The Baddest Bitch in the Building

Girly law of power #21: Stop giving the benefit of the doubt


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If you're a sharp, clever woman but you find yourself being taken advantage of, this law is for you. While grace and forgiveness can be good things, giving most people the benefit of the doubt is a naive thing to do, especially as a woman. Because who benefits? Not you.


On top of that, we're often told that our intuition isn't reliable and we should focus on the cold, hard facts...which is idiotic because a gut feeling is the OUTCOME of empirical INPUTS that our brain has gathered unconsciously. So yeah, it's hard to explain why we have a gut feeling. But that doesn't make it any less valid.


In this episode, we'll discuss:

  • The surprising origin of "the benefit of the doubt"
  • How to unlearn the nice girl conditioning that fools us into blindly seeing the good in everyone
  • Why giving the benefit of the doubt is a way to avoid short-term discomfort while inviting long-term disrespect
  • How to stop giving the benefit of the doubt without coming off as a jerk


Btw here's the article I mentioned on short-term thinking


✨Hope you love it and can use this law to make your dreams come true. You are the baddest bitch in the building.

Love, Neeki xo


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