Hang On A Moment

Following on from last week's episode on needs, let's get down to business.  Boundaries keep the riff-raff out - they stop negative energy dead in its tracks and they safeguard our wellbeing.  Yet, most people don’t have them, or have them but don’t communicate them, or have them AND communicate them, but let them switch to ‘green’ when they should constantly be on ‘red’.   Or worse still they’ve been violated despite our best efforts.    But boundaries still safeguard us to the best of their ability - that's why we must have them.

This week's podcast explains why boundaries are so important for our balance, our brilliance and our resilience and why we need to focus on creating them, setting them, communicating them and adhering to them.    Without this traffic light system in place we have no way of regulating or protecting our vibrational energy.

We need to align our boundaries to our values and then we know that we have a compass for life that keeps us on track and stops us veering off into the swampland from the beautiful kempt woodland.     So please take this episode as a lesson for life so that you can call timeout on people and things that don’t respect your needs, and start putting yourself and your wellbeing first.

As always, if you like the podcast then please don't forget to connect at our other channels and download/share/subscribe to this episode and to the subsequent ones!  Also, if you're feeling generous and like what you hear then any ratings and feedback would be welcomed! 

Please contact me directly if you have any Q&As or topics to be explored in future shows.  Also, if you’re interested in coaching with me then please connect with me on social media or via the details in the shows home page, alternatively you can pop a discovery chat in the diary with me by using this link: https://calendly.com/vitalvibe/introduction-call 

Much love!

Gen xoxo

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This episode is the precursor to next week's episode on boundaries and is a short session on Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs. I personally love this model because it makes so much sense to what we crave and desire in life from a motivation perspective.  When we recognise our own needs, we can then identify if they’re being met or not and this will allow us to get more specific on our boundaries, as well as our drivers in life at certain points (because life is not linear).  

Our basic needs such as physiological, through to safety and security, and love and belonging are essential to creating a healthy person.  We need these building blocks to become the best version of ourselves and we start with these needs from the moment we’re conceived!   Then further beyond this we look to fine tune our persona, our offer, our purpose, our legacy through esteem and actualisation.  Only then can we truly operate from a place of mastery and transcendence. 

I’ll talk you through the original 5 levels and then the 3 later additions and explain the split between the deficiency needs (d-needs) and the being/growth needs (b-needs) and why there is a clearly defined split. Having our needs met throughout life equates to a well rounded and healthy human with the ability to absolutely flex our balance, brilliance and resilience as we need to.  But if these needs are not met at any time through the curve balls of life, or situations we slowly end up in, then we can be right back at the base; gasping for air and looking for shelter.

To know this is to understand the tapestry of life, and why it’s essential we build our balance, brilliance and resilience as we go.

As always, if you like the podcast then please don't forget to connect at our other channels and download/share/subscribe to this episode and to the subsequent ones!  Also, if you're feeling generous and like what you hear then any ratings and feedback would be welcomed! 

Please contact me directly if you have any Q&As or topics to be explored in future shows.  Also, if you’re interested in coaching with me then please connect with me on social media or via the details in the shows home page, alternatively you can pop a discovery chat in the diary with me by using this link: https://calendly.com/vitalvibe/introduction-call 

Much love!

Gen xoxo

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Choose your hard, move the needle, let’s f*&king go, yadda yadda yadda!   So many powerful statements that can kick us into action, but do they?

The concept of choosing your hard means making a sacrifice to do something that could be hard to do, but in return it will decrease the existing ‘hard’ of your life, so basically it’s easier than the consequences of not doing it or sticking with the same.     Basically we make choices in life that will either pay dividends or cost dividends.  

So in this week’s podcast I’ll take you through a couple of examples of my own scenarios to explain what this means in practice, even when I got diagnosed with Cancer!

But, what if life is already hard, you’re already in disarray and chronic overwhelm, then the term ‘choose your hard’ could feel even more overwhelming when actually what  we need to do is take care of ourselves without making life harder!     Also, if something is a huge challenge of will power then if we reframe it, it might increase our chances of actually making it.

So how about we choose our easy instead?

