Healing From Within - Sheryl Glick

Welcome to Healing from Within with your host Sheryl Glick, Reiki Master Energy Teacher, Medium, who assists clients connect to their life plan goals and manifest through thought and action their most spiritual and physical life realities. As author of her newest book in a trilogy, A New Life Awaits: Spirit Guided Insights to Share Global Awakening, Sheryl is delighted to welcome Mary Petto, author of The Family Guide to The Law of Attraction, who’s stories and research help readers understand the Law of Attraction for manifesting our best life results and it’s all based in using energy effectively, lovingly, and for the purpose of improving one’s self, the community, and world.

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As listeners of Healing from Within are well aware, Sheryl and her intuitive guests share intimate stories and insights into the metaphysical world of creation and possibilities for creating while here in a physical world, a life that merges our soul-based memory with our ego-based physical life reality so we may know ourselves more fully and not have the physical world and its challenges take away from the magnificent personal power we all possess within. Like any game to be played well, one must know there are rules, and we must learn to effectively use the tools of our inner wisdom along with meditation, energy healing, higher awareness and higher consciousness in all its aspects, which make manifesting not just a possibility but our everyday reality.

In today’s episode of Healing from Within, Mary Petto shows us how she has discovered the Law of Attraction from her earliest days as a child and has been leveraging the Law of Attraction since she was a teenager to help her achieve many of her goals and successes in life. Mary, as one of her goals, wishes to help parents and teachers assist the younger generation to be aware of these universal laws before they become overwhelmed by the complicated current happenings in today’s world such as the Coronavirus, economic and political upheaval, decisions about their future prospects for their careers and health among other things.

When Mary is asked to think back to her childhood and remember a person, place, or event that signaled to her or others around her the interest and lifestyle she would embrace as an adult, she tells Sheryl that she had a very happy childhood and always knew she was supported to make choices that would ultimately bring her closer to achieving all her goals. She was actually practicing the Law of Attraction, which suggests that the energy that you give out into the world brings back the same results that you are focusing your thoughts on. One of the Universal Laws of Energy, which when understood and practiced can allow for a healthier and more prosperous physical life journey is the Law of Attraction. Other laws include The Law of Totality, Karma, Wisdom , Love, Harmony, Abundance Attraction, Evolution, Manifestation, Destiny, Non-locality. (in that order)

Mary tells us that one of the first things that she is aware of in using the Law of Attraction in a positive way was when she manifested her first boyfriend whom she met on her first day at a new summer camp. The night before she had decided to become someone new. In her 14 year old mind in the early 1980’s that meant the kind of person that was popular and had a lot of friends. She repeated to herself that she was popular and would have a boyfriend…She had made a shift in perception and as a result attracted what she wanted to herself. Sheryl goes on to reveal that she herself has always been using the Law of Attraction well before she even knew about it.

Sheryl has a similar happening to Mary’s. When she was 15 going on 16, she was a CIT or Counselor in Training and away from home for the first time. “There was a counselor Ira in charge of the horses and agriculture and he was 22 and a Senior in College. He was going with the most popular girl in the camp and secretly she found him attractive. Shortly after he broke up with her and we all were at the campfire one night. When he walked over to me and sat down, I was mystified. How had this guy found me? We were an interesting combination. I was a gifted student and he was a man of Nature…he either wanted to be a rancher or news anchor…he had a great speaking voice. We went out over the next year when he could travel in from college in Delaware to New York but I was only entering college and he was finishing college and ready for a different chapter of his life. He soon married a girl he had known prior to our meeting and went out west to live on the ranch he manifested in his discussions with me. My life took me in pursuit of many different interests. Kind of funny that he became the rancher and I, in time, became the host of a radio show.”

Mary tells us about the Law of Attraction, and how can it help children and young adults thrive.

The Law of Attraction refers to an ancient scientific law of the universe that states that your mind, with the right focus and emotion (intention), can attract to you everything you desire. Harnessing the universe’s field of potentiality is not difficult, and if you are open to acknowledging your own power to make things happen, you absolutely will. Like all scientific laws, the Law of Attraction is happening whether you are aware of it or not. You could be manifesting exactly what you don’t want by focusing your intention in the wrong direction.

Many experts around the globe, for thousands of years, have explored the important connections between the mind and the body. From science and psychology, from modern-day life coaches and the great philosophers, there is agreement on these few matters:

Sheryl is reminded of the many times she has been guided by Spirit to see the Law of Attraction at work and in her newest book A New Life Awaits: Spirit Guided Insights to Support Global Awakening. While at hospice one day, Spirit showed Sheryl once again how the Law of Attraction is always at work to help us and others, and shares the following story:

Sheryl writes, “Suddenly we noticed snowflakes falling, and within a few minutes, enough accumulated to make the open plains beyond the building glisten and shine with freshness. The patient wanted to go outside to smoke, and he told his son to get a nurse to help them. I said that that would not be necessary as I was trained to take him. He was so thrilled not to have to wait. I told the patient “This is the first time I’ve done this, so if we cooperate, we can show the staff how expert we are at this maneuver.” I was acutely aware that only an hour ago, I had said to myself “Why do they keep teaching me how to use the wheelchair when I would never have to do this?” Was the Universe saying, “Never say never,” or did I intuitively pick up that I would have to help this man by using a wheelchair? It might be that the Universe gives us what we most want, or what we do not want, as it doesn’t analyze it but just delivers it. Make sure of where your concentration and thoughts are, as they are crucial in manifesting your reality

The Law of Attraction works well when we learn how to” ask, believe and receive”. Those are the three words to remember.

Mary would tell us that it is possible to begin to assist your children to learn the techniques and thought processes necessary to know that their inner happiness comes from their own creation not the outside world.

You can begin by helping them make bookmarks. On one side of your bookmark, you can make a list of ten things you are thankful for. On the other side of the bookmark put ten more things you are thankful for. You are actually creating positive thoughts which assist in manifesting positive events, people and success in your life.

It’s also helpful to have groups at home or a club while reading this book so you can share what you have learned and how you are implementing it into your daily life experiences. Next we can make a vision board and think about what we are grateful for and what we hope to create in the days ahead that will supplement the high-vibe energy we are creating.

Sheryl suggests another great series of books for parents and children to read together It is called Sara written by Esther and Jerry Hicks and shares the Law of Attraction and other energetic awarenesses. A group of young teenagers Sara Seth and Annette go through tough times and are assisted by their spiritual teacher an owl named Solomon they learn to understand life, death, energy and how their thoughts are changing their lives and the lives of those they love.

It is great way to teach our children the Universal Laws of Energy so they can begin to use their inner energy and begin to work with the Law of Attraction and other Universal Laws as described by a former guest on the show, Dr. Carmen Harra, a psychic medium and psychologist who wrote The Eleven Eternal Principles.

Mary tells us how she became more aware of the Universal Laws of Energy and how it helped her greatly. After she got married and had two small children, she suffered from anxiety. She was stricken by fear on a daily basis…fear of death, fear for her kids safety, fear of flying and so on. This is not uncommon for people who are sensitives or empaths and eventually are guided to find their spiritual path and know how the Universe works through energy and to eventually connect to soul energy to harness the personal power within, which can sustain us through any challenges the physical world throws at us.

Being with groups or individuals who have been able to sustain their spiritual memories of their connection to the universe and the oneness of Being and manifesting our best lives helps us to be more successful as when we are supported by our tribe like when we are on the same page as our parents and our friends and co-workers because we are not alone.

Mary shares with us why it is that many people don’t have what they want.

Mary writes, “A primary reason there are people who don’t have what they want is that they are thinking more about what they don’t want than what they do want. So if you are a complainer, The Law of Attraction brings into your life more situations for you to complain about. On the other hand, people who we think of as “lucky” people who seem to have everything go their way all the time, manifest those good things because they only expect good things to happen. Words + Thoughts = Energy” For those doubters it is good to remember a quote from Dr. Wayne Dyer “If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.” This means that our perception of the world creates our life experience.

Other scientists such as Max Planck, known as the founder of quantum physics, was a German physicist who demonstrated that when an individual looks at an object the characteristics of the object actually change at a very real and physical molecular level.

Sheryl says “It is interesting but when my oldest granddaughter was little she dressed up as Snow white and with her very dark hair and pale complexion and bright Blue eyes she was perfect as the character. I may have said to her over and over that she was truly like Snow White except Snow White had green eyes. By about the time she was 4 or 5 her eyes changed from the bluest of blue to green eyes. Maybe we both thought of that option and it happened through the Law of Attraction. I still wonder how that change happened? Genetically, both of her parents have blue eyes. Well ultimately I said it but she made it happen. Our thoughts change our perception and then our reality.”

Mary goes on to say “think of something you used to be afraid of or disliked but eventually overcame like fear of the dark or public speaking distaste for a certain food. As soon as your perception flipped, that thing became something different—it went from bad to good. Science has brought us to understanding the opportunities we have to create our environment and our life with our mind or thoughts.”

Isaac Newton first published his theories on gravity and his laws of motion which is the basis for understanding the universe appears to work in a precise and mathematical manner like clockwork. During the era of Galileo there wasn’t a focus on concepts like soul, spirit or consciousness. But just before Newton was born, Rene Descartes, the French “father of philosophy” declared that the best way to understand how the world works would be to divide existence into two parts: the objective, material world governed by the principles of science and the subjective world of the mind and the soul which would be understood by religion. He was emphasizing the duality of life, the physical and energetic both very real. Descartes famous statement “I think therefore I am” helps us to understand how to use The Law of Attraction to create that which we truly want and not accept the random outside world to impress negativity or other goals or desires for us.

In the beginning of the 20th century Albert Einstein, a mathematician, found that the only way to explain the behavior of light was to stop looking within the framework of traditional Newtonian physics. He introduced the Theory of Relativity which described how energy and matter are not only related to each other but can be transformed back and forth into each other.

Einstein’s breakthrough comes down to this. Everything is energy. Everything you can taste, touch or smell is made of molecules. What you’re made of, atoms, is literally vibrating packets of energy.

Years after Einstein’s work other scientists Neils Bohr and Warner Heisenberg realized when you take a deeper look at atoms, they aren’t just protons, neutrons and electrons. At the even smaller level they are packets of energy called quanta and suggest that physical matter—reality and real things—are not solid substances but fields of energy and that a particle takes on the specific character of a material thing only when it is measured or observed.

Thought is where everything comes from.

Dr Fred Alan Wolf an authority on quantum physics and consciousness says you can’t have a universe without the mind entering into it. The mind is actually shaping what we perceive

Here is all you need to know:

Everything in the physical world is made of atoms.
Atoms are made of energy
Energy is influenced by consciousness

Sheryl says “Years ago when everyone was so concerned that the year 2012 was going to be cataclysmic I was at a spiritual psychic development workshop with advanced practitioners of metaphysical theories and we were guided into a deep meditation and ask a single question of the Universe so I asked What will happen to humanity in 2012. I felt myself as a single atom in the dark skies of the universe No body but yet I was me Sheryl Glick all consciousness….I was frightened for a moment and when I pulled myself out of the meditation had no idea where I had just traveled to. Was it where I existed all the time as a single atom creating a life from the mind of the Universe? We all shared our experiences. One woman had a very similar vision to mine and suggested it meant humanity would become aware of their soul or energetic being and there would be a Spiritual Evolution for humanity. I liked her version better than the idea that we would all return to Spirit from where we had originated.”

Mary shares some of the amazing stories from her book about kids she’s worked with and the seemingly miraculous situations they manifested.

Trina, a woman spoken of in the book, tells how using the Law of Attraction helped her make her bullies go away. Trina was in fourth grade and was with two girls who had been at one time her best friends Jenny and Leila. They had decided they no longer wanted to include Trina in their little group and they also convinced other girls in their class not to include her or sit with her at lunch or talk to her. This made Trina very unhappy. Trina began to imagine what if Jenny and Leila weren’t at school as if they didn’t exist. She visualized getting off the bus, going into class sitting with the girls she used to have fun with before bullies told them to stay away from her. And she noticed how relaxed she began to feel. She also started to repeat a new affirmation or mantra in her thoughts: “I have lots of friends at school and everybody likes to be with me.”

The next day she went into school and noticed Leila wasn’t there. Maybe she was sick, Trina thought. Trina sat down and one of the girls in the class came over and said hello and showed her the new gloves she got from her mom the night before. Trina turned and saw Jenny behind her at her usual seat but she appeared to shrink away when Trina turned to look at her and Trina felt so powerful. Then class started and the principal entered and called Jenny out of the classroom and rumor was that Jenny was being reprimanded for bad behavior. At lunchtime when Trina sat down another girl called out her name and came over to sit with her. Some other girls came over too and Trina was busy telling stories and doing all the talking and the other girls were listening and laughing. One of the girls kept in touch with Trina and several years down the road she had lots of friends and worked on community service, attended honor’s program at her high school and was accepted into the college of her choice. Trina learned when she was 9 years old how powerful and magical she really was and how to conquer bullies or other challenges with courage and faith. So, learning how to use The Law of Attraction at a young age is very beneficial.

Another story is that of Jenny who had a bad divorce and the worry about her daughter having bad relationships made her talk negatively about many situations. Jennifer had also given up on the idea of dating or even finding love again. Mary spoke with Jennifer and convinced her that the dating scene she disliked so much was the result of her thoughts and she had the power to change the whole situation. She learned about vibration and that the energy emanating from her was her decision to be single for the rest of her life. How could she possibly attract others into her life when she asked the Universe to keep her single? When Trina asked Jenny what kind of relationship she wanted, Jenny immediately thought of an older couple she had seen in the parking lot at the grocery store the day before. The woman was using a scooter due to a handicap and her husband was walking at a slow pace next to her with his hand gently placed on her back. Jennifer longed for that kind of unconditional love and companionship Now that she had that feeling behind what she thought true love was, Trina could guide her to visualize what it would be like to love a man deeply and unconditionally and have it reflected back to her equally. Trina gave her two affirmations to say as she fell asleep that night believing it already had brought her the love she needed. “ I am in an exciting and wonderful relationship. There are so many great men around me all the time.” It wasn’t long before she was smiling just thinking that it was going to happen. And of course it did.

Mary explains the life-long impact on kids who understand their manifesting power.

They could learn where quantum physics intersects with thoughts, intentions and visualization and how everything has to do with the Law of Attraction and the outcome you want. We now know that everything is energy and there is no difference between matter and energy or soul life and physical life. The boundaries between the physical world and the world of our energetic thoughts is blurred.

