What if the goals I’ve been chasing aren’t wrong… they’re just not mine?

For a long time, I set goals based on what looked good from the outside—what performed well, what earned approval, what a “successful” life was supposed to look like. But I’ve learned that a life that looks good doesn’t always feel good. And the same is true for goals. Many of them are borrowed, shaped by comparison and pressure rather than by truth.

In this episode of Success Genius, I talk about a different way of setting goals—one that starts with identity instead of performance. I explore why so many goals leave us exhausted, why discipline can start to feel like punishment, and how alignment matters more than motivation. When goals come from who we’re becoming, they don’t drain us—they support us.

This episode is an invitation to stop hustling for a life that doesn’t fit and start building one that actually feels like you. Because goals aren’t just things to accomplish—they’re invitations to become. And when your goals are rooted in truth, growth stops feeling forced and starts feeling inevitable.

Topics covered in this episode include:

• Why most goals are borrowed desires—and how mimetic desire shapes what we think we want
• The difference between goals that look good and goals that actually feel right
• How identity, not discipline, should be the foundation of goal setting
• Practical ways to build supportive structures that align with who you’re becoming
• Why authentic goals come from nervous system safety, self-trust, and alignment

Ready to stop chasing goals that exhaust you and start building a life that feels like you? Tune in to learn how to create goals from the inside out—and design a future rooted in truth, not performance.

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