If you want the preamble then listen from the start but if you want to get to the ‘choose your easy’ guidance, then skip to about 14 minutes in.   From this point I’ll introduce you to the concept of being a 'budd-ass' and give some high level overview on goal setting both from a ‘choose your hard’ perspective or from a ‘choose your easy’ perspective.  From a choose your easy perspective I’ll introduce you to micro movements so that by the end of the year those tiny steps add up to one pretty big leap.   Basically, wherever we are in life we have to move forward (or at least try to avoid going backwards) but it’s okay to do it to your own rhythm.

As always, if you like the podcast then please don't forget to connect at our other channels and download/share/subscribe to this episode and to the subsequent ones!  Also, if you're feeling generous and like what you hear then any ratings and feedback would be welcomed! 

Please contact me directly if you have any Q&As or topics to be explored in future shows.  Also, if you’re interested in coaching with me then please connect with me on social media or via the details in the shows home page, alternatively you can pop a discovery chat in the diary with me by using this link: https://calendly.com/vitalvibe/introduction-call 

Much love!

Gen xoxo

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Let’s get down to business this week and talk about radical self responsibility (RSR)! Ooooh, I just love that term!!    Radical means immense, and self responsibility is all about your commitment to yourself, so we’re here to make you immense through your own actions!    Only one person can change your life or align it to your values and vision, and that’s you!

So this week's episode is an overview rather than a masterclass as such - I’m not going to tell you how to do it, but I’m hoping I will inspire you to do it!   RSR is a piece of work that we can literally take to our grave and if we don’t start now, then when?  

I’ll take you on a whistle stop tour of what RSR means and what it consists of as well as its value and impact on your relationship with yourself and others in all areas of life.  I’ll walk through a bit of my story with RSR and also why it cropped up as a more prominent need in certain times of my life, whilst being a continuous theme.      Having RSR means we can proactively create a life that is aligned to our values and a way of living that fits our desires.  Otherwise we will just be accepting where and who we are without self enquiry or operating from a place of self agency and owning yourself.

To support the self responsibility piece, I’ll also  give you a very short overview of the need and difference for working with a therapist and a coach and why investing in yourself is a must to move your life to where you wish to go.   By taking control of your life and opening your mind to how you can make this happen, and what you must do to take radical responsibility, you will improve not only your relationship with yourself and others. 

As always, if you like the podcast then please don't forget to connect at our other channels and download/share/subscribe to this episode and to the subsequent ones!  Also, if you're feeling generous and like what you hear then any ratings and feedback would be welcomed! 

Please contact me directly if you have any Q&As or topics to be explored in future shows.  Also, if you’re interested in coaching with me then please connect with me on social media or via the details in the shows home page, alternatively you can pop a discovery chat in the diary with me by using this link: https://calendly.com/vitalvibe/introduction-call 

Much love!

Gen xoxo

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This week is a bit of a pattern interrupt because life got me!   I wanted to share my own situation and how it affected me last week, because I was in a bit of an emotional mess and it stopped me dead in my tracks.

I wanted to record an episode to show you that life happens to us all and even coaches are human beings who have curve balls hit them, and yes it affects us too!  But part of our offering to clients is having been in your shoes and being able to empathise with your situation; put it this way, had I never been in your shoes how could I coach you through it with sensitivity and understanding, and into a place of balance, brilliance, and resilience!

So this week I’ll use my own current turbulence to explain why it’s important to accept where we’re at and meet ourselves there without judgement or resentment of self.   Sitting with our feelings can be hard for many and we sometimes try to suppress these which means the body's signalling and messages aren’t being dealt with and then expelled through our system as they should be.  Instead they stay blocked inside us and create either point-in-time or future body dysregulation.   We have emotions for a reason and accepting them and not letting them fester in the body is a healthier way to deal with them.