Here’s all you need to know:

Everything in the physical world is made of atoms.
Atoms are made of energy.
Energy is influenced by consciousness.
Imagine what can happen if we believe that only the best of everything is happening to us and around us.

Before you can see what people can accomplish by utilizing the Law of Attraction, we might realize who we really are. Some people believe that human beings are made of the same elements as the stars. It seems we are literally made of stardust and the fact that the universe is actually part of us and that we are one with the universe isn’t the only cool scientific proof that we are magical. Of course, scientists like Albert Einstein have discovered that everything is made of energy. You may have learned that we are made of molecules, atoms, protons, neutrons and electrons but there is a smaller component to those components. Deep down inside an atom below the level of protons, neutrons and electrons are energy packets called quanta. The vibration of these quanta support or validate that a good decision was made.

Mary shares with us some simple experiments that may show you that the universe Is well aware of your thoughts and wants to help you achieve what you ask for. In the first experiment we ask for a sign, and you get to pick what the sign is.

Another good experiment is asking for a gift. Here is the only step- In your mind or out loud very clearly ask the Universe to deliver a special gift in the next 48 hours and say thank you as if you have already received it. There are many responses possible like a letter from long lost friends, gift cards, getting asked out by a coworker, getting a raise, checks in the mail etc. Shery also did this activity and when she arrived at home, there was a check in the mail, and her assistant handed her a crystal tree of life ornaments. So it worked, and rather quickly.

Another good experience is asking to show me I’m on the right path.

Sheryl tells us that now in this time of political upheaval and change and recovering from the Covid pandemic is it the perfect time to instill self -confidence and courage in our children. As we are becoming more aware of our spiritual gifts and ability to use the Law of Attraction, we may realize that the political concept of “wokeism” is not the same as people seeking enlightenment, evolution, a true connection to Universal Source, and the oneness of being. People on a spiritual journey “Awaken,” transform any negativity and false beliefs, and eventually transcend the limitations of their physical life.

Sheryl says: Anytime is a good time to help children develop an awareness of their own personal power and courage to face life’s challenges by using solutions not fear. Understanding that they have choices and helping them learn about energy and how it influences our emotions and state of being is perhaps the most important information you can share with them. To live life you need to learn the rules of the game. And the Universal Laws of energy assist us in living out our life plan and destiny with boldness creating much of what we bring into our lives.

Mary reminds us that in manifesting better results and outcomes in these challenging times after we ask for what is needed, we must believe.

Some things people have asked for and received are listed below:

Mary might like readers to remember that learning to really believe that you already have what you want is the most important step to manifesting any situation. By excitedly and joyfully believing that you already have an abundance of money, that you have already gotten accepted to your college of choice or that your relationship with your sister, mother, father, friend is terrific you are setting the vibration emanating from your new mindset or thoughts. The world is your oyster and the Universe will reveal to you all of the situations’, people, ideas and clues that align with your new beliefs.

We thank Mary Petto author of The Family Guide to the Law of Attraction for sharing a practical simple way for our children and young adults or anyone to begin to understand energy, vibration, and how thought creates what we bring into our lives and how to begin to improve our mindset for a more prosperous, happy and creative life of manifesting, all that we desire for it is the natural birthright of the soul to have a good life regardless of outside world influences.

In summarizing today’s episode of Healing From Within, Mary and Sheryl have shared their wondrous journeys of discovering that they are spiritual beings having a physical life and matter and energy are interchangeable as we can live in a body or not in an eternal world of dimensions of varying vibrations of thought and creation from mind. Learning to relax becomes an important aspect to achieving your goals and desires.

And Mary writes, “The most important rule about step two is to really believe the Universe is listening to you. If you know that the Universe has what you want and is going to give it to you at some point, you don’t cry, stress, strain or struggle trying to get that thing. If you are anxious and working hard to manifest what you want you are not believing that it’s coming to you by way of the Law of Attraction. The only emotions around what you’re feeling should be joy, because the only thing you believe is that you’ve already magically manifested what you wanted.”

Mary and Sheryl and all the scientists and writers we have mentioned in today’s discussion have had the courage to question their own mind and find the Self of inner being within, who only desires you to ask for help as then everything becomes possible. Open your mind and heart to knowing you are connected to all life now and forever.

Sheryl Glick invites you to visit her website www.sherylglick.com to read about the nature of human and divine eternal life and listen to leaders in the metaphysical scientific spiritual educational legal and medical fields as well as the arts and music fields explore the Universal Source of life and living in joy knowing who we are and where we come from. Shows may also be heard on www.webtalkradio.net and www.dreamvisions7radio.com

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Welcome to “Healing From Within” with your host Sheryl Glick a Reiki Master Teacher energy practitioner, medium, and author of her newest book in a trilogy, A New Life Awaits Spirit Guided Insights to Support Global Awakening sharing messages from Spirit that show us our challenges are not merely economic political or societal but a disconnect from our true being or soul essence. Today Sheryl is delighted to welcome Judge James W. Tamm, author of Radical Collaboration which provides tools to increase your ability to work successfully with others and get the results desired.

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As listeners of “Healing From Within” have come to expect from Sheryl and her empowered and knowledgeable experts in their fields who share intimate and personal observations and evaluations as a means to improve the human condition and life personally as well as collectively, reaching for a higher level of awareness and higher consciousness as we explore the many aspects of thought and creation that influence life decisions. Each show helps us self-investigate, leading us to recognize we are more than physical beings and our energetic presence when addressed helps us know life in its infinite possibilities.

In today’s episode of “Healing From Within” Judge Jim Tamm, author of Radical Collaboration an expert on dispute resolution and building collaborative relationships, mediated more than 1,000 employment disputes during his 25 years as a senior administrative law judge for the state of California. James is currently managing director of the international consulting firm Business Consultants Network, Inc. We will discuss how to figure out what your own defenses are and why you have them and then learn how to deal with defenses other people have. With an increased sense of safety, openness and authentic interactions become a pathway to improved relationships and greater happiness overall.

When Judge Tamm is asked to think back to his childhood and remember a person place event that may have signaled to him or others the interests work and lifestyle he might pursue as an adult Jim tells us he wanted to be a pilot a fireman and a lawyer and Sheryl laughs and says like a Vitruvian man you have lived all your soul dreams.

Judge Tamm tells us why he decided to write Radical Collaboration and how personal challenges or experiences played a role. He gives us a definition of what Radical Collaboration is. Radical is from the root word “fundamental,” favoring basic change as in the social structure. Collaboration means to work or act jointly, to labor together.

Since Radical Collaboration offers practical methods to improve your skills for building collaborative relationships and is well researched and has documented dramatic positive results, many businesses and corporations operating in increasingly complex global markets, it is necessary to bring consultants in to teach these methods.

Studies have determined that almost one hundred organizations reduced their conflict by an average of 67 percent over a 3-5 year period.

The ten most troubled organizations at the start of the project reduced their conflict by an average rate of 85 percent after three years.

Over a six-year period, individuals from nine countries reported they reduced their own defensiveness in conflicts by half and were 45 percent more effective at getting interest met in conflicts using the skills in Radical CollaborationParticipants also reported significant gains in their ability to build and maintain climates of trust.

Thirty years ago we coined the terms Red Zone and Green Zone showing between a highly conflicted adversarial culture (Red Zone) and Green Zone (a more collaborative culture) to denote the two ends of the spectrum in all human communicative experiences. In the second edition of the book we added something that we call the Pink Zone. It’s a more conflict-avoidant, passive-aggressive organizational culture that we believe has become the predominant culture within our client base today and probably in the corporate world in general.

We originally used Red Zone to refer to human behavior that’s fear-based and mostly defensive. It was meant to mark when someone was becoming reactive and acting out a variety of self-protective defensive behaviors. These Red Zone behaviors included both aggressive and passive aggressive mind sets that were self-justifying and often resulted in overly charged responses to the immediate situation. It has become clear that people understood the concept of fear-based defensiveness and almost immediately identified as active or passive but they did not like being lumped together with the opposite alternative reactive behavior. Conflict avoidant, passive aggressive people did not identify with the overt Red Zone behaviors and would describe their own behavior as Green Zone because they could not/would not see themselves as acting out Red Zone Behaviors. They believed anything other than aggression was cooperation. They resisted when we talked about Green Zone as effective behavior because they thought the only alternative to Red Zone behavior was wimpy, passive behavior that they assumed was the Green Zone we were talking about.

During the financial crisis of 2008 it became apparent to many corporations that to survive there was a need for effective collaboration. It became clear that they could not compete externally if they could not first collaborate internally.

Defensiveness arises out of conflict and is a remnant of troubling or traumatic events experienced usually in childhood. Understanding why and how it surfaces allows us to dispel the remnants of these feelings and engage in more productive interactions. Judge Tamm shares The Five Essential Skills to overcome defensiveness.

By understanding Collaborative strategies are not simply another business methodology many companies learned this the hard way when they tried to create teams without first teaching employees the skills necessary for effective teamwork. Many companies have developed all their employees for years to excel at becoming “star” individual collaborators Now with a change of policy they are supposed to think, feel and act like a team where their greatest accomplishment now might be to support someone else’s success. Without collaborative skills a team is just a group of individuals who each follow their own agenda.

TRUE COLLABORATION BEGINS WITHIN THE INDIVIDUAL NOT THE ORGANIZATION.

WE discover that Individuals in the Green Zone convey an authentic, non defensive presence. The Green Zone gives individuals the attitude and a state of mind that allows them to focus their energy on creative problem solving. In an atmosphere free of intrigue, mistrust and betrayal, individuals have greater opportunity to realize their full potential.

THE FIVE ESSENTIAL SKILLS

The right attitude, telling the truth, self-awareness, being accountable, and skillful problem solving make a difference, regardless of the nationality, culture, size or nature of the organization.

The ability of team members and organizations to handle stress, challenges, failures and changes in environment depends on the self-awareness and self-esteem of the team members and their ability to work compatibly as a team.

Example: At the pharmaceutical giant Eli Lilly Dave Hause has responsibility for managing alliances with Lilly’s manufacturing partners. Hause reports that when they are training people who work in alliances, they first use difficult case simulations that teams are rarely able to resolve. Then they teach them the Green Zone concepts and attitudes and have them redo the case. The teams usually do much better.

We discuss the signs that you or others are becoming defensive and how to limit the effects. First of all, defensiveness is not about protecting ourselves from other people. People get defensive because they don’t want to experience uncomfortable feelings within themselves. Getting defensive will temporarily block the feelings they don’t want to experience.

Psychologist Gary Chapin calls defensiveness secrets we unknowingly keep from ourselves. For example if Ron or Jim are leading a workshop or giving a speech and we fear we are not doing a competent job that fear can create considerable discomfort, we may unconsciously behave in ways that allow us to avoid dismissing or diminish it. This usually involves blaming someone else.

Remember that defenses are biologically based so defensiveness can be detected from physiological cues typically fight flight or freeze reactions. Defensiveness is so difficult to deal with because defenses operate independently of our conscious thinking processes. They are by nature autonomous cand unconscious.

Individual defenses emerged from each person’s history. They helped people cope with the created certain behaviors to defend themselves from fears of feeling insignificant incompetent , unlikeable or helpless. Without defense, coping with childhood and adolescence would have been difficult if not impossible. Some defenses children may have developed. If parents constantly fought, perhaps the way to defend oneself might be to stop listening so well. Maybe you couldn’t block out the fighting so you numbed down your emotions so you wouldn’t feel so much pain. As an adult you may feel less pain, anger and sadness by a limited range of emotion but also experience less joy, love and excitement. Or perhaps you learned to get sick as a defense so you would get attention and not feel ignored. Maybe, you learned to become sarcastic or withdrawn or to be passive aggressive. Some people chose to become confused. Some become withdrawn into silence. When faced with criticism that creates uncomfortable feelings some people tune out as a way of breaking contact rather than staying conscious of their uncomfortable feelings and dealing more directly. It is easy to see how and why defenses are created by difficult childhoods that include alcoholic or abusive parent, multiple divorces, or bullying situations.

But defenses are also learned in perfectly normal, everyday, average nontraumatic childhoods. One person may take the situation personally, another child may blow it off and not carry a traumatized feeling down the road. Looking at your own defenses is a necessary step towards overcoming defensiveness.

The first step towards overcoming your defensiveness is to become aware of when you are getting defensive. Defenses are created during events in your history. So we encourage you to engage in some emotional archaeology uncovering your own emotional history.

You can draw a Conflict Line. Focus on issues where you feel the most distressed. Visualize the significant conflicts in your life.

Here is an example of Conflict Lines. Born Age 10 Parent’s Divorce Age 12 Fights in School Age 17 Car Issue Age 22 Roommate Senior year Age 35 Father- In- Law Issue Reflect back on a time in your Conflict Lifeline when you were a child and less able to fend for yourself, a time when you were shamed, laughed at, ridiculed or bullied. Let yourself get a sense in your body as well as your mind.

Re Experience what you are feeling or thinking. Then answer these questions.

What were you feeling emotionally? Were you scared, confused, ashamed helpless , hopeless , humiliated or full of dread? What was happening in your body? Were you feeling a tight chest, shallow breathing, increased heartbeat, hot or cold, wanting to fight back, or a sense of rubber legs or impending collapse, wanting to run or stiff as in scared stiff? Was your vision or hearing altered in any way?

What were you thinking?

Were you confused, trying to make sense of why this was happening to you or what you did to bring this on, or did you freeze, with no thoughts at all?

What was happening to your energy?

Were you feeling aroused, activated energized or dead zombified numb f

rozen? How long did this change in energy last? Did you get help or fight back or just shut down?

What do you feel now as you look back on the scene?

Have there been similar situations in your life?

Look for repeating patterns or themes/ There are many signs of defensiveness.

Some are:

Creating A Plan to Combat Defensiveness Here are six steps for defeating defensiveness

We might ask this question, “Do you build your relationships from the Red Zone, the Pink Zone, or the Green zone?” to further help us understand the zones and where we operate more effectively. If you discover that staying in the Green Zone helps you with the first essential skill, Attitude and Intention, you will become to focus more on why you become defensive and choose to develop the characteristics of being in the Green Zone more of the time.

