How to let go of bad baggage and heal?

(01:06) Resistance to Feelings Stemming From Social Conditioning

(07:43) Results of Repressed Emotions

(11:04) Coming Back to What We Feel

(19:00) Benefits of Healing

(23:47) There is No Way Out but Through (But It's Not That Bad)

(26:27) Describing the Feelings

(32:22) Judging the Emotions

(36:17) Feeling What is = Reality, Not Feeling = Out of Reality

(38:50) Summary

Dealing with flashbacks and healing from CPTSD

(0:00) Getting Started

(1:20) Acknowledging That You Are In An Emotional Flashback

(05:23) Reading And Commenting On A Piece From Layla Lorex's Book On Overcoming CPTSD Part 1

(10:29) CPTSD and BPD

(14:00) Reading And Commenting On A Piece From Layla Lorex's Book On Overcoming CPTSD Part 2

(19:12) Fundamentally Changing The Philosophy Of Life To Overcome CPTSD

(23:05) How Abusers Target And Pull The Emotional Wounds Of Their Victims

(25:59) The First Thing To Do Is To Educate Yourself About CPTSD And Emotional Flashbacks

(30:51) Just Knowing You're In An Emotional Flashback Can Help

Q&A Section

(35:24) "Is isolation following the Buddhist path of detachment?"

(39:42) "Do you have any thoughts on depersonalization disorder?"

(41:11) "How can you tell the difference between suppressing feelings and making progress in regards to emotional flashbacks?"

(44:06) "Have you got any tips on how to overcome self-abandoning?"

(47:23) "Can you give me tips on how not to cry when I'm upset?"

(49:29) "I did have a wonderful upbringing but still fell for a covert narc..."

(51:32) "How do you not suppress your feelings after you've been trained to do so all your life?"

(53:14) "How do you learn to cope with the emotional flashback when you absolutely cannot go no contact?"

(56:44) "My ex zombie witch doctor is now dating someone else. Is it common for them to move on quickly and maintain a healthy relationship?"

(58:41) "Currently looking for a job. Is there anything I can do to help with fading out during interviews?"

(1:03:41) "Do you know why some flashbacks last days and some are very transitory like five minutes?"

(1:07:35) "I'm so worried that I wouldn't be able to manage a new job because of my CPTSD. How can I stop worrying?"

(1:08:48) "Does EMDR work for CPTSDas well as PTSD?"

(1:12:56) Responding To Comments

(1:15:50) Examples Of Odd And Off-putting Behaviour

(1:18:53) Listening To Judy's Story

(1:23:29) Answering A Question About Self-hypnosis Drills

(1:25:04) Answering A Question About Anger As An Emotional Flashback

(1:29:35) Triggering Yourself Into An Emotional Flashback

(1:34:32) Dealing With The Abstract Things That Trigger You

(00:24) Propagandization & Changing the Perception

(02:08) Note on Reaction-seeking Social Media Use

(03:43) No Sincere Communication, Reaction Seeking & Reverse of Truth

(07:51) Punishment for Speaking the Truth

(10:45) Isolation and Control

Narcissists re-idealization of old sources of supply based on Sam Vaknin video

(00:04) Introducing the Topic

(01:43) Narcissist's Re-idealizaton

(05:01) A Strategy to Brush Off Narcissist Coming Back 

(09:19) Get Over the Narcissist & the Buzz You Get

(12:09) Don't Romanticize the Narcissist

What are the similarities and differences between Asperger Syndrome and Narcissistic Personality Disorder?

(00:19) Short Explanation of Asperger Syndrome

(02:17) Asperger vs. Narcissism

(05:42) Is He a Narcissist? Or Perhaps Asperger?

(06:26) Common Problems With Person Suffering Asperger Syndrome

(08:29) Richard Describing an Example of Asperger Person

(11:00) Asperger's Challenges in Relationship

(13:33) Wrapping Up

(16:04) Richard's Personal Experience

(17:57) Goodbye

This question is based on the premise that narcissists believe they are fundamentally perfect. Using it is an easy way to test them. Checking their reaction to certain emotional films can also be a good idea.

