Happy in The Middle, The Christian Marriage & Midlife Podcast with Jane Copier

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  • #141 How to Stop Being Jealous

    Jealousy is one of the most human emotions there is, and for many women it gets louder in midlife. In this episode, Jane answers a question from Sandy, a listener who just turned 50. 

    A new neighbor has moved in who seems to have everything: a "perfect" body, a successful husband, plenty of money, and a warm welcome from Sandy's friends. Sandy feels tortured, can't stop thinking about her, and feels ridiculous for feeling this way.

    Jane explains why jealousy isn't the neighbor's fault, how the Self-Coaching Model shows that our thoughts create the feeling, and how to move from scarcity to abundance. She also shares a five-step process you can use the next time the sting hits.

    In this episode, you'll learn
    • Why feeling jealous doesn't make you a bad person
    • The difference between jealousy and envy, and why the tools work for both
    • How the Self-Coaching Model (Circumstance, Thought, Feeling, Action, Result) shows where jealousy really comes from
    • Why jealousy is a scarcity story ("she won, so I lost") and how to break it
    • Why comparing your insides to someone else's outsides always leaves you short
    • How jealousy can point you toward what you truly want, and whether you really want it
    • A five-step process: notice it, find the thought, look for the insecurity, choose a new thought on purpose, and ask four powerful questions
    • A simple challenge for this week: get curious about her instead of treating her as competition
    • Key takeaway

      Someone else's blessing isn't a withdrawal from your account. There is enough, for her and for you.

      Scripture referenced

      Proverbs 14:30 (NIV): "A heart at peace gives life to the body, but envy rots the bones."

      Resources and mentions
      • Coaching concepts adapted from Brooke Castillo, The Life Coach School Podcast, Ep #21: "Jealousy": 
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        🍂 Fall Coaching Special: Private coaching sessions at $100 each, the lowest pricing since Jane started coaching in 2019. Book for yourself, for the two of you as a couple, or as a Christmas gift for your adult children.  Offer Ends October 31st.:

         

        Six Sessions for only $600! https://www.jane-copier.com/offers/xyZ2hxkR

         

        Single Sessions, $150 https://www.jane-copier.com/offers/Kzt7DW7E/checkout

         

        Love this episode? Share it with another couple who could use a little help lightening up this season, and leave a review so more Gen X Christian women can find us.

         

        🤗 Thanks for listening, please like, subscribe, and leave me a 5 star review, so that I can continue to provide helpful relationship content for all of us.

         

        Book a Free Consultation with Jane

         

        Get my FREE Marriage Reset Starter Kit: https://www.jane-copier.com/StarterKit

         

        Welcome to Happy in the Middle, with your host, The Christian Marriage Coach, Jane Copier. 

        I’m Jane Copier, and you're listening to Happy in the Middle,  a podcast for Christian women navigating marriage, family relationships, and the beautiful work of becoming who God created them to be. As the Christian Marriage Coach, each week I offer practical tools and faith-filled conversations to help women just like you, create deeper connection, healthier communication, and a life, -and marriage, they love to coming home to.  Let’s dive in!

         

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              ❤️ Fell like private coaching is a better fit for you? I'd be honored to walk with you.

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              28 min
            • #140 What Football Season Reveals About Your Marriage

              The leaves are turning, the pumpkin spice candle is burning, and somewhere in your house the TV has been claimed for football. 🏈

              Whether your household lives and breathes football from September to February or you couldn't care less, this episode isn't really about the game. It's about what happens in a marriage when one person is all in and the other is along for the ride (or not on the ride at all).

              In this lighter, fall-themed episode, Christian marriage coach Jane shares four things football season, or any seasonal tradition, can reveal about your marriage, plus a simple two-minute homework assignment that can save you a whole lot of frustration and resentment.

              If you just finished the marriage series with us, consider this your exhale. If you're new, welcome, friend. You're in the right place.

              In this episode, you'll learn:

              • How to make room for "his thing" or "her thing" with generosity instead of a running scorecard
              • Why inviting your spouse without expecting a yes protects your joy (and what a granddaughter's "mud spa" taught Jane about it)
              • How to protect couple time during a five-month football season without canceling the game
              • A word-for-word way to tell your husband you miss him without starting a fight
              • How unspoken expectations quietly become resentment, and how to stop that cycle
              • Why playfulness and laughing at yourselves is one of the most underrated tools in marriage
              • This week's homework: Have a two-minute conversation before Saturday: "What does this weekend look like for you? Which games matter most? Here's what I'd love if it works…"

                Scripture: Ecclesiastes 4:9, "Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor."

