Fix CPTSD Podcast | Psychology and Philosophy in Narcissistic Times with Richard Grannon

You can learn to be more extroverted and get rid of shyness, here's how.

(00:01) Introduction

(01:25) Dismantling the Problem of Shyness

(02:26) Training Your Extraversion

(05:55) Warming Up Your Social Skills & Talking to People More Generally

(09:45) Learn State Management

(12:09) Where to Meet Them?

(14:32) What to Say? Observing the Environment and Observational Comedy

(17:36) Summing Up

(17:53) The Downsides of Putting Someone on a Pedestal

(20:03) Element of Social Proof

(20:54) You Need to Build a Rapport

(23:00) Pattern Interrupt & Dealing With Discomfort

(24:29) Assume That the Interaction Will Go Really Really Well

(27:10) Book Recommendations

For people with CPTSD using affirmations is a bit different - use these tricks and techniques to effectively change how you feel just by talking to yourself. It's as easy as that.

(00:05) Introduction

(01:23) Affirmations as Self-hypnosis & Command vs. Suggestion

(06:14) Framing Suggestions

(08:52) Milton Model for Post-hypnotic Suggestions

(10:40) Mind Reading

(13:54) Lost Performative & Political Speech

(18:31) Presuppositions & Assumptions

(22:35) Don't Freak Out About the Idea of Hypnosis and Trance

(25:58) On Critical Thinking

(30:15) A Note About the Course

Q&A Section

(33:52) "How do we unlearn feeling overly responsible for the feelings of others if we spent our  whole lives emotionally parenting our parents?"

(38:56) "Did you eventually forgive your dad, and if so did you use affirmations?"

(43:32) "How important is journaling in recovery?"

(45:35) "I am still struggling with my narcissist ex-husband, any advice on how to grey rock when co-parenting?"

(46:57) "Do you feel that our own individual personalities are innate, or do we have to create our own after living as a projection of others?"

(48:37) "Can affirmations help in overcoming emetophobia? In my case specifically the fear of being angry?"

(50:30) Have Your Affirmations Aligned With Your Core Values

(53:29) "What do I really want?" Career path and purpose in life

(1:00:21) "What are your thoughts on using subliminal messaging to bypass the conscious mind?"

(1:01:41) "Are there any affirmations one can use when catastrophizing during injury or illness?"

(1:03:59) Goodbye

(00:16) Amazing Polly's bit on "Concern Trolls"

(03:00) That's sounds so polite, but what are they really saying?

(08:36) Q&A Section

(10:47) Can you mistake the actions of an alcoholic for a narcissist?

(11:39) If you notice that kind of communication in a personal situation, what's the best way to respond?

(14:33) How can you stop being covertly narcissistic?

(16:03) What are the warning signs a person might have BPD?

(17:02) How do you deal with abandonment issues as an adult? When both parents have abandoned you how can you love yourself?

(19:06) Is it wise to tell my grandma off for being emotionally abusive when she's just gonna die soon anyways?

(20:03) How to help an 11 year old go through his emotions, with his narc dad?

(21:31) What can we do to deal with having to spend Christmas with toxic people who target us?

(23:06) Don't you believe in Empaths?

(25:14) Can you be too strict when setting boundaries?

(26:33) Is it in any way possible to try to mend relationships with toxic family members just for your own peace of mind?

(27:48) Do you believe BPD can be 'cured'?

(32:25) Can a covert narcissist go between acting covert to acting malignant?

(33:53) If you ask directly what you want and the result is physical abuse?

(36:33) What happened to the Pete Walker interview you mentioned in one of your early videos?

(37:35) Why do narcs try and convince their victims that they're the ones who are abusive, not the narc?

(40:01) Do you appreciate that it's possible that we attract by vibration our situation? (Law of Attraction)

(53:30) Do you think people with NPD are perhaps prone to abusing animals?

(00:16) Psychotherapy is an Art

(06:06) Story of a Bad Example of Trauma Processing

(09:00) Referencing Century of Self, Dangers of Trauma-bonding in Therapy

(14:00) MBTI Personality Test and the Problem With It

(17:41) Richard's Story About Scientologists Using MBTI Tests for Their Sales

(20:58) Personality is Never in the Genetics

(23:38) Psychotherapist Using Reframing Badly

(26:11) Psychotherapist Gaslighting Client About Projection

How narcissists see themselves as a character in a movie (which is one of the reason why you should not directly confront their issues), examples of their behaviour, and reasons behind that.

(01:01) That Problem is Complicated Because You Are a Part of It (The Modern Slavery)

(06:34) The "Red Pill Reality" and Blue-pilling Yourself

(08:58) Impact of Stories, Metaphors and Memories

(13:27) We've Been Trying to Process Human Narcissism for a Long Time

(17:26) The Adult Software Upgrades a Person Needs

(19:50) You Need Many Revelations to Fully Develop and Heal

(23:05) You Want a Gritty Elevation of Consciousness

(24:05) Revealers and Kāfirs, Knowing and Denying the Truth, the Sun That Heals

(30:43) About the Courses

Find the courses mentioned at:

www.spartanlifecoach.com

Inside the mind of a narcissist - how to understand their logic and their behaviour?

(00:06) Introduction

(02:06) How Do Narcissists Operate (Acting, Agenda, Power Obsession)

(05:06) It's Difficult if You're People Pleaser

(07:16) Example of Malignant Narc Case

(10:19) You Have to Be Cunning!

(12:59) Recap

These are the key principles to become a more boundaried person

(00:02) Topic Introduction

(02:09) These Traits Are the Root Cause of Being Targeted by Abusers

(04:49) More on the Traits (and How They Become Unconscious Rules)

(05:30) Naivety

(08:34) Excessive Conscientiousness

(12:28) Addiction to Approval to Others

(15:56) How to Overcome People Pleaser Syndrome?

(17:48) Self-assertivness & Setting Boundaries

(20:28) Psychical Conflict vs. Verbal Conflict

(23:32) Discussing the Course

(00:02) Introduction & disclaimer

(01:35) #1 Emotophobia

(02:51) #2 Neurotic Naivety

(04:24) #3 Desire to be liked

(05:06) #4 External locus of control

(05:51) #5 Inability to say "no"

(07:08) #7 Blurry sense of self

(08:06) #8 Emotional dependency

(09:42) #9 Low confidence, self-esteem & boundaries

(10:46) #10 Overintelectualization

(11:30) #11 Addiction to approval

(11:51) #12 Immaturity

(13:05) #13 Excessive altruism, responsibility & compassion 

(13:33) #14 Loneliness & isolation

(13:46) #15 Being excessively impressionable

(14:10) Goodbye

Find the courses and/or coaching mentioned at:

www.spartanlifecoach.com

How narcissists confuse and derail a conversation, the differences between overt and covert narcissism

(0:00) The Difference Between Overt And Covert Narcissism Part 1

(4:50) The Difference Between Overt And Covert Narcissism Part 2

(7:39) "I Would Never Do That"

(9:48) What Is "Word Salad"?

(11:04) The Advantages For Using Word Salad For Covert Narcissists Part 1

(15:43) The Advantages For Using Word Salad For Covert Narcissists Part 2

(20:02) Why Covert Narcissism Is Much Worse Than Overt Narcissism

(23:23) Goodbye