Are narcissists hypersexual or hyposexual and why, do they feel sexual attraction, how they manipulate and abuse their sexual partner, how to recover and more

(00:01) Starting the Topic

(01:04) Reading a Piece About Uniqueness and Intimacy in Cluster B Relationships

(12:00) The Root Cause of Narcissist's Problem With Relationships

(17:24) "Does being raised by narcissists effects individuals sexuality or is sexuality innate to his personality?"

(20:20) "Please explain sexual attraction"

(21:28) "Are narcissists mostly hyperactive or hypoactive sexually, are to what extent they are likely to be unfaithful in marriage?"

(23:44) Somatic and cerebral narcissist

(27:35) They Will Be Anyone or Anything Just to Get Your Reaction and Take Over You

(33:44) Slavoj Žižek reference and the matrix analogy

(37:32) "How to become normal again after being spoiled sexually?"

(41:06) Get a handle of your sexuality

(46:56) "What can be done to heal emotional wounds affecting intimacy in marriage?"

(48:11) Promiscuity

(51:45) "How do we move forward after NPD relationship?"

(54:30) "If a narc who perfected their bedroom act goes on a dating website is it for more sex or to devalue their partner?" (narcissist's cheating)

(1:03:21) "What happens when narcissist game suddenly stops working?"

(1:06:40) Male and female sexuality differences and cultural impact on it

(1:12:18) "How can I help my children not to fall into the same pattern as their narcissistic father?"

(1:14:01) "Is it common that narcissist uses triangulation to try to regulate your sexual behaviour?"

(1:16:10) "Is it possible for narc to make his girlfriend look hot in order to punish her for that?"

(1:17:56) "I prefer woman giving me compliments, I don't feel strong sexual urge, why?"

(1:21:05) "Before I met him I had precognitive dream with a warning in it, have you heard about such things?"

(1:22:38) "I realized a lot of my friends are narcs, help"

(1:25:18) "Can narcissist can be both cerebral and somatic?"

(1:28:27) "Why is it so difficult to find good sex?"

(1:32:17) "Do you think there will be a cure for my NPD?"

(1:35:45) "What is the connection between covert narcissism and obsessive hoarding of pornographic images?"

(1:40:28) Boundary breaking of Cluster B

(1:47:53) Goodbye

Know if you are vulnerable and prone to abusive relationships and don't get fooled again

(00:22) Questions You Need to Ask Yourself

(00:56) Check the People Pleaser Traits

(02:45) What Do You Believe About Love to Be True?

(03:33) The Red Flags for Abusers

(04:02) #1 is Their Communication Confusing?

(04:39) #2 Are They Too Good to Be True?

(05:03) #3 Are They Preoccupied With a Fantasy of Who They Are?

(05:21) #4 Reframing (Gaslighting)

(06:55) #5 Crappy Gifts

(08:28) #6 Going Too Deep Too Soon

(09:35) #7 Negativity and Criticism

(10:00) #8 Lack of Respect of Boundaries

(10:45) #9 Never Wrong, Never Sorry

(11:28) #10 Lack of Compassion

(12:53) How Can You Save Yourself?

(01:25) Actively Engage in Reframe, Become a Predator

(04:06) What is Your Objective? (Spectrum of Force)

(08:11) Sending a Narcissist Into a Meltdown by Denying His Idealized Self

(11:00) Withdrawing Your Attention

(12:46) You Can Learn From Narcissistic Mechanics in Society and Politics

(16:06) Seeing the True, Fragile Self of a Narcissistic Person

(21:40) Back to Reality & Morality

(27:44) I Do Not Consent to This (Non Serviam)

(31:00) Personal Responsibility

(32:24) The Most Unexpected Way to Take Revenge

(36:18) Goodbye

(00:06) #1 Get some objectivity

(01:35) #2 Use 3rd person perspective

(03:24) #3 "What is the purpose of this communication?"

(05:07) Be careful not to overuse "The Narcissist" label

(07:03) #4 "Does this interaction have the classical hallmarks of Cluster B?"

(10:10) #5 See if you perceive the interaction differently when the flashback has passed

(11:05) #6 Look for consistency over time of abusiveness

(13:18) #7 If you're asking the question and doing the research, it's probable that you're facing Cluster B abuse