Freedom from Attachment

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of feeling not good enough when an ex-partner moves on, self-sabotage, and giving mixed messages.

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Complainers are addicted to feeling bad. Those who constantly compare themselves to others, believing everyone else is better off, are addicted to feeling bad. People who host weekly pity parties about everything that sucks in their lives are addicted to feeling bad. So why would you choose this over feeling good? Because it’s easier. It allows you to avoid your fears, blame the universe for your problems and not do anything differently. Choosing to feel bad let’s you off the hook so you don’t have to make changes (that’s the benefit). But it also keeps you stuck in a personal prison where everything remains frustratingly the same.

You want your life to change, but you can’t see what you do to hold yourself in this “feeling bad” state. To do things differently is too scary, so you don’t do it. But that’s the path to feeling good: going through those fear walls and making things happen. The longer you stay victimized by your own thoughts and stories, judging your life by the outside, the longer you stay in your self-made prison. In this episode I’ll show you how to start breaking your addiction to feeling bad. It requires deep emotional work and a willingness to confront your fears. Your past does not define your present or your future. You get to choose how you feel from this point forward… so isn’t it time to start feeling GOOD?

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In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of personalizing your children's behavior, knowing what you want, and taking rejection personally.

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#495 - Moving On with Audrey Hope

Audrey has had multiple of what she calls "karmic points" that have led her to change her path various times. After seeing firsthand the suffering that women experienced around their bodies, she started a show called Real Women to help stop the brainwashing that affected women and presenting positive role models. Another of those moments was responsible for her starting her healing work with people. After working extensively on healing herself for a relationship, she heard a voice telling her to get on Plenty Of Fish, where she ended up meeting her husband. Audrey is an excellent example of healing yourself and receiving guidance from the universe.

Here's what we talked about:

-Surrendering in moments of change

-Asking for guidance and receiving it

-Healing yourself to be able to manifest what you want

-How you can see challenging moments as guidance to something better

-The importance of letting go in healing and manifesting

-Leaving her dad and the job at the family business

-Accessing your psychic powers

Here's more about Audrey:

Audrey Hope, D.D. is an award-winning certified addiction therapist and holds a Doctor of Divinity degree, who uses her abilities as a clairvoyant psychic medium to heal patients from trauma. A multi-talented force in the healing arts for over 20 years, Audrey Hope's gentle-but-firm approach in addiction and relationships gets to the 'root of the root' to solve problems through spiritual modalities as she guides patients to freedom using a new frontier of healing to achieve inner peace. She has her own practice in the heart of Brentwood, CA, is the host of her weekly YouTube advice show "Hope For Relationships," and is also an addiction therapist at Seasons In Malibu rehab facility.

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Do you have personas for different situations to make sure you’re never “wrong” or out of place? When talking with other people, do you constantly gauge their reactions and make assumptions about what they think of you (i.e. you’re boring, you’re dumb, there is something terribly wrong with you)? Maybe you fear all hell will break loose if you show who you really are. Those assumptions are based on your negative beliefs, and trying to avoid them turns you into an anxious chameleon, walking on eggshells to avoid rejection (that’s quite the visual, isn’t it?!).

Chameleons spend a lot of time and energy trying to disprove their negative beliefs. Putting on a circus act will show you’re not boring. No one will accuse you of being dumb if you always quote from scholarly books. But where are YOU in all this? By trying to prevent people from seeing your negative traits (which may be entirely in your head), you don’t allow yourself to feel your good beliefs.

When you embrace your negative beliefs, an amazing thing happens. You start feeling the good you never allowed yourself to feel before. A compliment actually means something (you can feel it) because you’re not afraid of losing it. In this episode I’ll show you how to be the worst of who you fear you are… and own it. Only then can you be who you are wherever you go instead of constantly adapting to your environment.

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In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of trust problems in relationships, affairs, and fear triggering you.

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When you’re a kid and your mom or dad reacted to you at times as though you had done something wrong, and you had not. You might have felt misunderstood or confused by their words or actions. In those moments, mom or dad were dealing with their own stuff and some of their frustration, anger, exhaustion, sadness, anxiety, etc was put on you. As an adult, do you still carry baggage leftover from your parents' choices? We are clueless as kids, we have no idea why mom or dad feel how they do and treat us how they do. They weren’t saying, “Hey, I am really frustrated by this problem at work and I am sorry I took it out on you.” Or maybe they ignored you, no matter how much you wanted their attention? And at other time they told you that you were too much, too difficult, or always doing something wrong. Whatever it was that created the idea that you were somehow responsible for how your parents felt, it was not a true observation, even if they said how they felt was all your fault.

The truth is: Your parents projected their own insecurities and issues onto you. Their choices had nothing to do with you, in how they chose to treat you and everything to do with the qualities they were lacking in how to deal.

It's time to put down the baggage you've been carrying. In this podcast episode, you'll learn how to break through your old thoughts of who you are through someone else's eyes, and become who you really are.

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of one-sided relationships, how to change without beating yourself up, and dating someone who's stingy with their money.

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Alexandra grew up shaping her life around a thesis rather than a career by following her intuition and making decisions that to others seem strange but to her felt like answering a call. Her artistic career extends to tv, movies, shows, photography, and now a book. She currently works with women by helping them heal and learn how to love themselves and make their lives a work of art through coaching and spiritual teachings.

Here's what we talked about:

-Considering our identity around the work that you do

-Making decisions by following what's pulling you

-The pain she carried with her after her parents' divorce

-Maintaining love relationships while traveling

-What the title of her book, F*ck Like a Goddess, really means

-Loving all the parts of yourself

Here's more about Alexandra:

Alexandra's path to healing and storytelling began at a young age. With a career traversing genres, but with a through-line of exploration of the female body and the re-integration of the divine feminine into the collective narrative. Named a "modern spiritual leader" by Well + Good she sees clients in one on one coaching and mentorship, leads retreats around the world, and teaches monthly online in her online community Radical Awakenings. Her healing and coaching work and ideas on healing and spirituality have been featured in the New York Times, Harper's Bazaar, Vogue, The Guardian, Nylon, Playboy, and many other international publications. Her first book F*ck Like a Goddess: Heal Yourself. Reclaim Your Voice. Stand in Your Power is out now.

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You feel like you need to "fix" other people. Do you spend a lot of your time and energy focused on the other people in your life? Maybe you rehearse what you need to say, so you get the reactions you want. You might even think there is an issue and plan out how you’ll react to them. Maybe you spend hours planning your actions, always trying to control the situation.

Whether this happens behind a computer screen on social media or to your significant other, when you focus on fixing someone else's flaws, you're avoiding your own. Controlling someone else just helps you avoid what's going on inside.

You can waste your life focused on someone else's or you can start to focus on your own and why you need others to be how you want them. In this episode, you'll learn how to take action for yourself, and focus on what you can do for YOU.

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