If you’ve ever lost a friendship and felt like there should’ve been a funeral, this one’s for you. In this episode, we’re talking about the heartbreak, awkwardness, and surprising silver linings of friendship breakups in midlife. I’m joined by my sister Sarah (back for her third appearance!) to swap stories, share what we’ve learned, and dig into how to protect your peace while still keeping your heart open. Think of it as group therapy meets coffee date—with zero pressure to pretend everything’s fine.

(00:00) 🪦 Opening thoughts: mourning a friendship like a death and why the math isn’t mathing
(01:00) 👋 Welcoming Sarah back for her third appearance and catching up on her big move
(04:30) 💔 Why friendship breakups in midlife hit differently
(07:15) 🎭 Sarah’s story: a dramatic friendship ending and what led up to it
(13:20) 📍 Hello, am I the problem?

(15:00) 👭 Elle Magazine Article: We Need to Talk About Our Ex-Best Friends

(17:08) 😮An attempted Coup d'état?

(20:28) 🚪 Where’s our rom-com, Nancy Meyers?! + A brand new therapy angle
(24:40) 🕊️ How friendship breakups affect the other friends in the group

(26:40) The celebrity friendship breakup that has become Chrissi’s Roman Empire
(31:00) 🌱 Making space for new connections after letting go of old ones
(33:15) ✨ Mel Robbins’ PTE friendship theory + The Tree Metaphor
(45:20) 💖 Closing thoughts: What did Sarah learn + what would she say to her ex-best friend today?

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Elle Magazine Article: We Need to Talk About Our Ex-Best Friends

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