Dr. Emily Taylor helps Ann understand why efforts to smooth things over with a sister-in-law aren’t working. There are different ways to go about resolving a conflict and we each have our preferred approach: compete; accommodate; compromise; or collaborate. If you’re stuck in a repetitive conflict, that may be a sign your typical approach isn’t the best fit for the situation. In this coaching session, Dr. Emily helps Ann identify the reasons why a collaborative resolution is not possible in a 20-year conflict she’s had with her sister-in-law. Together they consider how Ann might adjust her expectations for the relationship to protect herself from further harm.

In this episode, you will learn how to:

· Address your fundamental need to feel safe in a conflicted relationship.

· Identify your preferred approach to resolving conflicts and when to adjust course.

· Recognize the “schemas” or mental constructs driving your expectations in relationships

Let us know how these strategies work in your own life! Email Dr. Emily at [email protected] or connect with her on social media: @conflictcoachwithdremily

00:00 Introduction to the Conflict Coach

00:49 Meet Ann and Her Conflict

01:20 Ann's Strained Relationship with Her Sister-in-Law

04:39 The Impact of Passive Aggression

08:39 Exploring Ann's Approach to Conflict

11:32 Reassessing Relationships and Expectations

15:37 Finding Peace Within the Conflict

27:14 Key Takeaways and Skills

29:29 Conclusion and Next Episode Preview