I’ll also explain the importance of self compassion so that we don’t block our feelings or let our ego say too much and become a slave to our mind or our body.   A few key ways to address this are mindfulness and yoga nidra.    But it’s not just the body energy, it's your dialogue to yourself too - are you acting like a person that loves the person you’re talking to?  You should be…

Finally, I’ll give you a quick overview on three relationship triangles; the drama/rescuer triangle, the winning triangle, and the empowerment triangle and share my stepped approach to move through them in a way that feels safe for you and not too contrived (or toxic positivity).     I’ll then end on a short synopsis of being stoic versus being vulnerable and why it doesn’t really pay to adopt the former approach, although some people still prefer this methodology for dealing with their emotions.  Personally, it’s not for me!

As always, if you like the podcast then please don't forget to connect at our other channels and download/share/subscribe to this episode and to the subsequent ones!  Also, if you're feeling generous and like what you hear then any ratings and feedback would be welcomed! 

Please contact me directly if you have any Q&As or topics to be explored in future shows.  Also, if you’re interested in coaching with me then please connect with me on social media or via the details in the shows home page, alternatively you can pop a discovery chat in the diary with me by using this link: https://calendly.com/vitalvibe/introduction-call 

Much love!

Gen xoxo

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Imagine you could move through the roadblocks in life with a clear line of sight and an orientation to reach your destination as you desire!   Well you can!  

Come with me on this 50 minute masterclass and let me change your mindset to one of tenacity, perseverance and self empowerment.  I’m going to give you an overview of when, how, and why we MUST self advocate.

In this episode I’ll cover off how to self advocate for our health, career, relationships and with suppliers to ensure that you will get what you need in life and are not left (literally) gasping for breath, potentially sinking, or kicked to the curb.    By the end of this episode you will know how to be clear on your needs, know your worth and value (and be able to articulate this clearly),  create the correct emotional and logical settings and support scenarios, find your courage and community for allegiance, strengthen your impact and negotiating presence, and build a case for yourself without any holes to be picked at by others.

Having self advocacy is all about rising to the life challenge of self assertion  - you either will or you won’t.  But if you won’t/don’t then risk this at your peril!    However, if you’re a follower of this podcast or have picked this episode up through a search on ‘self advocacy’ then you’re in the right place and I know you’re ready to step into your power and own yourself.

As always, if you like the podcast then please don't forget to connect at our other channels and download/share/subscribe to this episode and to the subsequent ones!  Also, if you're feeling generous and like what you hear then any ratings and feedback would be welcomed! 

Please contact me directly if you have any Q&As or topics to be explored in future shows.

Much love!

Gen xoxo

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70% of us experience it!   That means we’re pretty much all in the same boat (7 of your 10 friends, 14 of your 20 colleagues, 21 of the 30 people walking around the park you’re in right now, or 70 of the 100 people currently working out in your gym).

Imposter syndrome!  What a crock of s$!t - a nemesis of our time!   But don’t worry, we can get through this together…yes, I also struggle with imposter syndrome too, so even just between us two, I get you!  But I’ve got a present for you - I’m going to share with you a way to deal with this pesky affliction once and for all!

So to begin, I’ll give a quick overview of what it is and why it happens and then talk about the impact to our health and wellbeing if we let it take over.    But we don’t want to do that, no, we want to own ourselves and call the shots, so come with me on a hackathon journey to kick our imposter syndrome into touch!!

If you’re only after the hacks, then fast forward to about 20 minutes in, and the last 10 minutes will guide you through some neuroplasticity hacks that will change how you see and feel about imposter syndrome forever!

As always, if you like the podcast then please don't forget to connect at our other channels and download/share/subscribe to this episode and to the subsequent ones!  Also, if you're feeling generous and like what you hear then any ratings and feedback would be welcomed! 

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Much love!

Gen xoxo

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This week we’re talking about owning our mess ups!  We all make them; we’re humans, therefore not invincible or perfect!

So in this episode, I’m really about expelling this myth that polished/edited versions of us get the most likes/recognition/bonding/acceptance, etc, because it’s not true!   What people want is raw, authentic, vulnerable and real!     Editing and airbrushing ourselves should be banned because it just doesn’t reflect reality, so who wins?