A person in the Green Zone:

Takes responsibility for the circumstances of his or her life.
Seeks to respond non defensively.
Is not easily threatened psychologically
Attempts to build mutual success
Seeks solutions rather than blame
Uses persuasion rather than force
Can be firm, but not rigid, about his or her interests
Thinks both short and long term
Is interested in other points of view
Welcomes feedback
Sees conflict as a natural part of the human condition
Talks calmly and directly about difficult issues
Accepts responsibility for the consequences of his or her own actions
Continually seeks deeper levels of understanding Communicates a caring attitude
Seeks excellence rather than victory
Listens well

Sheryl says This seems like many people who have engaged in spiritual practices body work and intellectual awareness of the philosophers and leaders in history who have become aware of higher consciousness and sought to find enlightenment. It takes a great deal of time effort and consistency to develop the attitude and skills to be in the zone or as Judge Tamm calls it the Green Zone

A large part of the book deals with techniques for effective collaboration. Judge Tamm tells us about some and which technique will probably be used the most.People are constantly sending signals and everyone looks for signals from others. We are social beings and we pay attention to others for signs relating to our relationships and the intentions of others towards us. As social creatures, we use nonverbal cues such as expressions, gestures, distance, and tones, to manage our interactions with others. These signals impact our core emotions and have profound effects on our mind-set and risk assessment.

This all happens quickly beneath conscious awareness. Researches at MIT have developed portable recording devices that can measure many of these nonverbal signals such as how close you stand to someone else, your tone of voice, your level of energy, percentages of time that you’re speaking versus listening, speech timing and flow, and position of your body in relationship to others. The researches developed computer algorithms that can predict your persuasiveness based on these nonverbal signals. A lot of research demonstrates that credibility is dramatically reduced when tone of voice body language and content are out of alignment. These figures are representative of when collaborations are not going well and confrontation is building

The numbers commonly cited regarding the impact of a message in those circumstances are

Content (the words) accounts for only 7 percent
Tone of Voice accounts for 38 percent
Body language accounts for 55 percent

Quiet introspective overworked or overwhelmed people may not be as open as those who are more relaxed laid back and fearless or courageous and adventuresome or extroverted people.

An example in the book of Jim an executive giving a presentation to newly hired employees professing to be open but he is really is not shows us that If the executive is not an open person himself he also has concerns that the other party being addressed will take a lot of his time with their complaints about his new policies, While he says what is required of him during the speech, his body language may suggest something else and listeners will pick up this sentiment…I need to tell you to be open because that’s what I am supposed to say, but I don’t really want to be that open and I don’t want it from you either. Emotions play such a huge role in our social interactions that we can’t hide them. They leak out in our communications through tone of voice and body language. When they are inconsistent with the words of the message, they play a larger role in communicating the real message. Instead of saying what he was supposed to this executive might have said the following to his employees, “ I know that creating a mor open environment is going to be crucial for our success. I have a few fears of my own about that. I am a very private person so this will be a stretch for me. I’m a little concerned that I’ll get overwhelmed with complaints about all the changes taking place. But I also know that to become successful as we intend, its absolutely necessary for us to be able to share our concerns, to tell the truth, and to listen to the truth. So I am asking all of you to stretch a little to become more open with each other just as I make this commitment to you. This message will not be undermined by inconsistent tone of voice or body language because it is honest.

Judge Tamm might like readers to take away with them after reading Radical Collaboration the strategies for Building Collaboration.

There are ten strategies for Building Collaboration

Go first
Be open and direct about your intent to collaborate
Pay attention to responses
Keep talking
Forgive quickly (Respond positively when others cooperate)
Agree ahead of time on systems for conflict resolution
Conduct regular reviews and actively monitor relationships
Use graduated sanctions
Make a commitment to a higher ethical standard
Use Interest Based Negotiations to resolve any differences or disputes

We thank Judge James W. Tamm author of Radical Collaboration for sharing practical tools that will increase our ability to collaborate cooperate and reach solutions to many of the overwhelming problems in business family and personal relationships. As we have discovered collaboration skills are essential for today’s workplace and have never been more important.

In summarizing today’s episode of “Healing From Within” we have offered an awareness for creating trusting cooperative environments, and transforming groups into motivated and empowered teams, as we increase our ability to work successfully with others, learn to be more aware of colleagues and their unique abilities and liabilities as well, and learn to problem solve and negotiate our way beyond the challenging events in today’s rapidly changing world.

Judge Tamm writes, “Parties are now engaged in the creative part of the process, trying to find solutions that will meet as many interests as possible. They should be tenacious about getting their interests met. However, since there are usually many ways to satisfy any interest, they should be flexible about how they get their interests met. Always look for mutual gains, If you find you have mutual interests, exploit them. If interests aren’t mutual then try to align them so they dovetail. It that isn’t possible, at least try to get your interests met without doing damage to the other side’s interests. The best way to end up with a good solution is to have a large number of options to work on…….To create a compliance-prone solution, you must address the needs of your partners, so give their problems just as much energy as your own. A rich source of ideas for solutions is objective standards such as industry practices, comparability studies and wage surveys. It seems having the tools to make decisions is as important as the environment of cooperation and good will that must be established in order to find fair solutions.”

Judge Tamm and Sheryl would have you realize that for larger groups working with complex issues and strong constituencies, the process may sometimes be lengthy and time consuming, but as always, and in the end, collaboration is found through willing it so, and trusting the plan for success when all parties finally begin to remember there is a way and will for success, if we let go of doubt fear and seek unity.

Sheryl Glick host of Healing From Within and author of the newest book in her trilogy A New Life Awaits, Spirit Guided Insights to Support Global Awakening which shares stories and messages from Spirit encouraging collaboration acceptance and surrendering to what’s best for us all ultimately …not very different from Radical Collaboration. Sheryl invites you to visit her website www.sherylglick.com to read about and listen to leaders in the fields of metaphysics science medicine spirituality human development and evolution law education and the arts and music seek ways to refine our thoughts and achieve greater awareness, higher consciousness to improve the quality of our lives personally and collectively, Shows may also be heard on www.webtalkradio.net and www.dreamvisions7radio.com

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Thank you for joining us on Healing From Within with your host Sheryl Glick RMT Reiki Master Energy Teacher medium and author of the newest book in a trilogy, A New Life Awaits: Spirit Guided Insights to Support Global Awakening which shares stories and messages from Spirit that show us our challenges are not merely economic political or societal but a deep disconnect from our spiritual essence or life force our soul awareness and guidance system. Today I once again welcome Elaine Clayton artist illustrator and Reiki Master teacher of intuitive empathic development. For those who wish to listen to former shows with Elaine please go to my website www.sherylglick.com on the radio page April 2020 Angels Fairies Guidance and Magic

As listeners of Healing From Within are well aware Sheryl and her extraordinary guests share stories and insights into the world of spirit energy and love in order to remember we are spiritual beings having a physical life for the purpose of recreating old stories and handling them in more advanced ways to improve relationships, refine our energy and move towards refinement of thought and action to create a world beyond the fears and limitations of human endeavors. We merge the duality of soul and physical life to create and bring Heaven on Earth.

In today’s episode of Healing from Within Elaine Clayton will share with us ways to see the unseen and welcome the mysteries of life through psychic events synchronicity and fun encounters. As we explore ways to understand empathy and use mystical spiritual and imaginative insight to better understand our place in the universe.

When Elaine is asked to remember her childhood and a person place or event that may have shown her or others the lifestyle work and interests they might explore as adults her grandmother immediately comes to mind as she expresses the delight her grandmother took in seeing her draw and her interest in artwork/ She remembers how her grandmother’s eyes twinkled with amusement and joy and how each drawing was as fantastical as the one before. So Elaine knew that every mark she made was precious to her grandmother. Sheryl says that that lovely memory is how she hopes her grandchildren remember her one day as she always provided the materials for art work and her four granddaughter all engaged in creating beauty as she was like Elaine’s grandmother and delighted with every movement and interest her granddaughters had.

Elaine decided to write The Way of the Empath at the present time because it was a way for her to share the tools and joy she herself had discovered from using her empathic gifts in a way to balance her own life and help others to understand the need to protect their sensitive energies by having boundaries rest time and simply fun in being alive.

Sheryl says she wrote her trilogy for much the same reason. Told by a medium that she would write three books for spirit she was highly skeptical but in short order she began journaling her experiences as she was also told to do and has seen how much has been discovered through accepting and surrendering to her destiny and God’s direction. In her new book, A New Life Awaits Sheryl writes,” It is quite possible we will discover the reason for venturing out of our original state of life: a spiritual, eternal world of Universal Energy and incarnate into this physical body, in a three-dimensional world. Many of the people I have encountered have suggested to me they would never have embarked on a physical life experience if they knew the pain and difficulties they would have to witness. But at the end of life, as a hospice volunteer, I have been happy to hear people on the brink of returning to their true form as soul beings express to me that life is good and beautiful. As mentioned in my previous book, The Living Spirit, as an answer to this dilemma, I wrote, “Each of us is presented with a series of life experiences and lessons in order to learn and benefit our own soul awareness. In fact, we choose these experiences, pleasant or unpleasant, because of the lessons we need to have, which were chosen by us with the help of our teachers in spirit before we were born into this plane. Each life is important, and at the time of passing, regardless of how easy or hard life was, the soul values the opportunity it has had to increase its emotional quintessence. We have memories of whatever was meaningful and valuable to us and bring it along to the next stage of life.”

Elaine and I are only sharing the miraculous view we have been able to download from Spirit with our empathic gift and making it easier for people to accept and live their dreams through cooperation with Spirit and loved ones.

Elaine tells us the following about Empathic sensing: the art of seeing the unseen and welcoming the mysteries of life through psychic events and fun encounters with yourself and others. Living as an empath means embracing the ideal of heart-centered intelligence by attuning to the experiences and well-being of others. Empaths seek to live a life of generosity through sensing and quiet knowing. This intuitive intelligence and his psychic clarity are the hallmark of “knowing from the heart,” the pinnacle of empathic knowledge.

An empath’s life is not an ordinary life. It requires the strength of a lion, because it takes real courage to be empathic. This form of artful living asks that you develop your imagination, your curiosity, and your consciousness in an extraordinary way that you discover how your perceptions guide and inform you, how they shape you and, at times, challenge you. It encourages you to step into your own innate role as creator and work to bring compassion and an open heart to yourself and others.

We are all sentient beings somewhere on an empathic spectrum, feeling our way toward deeper knowing and seeking, toward compassionate understanding and intuitive awareness. Some are born with an innate sensitivity to their surroundings and those in its proclivity that allows them to feel the presence of life energy in the atmosphere around both people and objects. Empaths sense the unseen, the energy that lies between and within the physical and material. Some develop empathic sensing through life experiences, perhaps by witnessing the suffering of a loved one or possibly through challenges like early childhood traumas that may spark ultra-sensitivity derived from emotional or physical danger. These experiences may cause some to be more compassionate because they have felt so much themselves and are able to see their own experiences reflected in the conditions of others.

With a guiding hand The Way of the Empath shows us how to put yourself in a state of receiving and awareness. By putting yourself in a state of openness and allowing yourself to feel and know all emotions trauma and experience rather than shielding yourself from these difficult experiences a desire to cultivate a heightened sense of empathy and empathic awareness grows and is a very spiritual and worthy undertaking, one that encourages the imaginal aspects of our creative natures to guide us to a balanced and meaningful life. The duality of our existence means that we cannot avoid highs and lows in our lives. We all struggle as individuals to thrive despite the challenges we encounter. But we can learn to go through these experiences with a desire to feel them and an aspiration to understand them. With this understanding comes the potential for transformation and a sense of wonderment about the beauty in humanity. When we enhance our relationship with our higher selves by expanding our consciousness, rather than living lives in which we move from one reactionary episode to the next, we make room for deeper empathic connections with others. And we begin to create the life we’d most like to live.

Taking note of synchronistic events and signs and learning to protect yourself is important to the empath, Natural empaths are “sensitives” who have a genuine intuitive intelligence that allows them to feel the emotions of others as if those emotions were their own. Because they can easily sense the emotional “atmosphere” of a person or place, they are susceptible to the emotional, psychological, mental, and physical energy in the people and objects around them, and they must learn to cope with that. Some choose mystical paths and methods to help them cope, because they are generally open to sensing what is not visible, that is, energy. In fact, all natural empaths have an innate ability to sense spiritual energy, and to be accepting of it and oriented to it. Empaths don’t need practical proof of everything. They don’t rely only on material or physical “reality” for knowledge and meaning. Thus, empaths whether their sensitivity is innate or acquired live their lives as a quest for the spiritual and a desire for the transcendental. They seek to become mystically attuned, inspired, and healed.

Sheryl tells of being at a Broadway show when she was 17 years old and hearing the song “The Impossible Dream” and knowing she had to go where others were afraid to go, even angels, and explore all the realms of here and beyond to find out Who we were? Where did we come from? And what a physical life and soul life was about in reality and in energy.

Elaine suggests that many perceptions are based in beliefs and societal mores, family attitudes and not always what is true or best for each individual. Until old traumas, fears and limitations are released, we are not free to change or create new perceptions of our desired reality and to know the greater truth of Universal Source or being. Empaths like everyone else need to recreate themselves using their intuitive knowledge and shedding the past but to do that and Because empaths carry within them an inclination to love unconditionally, it is important to understand that there is no love without self-love. Those who lack self-compassion or patience or self-forgiveness cannot reflect authentic strength in fellow feelings. Self-love is the starting point of empathy. Empaths feel love easily; they see beyond the personalities of others and connect instead with their soul essence. But without self-love, self-respect, and self-forgiveness, they may find themselves bereft, exhausted, or feeling worthless; they may end up in a struggle with the self-loathing facet of the ego that dominates the thinking mind.

As an artist Elaine accesses intuitive knowing through creative drawing and journaling. Elaine writes, “The space between us is sacred. It is the approach, the port, the inhaled breath before the word is spoken. That space holds our intentions, the choices we are about to make, our hopes, our longings, our fears. It is the place where the next miracle will unfold. Through empathy, we can fill that space with clarity and the presence of compassion. We may sense a separation between ourselves and others, but with empathy and compassion, we acknowledge our shared humanity and our common existence. We recognize that we are alive together at a specific point in time, and that we have a lot of power to bestow love, to bring goodness into our shared experiences. How we treat one another becomes, ultimately, how we treat ourselves.

This truth is perfectly expressed by Rabbi Evan Shultz in his 2021 work, “A Poem Using Book Titles in My Library.”

In every generation,
In every tongue, A time to speak.
Like dreamers Stepping forward, Restoring hope,
A passion for truth. Shared dreams,
American values,
Religious voices,
Political tribes,
Tough choices,
Broken tablets. You’re more powerful than you think!
To bless the space between us.

As Rabbi Shultz so gracefully assures us, empathy makes our lives so much brighter. It makes us feel as if we are in a wondrous celebration at times. When we approach others with room to go beyond our egoic sense of pride, competition, and labeling, we fill the space between us with benevolent thoughts and compassion.