                 

                🍂 Fall Coaching Special: Private coaching sessions at $100 each, the lowest pricing since Jane started coaching in 2019. Book for yourself, for the two of you as a couple, or as a Christmas gift for your adult children.  Offer Ends October 31st.:

                Six Sessions for only $600! https://www.jane-copier.com/offers/xyZ2hxkR

                 

                Single Sessions, $150 https://www.jane-copier.com/offers/Kzt7DW7E/checkout

                 

                Love this episode? Share it with another couple who could use a little help lightening up this season, and leave a review so more Gen X Christian women can find us.

                 

                🤗 Thanks for listening, please like, subscribe, and leave me a 5 star review, so that I can continue to provide helpful relationship content for all of us.

                 

                Book a Free Consultation with Jane

                 

                Get my FREE Marriage Reset Starter Kit: https://www.jane-copier.com/StarterKit

                 

                Welcome to Happy in the Middle, with your host, The Christian Marriage Coach, Jane Copier. 

                I’m Jane Copier, and you're listening to Happy in the Middle,  a podcast for Christian women navigating marriage, family relationships, and the beautiful work of becoming who God created them to be. As the Christian Marriage Coach, each week I offer practical tools and faith-filled conversations to help women just like you, create deeper connection, healthier communication, and a life, -and marriage, they love to coming home to.  Let’s dive in!

                 

                3 Simple Steps to Leave an iTunes Review:

                 

                • Click here to listen in iTunes: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/happy-in-the-middle-a-podcast-for-christian-midlife-women/id1715566489
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                    • Leave your review!  Easy peasy!
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                      Find Jane at:

                      Website: https://janecopiercoaching.com

                      TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@christianmarriagecoach

                      IG: https://www.instagram.com/jane.copier.coaching/

                      FB: https://www.facebook.com/LDSChristianMarriageCoach



                      19 min
                    • #139. Is My Marriage Ready for a Reset?

                      Is your marriage ready for a reset?

                      Do you love your spouse, but feel like something is missing from your marriage?

                      Maybe you aren't fighting. Maybe your marriage looks fine from the outside. But perhaps you've become more like roommates than best friends…. You're functioning well together, but you're not really connecting.

                      In this episode of Happy in the Middle, Jane Copier answers the most common questions about Marriage Reset, her eight-week guided coaching experience for couples who love each other but want to find each other again.

                      You'll learn what Marriage Reset is, who it's for, what happens during the eight weeks, and what you can do if you're more motivated to improve your marriage than your spouse.

                      If you're married and longing for more connection, friendship, emotional intimacy, better communication, and a shared vision for your next chapter, this conversation is for you.

                      You are not too late.

                      You can find each other again.

                       

                      Learn more and register for Marriage Reset Here

                       

                       

                      Join Jane for her FREE Marriage Masterclass:

                      "FIND EACH OTHER AGAIN" A fun and informative 60-minute workshop to help you and your partner learn to reconnect.

                      You'll discover why loving couples can lose emotional connection, the patterns that create distance, and simple shifts that can help you begin finding your way back to each other.

                      And if you can, come with your spouse.

                      Make it a date night. Sit beside each other. Give your marriage one hour of your attention, -not because your marriage is broken, but because it matters.

                      [REGISTER FOR THE FREE MARRIAGE MASTERCLASS]

                       

                      ❤️ Fell like private coaching is a better fit for you? I'd be honored to walk with you.

                       Book a Free Consultation 

                       

                      🤗 Thanks for listening, please like, subscribe, and leave me a 5 star review, so that I can continue to provide helpful relationship content for all of us.

                       

                      Book a Free Consultation with Jane

                       

                      Get my FREE Marriage Reset Starter Kit: https://www.jane-copier.com/StarterKit

                       

                      Welcome to Happy in the Middle, with your host, The Christian Marriage Coach, Jane Copier. 

                      I’m Jane Copier, and you're listening to Happy in the Middle,  a podcast for Christian women navigating marriage, family relationships, and the beautiful work of becoming who God created them to be. As the Christian Marriage Coach, each week I offer practical tools and faith-filled conversations to help women just like you, create deeper connection, healthier communication, and a life, -and marriage, they love to coming home to.  Let’s dive in!

                       

                      3 Simple Steps to Leave an iTunes Review:

                       

                      • Click here to listen in iTunes: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/happy-in-the-middle-a-podcast-for-christian-midlife-women/id1715566489
                        • Scroll down until you see the reviews, and then click the button that says, “Leave a Review”
                          • Leave your review!  Easy peasy!
                          •  

                             

                            Find Jane at:

                            Website: https://janecopiercoaching.com

                            TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@christianmarriagecoach

                            IG: https://www.instagram.com/jane.copier.coaching/

                            FB: https://www.facebook.com/LDSChristianMarriageCoach



                            31 min
                          • #138 Building a Marriage With Shared Purpose
                            What are you and your spouse building together?

                            What happens when a couple becomes really good at managing life together but forgets to intentionally live life together?

                            You raise the kids. You manage the schedules. You go to work, attend church, pay the bills, take care of the house, and keep everything moving.

