Clarity & Humor

(32:57) About Split Personality

(39:07) Relating to Parts of the Question

(40:27) On Meditation as Grounding

(41:43) Masculinity Models

(43:27) "I Can Learn That Being Successful is OK"

(44:34) Self-compassion

(46:44) Parents Are a Model for Self-love

Where do they all come from?

What do they all have in common?

(00:05) How the Topic Came About

(02:11) Being a Narcissist vs. Narcissistic & The Need for Parental Attention

(08:13) Pain Inspires Insight (Black Sheep Being Seers)

(11:07) On the Word "psychic"

Without proper access to your emotions you're kind of blind.

You can't discern the situations properly, you over-react or under-react.

You live your life as a roller coaster, seeking for highs and living in constant instability.

You can regulate yourself by accessing the emotions. I will show you how to process them - it's a simple technique that I couldn't live without. 

Do it, and you will feel the results relatively quickly.

>> References mentioned:

"The Tao of Fully Feeling" - Pete Walker

"On Joy and Sorrow" - Kahlil Gibran

(00:36) CPTSD and the Baseline of Emotion

(04:45) Consequences of Learning to Stay Calm Through CPTSD

(09:53) How a Little Girl That’s Being Raised in an Abusive Environment Learns to Shut Down Her Emotions and How She Looks Like When She’s 44

(14:03) The Way You Love Yourself is the Way Your Parents Loved You

(19:04) Having Troubles Accessing Your Emotions and the Dangers of That

(25:37) Things You Have to Do

(30:45) A Useful Technique to Help You Deal With and Process Emotions Part 1

(36:01) A Useful Technique to Help You Deal With and Process Emotions Part 2

(39:16) A Lie That Having No Money is Okay

(43:51) A Lie That Being Completely Overweight is Okay

(48:30) An Invitation to Join in and Get Fit Together

(53:37) Start Working on Your New Year’s Resolutions in Advance

(57:16) Responding to Comments Part 1

(01:00:17) Responding to Comments Part 2

Is it common for victims of narcissistic abuse to feel guilty?

It seems irrational - why it would be the case?

(00:03) Starting the Topic & The 3 Main Reasons

(01:10) What is Toxic Shame?

(05:46) Lacking Ego Boundaries

(08:28) The Child Sees Parents as Gods