Elaine tells us of the mental processing of intuitive-empathic impression. The mental processing of intuitive-empathic impressions usually occurs after the initial gathering of emotive energy rather than in the moment. Through repeated experience, empaths develop a response mechanism that envelops on-the-spot compassion and combines it with kindly self-containment. They learn not to be so influenced by the hurt or even the agendas of others, that they don’t get swallowed up or swept away by them. Because they are sensitive, they are susceptible. When empaths are moved by the words or experiences of others, when they react immediately with mercurial feelings of empathy, they can easily lose themselves in the exchange and make themselves vulnerable. The feelings of others can become theirs and be felt within their own physical being.

Elaine writes, “If I go to a party, everyone’s energy slams me. I feel this person’s tension and that person’s anger and that person’s wish to forget pain. I can tell when someone is holding back and I easily get uncomfortable. I start feeling all this and, before I know it, it’s as if they’re my own emotions. Yet, when I arrived, I was feeling fine. rather than in the moment. Through repeated experience, empaths develop a response mechanism that envelops on-the-spot compassion and combines it with kindly self-containment. They learn not to be so influenced by the hurt or even the agendas of others that they get swallowed up or swept away by them. Because they are sensitive, they are susceptible.

Empaths are caught in a daily storm of varying emotive sensations, even in the most casual of exchanges with others. For them, events that anyone else may consider meaningless and forgettable may seem significant. Reflecting on these empathic storms, in which they are inundated with the emotions or thoughts of others, can help them cope with the residual feelings that may surface for them once the interactions have ended and the cloudburst has subsided. This time of reflection helps empaths review their impressions and find their own place for centering again. It helps them to clarify for themselves what they felt during an encounter and try to understand why they felt it. This takes time, but it is time well spent, because it keeps empaths from getting layered with residual emotions to the point of breaking down. When empaths do end up immersed in the energy of others, whether they want it to happen or not, they must then deal with the consequences.

Compassion, empathy and intuition heal your world. Once empaths develop pivotal awareness that allows them to empathize without taking on responsibility for the pain or predicament of others, however, they can more easily manage these emotional onslaughts. By becoming conscious of what is happening while it is happening, and acknowledging that they don’t have to soak it all up in the moment, they realize that the woes they are encountering belong to others and not to themselves. This makes them stronger spiritually, and enables them to be strong for others as well, offering care and listening without being inundated energetically. Instead of drowning in the downpour of impressions, they become able to connect with others through heart-centered healing energy and prayers for their well-being. “When I was a teenager, my mother told me every time I spent time with this one friend, I came home in a terrible mood. I realized I was juggling all of the feelings and energy of that person and that a lot of it was negative. It was going directly from her into me. Sometimes I’d have anxiety from so much energy coming at me. I had to get away from that.” It is not an empath’s job to rescue anyone, although most empaths have tried and perhaps many times over.

But empaths are at their best when for others as well, offering care and listening without being inundated energetically. Instead of drowning in the down pour of impressions, they become able to connect with others through heart-centered healing energy and prayers for their well-being.

Elaine writes, “When I was a teenager, my mother told me every time I spent time with this one friend, I came home in a terrible mood. I realized I was juggling all of the feelings and energy of that person and that a lot of it was negative. It was going directly from her into me. Sometimes I’d have anxiety from so much energy coming at me. I had to get away from that.” Empaths must realize they are not the grand overseers of others’ lives. Nor are they the personal consiglieri of others, although they may very much wish they could help heal those they care about, even those who may try to draw them into every personal drama. Most empaths learn sometimes the hard way that they cannot manage or heal any adult life other than their own. Once they discover ways to take ethical action using their empathic skills without getting enmeshed in the sagas of others, they become more stable and are able to enjoy the many wonderful aspects of being empathic.

Synchronistic events, signs, and mysteriously interesting happenings are what empaths live by and for, even when doing everyday tasks. For empaths, that which is material, physical, or concretely fixed is not just solid mass, because even inanimate objects carry some kind of energetic vibration. Empaths get a surge of energy from everything. For them, objects give off a frequency and a quality of personality that is deeply felt and cannot be ignored. They often attribute human qualities to objects, playfully “seeing into” or even “seeing through” whatever they encounter at any given time. They also know when something feels “good” and when it gives off an unpleasant vibe. In fact, they are spiritually psychogenic toward objects they handle or use.

An example: But how do these impressions arise? “I wanted to enjoy browsing in the antique shop, but found myself in a soup of disturbing feelings, as if I sensed all these people who h/0ad lived and died. There were heavy sentiments attached to the antiques. I had an overwhelming feeling about each thing I laid my eyes on, not to mention when from everything these, objects give off a frequency and a quality of personality that is deeply felt and cannot be ignored. They often attribute human qualities to objects, playfully “seeing into” or even “seeing through” whatever they encounter at any given time. They also know when something feels “good” and when it gives off an unpleasant vibe. In fact, they are spiritually psychogenic toward objects they handle or use. But how do these impressions arise? I touched things. It wasn’t that this was negative energy, but it was all just too much to take in. A silver sable brush or some old oval mirror, a tool chest made of oak—all the objects in the place just weighed me down inside. It was as if I felt the lives of all the people who had used those things and I had to get out and breathe fresh air.”

Empaths receive what may not be visible or immediately obvious to others through a “sixth sense” the mind’s eye, or third-eye visions. They pick up on this wave of feeling, which is often sensed as psychic imagery, internalizing it all and projecting their perceptions back outward. In fact, they “see” in ways that are quite like the way we see when we dream, when our physical eyes are closed. Empaths may receive input from this sixth sense all day long. Empaths receive what may not be visible or immediately obvious to others through a “sixth sense” the mind’s eye, or third-eye visions. They pick up on this wave of feeling, which is often sensed as psychic imagery, internalizing it all and projecting their perceptions back outward. In fact, they “see” in ways that are quite like the way we see when we dream, when our physical eyes are closed. Empaths may receive input from this sixth sense all day long seeing color, details of rooms or spaces, features of landscapes or places, and all kinds of people and animals. These third-eye visions are at times like seeing “through a glass darkly,” and at times as clear as if seen in broad daylight.

Elaine tells us that although empaths may appear to be focusing on events or circumstances in the moment, such as in group conversations, they may also be inwardly seeing what is unfolding on a completely different level on a screen in their minds. They may be listening, but also sensing strongly what is left unsaid, what is felt beneath the surface of people around them. They may be watching the aura of light around others or picking up on some inward sadness that goes unnoticed or appears irrelevant to most. Empaths continually see these mental images these flashes of colorful and impressive visions as information streams in their minds that enter through the third eye or in other forms. This kind of seeing and sensing, without the use of the physical eyes, is most common during the dream state, in which scenes arrive and change in a multi-dimensional or multi-faceted way. In fact, paying attention to dreams is one way we can develop empathic knowing

Seeking wisdom through dreams, signs, and synchronicities is really fun because, when you are open to the expectation and anticipation of these events, you are delighted when you recognize them happening. So much is possible once you develop a strong companionship with your imaginative subconscious self. Often, the line between sleep and wakefulness blurs and you begin to see elements from inside a dream during the day sometimes unexpectedly. Empaths often remark on how exhilarating this can feel when it happens.

Some signs that empaths say they notice regularly include:

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When I woke up, I asked for a sign that would verify what the spiritual robe in my dream symbolized—that I would come through okay. Later, I went to an art class where the teacher picked up an artist’s smock and said: ‘I’m going to put a robe on you.’ As she put it on me, she explained that it was the most special smock she had ever owned. The fact that she called the smock a ‘robe’ sent a little shock of delight through me. I knew instantly that it was the sign I was looking for.” There are a lot of ways to open yourself up to synchronistic signs.

Here are just a few:

Elaine might like readers of The Way of the Empath to take away with them after reading your book that there are many ways to connect to people and explore our human as well as divine spiritual gifts.

Elaine writes, “Sensing what is felt in others and caring empathically about it is, in many ways, the fiber that connects us to one another in our humanity. However, the professional roles people play for example, roles in which they may not be given to seeing beneath surface projections or may never feel inundated with the emotions of others are valuable as well. People get amazing things done and can benefit others greatly without necessarily having an empathic orientation to life. They may be doers-of-great-things and movers-of-mountains; they may be scientists or technical geniuses. They may never immerse themselves in empathic sensing, or they may not come to it until later in their lives. But the world is in need of all kinds of talents, actions, and improvements. And we all have unique gifts and skills that have their own value.”

We Elaine Clayton author of The Way of the Empath for all the beauty she brings into the world through her art her Reiki Healing gifts and this book which most sincerely describes and honors the lives of those whose destiny it is to serve humanity by developing and using their empathic abilities to add a new perspective to the unfolding of everyday events.

In summarizing today’s episode of Healing From Within Elaine Clayton has shown us that to be an empath is an art form—to discover how our perceptions and feelings guide and inform us, shape us and at times limit us and this requires extraordinary awareness. It takes great courage to walk the path of an empath and to learn how to use spiritual, mystical, and imaginative insight, but, learning ways to protect yourself while living with an open heart is a lifetime experience and one that is not in the least bit boring. Empaths experience synchronicity and coincidences, messages from Spirit that help lead them to use their soul heart centered intelligence in ways that protect, serve, and change old beliefs, as they grow into their awareness and higher consciousness.

Elaine writes, “Cultivate Imagination The imagination is very important as a spiritual conduit and as a creator of human connection and fulfillment. Our imaginations seem to create a momentum that puts our wishes into action on the material plane. The infinite dimensions of possibility invoked by our imaginations help create an intuitive structure, like building an ethereal castle in the air that ultimately engages with the physical world. In fact, the imagination is where it all happens! All good things exist in our minds as ideas first, before we help manifest them on this plane of existence. Cultivating our imaginations is integral to living creative lives and fundamental to living an empathic life.”

Elaine and Sheryl both empaths who have explored the world of spirit and physical life, always trying to merge and use all the awareness and guidance through our duality for best results in our personal lives, and then to share this energy of love and healing, in being observant and helpful at times, discovering that life is a great gift and living it as you have uniquely created it, is being in alignment to the universe and spirit and that was always from the beginning of time the purpose of life.

I am Sheryl Glick RMT Reiki Master Energy Teacher medium and author of the newest book in a trilogy, A New Life Awaits: Spirit Guided Insights to Support Global Awakening and invite you to visit my website www.sherylglick.com to read about and listen to leaders and visionaries in the metaphysical scientific spiritual medical and energy healing practices as well as psychologists attorneys and those in the arts and music fields explore the possibilities and probabilities of using awareness as the pathway to knowing ourselves the world and life in its totality. Shows may also be heard on www.webtalkradio.net and www.dreamvisions7radio.com

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Welcome to Healing From Within with host Sheryl Glick RMT Reiki Master Energy Teacher and author of the newest book in the trilogy A New Life Awaits Spirit Guided Insights to Support Globals Awakening which shares stories and messages from Spirit that show us our challenges are not economic political or societal but a deep disconnect from our inners soul connection to higher consciousness. Sheryl is delighted today to welcome Andrew Michael Esq. author of Soul Pals; Keep Your Eyes on the Rise who uses story and animal characters Soul Pals to illustrate the environmental and cultural challenges facing earth and its inhabitants and to posit a solution to those challenges-raising consciousness.

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As listeners of Healing From Within are well aware Sheryl and her guests share intimate and insightful stories and events that help us become aware of our soul essence and eternal life force that works in cooperation with our physical life and when Universal Laws of Energy are practiced and observed in all interactions and events, it becomes possible to secure a more productive prosperous and healthy life experience. It is in the knowing, not the doing, that we fulfil our soul’s mission to create and manifest the best possible outcome no matter what the challenges are. In our search to understand life we take a metaphysical scientific and spiritual approach to ask age old questions: Who are we? How did life begin? And What happens at the end of a physical life cycle?

In today’s episode of Healing From Within Andrew Michael Esquire author of Arising Soul Pals shows us that Earth is in peril. Severe droughts partch some areas while torrential rains flood others: gargantuan wildfires consume whole territories and freakish ice storms crash on city grids. These and other environmental stresses are flaming human conflict and harming our health and the well-being of the animal kingdom. We will explore these environmental and cultural challenges facing Earth and its inhabitants and try to find viable solutions by raising consciousness and encouraging hope. Andrew describes Soul Pals and as a modern day Aesop exposing his view of the Earth in peril through severe droughts rains floods wildfires ice storms and other environmental stresses flaming human conflict and inflaming the health and well being of the animal kingdom.

Andrew was inspired to become an environmentalist perhaps by knowing that there are many sentient beings in the animal and plant queendom and they must be appreciated for teaching us all about those living in nature. The practice of acknowledging creation is derived from the spiritual practice of being grateful, appreciative and understanding we are all connected at some level. Shamans Mayans Indigenous People Catholic Franciscans Jewish Kabbalists mystics Hindus and Tibetan Buddhists all together are “Thundering Grace,” reigning down inspiration for many of the Soul Pals.

The positive and negative side of acknowledgment is the power to manifest form and reality. Ironically ignoring a certain reality re-enforces the ignored reality and produces more to that you are ignoring. Incomplete positive thinking can expand negative responses. In the negative whatever is resisted actually persists affirming and producing whatever is not liked.

AMP (Acknowledgement Manifest Perception) Be the Cause, cause Reality

In Andrew’s experience, some of the most pressing threats to our environment are not fully appreciating the elements: water, earth fire and air and how we are affected by changes to these life necessary forces. Water; we can’t live without it, and thankfully much of the Earth is made up of it. Yet we face major problems where the life-sustaining liquid is concerned. While there is technically enough freshwater available for all 6.8 billion of us, one-fifth of the world’s population live in areas of physical water scarcity. Vast improvements in infrastructure are required in order provide freshwater to areas which remain without, but also to ensure continued access in the face of widespread pollution, wastage and drought.

The degradation of water quality not only poses supply problems for our population, but also has a huge, inevitable impact on marine life. Whether it’s through storm water runoff from cities or farms, dumping from industry, or ill-regulated efforts to drill for yet more oil (more on that later), we’re increasingly filling our rivers, seas and oceans with toxic pollutants. From dolphins to coral, life in our seas is suffering tremendously. The Pacific Ocean is famously home to the Great Pacific Garbage Patch, while the Gulf of Mexico has a sizable patch of nothing at all — a dead zone resulting from the travels of farmland fertilizers down the Mississippi River. And what happens at sea doesn’t stay at sea. With pollutants entering oceanic ecosystems, they invariably pollute our food.