                            And then one day, the kids are older. The house is quieter. Your careers change. The busy seasons begin to slow down.

                            And you look across the table at the person you've been married to for 25 or 30 years and wonder:

                            “What are we building now?”

                            “What are we moving toward?”

                            “What is our marriage actually for?”

                            In this final episode of my six-part series on building a connected marriage, we're talking about shared purpose, -and why having a shared vision, shared values, and something meaningful to move toward together can profoundly strengthen your marriage.

                            I'll share a deeply personal story from my husband's family during World War II about Kees and Christina and the little Jewish girl they risked everything to protect. Their story is a powerful example of what can happen when two people are bound together by something bigger than themselves.

                            We'll also explore:

                            • Why shared purpose becomes especially important in midlife
                            • The difference between building a life together and living life together
                            • How shared purpose creates a stronger sense of “us”
                            • How knowing your core values can make decisions easier
                            • Why having something meaningful to work toward can strengthen teamwork
                            • How shared purpose can help couples navigate difficult seasons
                            • Why purpose gives your brain something more productive to work on than finding fault with your spouse
                            • How shared values can strengthen connection, friendship, and hope
                            • How to create a vision for the next chapter of your marriage
                            • Questions you can ask your spouse to begin discovering your shared purpose
                            • And I'll leave you with one question I hope you and your spouse will sit with:

                              What are we building together?

                              Your shared purpose doesn't have to be a grand calling. It might be raising children who know they are loved and know God, creating a welcoming home, serving your community, supporting each other's dreams, creating a family legacy, or simply becoming the kind of couple whose marriage blesses the people around them.

                              Your purpose is personal and unique to you as a couple.

                              And you don't have to have all the answers today.

                              You can start with a conversation.

                              What matters most to us?

                              What do we want our marriage to stand for?

                              Who do we want to bless?

                              What kind of legacy do we want to leave?

                              And what do we want to experience together while we're here?

                              FREE MASTERCLASS: FIND EACH OTHER AGAIN

                              If you've been listening to this six-part series and realizing that you and your spouse could use a reset, I'd love to invite you to my free marriage masterclass:

                              Find Each Other Again

                              This is designed to be a meaningful date night for the two of you, -an evening of turning toward each other, noticing what may have been lost, and beginning to create a marriage you love coming home to.

                              Come as you are. You don't need a perfect marriage. You simply need to be willing to turn toward each other.

                              [REGISTER FOR THE FREE MARRIAGE MASTERCLASS]

                               

                              PS -

                              If you and your spouse love each other but want more connection, better communication, a stronger friendship, deeper intimacy, and a healthier partnership, learn more about Marriage Reset, Jane's eight-week guided coaching experience for couples who want to find their way back to each other.

                              Learn more and register for Marriage Reset Here



                               

                              Free Marriage Masterclass, Sept. 22nd 7pm MT, 6pm PT, 8pm CT, 9pm ET

                               

                              If this episode made you think, “Jane… this is us,” don't wait until your marriage is in crisis to invest in it.

                               

                              Join Jane for her FREE Marriage Masterclass:

                              "FIND EACH OTHER AGAIN" A fun and informative 60-minute workshop to help you and your partner learn to reconnect.

                              You'll discover why loving couples can lose emotional connection, the patterns that create distance, and simple shifts that can help you begin finding your way back to each other.

                              And if you can, come with your spouse.

                              Make it a date night. Sit beside each other. Give your marriage one hour of your attention, -not because your marriage is broken, but because it matters.



                              25 min
                            • #137 How to Restore Intimacy in Your Marriage

                              What happens when you still love your spouse, but you don’t really like your marriage anymore?

                              After years of raising children, managing a home, working, solving problems, and navigating life together, many couples slowly become good partners but stop being lovers, friends, and deeply connected companions.

                              That’s exactly where Jane Copier found herself in her own marriage.

                              In this episode of Happy in the Middle, Jane shares the vulnerable story of realizing that she loved her husband but didn’t want to spend the rest of her life in the marriage they had created. Rather than settling for emotional distance, she and her husband made the courageous decision to let their old marriage die so they could intentionally create something new.

                              Jane explores what it really takes to restore intimacy, including the often-overlooked connection between the thoughts we think about our spouse, the feelings those thoughts create, and the actions we take toward them.

                              You’ll discover why proximity isn’t intimacy, why resentment can change the way we see our spouse, and how becoming genuinely curious about the person your spouse has become can begin to bring aliveness back into your relationship.

                              Most importantly, Jane offers hope: a cold marriage isn't necessarily a dead marriage. You may not be able to recreate the marriage you had when you were younger, but you can create a new marriage that is more intentional, honest, connected, playful, and intimate.

