Having Tough Conversations Podcast

Short episode summary

You're not going to want to miss this one because in it I share with you a powerful exercise I used to manifest my own success. You can do this too!

Timestamps of big takeaways

[00:14] We were going to discuss "Think Again," but I'm not quite ready to dive into that

[00:35] So, instead we're going to talk about commitment

[02:07] I also want to discuss the idea of success

[02:55] What does success look like for me? I share my thoughts here

[03:56] By my internal definition of success, I'm already successful

[04:28] Here I share that I realized something was holding me back

[05:36] If fear was preventing me from action, I needed to look at this

[06:42] After determining I was too passionate to fail, I journaled about preventing failure

[07:00] I share the ironic epiphany that I had from self-coaching myself about success

[07:40] Here's an exercise you can do to help yourself feel better about yourself

[08:25] I share an excerpt of what I wrote in my journal

[09:28] I share my intentions for LinkedIn and invite you to follow me there

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Links mentioned in episode

"Think Again" by Adam Grant - Grab a copy here: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B087ZC68VN/ref=dp-kindle-redirect?_encoding=UTF8&btkr=1 

https://www.linkedin.com/company/coach-caroline/

https://carolinebjorkquist.com/

https://www.havingtoughconversations.com/

Have questions? Email me at [email protected]

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In this episode, we talk about a recent scandal that spiraled into a podcaster unleashing her fears and triggering her own audience - including me. You're not going to want to miss this one!

Timestamps of big takeaways

[00:14] Today I want to talk about a conversation I recently had on Instagram related to a podcast and a scandal with Rachel Hollis

[01:21] There was a deep dive intended to open minds and inform people about manipulative coaches 

[02:03] As I listened to this podcast I felt a cognitive dissonance 

[02:29] This podcast was vilifying Rachel Hollis and by association Tony Robbins and their followers 

[03:19]  People say things that are offensive, and then do this...

[03:52] Her back and forth with insults and apologies were triggering me 

[04:27] My primitive brain heard everything and reacted 

[04:49] There's the primitive brain, the evolved brain, and then another part

[05:42] I talk about my time selling in MLMs

[06:49] Isn't it funny how our beliefs get formed?

[07:21] I have evidence that MLMs aren't all fake, but this podcaster still triggered me

[07:40] This podcaster was also criticizing life coaches 

[08:56] Life coaches are not here to correct trauma

[09:43] I realized in listening to someone say something triggering in a podcast, I needed to use it as a self coachable moment

[10:07] Being challenged isn't bad 

[11:08] So I coached myself through my triggers by telling myself these things

[11:48] About 45 minutes into the podcast, the show host said something that made the walls come down 

[12:36] The reality was the host was afraid of becoming like Rachel Hollis

[13:55] By fearing she would be like someone, she acted like them

[14:40] Had she been my coaching client, what I'm sharing with you is what I would have worked through with this podcast host

[15:07] I talk about coaching myself through discomfort

[16:18] I'm going to ask you to do something to help yourself right now 

[17:34] I hope I succeeded with my mission of this episode today 

[18:23] I share what we'll be talking about next week 

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Links mentioned in episode

I shared that next week we'll be discussing the book "Think Again" by Adam Grant - Grab a copy here: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B087ZC68VN/ref=dp-kindle-redirect?_encoding=UTF8&btkr=1 

https://carolinebjorkquist.com/

https://www.havingtoughconversations.com/

Have questions? Email me at [email protected]

Short episode summary

Ever feel slighted at work, or like life is working against you, not for you? Then you need this episode! Tune in now!

Timestamps of big takeaways

[00:14] Today we're discussing the phrase "self-fulfilling prophecies"

[01:13] I share an example of how a self-fulfilling prophecy can play out

[03:12] What were the thoughts that came up when you found out your work bestie is making more money than you? 

[04:24] I talk about the thoughts that transpired and the activities that followed for my friend

[05:50] Here you will learn the truth about what really caused all the heartache  

[06:04] What if when something frustrating happens you turn the thought around? 