Deforestation has long posed a threat to our Earth. Forests cover 30 percent of the planet’s land, and provide vital protection from sandstorms and flooding as well as the substantive natural habitat for wildlife. They are one of our greatest resources for offsetting some of our outrageous carbon emissions and without the canopy we leave areas vulnerable to intense heat, further driving climate change. Yet every single year we lose an area the size of Panama.

We’ve all heard it before, but really, we need to stop destroying and start replanting. There are incredible instances of ambitious efforts to replant our woodland areas, from a man in India, Jadav Payeng, who single-handedly planted a 1,360-acre forest, to the South Korean founder of Future Forest, Kwon Byong Hyon, who has led desert tree-planting efforts throughout Mongolia and China.

With forests often cleared to make way for farmland, and worldwide consumption of food expected to increase sharply by 2050, both sides of that particular coin desperately need to be addressed, which leads us to… Food production comes with a hefty carbon footprint, with damage caused by deforestation, the use of fertilizers which pollute our water, and pesticides which kill our bees. And, as we noted, food demand is expected to rise sharply — the Food and Agriculture Organization estimates that by 2050 a population of 8.9 billion will eat, on average, a diet with 340 calories more than the 2000 average of 2790, other studies posit that our food demand will double by that same date. Some of this projected increase is attributed to an expectation that areas which currently have inadequate access to nutrition will see improvements in the coming decades, a huge, important and challenging development.

But as we expect to produce more food to meet the needs of a growing, hungry population, we can expect to see a corresponding increase in our carbon footprint. One recent study called for a 50% reduction in meat consumption by 2050 just to keep emissions from the meat industry where they are now. But at our current rate, we also waste an estimated 30 to 50 percent of all food produced.

Huge changes are needed in agricultural infrastructure to stem this wastage. Lower cost imports of big ag’s often genetically modified crops are causing domestic produce to go to waste in developing countries, and misguided policies are causing food aid to go to waste. But while changes must be made in how we farm and how we then sell that food in order to ensure that the right amount of food is grown for supply food where it is needed, there’s also a great deal of progress we could make by simply avoiding unhealthily oversized portions.

Urban farming initiatives make a significant dent in both food environmental concerns. By converting urban areas into fruitful green spaces, food can be grown directly in the community, provide food security and serve as a hands-on educational experience on where our food comes from and how it’s made.

On a related note, pink slime and tuna scrape are not food, they’re vaguely edible by products of the food industry, laced with chemicals to reduce the chances of poisoning us. They’re by no means the only examples; there are plenty of items finding their way to our plates that in no way should be in our bodies. And that’s wrong on so, so many levels.

ENERGY

In the US alone we’ve made the Gulf of Mexico toxic with oil, we’ve caused earthquakes in the Midwest while fracking for natural gas, and we’ve blasted the tops off mountains in Virginia looking for coal. In the course of turning non-renewable resources into energy we’re releasing all manner of toxic gases into the atmosphere, driving climate change and creating a hazardous environment for all living beings.

The fact that we’re destroying the planet for a short term quick-fix of energy resources that will run out is a pretty good reason to give pause and change course. Yet massive corporations wielding immense political strength continue to drive increased, fundamentally experimental and ill-regulated fossil fuel sourcing missions. Deepwater drilling off the Cuban coast, anyone?

Steps to regulate drilling, fracking, mining and their ozone depleting emissions are certainly a great thing, but it’s time, if not well past the time, that we move wholeheartedly into renewable resources. This year has seen incredible progress in both policy, innovation and adoption of renewable resources, largely solar and wind power. But there’s still a long, long, way to go. The Great Lakes of the US and Canada have the potential to provide power for 210,000,000 homes, and as the US seeks to expedite the approval process for wind farms, we still have to design better turbines to adequately protect wildlife.

There’s a lot we can still do on an individual level to reduce our energy usage, and corresponding responsibility for fossil fuel usage and the generated emissions. Simply switching to LED lightbulbs can cut energy usage of lighting a home by a third. It might not sound like much, but — as with so many easy, individually adopted earth-saving measures — when replicated across a large area it starts to make a very significant impact. Plus, the bulbs are getting cheaper!

TRANSPORTATION

While studies show young people to be driving less, many of us still aren’t going to be doing without cars any time soon. As long as urban developments are built to be un-walkable (we’re looking at you, Apple and your new Cupertino Campus), we’re going to have to find a way for everyone to be able to get from a to b and back again without destroying the planet. As it stands, the Environmental Defense Fund estimates that a full 20 percent of US greenhouse gas emissions come directly out of our tailpipes.

Fuel efficiency is on the up, albeit rather belatedly, with the most recent data suggesting that carbon dioxide emissions from new cars sold in the UK has declined 31 percent since 2007. But we’re invariably better off with the ever improving hybrid electric technologies, and the recent New York Auto Show marked the release of some pretty incredible extended range vehicles. As this technology improves, the cars can only be as green as the grid they draw their power from. It’s one thing to steer clear of gasoline, but even better when we can avoid emissions generating fuels altogether.

Similar emissions-reducing advancements are much needed in the aerospace industry. A coordinated project by the biggest manufacturers to develop affordable biofuel technologies for planes is an encouraging move in the right direction, but as we’ve seen, emissions from agriculture are nothing to get too thrilled about. That said, the whole not-driving idea is also pretty great when one has the chance. And if you’re in an area with exhausting inclines, such as San Francisco, electric bicycles still carry a far lower carbon footprint than many alternatives.

WASTE

As a growing population, we have a lot of stuff. From consumer electronics to clothing to diapers, a worrying proportion of our ‘stuff’ is made using finite resources, with environmentally destructive practices only to be used for a relatively short amount of time before being tossed into landfill. And if you’re reading Inhabitant, chances are you’ve thought about this at least once or twice in your purchasing practices.

The use of reusable and recyclable coffee cups, shopping bags and other ubiquitous items is increasing with widespread awareness of wastage and availability of alternatives. But there are always ways we can do more to use less, use better, reuse and recycle. Mining for metals commonplace in items from consumer electronics to jewelry causes widespread environmental destruction, polluting water and releasing greenhouse gases into the environment. And many of these metals, when used in consumer electronics, still often find their way into landfill, allowing lead, cadmium and mercury to seep into groundwater.

In the instance of consumer electronics, 17 states have taken steps to mandate recycling, but where recycling is not municipally provided, it becomes of even greater importance to take the initiative within our own communities. And for items which don’t need to be new, or disposable, we can keep on recycling, upcycling, salvaging and transforming.

GLOBAL WARMING Everything on this list above is a contributing factor in global warming, and yet we still have elected officials who argue that it isn’t ‘real.’ A poll recently commissioned by Yale University brought some refreshingly reassuring news, as the majority of participants agreed that global warming was worsening an increasing stream of extreme weather events and natural disasters. Earlier this year, surging seas presented evidence that with sea levels predicted to rise 20-80 inches by 2100, 3.7 million residents are at risk from flood waters. Meanwhile scientists looking to the past found that naturally occurring carbon emissions drove the end of the last Ice Age — and that uptick in emissions was far lower than our current surge. Yet we still, absurdly, have politicians who as part of their campaign strategy insist that carbon dioxide emissions do not pose a threat to our environment.

So as we all work towards a greener, more sustainable future, adopting responsible practices to lower and eliminate emissions of all greenhouse gases, it’s time for climate change deniers to finally give in to the evidence.

Andrew tells us why he chooses for most of the characters in your stories to be animals. Play Pals are to create and amp your life. These characters are colorful and powerful. Because Soul Pals are intriguing, they are memorable and able to be transformative. These pals are verbal, visual, musical and emotional cues to rise. You absorb the best in them to be your best. With Soul PALS your life can be about playing at ease.

In the story each character is called a Pal. A Pal from each story is a bridge to the next story with each episode in the upward spiral. The Altitude of characters rise as a player’s “Attitude” can rise to a higher level of consciousness. The core of magnification: acknowledging what you love and having confidence in what you would like more of in your life is possible when you acknowledge thinking and seeing, feeling, and hearing which now grows to become how you live in the future.

We start with the story of The Octopus’s Magical Garden (OMG) which is under attack from environmental pollution caused by Increased Shipping. A Pelican meets Octopus after his mother ventured out to deal with a recent Oil Spill and never returned. Then Pelican bathes in Egret’s Lagoon which is not yet infected by environmental change and they chat as friends. Egrets are present everywhere as with African Elephants Egrets are a calming force for the elephants Next we meet the Rhino native to Northern India and along with Elephant and Hummingbirds mingle with people in the forest but Rhino is in danger as rifles are pointed at him. There is danger for All. The Octopus Magical Garden OMG is an opportunity to offer Practical and Useful Solutions The Octopus has an intelligent predictions that turn true just like intuitive or psychic people

Conscious Attributes are confirmed by 50 notable Scientists in Cambridge Declaration on consciousness.

The arising stories and characters face facts that are true to them as well as to others. It is said that in the end is in the beginning and this circular cycle is true in Arising stories. The Whole is in the smallest of parts: one DNA code holds the blueprint for the whole being. A drop of water when magnified shows elegant crystal patterns and a leaf reveals miniature pathways that mimic grand watersheds where all rivers flow into the ocean. And in this book we begin with the Pelican that dives into the Octopus’s Magical Garden. The pelican was defiant as oil washed tar harmed the fish and birds. Brownie as the pelican was called wanted to correct this situation but died in the process. A pack of wolves took up Brownie’s cause and gave life a chance decreeing, “United we stand, Divided we fall”. The egret was next and the egret’s motto was, “Don’t regret, egret.” A Cycle of Care has been completed between the Soul Pals in these stories.

In the stories we see how each character is connected in ways that support life for all of them and so Soul Pals are energy beings who interact and contribute either to the advancement of all or harm themselves and others. In these stories the hummingbird elephant rhino hippopotamus and Mamba Patrol are members of the Jade Brigade.

These star characters or soul pals have 3 important qualities;

With the power of these 3 qualities on their migration path the characters Rise to the challenge Reach their goals while protecting themselves family friends and their homes. As Soul Pals we learn if you can feel it see it and experience that to which you Aspire the future eventually becomes the present and you can manifest and live what you imagine. Albert Einstein once said, “The imagination is a preview of things to come.”

Andrew’s book makes the case for raising consciousness as the means to fight climate change and the destruction it is causing since these stories are based on facts about people, culture, animals and the environment. When we ask certain questions, we see the synchronicity and continuing forces that make life either work well or not.

For example we may ask,

“Why have pollinators stopped pollinating plants to grow.”
“Why have so many bees died in recent years?”
“Why do elephants continue to migrate to Lake Chad even though it has shrunk to a mere puddle?” ((Now 5% of size it was 50 years ago)
Why do deeply held cultural and spiritual beliefs determine the life and death of elephants and rhinos, Not food Not water Not villagers or farmers, herders Not even rifles.

Your book is full of acronyms. What is it about acronyms that is so compelling? An acronym is a pronounceable word formed from the first letter or first few letters of each word in a phrase or title The newly combined letters create a new word that becomes part of everyday language. Using shortened forms of words or phrases can speed up communication. Explore the useful shorthand with these examples of acronyms.

Some popular acronym examples are:

AIDS acquired immunodeficiency syndrome
ASAP As soon as possible
AWOL Absent without official leave
IMAX Image Maximum
LASER Light Amplification by the Stimulated
Emission of Radiation

Ordinary citizens can help in the fight for climate change and the destruction it is causing. Andrew suggests an example of the Mamba Patrols Mission, that protects villagers and elephants and is trained and equipped by the African Park Organization to protect the elephants and surrounding communities from poachers. These patrols have been outfitted with military equipment and technology to have a fair chance against these violent bands of poachers. Prince Harry from England funds the Mamba Patrols in three African countries. Sadly, the demand for elephant tusks and other wildlife who live at the shoreline near bodies of water have also sadly declined. With the loss of life for animals, 10 million people whose work is derived from the water industry has made it nearly impossible for the people in those areas to prosper.

Sheryl says “We will get a lot further toward solving the problem if we focus on solutions rather than continuing to highlight the problem,” Chissell says.

Project Drawdown recently put together a report highlighting 30 behavioral solutions ordinary people can take to combat climate change. The top three include wasting less food, adopting a plant-rich diet and consuming less energy and water.

Readers of Arising Soul Pals might want to take away with them after reading Arising Soul Pals that We all face people with power trips and political games from people at work, in our communities, and even in our family. An example is a Legislator and chair of a committee that oversaw a $50 billion budget was particularly frustrated. It had been two years of explaining and educating others about the importance of a proposal and wide implications for the way priorities had been determined in the budget. This year, he had received the necessary votes in both chambers of the legislature and all that was needed was the governor’s signature. He received a letter from the governor denying the legislation from going into law. It was at this point he brought the crocodile smile and the acronym derived from the word crocodile to focus his attention on getting the bill passed even though it had been rejected. Here is the acronym describing the qualities necessary to support determination and persevere against any negativity in achieving your goal to pass legislation that improves life for the animals and protection of the environment. The key here is, like the animals, we must use all of our skills to survive and never quit.

Calm
Response
Occupies
Conniving
Opposition,
Denying
Intrusion;
Laughter
Empowers!

We thank Andrew Michael Esq. for sharing his book Arising Soul Pals to show us how arising stories and the qualities of animals may achieve a world of compassion and action to realize a globe of healthy people, animals—all sentient beings and a rejuvenated earth and all of its ecosystem.

In summarizing today’s episode of Healing From Within, we have discovered the PALs you have met and will meet, demonstrating how to apply the PAL concept, some PALs you might like, and others you may not. In the end, what is most important is you create or adopt PALs that best work for you. the best basic formula for forming your PALs is described this way: First, a problem or challenge is identified for an opportunity for growth. Next, a PAL for whom you already have a special feeling toward is chosen. Then this pal is Applied to the problem, by simply focusing on a picture of the PAL and thinking about this being. Gradually, the repetition of this visual image, its associated word meaning and feelings you experience when bringing this PAL to mind, will liberate you from a thought that has limited your ability to lead your life as you desire.

P-roblem
A-pplication of an AMPed PAL
L-iberation

Whatever PAL you work with, whether it’s a person, animal, or object, it should bring about some special feeling within you, and these feelings can help transform and bring about your desired attitude and actions, making the world one that works in harmony, peace, and balance, and leads to better lives for the sentient beings on the planet.

Andrew writes on the cover of his book: “Rising from the depths of the sea to the heights of the sky in altitude and attitude. Finding ‘deep perceptions (deeperceptions)’ to replenish the positive and diminish negative.”