                              In this episode, you'll learn:
                              • Why loving your spouse and liking your marriage can be two very different things
                              • What “marriage drift” can look like in everyday life
                              • Why proximity alone doesn't create intimacy
                              • How our thoughts and stories about our spouse influence our desire to turn toward them
                              • How resentment can become the lens through which we see our partner
                              • The difference between positive thinking and choosing more generous, truthful thoughts
                              • Why emotional intimacy requires honesty, curiosity, vulnerability, and presence
                              • How physical and sexual intimacy can grow from emotional connection
                              • Why the goal isn't to get your “old marriage” back
                              • How to begin creating a new and more alive marriage together
                              • If you've been thinking, “This is us,” Jane invites you to join her free Marriage Masterclass, Why Good Couples Slowly Grow Apart, where she'll unpack why loving couples drift apart, and the simple habits that can help them find each other again.

                                Because sometimes the marriage doesn't need to end, the old version of the marriage does.

                                And something better can take its place.

                                Join Jane for her FREE Marriage Masterclass:

                                "Find Each Other Again" A fun and informative 60-minute workshop to help you and your partner learn to reconnect.

                                You'll discover why loving couples can lose emotional connection, the patterns that create distance, and simple shifts that can help you begin finding your way back to each other.

                                And if you can, come with your spouse.

                                Make it a date night. Sit beside each other. Give your marriage one hour of your attention, -not because your marriage is broken, but because it matters.

                                [REGISTER FOR THE FREE MARRIAGE MASTERCLASS]

                                 

                                 

                                AND, if you and your spouse love each other but want more connection, better communication, a stronger friendship, deeper intimacy, and a healthier partnership, learn more about Marriage Reset, Jane's eight-week guided coaching experience for couples who want to find their way back to each other.

                                Learn more and register for Marriage Reset Here

                                 

                                 

                                 

                                And be sure to tune in in the following weeks for the Rest of this Six Part Series.

                                Coming next:

                                 

                                Shared Values, Vision & Purpose — How to move from simply getting through life together to asking, “What are we building together?”

                                Because you don't need a perfect marriage, you need an intentional one.

                                 

                                Get my FREE Marriage Reset Starter Kit: https://www.jane-copier.com/StarterKit 

                                 

                                ❤️ Are you ready to make your marriage amazing? I'd be honored to walk with you. Book a Free Consultation 

                                 

                                🤗 Thanks for listening, please like, subscribe, and leave me a 5 star review, so that I can continue to provide helpful relationship content for all of us.




                                Book a Free Consultation with Jane: https://JaneCopierCoaching.as.me/Consultation

                                 

                                Welcome to Happy in the Middle, with your host, The Christian Marriage Coach, Jane Copier. 

                                I’m Jane Copier, and you're listening to Happy in the Middle,  a podcast for Christian women navigating marriage, family relationships, and the beautiful work of becoming who God created them to be. As the Christian Marriage Coach, each week I offer practical tools and faith-filled conversations to help women just like you, create deeper connection, healthier communication, and a life, -and marriage, they love to coming home to.  Let’s dive in!

                                 

                                3 Simple Steps to Leave an iTunes Review:

                                 

                                • Click here to listen in iTunes: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/happy-in-the-middle-a-podcast-for-christian-midlife-women/id1715566489
                                  • Scroll down until you see the reviews, and then click the button that says, “Leave a Review”
                                    • Leave your review!  Easy peasy!
                                    •  

                                       

                                       

                                      Find Jane at:

                                      Website: https://janecopiercoaching.com

                                      TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@marriageandfamilycoach

                                      IG: https://www.instagram.com/jane.copier.coaching/

                                      FB: https://www.facebook.com/LDSChristianMarriageCoach



                                      25 min
                                    • #136 Rebuilding Friendship in Your Marriage, How to Feel Close Again

                                      Have you ever looked at your husband and thought, “I love him… but I don't know if I actually like him anymore?”

                                      Maybe you still love each other, but somewhere along the way, your marriage became more about managing life than enjoying life together. Between kids, work, schedules, responsibilities, bills, and the endless demands of daily life, you may find yourself wondering:

                                      When did we stop being friends?

                                      In this episode, Christian Marriage Coach Jane Copier shares a powerful perspective on how to rebuild friendship and emotional connection in your marriage. You'll learn why the way you feel about your spouse is deeply influenced by the thoughts you repeatedly think about them, -and how the stories you tell yourself can either create distance or help you reconnect.

                                      This is not about pretending your marriage is perfect or ignoring real problems. It's about becoming aware of negative thought patterns, choosing to see the whole person you married, and intentionally creating new opportunities for fondness, admiration, curiosity, laughter, and connection.

