Have you ever felt really anxious about "if you're any good in bed"? Well, navigating sexual intimacy with a narcissist in a relationship can be challenging. Many individuals struggle with trying to satisfy their partner who is never content and always demands more. This understandably creates anxiety and performance pressure - you fall into a spiral of questioning yourself and your ability from a sexual perspective, but then this expands to you questioning yourself as a whole.

The issues faced in such relationships include:
1.  Shaming, blaming, and constant criticism from the narcissistic partner. They may make you feel inadequate or pressurize you into performing acts you're uncomfortable with. 

2. Grandiosity and over-inflated esteem. Narcissists often present themselves as sexually superior and expect constant praise while being hypersensitive to criticism.

3. Imbalance of priorities. They prioritize their own needs, neglecting yours.

4. Aggression or violence, crossing boundaries without consent, coercing you into things that you're not really ok with or even threatening to share intimate details with others in order to maintain control in the relationship.

5. Entitlement is another problem, where they demand specific sexual frequencies or expect you to tolerate infidelity. 

These dynamics pose serious risks, such as the threat of blackmail or emotional vulnerability affecting self-worth. People on the receiving end of this may feel the need to change themselves or undergo cosmetic procedures to please their narcissistic partners, but they can never meet their unrealistic standards. 

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