I am Sheryl Glick, host of Healing From Within, author of the newest book in a trilogy, A New Life Awaits Spirit Guided Insights to Support Global Awakening, which shares stories and messages from Spirit that show us our problems are not economic, political, or societal, they are just a disconnect from our soul inner wisdom and invite you to visit my website www.sherylglick.com to read about and listen to leaders in the metaphysical, spiritual, scientific, medical, educational, and music and arts, explore the duality of life in its physical and energetic dimensions, helping us rise above the problems of the physical world to live more productive, successful, healthy, and joyful lives.

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Welcome to “Healing From Within” with your host Sheryl Glick, Reiki Master Teacher and author of the newest book in a trilogy A New Life Awaits: Spirit Guided Insights to Support Global Awakening, which shares stories and messages from Spirit that show us our challenges are not merely economic political or societal but a disconnect from our true being or soul wisdom. Sheryl is delighted to welcome Dr. Rosie Ward, author of Rehumanizing the Workplace which will reinforce the need for leaders to remember that everyone thrives in environments where they feel cared for, safe to create and innovate and part of an organization’s shared purpose.

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As listeners of “Healing From Within” have come to expect over the years, Sheryl and her guests share intimate observations and realizations of the true nature of a physical and energetic life experience and ways to know ourselves merging the needs of the heart and mind, so we may become our best version of ourselves, helping us to find peace, love and happiness, in a world of many challenges.

In today’s episode of “Healing From Within,” we will through the information shared by Dr. Rosie Ward begin to realize how our rapidly changing world is becoming increasingly complex and disruptive. While it also brings many opportunities for innovation and the improvement of the human condition, it also triggers people to operate from a place of scarcity and self-protection. This can lead to disconnection and eroding well-being on both the organizational and individual level. We will discuss the Five Rehumanizing Principles we can put into practice to foster a more sustainable future.

Rosie responds to Sheryl when she asked her to think back to her childhood and remember a person, place, event that may have signaled to her or others the values, interests, work and lifestyle she might pursue as an adult and says, “I love that question.” She explains to Sheryl that since she was very young, friends always came to her for advice and support, as many used to lean on her mom, who was a psychologist, so it seems, she was following her mother’s path in wishing to help people by listening to their challenges, and by hoping to now as an adult, call attention to the changing needs of our workplaces and to support a more loving environment at those facilities so we may all grow and evolve into healthier human beings. Healing is needed at all levels and places we work as there is not a moment where we don’t need to be accountable and responsible for growing into the loving souls we already are.

Rosie tells us about her becoming aware of the problems in organized businesses which have not supplied their employees with all the resources to be most productive and happy. Dr. Rosie Ward tells us of the 5 Rehumanizing Practices that can help foster a sustainable future. They are as follows:

Build a Lighthouse: Much like a lighthouse can help cut through the fog and provide clarity for where to go, having a clear purpose and having strong core values can help to do the same. Businesses that are emerging stronger in the face of Covid-19 now have a clear purpose most people feel connected to, which would be a stronger family unit, more cooperative work situations, more appreciation for health, use of free-time, enjoyment of nature, travel, and protecting our planet. Businesses and families have operationalized their core values into clear behavioral anchors that they live by, and leverage that clarity to be flexible about how they serve that purpose. We have to shift from surviving to how we effectively serve our company purpose in a different world.

Create Fearless Environments: The VUCA world inherently brings some discomfort as it demands we do things differently. However, we can only adapt and grow when people feel safe taking the risks required to do transformational work. Research from Harvard professor Amy Edmondson has found that organizations that are intentional about creating psychologically safe environments are more responsive and resilient. If this pandemic has taught us anything, it’s that responsiveness and resilience are critical for organizations to thrive in the midst of disruption.

Wade In The Messy Middle: Change involving humans is complex and evokes discomfort. When we are facing incredible adaptive challenges ( those with no known solutions that demand a complete shift in our mindset) we have to be able to operate differently. This means we need to do the inner developmental work to move from self-protection to self-reflection and then shift our thinking and the stories we tell ourselves: we can’t hit fast forward. The leaders that are rising to the occasion during this pandemic lean into the discomfort and invest in their own development to show up as conscious leaders. We can’t make the adaptive leaps our VUCA world demands of us without intentionally developing ourselves.

Show Up As A Leader: Leadership is a “behavior,” not a title or role. In fact, work from Keyhubs on mapping human networks within organizations has shown that the greatest talent and influencers within your organization are usually not sitting high up in the organizational chart. We need EVERYONE to show up as a leader and make a positive difference. Successful businesses create the conditions for everyone to feel connected to the company purpose, speak up and rally from their own resourcefulness , they call everyone to greatness to behave like a leader.

Find Your Tribe: As a species, we’re hardwired for connection. Social distancing shined a light on just how resourceful people can be to leverage Zoom and other platforms to stay connected. Conscious businesses include the people in decisions that impact them and don’t operate in silos: after all people only tend to support what they’ve helped to create. These businesses are also intentional about creating a structure for people to check in with each other and be in community: they build and nurture relationships.

Rosie and Sheryl might consider how the world is different in light of Covid-19 and possible benefits as a result of a tragic plague to the world.

Sheryl says that she is aware this time and the challenges the world is going through at all levels of life experience, the home, the workplaces, the schools, and businesses, are part of a spiritual revolution that affect businesses and employees, as lockdowns and working from home while having the children at home all the time has provided a way to renew universal values and spiritual awareness of how precious are the people we love and the time we have together. Our technological advancements, social media and the internet have put our humanity and peace of mind, health and quality of life, in jeopardy and many are aware that while there are possible aspects to these technological advancements, there are also dangers. Maintaining open channels of communication personally will always be more valuable than emails and texts, and in these hard times we may come to appreciate FaceTime which allows us to use technology in the best way by seeing our loved ones in a lockdown. Now in these changing times due to economic and health concerns, we must find the balance and return to the core values of what really empowers a person or a business to be effective beyond fear and dysfunction.

So what are those core values?? Rosie tells us that knowing that work plays a vital role in our health and well being, makes us evaluate how to use that knowledge at this time in history. It becomes vital to rethink the workplace and what people need to live happy and healthy lives, in relation to the many tragedies of recent days. We know that the vast majority of people are unfulfilled and removed from achieving their full potential at work due to many flaws in antiquated systems. We are in need of new disruptive models that challenge our conventional thinking and instill a sense of humanity at work. Rehumanizing the Workplace is just that—a powerful blend of research, inspiration, and actionable steps for the changes our workforce needs.

“The bad news for employee health is that the workplace was recently declared the fifth leading cause of death in America.” There is no question that the health of most working people across the globe has been declining at a steady pace for years, and there is no end in sight to this unfortunate trend. Traditional worksite wellness programs have not proven to be the solution. So what’s next? Rosie lays a foundation for creating workplaces that help people thrive, not just survive. Rehumanizing the Workplace takes the reader on a guided journey that, if followed correctly, will create an employee experience that can improve the well-being of people and organizations.

Humanizing the workplace is the greatest imperative of our times. The fact is that our work is literally killing us, when work should be one of the greatest joys and pleasures of a life experience. We must realize that work is the foundation for self-esteem, confidence, and personal growth. When seen correctly and positively, it may be as helpful as our family life, our leisure time, our charitable pursuits, and our spiritual evolution demands we recognize this fact. Recently, our government has paid our people to stay home, incentivizing a lack of love and respect for work. This needs to change, all work needs to be valued. If you have to sweep the floor, sweep the floor to the best of your ability and enjoy it. Do it well, it might be a stepping stone to building your character, your soul development, and to loving life.

Heart attacks are significantly higher on Mondays as people may have anxiety about leaving the sanctuary their homes provide on the weekends. In his book Dying for a Paycheck, Jeffrey Pfeffer estimates that one hundred and twenty thousand Americans die every year due to stress connected to work. It is not the work itself but the ways in which we lead, manage, and organize companies that results in all the suffering. An estimated seventeen thousand Chinese die every day from overwork. It doesn’t have to be this way. We don’t have to hurt people or kill them in order to make money. As we show in our book The Healing Organization, quite the contrary: workplaces where people physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and socially thrive are far more successful workplaces by every measure.

How did the workplace become so dehumanized in the first place? It has to do with how we think about business. Many people think of business as a jungle in which “survival of the fittest” is the cardinal rule. “Kill or be killed.” Some treat business as a dehumanized machine with inputs like physical capital, human capital, and financial capital and outputs like profits and products. Some have reduced business to a math problem, seeking to maximize one thing—shareholder value—while treating everything else as a means to that end. Still others treat business as a game in which you make multiple bets, hoping that some would pay off.

Sheryl says that having had eight careers, she feels herself to be most fortunate to have enjoyed all the experiences, people she met, and people she helped, to realize that work often helps build self-esteem, self-confidence, and a greater appreciation and gratitude for every minute of life. Bringing smiles and joy along with treating everyone at work as a family member, helps to make us one people, and one humanity, supporting our spiritual as well as providing the sustenance to fulfill the physical needs of life.

The fact is that business is one of the most human things that we do, and it impacts our lives as human beings in so many different ways. Rosie attributes these harmful ways of thinking to an excess of masculine energy in the world of business. Adam Smith wrote An Inquiry into the Nature and Causes of the Wealth of Nations, which laid out the foundational principles for how free markets operate and how individuals pursuing their self-interest will result in many, if not most, of our needs being met through businesses. But Smith also wrote The Theory of Moral Sentiments seventeen years prior to The Wealth of Nations. In that book, he elaborated on our need to care for each other, without regard to self-interest. In a sense, capitalism had a mother and a father, and both were Adam Smith. Unfortunately, we ignored the mother energy—his message about caring—and focused only on the father energy—his message about pursuing self-interest. Today, there are two things hidden away in the corporate closet. The first is unexpressed love. Human beings have a deep need to express their caring for each other, and most workplaces do not allow for that. People are expected to put on their mask and armor and go to battle in the marketplace. The second thing that is hidden in the corporate closet is silent suffering. Life is difficult; people are carrying around enormous burdens as they go through their workday. We need to allow both of these things to come out of the corporate closet. Our innate need to care can help alleviate much of the suffering that people are experiencing in life and in the workplace. By allowing this to happen, we can greatly enhance the amount of joy that people experience at work, which to me is the ultimate expression of what it means to have a fully humanized workplace.

Sheryl says the above ideas offer solutions to the untenable problems that have been exasperated by personal and corporate greed, and the mantra “I’m fighting for my life,” attitude that has supplanted the attitude that “I am a healthy, loving individual that goes out into the world each day to share the blessings of living cooperatively, with my fellow citizens, making them like friends and family, a divine part of my life experience.” Beginning to understand that competition is mostly a personal need to improve yourself rather than to use your ideal of who and you’re becoming in referencing other people. Other people have their needs and life path, but if businesses allow each person to be the best and improve themselves and finding joy in all they do, understanding that there is no perfection and that failure is always part of the journey to success, we will all come to realize that cooperation at all levels of business and life are the keys of success and not raw competition creating dissatisfaction, unhappiness, envy, and greed.

It is important that we come to know who we are and how to use that wisdom to improve our health and levels of happiness.

Rosie writes, “What does it mean to be human? We are divine beings, worthy of being treated as such by each other. We are the only creatures with imagination, a moral compass, and free will. Each one of us has such extraordinary potential that it is hard to conceive of any limits on what we can achieve. Businesses refer to human beings as a resource, but we are not a resource. Human beings are the source, capable of unlimited amounts of caring, creativity, and innovation. But if people are treated as resources, they become that. They get depleted and they burn out, just like lumps of coal. The human seed has never been more potent; people today are more intelligent, more educated, better informed, better connected, and more caring than ever before. But the soil around the human seed remains toxic. Most workplaces do not enable human beings to operate at their peak potential and deliver the gifts they were born to bring to the rest of us. To take the analogy further, we can use seeds in different ways. A seed can simply be used as bird feed, or it can be used to start a whole new forest. Too many of us are being used as bird feed.”

Rosie uses the abbreviation VUCA to explain how businesses have functioned in the past and compare it to how ships function at sea. Businesses have long operated like ships at sea. A single captain is responsible (in name) for everything that happens on the ship; and a small handful of officers oversee key functional areas like navigation, cargo, or propulsion. Meanwhile, a large number of sailors labor away at the day-to-day tasks required to make the ship actually work. However, the seas are “Volatile, Uncertain, Complex, and Ambiguous (also known as VUCA).” Some days, sailing is smooth; but many days, crew and cargo are tossed about the ship as humans work against the awesome power of nature. Sometimes, the VUCA sea even triumphs over the ship, and the sailors are thrown to the mercy of the elements—their only hope is to find a path toward calmer waters or an island that might offer shelter and sustenance.

If there were to be a shipwreck, all the sailors would have to adapt to new experiences and survive in a new way, and work together. But one member of the new-paradigm group stepped forward and called out to the other sailors, suggesting they all work together. After all, everyone shared the same vision of surviving and thriving. This would allow the sailors to create a new fearless environment where they could take a risk and where candor was embraced—and expected, and they would survive and thrive. This is what we must do in the business world: allow our workers to see new possibilities and discard past restrictions that limit individual, personal growth.

This wasn’t about being right; it was about working toward a collective vision to ensure that everyone could thrive in their new surroundings.

Many are observing what seems to be a society in decline. According to Margaret Wheatley, we shouldn’t be surprised. In her book Who Do We Choose to Be?, she describes the pattern of collapse of complex civilizations and suggests that our current dehumanized state is completely predictable. She cites the work of Sir John Glubb who studied thirteen empires all experiencing their decline and fall in the same stages over a two[1]hundred-and-fifty-year period (ten generations). With each stage, there is an increase of materialism; as this happens, morality erodes and the civilization declines into decadence, exhibiting the following characteristics:

Wheatley suggests that our current civilization is in a state of decline. Just look at what is happening in our society with our politics and me-focused celebrity climate. Consequently, we see these characteristics reflected in our workplaces as well; it’s no wonder that we are seeing the ill effects of these dehumanized workplaces.

Sheryl says to Rosie “we are witnessing exactly the above progression of decline in America and perhaps throughout the world.”

We will be seeing the nature of jobs change greatly as technology replaces many people in the workforce so what must we do to combat this trend?