                                      In this episode, you'll learn:

                                      • Why friendship is one of the foundations of a strong marriage
                                      • How negative thought patterns can quietly create distance between you and your spouse
                                      • Why collecting evidence against your husband can change the way you feel and behave toward him
                                      • How your thoughts influence your emotions, actions, and the results you create in your relationship
                                      • Why you don't have to wait for your spouse to change before you begin changing your own experience
                                      • How to interrupt unhealthy relationship loops
                                      • The difference between positive thinking and intentionally choosing another honest thought
                                      • How to begin seeing your spouse through a lens of fondness, grace, and curiosity
                                      • Why your spouse is both the person you married and someone who has continued to grow and change
                                      • Simple questions that can help you get curious about each other again
                                      • The Fondness & Admiration Reset you can begin practicing this week
                                      • Why creating new experiences, laughter, novelty, and shared memories matters in marriage
                                      • How one thought, one conversation, one date, or one act of kindness can begin rebuilding friendship
                                      • Jane also shares the powerful reminder from Proverbs 17:17:

                                        “A friend loveth at all times.”

                                        What might change if you began intentionally looking for what you appreciate about your spouse instead of continually collecting evidence against them?

                                        Sometimes friendship doesn't return to a marriage in one grand moment.

                                        Sometimes it comes back one thought at a time. One expression of gratitude. One shared laugh. One memory. One conversation. One date.

                                         

                                        MARRIAGE RESET 8 WEEK COACHING EXPERIENCE FOR COUPLES:

                                        If you and your spouse love each other but want more connection, better communication, a stronger friendship, deeper intimacy, and a healthier partnership, learn more about Marriage Reset, Jane's eight-week guided coaching experience for couples who want to find their way back to each other.

                                        Learn More and Register for Marriage Reset Here



                                         

                                        Free Marriage Masterclass, Sept. 22nd 7pm MT, 6pm PT, 8pm CT, 9pm ET

                                        Join Jane for her FREE Marriage Masterclass:

                                        Why Good Couples Slowly Grow Apart, and The Simple Habits That Help Them Find Each Other Again.

                                         

                                        You'll discover why loving couples can lose emotional connection, the patterns that create distance, and simple shifts that can help you begin finding your way back to each other.

                                        And if you can, come with your spouse.

                                         

                                        Make it a date night. Sit beside each other. Give your marriage one hour of your attention, -not because your marriage is broken, but because it matters.

                                         

                                        [REGISTER FOR THE FREE MASTERCLASS]

                                         

                                        And be sure to tune in in the following weeks for the Rest of this Six Part Series.

                                         

                                        Coming next:

                                         

                                        Rebuilding Friendship — Because you don't just want to stay married to your spouse. You want to enjoy the person you're married to.

                                        Intentional Connection — Why connection doesn't happen by accident.

                                        Shared Values, Vision & Purpose — How to move from simply getting through life together to asking, “What are we building together?”

                                        Because you don't need a perfect marriage.

                                         

                                         

                                         

                                        ❤️ Are you ready to make your marriage amazing? I'd be honored to walk with you. Book a Free Consultation 

                                         

                                        🤗 Thanks for listening, please like, subscribe, and leave me a 5 star review, so that I can continue to provide helpful relationship content for all of us.




                                        Book a Free Consultation with Jane: https://JaneCopierCoaching.as.me/Consultation

                                         

                                        Welcome to Happy in the Middle, with your host, The Christian Marriage Coach, Jane Copier. 

                                        I’m Jane Copier, and you're listening to Happy in the Middle,  a podcast for Christian women navigating marriage, family relationships, and the beautiful work of becoming who God created them to be. As the Christian Marriage Coach, each week I offer practical tools and faith-filled conversations to help women just like you, create deeper connection, healthier communication, and a life, -and marriage, they love to coming home to.  Let’s dive in!

                                         

                                        3 Simple Steps to Leave an iTunes Review:

                                         

                                        • Click here to listen in iTunes: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/happy-in-the-middle-a-podcast-for-christian-midlife-women/id1715566489
                                          • Scroll down until you see the reviews, and then click the button that says, “Leave a Review”
                                            • Leave your review!  Easy peasy!
                                            •  

                                              Get my FREE GUIDE, How to End the Fight: https://www.jane-copier.com/EndTheFight

                                              Get my Free “Conversation Roadmap, a Step by Step Guide to Talk about Any Topic, Without Starting a Fight.” https://www.jane-copier.com/conversation-wkbk

                                              Find Jane at:

                                              Website: https://janecopiercoaching.com

                                              TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@marriageandfamilycoach

                                              IG: https://www.instagram.com/jane.copier.coaching/

                                              FB: https://www.facebook.com/LDSChristianMarriageCoach



                                              29 min
                                            • #135. Communication That Connects, -Learning to Truly Hear Your Spouse

                                               How to Communicate Better in Marriage: The One Listening Shift That Changes Everything

                                              Are you and your spouse talking, but somehow still missing each other? 

                                              In this episode of Happy in the Middle, Christian Marriage Coach Jane Copier explores one simple shift that can transform communication in marriage:

                                              Stop listening to respond. Start listening to understand.