[07:15] When we look at things from a different headspace, it changes everything 

[07:53] Here you will learn what I do when coaching someone

[08:22] My coaching client and I took on a different thought and this is what happened 

[10:05] Coaching helps you do this…

[10:45] If you are interested in coaching, you will want to listen to this 

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Links mentioned in episode

https://www.havingtoughconversations.com/

https://carolinebjorkquist.com/

Have questions? Email me at [email protected]

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Would you believe that your internal story can have a direct impact on how you feel about things that come up in your life? You're not going to want to miss a minute of this episode!

Timestamps of big takeaways

[00:18] I share my number one tool for dealing with "stressful" situations

[02:32] Here you will learn another tool I use for stressful moments

[02:49] Two things can happen with the question, "Why do you ask?"

[03:34] I break down one of the two scenarios that could happen here

[04:12] This is where I share the other scenario that might play out

[04:41] I recap my two tools for diffusing, if not preventing, stress

[05:01] People often don't realize how the words they are saying will be taken, and I share an example

[07:00] I repeat the two important questions you should use in stressful moments

[07:20] I invite you to join me for the next episode and share what's coming next

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Links mentioned in episode

https://www.havingtoughconversations.com/

Have questions? Email me at [email protected]

Short episode summary

Have you ever asked yourself, "What is a life coach?" If so, this episode is for you!

Timestamps of big takeaways

[00:19] How the Four Agreements helped me get started in coaching

[00:42] What life coaching is not

[01:39] I explain what life coaching is

[01:54] This is how I want my life coaching practice to work

[02:33] Here I share my job as the coach

[02:56] How my job is like a therapist

[03:38] The point of having a life coach is explained here

[04:09] I share an example of thoughts becoming things 

[06:10] How did I manifest my dream house, and how can life coaching help you manifest your dreams?

[06:39] I invite you to learn more and give you a free offer

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Links mentioned in episode

Ep 005 The Four Agreements - Overview https://havingtoughconversations.libsyn.com/ep-05-the-four-agreements-overview

Ep 006 The Four Agreements - Being Impeccable to Your Word https://havingtoughconversations.libsyn.com/ep-06-the-four-agreements-being-impeccable-to-your-word

Ep 007 The Four Agreements - Doing Your Best https://havingtoughconversations.libsyn.com/ep-07-the-four-agreements-doing-your-best

Ep 008 The Four Agreements - Don't Take Anything Personally https://havingtoughconversations.libsyn.com/ep-08-the-four-agreements-dont-take-anything-personally

Ep 009 The Four Agreements - Don't Make Assumptions https://havingtoughconversations.libsyn.com/ep-09-the-four-agreements-dont-make-assumptions

https://www.havingtoughconversations.com/

https://www.facebook.com/coachcaroline

https://carolinebjorkquist.com/

Have questions? Email me at [email protected]

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You know what they say about making assumptions, right? It makes an ass out of you and me. This is a juicy one, so tune in right now!

Timestamps of big takeaways

[00:20] The last agreement is not making assumptions

[00:56] As humans, it's normal to make assumptions, and they are often not based in fact

[02:07] I tie this agreement back into my experience of not getting closure after getting let go from a recent day job

[02:51] My methodology I coach from is based in Brooke Castillo's Life Coach School

[03:45] Assumptions are thoughts, not facts, and can lead to unwarranted feelings

[05:30] Change your thought, and you can feel better about your circumstances

[06:40] I challenge you to follow the four agreements we've discussed

[07:02] If you have questions or suggestions, please let me know

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Links mentioned in the episode

Book: The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom by Don Miguel Ruiz 

Episode 004 "Not Getting Closure" - https://havingtoughconversations.libsyn.com/ep-04-not-getting-closure

Ep 005 The Four Agreements - Overview https://havingtoughconversations.libsyn.com/ep-05-the-four-agreements-overview

Ep 006 The Four Agreements - Being Impeccable to Your Word https://havingtoughconversations.libsyn.com/ep-06-the-four-agreements-being-impeccable-to-your-word

Ep 007 The Four Agreements - Doing Your Best https://havingtoughconversations.libsyn.com/ep-07-the-four-agreements-doing-your-best

Ep 008 The Four Agreements - Don't Take Anything Personally https://havingtoughconversations.libsyn.com/ep-08-the-four-agreements-dont-take-anything-personally 

Brooke Castillo's Life Coach School Podcast https://thelifecoachschool.com/podcast/

https://carolinebjorkquist.com/

https://www.facebook.com/coachcaroline

Brooke Castillo https://thelifecoachschool.com/ 

Have questions? Email me at [email protected]

Short episode summary

We need this episode in our society perhaps more than ever. So many people take everything being said around them personally, and this can have a damaging impact on our mental health. Join me now for some quick advice on letting things roll right off your back.

