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Infidelity can be one of the most painful experiences in any relationship—and for many, it can also become a turning point. In this episode of Sisters in Sobriety, hosts Sonia and Kathleen unpack what it really means to stay emotionally sober through betrayal, heartbreak, and healing. Drawing on their own lived experiences and Kathleen’s clinical expertise, they’ll help you understand not only why infidelity happens, but how to navigate the emotional fallout with clarity, self-compassion, and growth.
Together, they explore questions many of us have struggled with in silence: What counts as cheating? Is emotional infidelity just as damaging as physical betrayal? Can a relationship ever truly recover from deceit? And how do alcohol, secrecy, and unmet needs complicate our choices—and our healing? From defining betrayal to understanding why it feels so personal, this conversation offers both insight and empathy for anyone who’s been on either side of infidelity.
Listeners will learn how infidelity impacts emotional sobriety, the difference between emotional and physical affairs, and how alcohol can blur—but never justify—boundaries. Kathleen breaks down the psychology of betrayal, explaining the roles of trust, attachment, and validation, while Sonia opens up about her own experience of infidelity and what it taught her about resilience, self-worth, and the power of sitting with discomfort. You’ll walk away with practical insights about rebuilding trust, recognizing red flags, and understanding when it’s time to rebuild—or let go.
Finally, Sonia shares a deeply personal story about the aftermath of her own betrayal—the shock, the anger, and the white-knuckled early days of staying sober through grief—while Kathleen reflects on what it takes to heal, whether together or apart. Their raw honesty and humor make space for reflection, laughter, and growth, even in the messy middle of heartbreak.
This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources.
Episode Highlights
00:00 – Sonia and Kathleen kick off with humor and a “dating disaster” red flag story
01:30 – Introducing the topic: why infidelity brings even the strongest to their knees
03:00 – Defining what “infidelity” really means—beyond just sex
04:15 – Kathleen explains deception and secrecy as the real breach of trust
05:45 – Emotional cheating vs. friendship—where’s the line?
07:00 – The danger of fantasy and emotional displacement
08:00 – A lighthearted detour into Jason Momoa and fantasy boundaries
09:00 – Alcohol and infidelity—how lowered inhibitions aren’t the same as lost morals
10:30 – Sonia recalls the difference between blackouts and passing out
11:15 – Why betrayal feels like a personal rejection (and why it’s not about you)
12:00 – The “roommate syndrome” and what makes relationships vulnerable
13:30 – Kathleen explains how discomfort avoidance fuels betrayal
14:30 – Sobriety and infidelity—why staying sober makes you feel more, not less
16:00 – Can good relationships survive cheating?
17:00 – When infidelity isn’t about love, but about lost identity
18:30 – Rebuilding after betrayal—what it really takes
19:30 – The long road back to trust and why it’s often harder than people realize
20:30 – “Punishment mode” after infidelity and the death-by-a-thousand-cuts dynamic
22:00 – Is it ever just about sex? Desire discrepancy and longing for aliveness
23:15 – Esther Perel’s perspective on why people cheat
24:30 – Navigating the recovery process: disclosure, accountability, and trust rebuilding
25:45 – Setting communication boundaries when discussing betrayal
27:00 – Why triggers can reappear years later—and how to respond with empathy
28:00 – When it’s time to walk away with love and clarity
29:00 – The importance of remorse, accountability, and emotional safety
30:00 – Closing reflections and the promise of a follow-up episode on emotional sobriety
SIS Links
💌 Sisters In Sobriety Substack – where the magic (and the mocktail recipes) happen
📬 Sisters In Sobriety Email
📸 Sisters In Sobriety Instagram
🌐 Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast
📸 Kathleen’s Instagram
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Infidelity can be one of the most painful experiences in any relationship—and for many, it can also become a turning point. In this episode of Sisters in Sobriety, hosts Sonia and Kathleen unpack what it really means to stay emotionally sober through betrayal, heartbreak, and healing. Drawing on their own lived experiences and Kathleen’s clinical expertise, they’ll help you understand not only why infidelity happens, but how to navigate the emotional fallout with clarity, self-compassion, and growth.
Together, they explore questions many of us have struggled with in silence: What counts as cheating? Is emotional infidelity just as damaging as physical betrayal? Can a relationship ever truly recover from deceit? And how do alcohol, secrecy, and unmet needs complicate our choices—and our healing? From defining betrayal to understanding why it feels so personal, this conversation offers both insight and empathy for anyone who’s been on either side of infidelity.
Listeners will learn how infidelity impacts emotional sobriety, the difference between emotional and physical affairs, and how alcohol can blur—but never justify—boundaries. Kathleen breaks down the psychology of betrayal, explaining the roles of trust, attachment, and validation, while Sonia opens up about her own experience of infidelity and what it taught her about resilience, self-worth, and the power of sitting with discomfort. You’ll walk away with practical insights about rebuilding trust, recognizing red flags, and understanding when it’s time to rebuild—or let go.
Finally, Sonia shares a deeply personal story about the aftermath of her own betrayal—the shock, the anger, and the white-knuckled early days of staying sober through grief—while Kathleen reflects on what it takes to heal, whether together or apart. Their raw honesty and humor make space for reflection, laughter, and growth, even in the messy middle of heartbreak.
This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources.
Episode Highlights
00:00 – Sonia and Kathleen kick off with humor and a “dating disaster” red flag story
01:30 – Introducing the topic: why infidelity brings even the strongest to their knees
03:00 – Defining what “infidelity” really means—beyond just sex
04:15 – Kathleen explains deception and secrecy as the real breach of trust
05:45 – Emotional cheating vs. friendship—where’s the line?
07:00 – The danger of fantasy and emotional displacement
08:00 – A lighthearted detour into Jason Momoa and fantasy boundaries
09:00 – Alcohol and infidelity—how lowered inhibitions aren’t the same as lost morals
10:30 – Sonia recalls the difference between blackouts and passing out
11:15 – Why betrayal feels like a personal rejection (and why it’s not about you)
12:00 – The “roommate syndrome” and what makes relationships vulnerable
13:30 – Kathleen explains how discomfort avoidance fuels betrayal
14:30 – Sobriety and infidelity—why staying sober makes you feel more, not less
16:00 – Can good relationships survive cheating?
17:00 – When infidelity isn’t about love, but about lost identity
18:30 – Rebuilding after betrayal—what it really takes
19:30 – The long road back to trust and why it’s often harder than people realize
20:30 – “Punishment mode” after infidelity and the death-by-a-thousand-cuts dynamic
22:00 – Is it ever just about sex? Desire discrepancy and longing for aliveness
23:15 – Esther Perel’s perspective on why people cheat
24:30 – Navigating the recovery process: disclosure, accountability, and trust rebuilding
25:45 – Setting communication boundaries when discussing betrayal
27:00 – Why triggers can reappear years later—and how to respond with empathy
28:00 – When it’s time to walk away with love and clarity
29:00 – The importance of remorse, accountability, and emotional safety
30:00 – Closing reflections and the promise of a follow-up episode on emotional sobriety
SIS Links
💌 Sisters In Sobriety Substack – where the magic (and the mocktail recipes) happen
📬 Sisters In Sobriety Email
📸 Sisters In Sobriety Instagram
🌐 Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast
📸 Kathleen’s Instagram
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