                                              Learn how to listen without immediately becoming defensive, hear the emotions underneath your spouse's words, ask better questions, and create more understanding, -even when you don't agree.

                                              Jane shares personal stories, practical marriage communication tools, Scripture, and a simple five-minute listening exercise you can try this week.

                                              You'll discover why “Tell me more” and “Help me understand” may be two of the most powerful phrases you can bring into your marriage.

                                              If you want better communication, deeper emotional intimacy, and a stronger connection with your spouse, this episode is for you.

                                               

                                              Announcing Marriage Reset!  Now enrolling! Marriage Reset is my eight-week guided Christian marriage experience designed for couples who want more connection, better communication, deeper intimacy, and a stronger partnership. It is a LIVE experience where you receive instruction and  coaching, -and we put everything you learn into practice. LEARN MORE HERE.

                                               

                                               

                                              Have you registered for my Free Marriage Masterclass?  Coming SOON!

                                              If this episode made you think, “Jane… this is us,” don't wait until your marriage is in crisis to invest in it.

                                              Join Jane for her FREE Marriage Masterclass:

                                              "Why Good Couples Slowly Grow Apart, and The Simple Habits That Help Them Find Each Other Again."

                                               

                                              You'll discover why loving couples can lose emotional connection, the patterns that create distance, and simple shifts that can help you begin finding your way back to each other.

                                              And if you can, come with your spouse.

                                               

                                              Make it a date night. Sit beside each other. Give your marriage one hour of your attention, -not because your marriage is broken, but because it matters.

                                               

                                              [REGISTER FOR THE FREE MASTERCLASS]

                                               

                                              And be sure to tune in in the following weeks for the Rest of this Six Part Series.

                                               

                                              Coming next:

                                              Rebuilding Friendship — Because you don't just want to stay married to your spouse. You want to enjoy the person you're married to.

                                              Intentional Connection — Why connection doesn't happen by accident.

                                              Shared Values, Vision & Purpose — How to move from simply getting through life together to asking, “What are we building together?”

                                              Because you don't need a perfect marriage.

                                               

                                              ❤️ Are you ready to make your marriage amazing? I'd be honored to walk with you. Book a Free Consultation 

                                               

                                              🤗 Thanks for listening, please like, subscribe, and leave me a 5 star review, so that I can continue to provide helpful relationship content for all of us.




                                              Book a Free Consultation with Jane: https://JaneCopierCoaching.as.me/Consultation

                                               

                                              Welcome to Happy in the Middle, with your host, The Christian Marriage Coach, Jane Copier. 

                                              I’m Jane Copier, and you're listening to Happy in the Middle,  a podcast for Christian women navigating marriage, family relationships, and the beautiful work of becoming who God created them to be. As the Christian Marriage Coach, each week I offer practical tools and faith-filled conversations to help women just like you, create deeper connection, healthier communication, and a life, -and marriage, they love to coming home to.  Let’s dive in!

                                               

                                              3 Simple Steps to Leave an iTunes Review:

                                               

                                              • Click here to listen in iTunes: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/happy-in-the-middle-a-podcast-for-christian-midlife-women/id1715566489
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                                                    30 min
                                                  • #134 Emotional Safety, The Missing Ingredient in a Healthy Marriage

                                                    What does it really mean to feel emotionally safe with your spouse?

                                                    In this episode, Jane Copier, The Christian Marriage Coach, explores why emotional safety is one of the most important foundations of a connected, intimate marriage. 

                                                    Learn what emotional safety is, what couples often misunderstand about it, what destroys it, -and five practical ways to create more safety, trust, vulnerability, and connection in your relationship.

                                                    Have you ever wanted to tell your spouse something important, -but stopped yourself because you were afraid of how they would respond?

                                                    Maybe you're tired of the defensiveness, the arguments, or the feeling that you have to carefully choose your words.

                                                    You may love each other deeply and still struggle to feel emotionally safe in your marriage.

                                                    Emotional safety isn't about never disagreeing, avoiding difficult conversations, or making sure your spouse never feels uncomfortable. It's about creating a relationship where both people can be honest, vulnerable, imperfect, and different while still feeling loved, respected, and valued.

                                                    Jane explores:

                                                    • What emotional safety actually means in marriage
                                                    • Why emotional safety is so important for intimacy and connection
                                                    • The difference between emotional safety and simply avoiding conflict
                                                    • Why couples sometimes stop being honest with one another
                                                    • How criticism, defensiveness, contempt, and withdrawal can erode emotional safety
                                                    • How to create a marriage where vulnerability is welcomed rather than punished
                                                    • Why repair matters when we've hurt each other
                                                    • How Christian principles like compassion, humility, gentleness, forgiveness, and love can strengthen emotional safety
                                                    • Practical ways to begin creating more emotional safety in your marriage
                                                    • You'll also receive a simple Marriage Reset exercise you can do with your spouse this week to begin creating more openness, trust, and connection.