Timestamps of big takeaways

[00:30] What is the third agreement? It's to not take anything personally

[01:01] I correlate this third agreement to making a movie

[01:54] What happens when conflicting movie scripts play out? Find out here

[02:53] You don't have to change your perspective, but…you do need to do this

[04:24] If you're not taking negative things personally, what about positive things?

[05:02] Here I share how you should think about positive and negative criticism

[06:08] I challenge you to do this throughout the next week

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Links mentioned in the episode

Book: The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom by Don Miguel Ruiz 

Ep 005 The Four Agreements - Overview https://havingtoughconversations.libsyn.com/ep-05-the-four-agreements-overview

Ep 006 The Four Agreements - Being Impeccable to Your Word https://havingtoughconversations.libsyn.com/ep-06-the-four-agreements-being-impeccable-to-your-word

Ep 007 The Four Agreements - Doing Your Best https://havingtoughconversations.libsyn.com/ep-07-the-four-agreements-doing-your-best

Have questions? Email me at [email protected]

Short episode summary

Does "do your best" mean you have to be perfect? Heck no! But, it's also not a free pass to make excuses for not achieving your goals. Join me for a quick exploration of what doing your best really looks like.

Timestamps of big takeaways

[00:26]  The second agreement isn't as important as the first one to me, but it is important nonetheless

[00:38] What does "do your best" mean?

[00:55] I use my podcasting journey to reiterate what doing your best means

[03:05] I challenge you to look at things you're not giving your full effort to and make a change

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Links mentioned in the episode

Book: The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom by Don Miguel Ruiz 

Ep 005 The Four Agreements - Overview https://havingtoughconversations.libsyn.com/ep-05-the-four-agreements-overview

Ep 006 The Four Agreements - Being Impeccable to Your Word https://havingtoughconversations.libsyn.com/ep-06-the-four-agreements-being-impeccable-to-your-word

Have questions? Email me at [email protected]

Short episode summary

In this week's episode, I'm talking about the first agreement of "The Four Agreements." Be sure to listen to episode 5 before you listen to this one.

Timestamps of big takeaways

[00:16] Welcome to week 1 of 4 in this series about "The Four Agreements"

[00:41] The first agreement is "Be Impeccable to Your Word"

[01:39] If you say you're going to do something or act a certain way, you should do it

[02:30] I share an example of what happens when you don't keep your word to yourself

[03:24] Not having self-integrity invites people to treat you badly

[04:43] Pick your words wisely, and focus on your own agreements with yourself

[05:29] Parents tend to do more for their children than they do for themselves

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Links mentioned in the episode

Book: The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom by Don Miguel Ruiz 

Ep 005 The Four Agreements - Overview https://havingtoughconversations.libsyn.com/ep-05-the-four-agreements-overview

Have questions? Email me at [email protected]

Short episode summary

In this introduction to the series on the book "The Four Agreements," I share what the agreements are, and why the book means so much to me. I invite you to get the book and follow along with me for the next four weeks as I break down each agreement.

Timestamps of big takeaways

[00:21] I introduce the book "The Four Agreements"

[02:14] What is the opposite of paranoia? Find out here

[03:00] I was surprised that this book was so spiritual

[03:45] Here I explain the premise of "The Four Agreements"

[05:04] Can you change your programming? I address this here

[06:35] The problem with limiting beliefs is they can hold you back

[07:33] If you start living your life by "The Four Agreements," your life will change completely

[08:12] I invite you to get a copy of the book to follow along with this series

[09:00] These are "The Four Agreements"

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Links mentioned in the episode

Book: The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom by Don Miguel Ruiz 

Have questions? Email me at [email protected]