In his 2017 TED Talk, David Lee, VP of Innovation and UPS Ventures at UPS, discusses the role of technology and how it is replacing jobs at a rapid pace. He makes a bold assertion for how we can avoid a jobless future. He suggests we need to take steps now to change the nature of work—to create environments where people love coming to work, and to foster the innovation needed to replace the millions of jobs that will inherently be lost to technology. David believes that the key to doing that is to “rediscover what makes us human and to create a new generation of human-centered jobs that allow us to unlock our hidden talents and passions that we carry with us every day.” He argues that we need to move away from machine-like, task-focused jobs to focus on the skills that people bring to work. However, this new reality can also bring great opportunities. For example, by leveraging technological advances for more machine-like tasks, we can free people to grow, create, and innovate. We need to create the conditions to leverage the creativity and capability that only humans can provide to solve challenges that a VUCA world brings. Besides, “the tolerance” for dehumanized workplaces is shrinking. People are craving better work–life harmony, meaningful and purposeful work, and the ability to show up authentically human. As Erica Keswin writes in her book Bring Your Human to Work, “People are no longer willing to accept work as a soul-crushing, Dilbertesque, cubicled nightmare.” We don’t want to be treated like machines; we want to feel valued as human beings.

Rosie wants readers to take away with them after reading Rehumanizing the Workplace that the good news is that there is a revolution already underway where organizations are operating more like the new-paradigm sailors and breaking the mold of “business as usual.” They are creating psychologically safe work environments and finding success by honoring what it means to be human and putting people first. We are at a tipping point where the old, dehumanized model is rapidly collapsing. A large contributor to this revolution is Conscious Capitalism.

Conscious Capitalism is “part of a growing movement that recognizes the tremendous value and potential of capitalism” and seeks to “elevate this powerful force for potential good to a new level.”9 Conscious Capitalism’s purpose is to elevate humanity through business, recognizing that businesses and their leaders have the potential to do more than just simply make money. In fact, when conducted with a higher level of consciousness, business has an extraordinary potential to create value that does not come at the expense of our own health or the health of our planet. Conscious Capitalism is a rethinking of what business can and should be.

It is changing the narrative of business by anchoring on four key tenets that all work together and reinforce each other:

Sheryl would like to thank Dr. Rosie Ward and co-author Jon Robison of Rehumanizing the Workplace for sharing a clear view of how important the places we spend time in affects our physical, spiritual and emotional development and health. Earning a living simply for money leaves the creative and need to be caring and attentive to all people we interact with out of the equation of the core values or real needs of all human beings. To learn more about creating a working, living loving environment wherever we spend time is the key to living a life of purpose, prosperity and happiness.

In summarizing today’s episode of Healing From Within we have concentrated our attention on learning more about the human dynamics of interaction with others and creating safe healthy work environments not merely for profits but to advance humanity and the evolution of kinder, more creative beings.

We realized that what we’re ultimately called to do is to not just build thriving workplace cultures; that’s an important start. We are called to advocate for humanity. Our purpose is to rehumanize the workplace so that people can bring their best selves to work—and home—each day. Our 7 Points of Transformation blueprint is still an important ingredient for rehumanizing workplaces; and there are so many other facets necessary to have, and advocate for, workplaces that nurture humanity.

Being able to activate and live our purpose also requires us to get clear about our core values—how our behavior helps our purpose be realized. Here is what we created:

Dr. Rosie Ward and Sheryl would have you begin to remember that the changes we are living through at the present moment are an opportunity to return to the wiser more loving simpler values of appreciating life people and the natural resources of our beautiful planet Embracing work home and nature are the way to create a world free of just materialism or greed and begin again to appreciate our human quality of Being safe and happy in all our pursuits of learning and sharing.

Sheryl Glick, host of “Healing From Within,” author of a trilogy and the newest book is A New Life Awaits Spirit Guided Insights to Support Global Awakening and invite you to visit my website to read about and listen to leaders visionaries in the fields of metaphysics science spirituality business psychology medicine and the arts and music to share ways to improve life on all levels individually and collectively. Shows may also be heard on www.webtalkradio.net and www.dreamvisions7radio.com

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Hello and welcome to Healing From Within. I am your host Sheryl Glick Reiki Master Energy Teacher medium and author of the newest book in a trilogy A New Life Awaits: Spirit Guided Insights to Support Global Awakening which shares stories and messages from Spirit showing us soul wisdom. I am delighted to welcome Steven Campbell, author of Making Your Mind Magnificent Flourishing At Any Age.

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As listeners of Healing From Within have become aware of during the many years Sheryl and her amazing guests share a love for understanding human nature, evolution, and Universal Source energy to assist us in finding out more about the truth of our eternal human and divine nature for as we use this awareness to improve ourselves, our communities and find greater passion for living amazing lives filled with unending potential to create rejoice in and love all that is.

In today’s episode of Healing From Within Steven Campbell who spent twenty years in hospital administration and then went on to pursue his greatest love teaching, shares his latest research on how our brains conform to the messages we give it and understanding this reality opens the door to create success in our health, personal relationships and in business. Life becomes so much better!

When Sheryl asks Steven to think back to his childhood and remember a person place or event that might have signaled to him or to others the life he might pursue and the interests work or lifestyle he would create as an adult Steven tells us he became a Christian at ten years of age and had thought he would be a physician but at 19 years old he was in a horrific car accident and his friend died and he was in a body cast for many months. He began to realize his negative self-talk and unhappiness about the situation were doing him harm so he changed that thinking to something positive and began to heal. He met his wife Mary and they have been married for fifty years and he has enjoyed teaching and writing and helping others find great meaning in living lives of purpose and happiness.

Steven tells us why he wrote Making Your Mind Magnificent and how he discovered what will improve life no matter how hard the challenges. Understanding how the brain and self-talk influence everything we create and manifest into our lives is shown by what Steven wrote, “In fact, as recently as 30 years ago, the brain was still considered a “black box” and there was little hope of ever determining how it worked. What has changed? Through the explosion in technology such as Magnetic Resonance Imaging (MRI) and Positron Emission Tomography (PET), we have discovered astonishing insights about the brain and learning. Plus, there are simply more of us studying the brain as well. In 1969, the International Society of Neuroscience had 400 registered neuroscientists. As of 2006, its membership numbered 37,000! Jeri Janowsky, a top memory neuroscientist at Oregon Health Sciences University in Portland, says, “Anything you learned two years ago is already old information…Neuroscience is exploding.”

Why teach how your brain works? Because if you cannot understand your brain, you cannot guide it, so instead of shaping your own life, your brain ends up doing most of the shaping. And then you end up feeling like a victim or passenger in life, instead of the driver of your own distinctive existence and untapped potential. So, through the wonderful discoveries that fill this book, you now have a guidebook in your hand that teaches how to make your mind your greatest motivator and mentor; your wise and trusted counselor and friend. In other words, your brain can now consistently work for you, not against you!”

The human brain remains the most complex structure in the known universe. Eric Kandel is the scientist mostly responsible for determining how the brain changes. For his work, he shared the Nobel Prize in 2000. He showed that when people learn something, the wiring in their brain changes. He demonstrated that acquiring even simple pieces of information involves the physical alteration of the structure of the neurons participating in this process. Talking broadly, these physical changes result in the reorganization of the brain. This is astonishing. The brain is constantly learning things, so the brain is constantly rewiring itself. This is called plasticity, and it is a startling departure from the old concept of the brain as a self-contained, hard-wired unit that learns from a preset, unchangeable set of rules.

Sheryl shares with Steven her fascination in understanding the origins and spiritual nature of psychology as she has always been most fond of Carl Jung along with Sigmund Freud who are the founders of the practice of Psychology. Sheryl goes on to say that Carl Jung was a spiritual psychologist while Freud was more of the physical world and its influence on human behavior. Carl Jung is known to have had a near death experience and as such had a great awareness of higher consciousness and how we are more than our body, mind or physical life, always moving towards awareness and higher consciousness. As a spiritual psychologist he believed you could create change, rewire your thoughts and mind, to create a life of peace, purposefulness and love and did not have to focus as Freud did on only the traumatic imprints during childhood that were rooted in sexual modes of appraising yourself and others. Jung believed in being in the moment and not reliving the past, creating further trauma and staying in the energy of what was now only a memory. Sheryl as a Reiki Master Energy Teacher during a healing session helps through the channeled energy that flows from her to others to release blockages, fears, false thinking and trauma to remember the depth of our magnificent soul energy and our magnificent potential to create life in any way our thoughts allow.

Steven shares with us that “Your brain believes what you tell it.”

We have learned two primary principles. They are:

The brain consists of two parts: the conscious and subconscious mind.

The conscious mind is easiest to understand because we are aware of it all day long. One of its functions is called perception through your senses—sight, taste, touch, smell, and hearing. However, you store this information on the subconscious level, not the conscious..

We do NOT record the actual event, but OUR version of the event, and then we call it the “truth”—not “our” truth, but “the” truth. We think that what we experience must be the way life really is. You say, “I see the way life really is!” And I say “No…I see the way life really is!” We’re both wrong;

We behave and act not according to the truth, but the truth as we believe it to be! Let’s me say it again: We behave and act not according to the truth, but the truth as we believe it to be

It seems we have Infinite numbers of self-images.The brain is an amazingly subtle and sensitive pattern-detecting apparatus. It detects, constructs, and elaborates patterns as a basic, built-in, natural function. It does not have to be taught or motivated to do so, any more than the heart needs to be instructed or coaxed to pump blood.

You will want to remember this information forever, because it will have a significant effect on your success as a person who is growing, and a life-long learner. When we look at something, our eyes do not recognize it. That is not their job. Their job is simply to perceive light bouncing off of objects. That light is then sent to the brain, and the brain must then go to work. If I were to display before you a coffee pot, or a paint brush, you would instantly recognize them effortlessly. However, you were not born knowing what these objects are. You learned what they were sometime between your birth and the present. All learning has taken place in the same way.

Steven gives the following example to show how this works, “Let’s look at one isolated illustration to understand the steps it takes to do so. It is Only an Image We raised our two daughters in Rohnert Park, a little enclave 50 miles north of San Francisco. As a result, when they were young, my daughters had no clear concept of what was meant by the word city. Their brains knew about the ‘city.’ Absolutely nothing. They started with a clean slate. If my wife or I tell them that a city is a place where many people live close together, they may fail to see why Rohnert Park is not a city. If they visit San Francisco, they will be impressed by the Golden Gate Bridge, traffic noise, the tall buildings, and all the stores. A trip to the shopping center may also impress them as being a city, since they experience crowded sidewalks, many stores, and our multiplex theatre. Yet Rohnert Park is definitely not a city.

To clarify their concept of the ‘city,’ let’s imagine that I sit with our daughters when they are six and three and read them a book about the city. When I do, their brain records this reading (because it records everything) as an ‘image.’ If they watch Sesame Street, the brain records another image Now if that is all I do because I have erroneously decided that a book and Sesame Street should be sufficient to learn about the city, the brain will keep these images for a while, but over time they will become more and more fuzzy, and they will not become a part of my daughters’ long-term memory. In other words, they will not be learned. As a result, if I ask them to explain a city after I read the book to them, or we watch Sesame Street together, they will be able to explain very little. From an Image to a Pattern However, in addition to the book and Sesame Street, let’s imagine that we provide them with many other experiences regarding a city.

All of these experiences provide input.

In time, the brain begins to see relationships among the images. There were buildings in the image of a book, just as there were buildings in the image of Sesame Street. It therefore lays down an actual connection (called neural connections) involving axons, dendrites, and synapses—the components of a neuron—between the image of a book and the image of Sesame Street

We learn where our self-images come from. We behave and act not according to the truth, but the truth as we believe it to be. This “truth” is based on how we see ourselves. This “truth” about ourselves is wrapped up in our self-image, of which we have thousands, all stored in our subconscious. The brain is an amazingly sensitive pattern-detecting apparatus that detects, constructs, and elaborates patterns as a basic, built-in, natural function. It does not have to be taught or motivated to do so, any more than the heart needs to be instructed or coaxed to pump blood.

Thinking is really a process of “Making sense of the world.” It is your brain’s attempt to make sense of the mass of information that reaches you throughout the day through what you hear, smell, taste, touch, and feel.

Learning takes place in this chaotic world incessantly and in each individual in a purely individual way. We all learn differently, so comparing ourselves to others is not only silly, but unrealistic. My world is incredibly different from yours

Virtually all of our feelings come from personal evaluations. For instance, a statement such as “Dr. Smith is my personal physician” is simply a fact, with no evaluations or feelings attached. However, “I am glad that Dr. Smith is my personal physician” is more than a fact; it is an evaluation, and this evaluation causes feelings. So, “I regret that Dr. Smith is my personal physician” or “I love Dr. Smith being my personal physician” are all evaluations, and all of these trigger feelings.

Some feelings obviously are quite strong, others not strong at all. In fact, the strength or feebleness of your feelings can be theoretically scaled, where 0 percent means that you have no feelings at all about Dr. Smith being your personal physician, where you feel that “Dr. Smith must be my personal physician or you feel that you will absolutely die!” The feelings which land around the middle of this theoretical scale are called preferences; you could describe these as “appropriate and reasonable.” For instance, “I like Dr. Smith being my personal physician” is a certainly appropriate and reasonable. In contrast, “Dr. Smith must be my personal physician or I feel I’ll absolutely die!” seems rather extreme. It is close to the top of the scale, and is no longer “appropriate and reasonable.” In other words, preferences can become demands when their strength reaches the top. When this happens, the “musts” and “shoulds” can cause some problems

A key to healthy thinking is to realize that having preferences, even strong preferences, is perfectly normal. It is one of the traits of being human. However, turning them to demands puts undue stress in our lives. In fact, the majority of emotional problems arise when individuals believe that something or other MUST be, or not be 100 percent.

Earlier in the show we discovered how Steven helped himself heal after a bad car accident by learning to Control or Change his Self-Talk and indeed improve the content of our thoughts and actions so we can change difficult situations or challenges improving ourselves and our lives.

In learning to change your Self-Talk you will discover that what we believe about ourselves is far more important than what we do. It is for this reason that all meaningful and lasting growth must start on the inside…with our mind. And we have just learned that your brain has almost limitless potential for change and growth…and the more we discover about its capacity, the more we are able to use it as our motivator. So…your very simple assignment is to immediately throw away any notions that you are too old, or too young, or too uneducated, or too stuck in your ways to change. You can grow and change as much as you want to! How exciting!!! We no longer need to think of ourselves as limited in terms of how much we can learn, grow, and change. We simply need to know how to do so.

Change Is so hard because the brain is wired to not change. Learning usually takes time and does not happen overnight. Change takes time to adapt so be careful about listening to your brain’s thoughts. When your brain whispers little innuendos such as, “I am too old” or “I am too slow,” it could usually not be further from the truth. It is simply trying to make sense out of what it has been given, and when it does not make sense, it becomes very defensive. However, because learning can at times take so much time, it sometimes becomes very impatient. When this happens, it often feels “slow” or “dim” or “thick.” We all learn differently, so never compare how you learn with someone else. In large part, how we learn is based on what we already know. Many negative thoughts come in every day and we must learn to dismiss or delete them and embrace only that which we think will bring us an outcome we would benefit by.