                                                      Because a strong marriage isn't one where you never hurt each other.

                                                      It's one where you know how to find your way back to each other.



                                                       

                                                      Free Marriage Masterclass

                                                       

                                                      If this episode made you think, “Jane… this is us,” don't wait until your marriage is in crisis to invest in it.

                                                       

                                                      Join Jane for her FREE Marriage Masterclass:

                                                      Why Good Couples Slowly Grow Apart, and The Simple Habits That Help Them Find Each Other Again.

                                                       

                                                      You'll discover why loving couples can lose emotional connection, the patterns that create distance, and simple shifts that can help you begin finding your way back to each other.

                                                      And if you can, come with your spouse.

                                                       

                                                      Make it a date night. Sit beside each other. Give your marriage one hour of your attention, -not because your marriage is broken, but because it matters.

                                                       

                                                      [REGISTER FOR THE FREE MASTERCLASS]

                                                       

                                                      And be sure to tune in in the following weeks for the Rest of this Six Part Series.

                                                       

                                                      Coming next:

                                                       

                                                      Communication That Connects — How to have conversations that create understanding instead of more distance.

                                                      Rebuilding Friendship — Because you don't just want to stay married to your spouse. You want to enjoy the person you're married to.

                                                      Intentional Connection — Why connection doesn't happen by accident.

                                                      Shared Values, Vision & Purpose — How to move from simply getting through life together to asking, “What are we building together?”

                                                      Because you don't need a perfect marriage.

                                                       

                                                       

                                                       

                                                      ❤️ Are you ready to make your marriage amazing? I'd be honored to walk with you. Book a Free Consultation 

                                                       

                                                      🤗 Thanks for listening, please like, subscribe, and leave me a 5 star review, so that I can continue to provide helpful relationship content for all of us.




                                                      Book a Free Consultation with Jane: https://JaneCopierCoaching.as.me/Consultation

                                                       

                                                      Welcome to Happy in the Middle, with your host, The Christian Marriage Coach, Jane Copier. 

                                                      I’m Jane Copier, and you're listening to Happy in the Middle,  a podcast for Christian women navigating marriage, family relationships, and the beautiful work of becoming who God created them to be. As the Christian Marriage Coach, each week I offer practical tools and faith-filled conversations to help women just like you, create deeper connection, healthier communication, and a life, -and marriage, they love to coming home to.  Let’s dive in!

                                                       

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                                                            31 min
                                                          • #133 Why Good Couples Slowly Grow Apart, - And Why Your Marriage May Not be Broken at All

                                                            Have you ever looked at your spouse and thought, “I love you… so why don't I feel as close to you anymore?”

                                                             

                                                            You're still married. You still love each other. You're raising your family, managing the household, making plans, and showing up for life.

                                                            But somewhere along the way, something changed.

                                                             

                                                            You haven't necessarily fallen out of love.

                                                             

                                                            You may have simply drifted apart.

                                                             

                                                            In this episode of Happy in the Middle, we explore why good couples can slowly become emotionally disconnected, -and why that doesn't necessarily mean your marriage is broken.

                                                             

                                                            Drawing on research from relationship experts John and Julie Gottman, I'll explain the importance of bids for connection, the tiny everyday moments when we reach for our spouse's attention, affection, understanding, or companionship. 

                                                             

                                                            We'll also explore why so many marital problems aren't actually problems we can permanently solve… and why that's okay!

                                                             

                                                            Most importantly, this episode offers hope.

                                                            Your marriage may not be broken. You may simply need to find your way back to each other.

                                                             

                                                            Listen in and learn practical ways to begin reconnecting, including one simple question you can ask your spouse today:

                                                            “What is one tiny way I can turn toward my spouse?”

                                                             

                                                            This episode is the first in a six-part series exploring the foundations of a deeply connected marriage, including emotional safety, communication, friendship, intentional connection, and shared values, vision, and purpose, -all grounded in faith in Jesus Christ.

                                                             

                                                            Free Marriage Masterclass

                                                             

                                                            If this episode made you think, “Jane… this is us,” don't wait until your marriage is in crisis to invest in it.

                                                             

                                                            Join Jane for her FREE Marriage Masterclass:

                                                            Why Good Couples Slowly Grow Apart

                                                             

                                                            You'll discover why loving couples can lose emotional connection, the patterns that create distance, and simple shifts that can help you begin finding your way back to each other.

                                                            And if you can, come with your spouse.

                                                             

                                                            Make it a date night. Sit beside each other. Give your marriage one hour of your attention, -not because your marriage is broken, but because it matters.

                                                             

                                                            [REGISTER FOR THE FREE MASTERCLASS]

                                                             

                                                            And be sure to tune in in the following weeks for the Rest of this Six Part Series.