I’m going to fess up to some of my own silly bloopers which I hope will make you feel better about holding onto yours as part of your comedy moments, your bonding stories, and most importantly your chance to realise that making errors or faux pas does not equate to relegation from the human race.  In fact, silliness and idiosyncrasies makes you a very permanent and prominent team player!  Why?   Because we all have blunders, bloopers and misdemeanours so let’s own them and hold our heads up high and bond on our ridiculous moments! 

I’ll also give you a whistle stop tour of the psychology behind conforming to peer groups, standards, and norms and what that means from a belonging and identity perspective.  So by the end of this episode I hope you won’t flinch next time you make a clanger, but chalk it up as a noteworthy story!

If you like the podcast then please don't forget to connect at our other channels and download/share/subscribe this episode and to the subsequent ones!  Also, if you're feeling generous and like what you hear then any ratings and feedback would be welcomed! 

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Much love!

Gen xoxo

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So we’re going to delve into a topical subject that’s had some good/bad press over the last 12 months… but I don’t like it and I know it won’t serve you.  Let me tell you why.

If you’re quiet quitting on an employer, a partner, a friend or even a family member you’re immediately removing your power and giving it away.  Even if you think you’re owning yourself by taking this approach, it’s a fallacy.    You’ll not get much for your efforts in return, I can assure you.   

And trust me, quiet quitting is actually a tonne of effort - it’s actually only quiet to the other party but to you it’ll be a tonne of noise, and mostly unwanted at that.

In short you’re still hanging about a situation that doesn’t serve you (and likely never will), how are you getting any rewards?  If you don’t face into this and deal with it in an equitable and adult manner then you’re just doing yourself a disservice and in the meantime totally reducing your vibration.   Like attracts like, so if you’re feeling like you don’t belong and just biding your time, then that’s exactly the vibration you’ll attract back.

Listen to this 30 minute case on why and how it’s better to go in other directions, even if they feel scary!   Consider at all points how your vibrational energy looks - if it’s looking and feeling off, then it’s off.   Go where you are celebrated, even if that means just celebrating yourself and living life to the max for 3-6 months to re-calibrate your vibrations again. For your sake, and for others, own your voice and stand in your power.  Say what you mean and most importantly, mean what you say!    Get out, walk away, choose liberation and freedom and just let it go.

24 hours each day are yours for the taking - use them wisely or lose them foolishly!   It’s your choice but I know how I want my life to pan out!  Bring on that balance, brilliance and resilience!    Not one person can take my vital vibe from me, and I’d love for you if you operated from the same position of power!!

Don't forget to connect at our other channels and download/share/subscribe this episode and to the subsequent ones!  Also, if you're feeling generous and like what you hear then any ratings and feedback would be welcomed! 

Please contact me directly if you have any Q&As or topics to be explored in future shows.

Much love!

Gen xoxo

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So as promised in Episode #3 today is a session on how you can manage your body and mind in order to stand in your power and hold your own

Having agency, owning yourself, and using your voice doesn’t always come easy, and in fact for some people it's downright fearful and anxiety inducing. So in this episode I will take you through some tools and techniques that you can work on to develop self mastery and remove and reduce your fears.

After a quick re-introduction to what agency means we’ll start on self mastery by getting to know your patterns and what has shaped your self beliefs versus what is your driving force for change. Next I’ll talk about the power of support - you don’t have to do any of this alone, and for the most part having someone in your corner as a cheerleader and an alibi is super important.  

I’ll share some coaching and therapy techniques that work really well with pattern change (CBT and exposure therapy) as well as the use of visualisation techniques and some mind mastery books that I highly recommend. We’ll also tackle the body too, because the nervous system and your physiology have sometimes more to say than you do, so mastering body and mind will help you step into a new place of existence.

Finally, I’ll give you hard facts about what happens if you don’t activate your voice even when it feels hard and what that translates as to yourself and others, but don't worry - with this podcast YOU CAN DO THIS!

Don't forget to connect at our other channels and download/share/subscribe this episode and to the subsequent ones! Also, if you're feeling generous and like what you hear then any ratings and feedback would be welcomed! 

Please contact me directly if you have any Q&As or topics to be explored in future shows.

Much love!

Gen xoxo

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