Friends with benefits (FWB) is a type of relationship where you can enjoy the sexual benefits of a relationship without the expectation of long-term commitment. 



Navigating the blurred lines between friendship and sexual intimacy is a complex and potentially risky endeavour. 



In this episode, Michael DiIorio and Pepper of The Gay Good discuss the nuances of having Friends With Benefits. They’ll discuss topics such as:




The pros and cons of FWB



Why this is common with gay guys



When FWB works and when it doesn't



Dos and don'ts for a satisfying FWB relationship




Join in for this revealing discussion that will give you greater clarity and understanding of this common relationship structure. 



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In this episode of Gay Men Going Deeper, we delve into the complexities of authenticity in the digital age. From Instagram to OnlyFans, we are living in an increasingly performative world where authenticity seems harder to discern. 



Today we are going deeper behind the blurred lines between being fake and putting your best self forward. We’ll be discussing the nuances of genuine self-expression versus performative behavior with personal examples and anecdotes to illustrate. 



Some of the topics we’ll be discussing are: 




Why insincerity thrives in social media 



How do you define authenticity? 



The pressures to “keep up” with other gay men 



The tendency to compete and compare  



Is curating your social media still considered authentic?



The fine line between being authentic and performative 



Ascertaining authenticity in the age of filters and algorithms 




Tune in to gain valuable perspectives on social media, insincerity, and the pursuit of authenticity in the digital age.



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Michael DiIorio



Matt Landsiedel



Reno Johnston






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Authenticity and Social Media

Join us for a compelling panel discussion as we spotlight the experiences of Asian gay men with our diverse panel of guests. Against the backdrop of intersectionality, our panelists share their personal journeys, confronting stereotypes, and navigating the complexities of race, sexuality, and culture.




The sacrifices we make to feel included 



Discrimination in dating



Common stereotypes and microaggressions  



Fetishization 



Challenges of visibility



Media representation: then and now 



Code-switching 



The diversity within the Asian community



Having a sense of pride in one’s cultural heritage



Hierarchies that exist within minority communities 



Allyship within the LGBTQ+ community




Through personal anecdotes and thought-provoking dialogue, we are looking at celebrating intersecting identities and the quest for acceptance and belonging. 



Join us for this much-needed discussion that advocates for understanding, empathy, and solidarity among all members of the LGBTQ+ community.



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JP Fernandes



Aldwin Era



Jarrod Bruce Lee




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Gay and Asian: Panel Discussion

In this episode, we are discussing the intriguing topic of self-disclosure and its role in fostering genuine connections. Self-disclosure, the art of revealing personal information about yourself to others,  shapes our relationships on various levels. 



Join us as we explore the psychology behind self-disclosure, its benefits, risks, and the delicate balance required for meaningful communication. 



Some of the topics we’re covering in today’s episode:




Knowing what to share and what not to share



The fear of being seen



Vulnerability hangovers



Building trust and intimacy 



How we practice self-disclosure 



How to maintain boundaries 



Coming out as an act of self-disclosure




If you’re wanting to enjoy richer, more fulfilling connections in both personal and professional spheres, this episode is for you!



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Self-Disclosure

In this episode, Matt speaks with vocal coach, producer, and artist Javier Wallis about finding and releasing the voice to foster a deeper capacity for self-expression. They unpack ways to unlock the voice through facing the fears and blockages many of us have about expressing ourselves. 



Come spend an hour with Matt and Javier and learn some of the powerful benefits of vocal expression and how it can lead to profound transformation, healing and empowerment. 



The concepts and questions we explore in this episode are:




How vocal expression supports self expression



How to find and release your voice



The blocks to self expression



The benefits of vocal expression



The benefits of vocal coaching 




Today’s Guest: Javier Wallis




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Finding and Releasing Your Voice (Self-Expression)

In this emotionally stirring episode, we dive into the heavy and complex topic of dealing with guilt and regret.



Sometimes we must face the uncomfortable consequences of our actions and learn how to not remain paralyzed in the shadows of guilt and regret. 



Join us as we explore the universal experience of making mistakes, forgiveness, self-forgiveness, and the power of moving forward with resilience



Some of the topics we’re covering today are:




What’s the difference between guilt and regret



How to handle making mistakes in your life and relationships



Dwelling on past mistakes vs. healthy self-reflection



Step-by-step process to help you move on



Letting yourself down



Mistakes as learning opportunities



Acceptance and forgiveness 




With personal anecdotes and expert insights, this episode delves into the intricate layers of shame, remorse, and self-reflection.



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Michael DiIorio



Matt Landsiedel



Reno Johnston






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Friends with Benefits

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