                                                             

                                                            Coming next:

                                                            Emotional Safety — How to create a marriage where both people feel safe to be known.

                                                            Communication That Connects — How to have conversations that create understanding instead of more distance.

                                                            Rebuilding Friendship — Because you don't just want to stay married to your spouse. You want to enjoy the person you're married to.

                                                            Intentional Connection — Why connection doesn't happen by accident.

                                                            Shared Values, Vision & Purpose — How to move from simply getting through life together to asking, “What are we building together?”

                                                            Because you don't need a perfect marriage.

                                                            You need an intentional one.

                                                            And you can begin again.

                                                             

                                                             

                                                            ❤️ Are you ready to make your marriage amazing? I'd be honored to walk with you. Book a Free Consultation 

                                                             

                                                            🤗 Thanks for listening, please like, subscribe, and leave me a 5 star review, so that I can continue to provide helpful relationship content for all of us.




                                                            Book a Free Consultation with Jane: https://JaneCopierCoaching.as.me/Consultation

                                                             

                                                            Welcome to Happy in the Middle, with your host, Certified Life Coach, Jane Copier. 

                                                            Happy in the Middle is a podcast for Christian women who want to make the second half of life, the BEST half. This podcast is all about helping women reignite their spark and step into their divine power, in order to create deep and connected relationships, and find the fulfillment and satisfaction they crave. 

                                                            So, if you’re ready to grow, join me and learn how you too, can overcome guilt, resentment, disappointment, and enjoy the fruits of creating a life well and beautifully lived. Let’s gooo! 

                                                             

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                                                                  24 min
                                                                • #132 Name Your Miracles; Why Your Brain Needs You to Notice the Good

                                                                  Have you ever wondered why it's so easy to remember your disappointments, -but so easy to forget God's daily blessings?

                                                                  In this encouraging episode of Happy in the Middle, Christian Marriage Coach, Jane Copier, explores the fascinating science behind the brain's negativity bias and explains why intentionally noticing God's tender mercies can transform your faith, your mindset, and your everyday happiness.

                                                                  Through heartfelt personal stories, -including family miracles, unexpected life-changing moments, and scriptures that invite us to "remember," Jane shares a simple practice that can help you experience more joy, peace, and hope every single day.

                                                                  In this episode you'll learn:

                                                                  ✨ Why your brain naturally focuses on the negative

                                                                  ✨ The science behind gratitude and long-term happiness

                                                                  ✨ How to recognize God's hand in your everyday life

                                                                  ✨ Scriptures about remembering God's blessings

                                                                  ✨ A simple nightly habit that strengthens both faith and emotional well-being

                                                                  If this episode encouraged you, please subscribe, share it with a friend, and leave a review, -it helps more people discover messages of hope and healing.

                                                                  And stay tuned! Jane has something exciting coming soon for couples who want to reconnect, strengthen communication, and build a thriving marriage.

                                                                   

                                                                  ❤️ Are you ready to make your marriage amazing? I’d be honored to walk with you. Book a free coaching call here: https://JaneCopierCoaching.as.me/Consultation

                                                                  🤗 Thanks for listening, please like, subscribe, and leave me a 5 star review, so that I can continue to provide helpful relationship content for all of us.

                                                                  Book a Free Consultation with Jane: https://JaneCopierCoaching.as.me/Consultation

                                                                  Welcome to Happy in the Middle, with your host, Certified Life Coach, Jane Copier. Happy in the Middle is a podcast for Christian women who want to make the second half of life, the BEST half.

                                                                  This podcast is all about helping women reignite their spark and step into their divine power, in order to create deep and connected relationships, and find the fulfillment and satisfaction they crave. So, if you’re ready to grow, join me and learn how you too, can overcome guilt, resentment, disappointment, and enjoy the fruits of creating a life well and beautifully lived. Let’s gooo!

                                                                  3 Simple Steps to Leave an iTunes Review: Click here to listen in iTunes: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/happy-in-the-middle-a-podcast-for-christian-midlife-women/id1715566489

                                                                  Scroll down until you see the reviews, and then click the button that says, “Leave a Review” Leave your review! Easy peasy!

                                                                  Get my FREE GUIDE, How to End the Fight: https://www.jane-copier.com/EndTheFight

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                                                                  Find Jane at: Website: https://janecopiercoaching.com

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                                                                  19 min

                                                                About Happy in The Middle, The Christian Marriage & Midlife Podcast with Jane Copier

                                                                From the publisher's feed

                                                                This podcast was created to help women create deeper connection, stronger marriages, and a happier second half of life. We'll answer questions like: How can I enjoy my life more when things aren't going my way? How can I navigate the shifts in my roles as a wife and mom? How can I strengthen my faith, even when those I love don't believe as I do? How can I create better connection and deepen the love in my marriage and personal relationships? How can I have MORE FUN?

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