Nice Guys aren’t being nice—they're being manipulative, using approval-seeking and people-pleasing as a way to control how women see them, all because they’re too afraid to be rejected for who they really are.

When it comes to women and men, I’ve come to the realization that it’s insecurity that drives us to seek approval from women. It’s subtle, often invisible, but it’s there—this craving for validation, for someone to tell us we’re enough. But here’s the thing: no matter how much approval we chase, it’s never going to fill the gap. It’s a hollow pursuit. 

Real maturity, real grounding, happens when we let go of that need, when we realize that our worth isn’t something that can be handed to us by someone else. It’s already inside, waiting to be claimed. 

The moment a man stops seeking validation from women, he becomes a mature integrated man.