Steven tells us of self-images. Every one of the thousands of self-images you have was learned; you were not born with them. Most of them were based on three elements:

What others said to you, how others reacted to you, and what you have said to yourself (i.e., your own self-talk). And as we have learned in this book, the brain accepts all of these unquestionably as the absolute truth.

But you now want more than that. You want to choose how you see yourself. You now want to proactively create your own self-images, rather than wait around for others to tell you who you are and what you can or cannot do. It is for this reason that what we believe about ourselves is far more important than you could possibly imagine. And it is also for this reason that all meaningful and lasting growth must start on the inside…with how you see yourself…with your self-images.

Let’s again review the Principles that show us how.

Principle 1: Your brain is a literal mechanism that accepts what you tell it without argument. This first principle is the foundation of everything that follows. However, with every principle there are both positive and negative elements, the negative is that when you say “I can’t do that!” your brain not only agrees, it blocks out possibilities for you to “do that.” That’s the negative. When you say you can do something, your brain agrees just as quickly. Not only that, it also provides the creativity and the energy to get it done.

The first step then to creating new self-images is to know this: Whatever you tell yourself about yourself and your capabilities, the brain accepts without argument.

Principle 2: Your brain fastens onto what you deem as important. This is another principle of such importance that if it was not true, what follows would be no good to you.

Principle 3 : Our feelings come from what we believe which comes from how we were raised.

One of Steven’s favorite stories in this book is the one about the young boy learning to ride his first bicycle. If you remember, just before his father lets him go on his first ride, he points out a rock 50 feet ahead, and warns, “Now don’t run into that rock!” The little boy agrees, and with his hands clinging to the handle bars, he begins peddling like mad with his eyes fastened on the rock so he won’t run into it. And what happens? BAM! Right into the rock!

Our brains are the same way. Rather than the rock, however, our brains continually hone in on the pictures in your life that you deem as the most important. Our brains are like a guided missile continually correcting itself to follow that strongest target. And what are those targets? They are our own self-images.

This is one of the many reasons why change is so difficult. Some of the strongest pictures in your life are the way you see yourself right now, wrapped up in the thousands of self-images you already have. We must create new self-images in order to continue writing our fabulous life stories. The possibilities are infinite.

We can change the way we think and it goes back to your self-talk. Learning to be optimistic is not a rediscovery of the “power of positive thinking.” It does not consist of simply saying positive things about everything. In fact, in the decades that Dr. Seligman and his colleagues have been doing their research and working with their clients, they have found that simply making positive statements to yourself has little, if any, effect. What is crucial is what you say to yourself when you fail. In fact, changing all those destructive messages we often give ourselves after experiencing setbacks is the central skill behind learning optimism

We thank Steven Campbell for showing us how to use new brain science to transform life, end negative thinking, improve focus and clarity and make our daily life experiences more positive, productive, and happier.

In summarizing today’s episode of Healing From Within Steven Campbell author of Making Your Mind Magnificent has described and helped us learn how our mind works and the secret to success and happiness in life which is found inside your brain or in the thinking you create as you mature and realize the personal power to create your own thoughts and realities. Based on the science of cognitive psychology we have discovered how to end negative thinking while increasing positive thinking, how to solve problems more easily, how to use the power of affirmations and self -talk to improve results, and how to experience a growing sense of confidence and improved self-image.

Steven would like us to remember how self- images are created and how they can be changed for greater efficacy and a more fulfilling life journey.

Steven writes, “You began this book to change how you see yourself, change some of the things you do, change some habits you have, and change you. You have discovered, however, that your mind often becomes your greatest obstacle. In fact, its job is to keep you from changing; to keep you in your comfort zone; to keep you where you are. And yet—and this is the enigma—your mind is the most satisfied, excited and creative when you are changing! ……Every one of the thousands of self-images you have was learned; you were not born with them. Most of them were based on three elements: What others said to you, how others reacted to you, and what you have said to yourself (i.e., your own self-talk). And as we have learned in this book, the brain accepts all of these unquestionably as the absolute truth. But you now want more than that. You want to choose how you see yourself. You now want to proactively create your own self-images, rather than wait around for others to tell you who you are and what you can or cannot do. It is for this reason that what we believe about ourselves is far more important than you could possibly imagine. And it is also for this reason that all meaningful and lasting growth must start on the inside…with how you see yourself…with “your” self-images

Steven and Sheryl would have you remember that allowing accepting surrendering to all aspects or challenges in your life begins with your perceptions, awareness and growing higher consciousness of Self and how we are all connected and similar in wanting to live a happy productive life. Our mind, our thoughts, our self -image and our desire to grow are the keys to using our mind and thoughts most effectively. It can be done as we think and act in more positive ways, accept ourselves, allow for change, and we grow aware of the magnificent souls we have always been.

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Welcome to “Healing From Within.” I am your host Sheryl Glick Reiki Master Energy Teacher and author of A New Life Awaits Spirit Guided Insights to Support Global Awakening which shares stories and messages from Spirit that show us our problems are not merely economic political or societal but a disconnection from our true being or soul wisdom. Today I welcome Dr. Aida Harvey Wingfield author of Flatlining focusing on the processes that maintain racial and gender inequality in professional workplaces. We are now in the greatest spiritual evolution of human development and perhaps, the time to correct past inequalities is finally here.

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As listeners or “Healing From Within” well know, my esteemed guests and I share intimate awareness of how spiritual life and physical life offer opportunities to recognize our inner potential to thrive beyond the problems of a three -dimensional physical reality and to claim our soul right to live purposeful happy and healthy lives as we learn more about who we are, and how to live in balance and harmony, improve ourselves, our communities, and our world.

In today’s episode of “Healing From Within” Dr. Adia Harvey Wingfield a Professor of Sociology at Washington University at St. Louis, Missouri will discuss how the problem of inequality and gender disparity has been here long before Covid19 though the pandemic has magnified it as it has many problems in our institutions and corporations. What happens to black professionals in the new economy, where work is insecure and organizational resources are scarce? Dr. Wingfield will expose how institutions participate in “racial outsourcing,” relying heavily on black professionals to do “equity work,”—extra labor that makes organizations and their services more accessible to communities of color. Yet. often black workers do this labor without recognition, compensation or support.

Dr. Wingfield’s book Flatlining is an analysis of race, gender, work, and inequality in contemporary society. As organizations struggle with their attempts to maximize racial diversity while seeking greater profit margins, their actions have consequences for the black professionals they employ. These outcomes include but are not limited to specific forms of additional, racialized labor; ambivalent or distant relationships with white colleagues; and valiant personal efforts to change and undermine institutionalized racism. This book highlights how both the work black professionals do and the organizational shifts that drive it have far-reaching implications for a society that continues to struggle with reconciling race, work, and opportunity, and it offers ideas for how organizations can resolve some of these issues,

Dr. Wingfield tells us that in many ways, the story of contemporary work is a story of “what is” versus “what used to be.” We hear laments over the loss of “what used to be” when politicians and policy makers talk about “growing the economy,” the importance of “saving middle-class jobs,” and of late, the need to “make America great again.” When these parties make these claims, they are referring to a time when, for white men, the unemployment rate was low; labor force participation rates were very high; work was consistent, stable, and pretty readily available; workplaces were hierarchically organized; and companies paid wages that offered a middle-class standard of living (often on only one income). Workers could easily spend their entire careers with one company that provided decent benefits. While there was a disparity between workers’ earnings and that of the head of the company, it was typically not astronomical. Despite what politicians like to tell us, those days are over.

Starting in the 1970s, wages began to flatten and ceased to keep pace with productivity. What this means is that even as workers continue to produce results, wages have not kept pace with their efforts. Simultaneously, gains from workers’ labor have increasingly gone to very highly placed managers and CEOs (Bivens and Mishel 2015). The US economy, then, is left with record levels of income inequality and limited social mobility (Piketty, Saez, and Zucman 2016). This disparity not only has left a large segment of the population economically insecure but also has helped lay the groundwork for major crises such as the housing crash of 2008, the recession that followed, and the looming student loan debt bubble.

What drives this growing inequality? A significant factor is the neoliberal ideology that became more dominant in the 1970s and 1980s. Neoliberalism, loosely defined, advocates for the primacy of unfettered markets that are neither subject to nor shaped by government regulations. It prizes individualism over collective action, advocates increasing financialization and privatization, and endorses the maximization of profits and shareholder value. Neoliberal agendas encourage limiting the role of the state and promoting austerity measures in order to push for unlimited free market competition.

When policy makers decry government regulations, tout the benefits of tax cuts for the wealthy, attempt to prevent workers from collective bargaining, divert corporate profits to stockholders before (or instead of) workers, and seek to shrink or privatize the public sector, this is neoliberalism in action. With the rise of neoliberalism, major changes in work, organizations and industry followed. Collective bargaining has taken a massive hit, with clear consequences for workers. Whereas in the early 1970s, a quarter of all workers were unionized, by 2016 just over one in ten were. This is significant because the decline in unionization has had a marked impact on workers’ ability to pressure management for greater compensation (Rosenfeld 2013). One result of this wage stagnation and union decline is increased economic inequality between most workers and those at the very top of the economic scale

Dr. Wingfield tells us, “Organizations have also changed in ways that facilitate greater inequality. While they once were strictly hierarchical, they now are flatter and allow workers to be more self-directed. These are organizations that have fewer levels of middle management between executives and staff and, thus, require more independent, unsupervised work—think Google, LinkedIn, and Health Care, Work, and Racial Outsourcing other companies in Silicon Valley that encourage employees to work in ways that allow them to be their most productive. This means workers can have greater autonomy and more control over their career paths than was true for employees in the past.

Organizations now expect workers to be nimbler and more flexible, to change jobs more frequently rather than devoting their entire career to a company, and to take greater responsibility for moving into and out of jobs, organizations, or even the workforce itself. In tandem with giving workers more autonomy, however, organizations also assume much less responsibility for employees than they have in the past.”

Sheryl says Biden and his administration are intent on having diversity and inclusion in all action they take. However, “Meritocracy” is still is a necessary ingredient in appointing the best people, not only because they feel the need to have all races genders represented for social justice purposes but making clear minded and fair action in selecting the right people for the job based on qualifications and talent, not necessary because they are part of certain designated and favored groups of individuals or minorities. Meritocracy seems to be taking a back seat to his appointments. We will have to see how this will all work out.

A few decades after the civil rights movement, however, professional organizations began to heed the call to bring more practitioners of color into the industry. The predominantly white American Medical Association and other organizations now publicly concede, in response to active, consistent pressure from organizations like the predominantly black National Medical Association, that there is a need to attract more practitioners of color. They advocate adopting a racial realism perspective in health care—the view that in some cases, workers of color bring special skills and talents, making greater diversity a concrete benefit . Because of a long history of racism in the medical profession, black doctors and nurses may be more likely than their white peers to engender trust and positive relationships with their black patients, as many patients prefer to see, and respond better to, doctors who share their racial background . As the country stands to become a majority minority nation, the medical population needs to include more doctors of color to serve this more diverse patient population effectively

Dr. Wingfield addresses what she feels needs to change in corporations to start mining different internal spaces for promotion. Perhaps, like in postwar America, organizations might shoulder hefty retirement and medical costs associated with labor, but today these are considered “externality costs” that cut into an organization’s bottom line (Acker 2006). Companies now shift these costs back to employees, who are increasingly responsible for greater shares of their own retirement and health care costs. This allows corporations to boost profits and is consistent with broader norms that now cast labor as a cost to be cut rather than an important investment. These organizational changes have dramatically restructured the way work is done. It now is much more insecure and contingent.

Sheryl suggests that, “Perhaps the bottom line and profits are not as important as taking care of your employees and treating everyone as family.

Perhaps meritocracy and reward for hard work and not diversity alone or trying to make everyone equal which really can never be accomplished for as unique souls we have individual talents and limitations which can affect the quality of life for ourselves and others. Still again in learning acceptance and working cooperatively everyone has a way to pool their resources for the common good which would improve many of the situations being discussed today.

Health care is one of the issues in the need for healing and is an extremely integral part of improving life for all people and for achieving a level of fairness in caring for all our citizens. In the past companies began to offer health benefits to attract workers. This began the trend of linking health care to employment, but it is important to reiterate that these benefits were not widely shared. Organizations began to assume some responsibility for the increasing costs of health care at a time when the workers who could take advantage of this were, owing to employment discrimination, mostly white men. Women of all races, and particularly women of color, faced overt, systemic discrimination that left them underrepresented in jobs that included health care benefits, forcing them to shoulder these costs on their own or rely on a partner’s coverage if available (Branch 2011). Problems with the health care system continued over the latter half of the twentieth century.

Thus, lawmakers were able to pass legislation intended to expand access to care, address rising costs, and increase the number of providers trained to give care. Unfortunately for many Americans, health care still remained tied to work. These changes helped but did not provide a panacea. In the 1970s, factors like inflation, high Medicare costs, and the growing use of technology in medicine meant that costs continued to spiral. At the same time, the number of the uninsured also continued to grow.

Thus, lawmakers were able to pass legislation intended to expand access to care, address rising costs, and increase the number of providers trained to give care. Unfortunately for many Americans, health care still remained tied to work. These changes helped but did not provide a panacea. In the 1970s, factors like inflation, high Medicare costs, and the growing use of technology in medicine meant that costs continued to spiral. At the same time, the number of the uninsured also continued to grow. Today, health care has morphed into a sharply tiered system that is profoundly unequal and in which care is highly commodified. For those who are well off and can afford private insurance, there are extensive treatment options, preventative care, and highly sought-after specialists. For those who cannot afford this, care in the poorly funded, under-resourced public sector is often the only option.

In an increasingly multiracial society, the premise of collective responsibility that underlies the ACA means that wealthy white families will be called upon to show some level of economic, political, and social support for poor black, Asian, and Latino communities. Thus, basing this legislation on the belief that “we’re all in this together” means, in practice, that whites must see racial minorities as people with whom they share not just a fundamental connection, but also a sense of responsibility. Projections that America will become a majority minority nation by 2044 mean that this prospect of mutual connectivity is no longer an abstract hypothetical. Rather, as the US rapidly grows blacker, browner, and more Asian, this collective orientation suggests that these groups are entitled to the benefits of inclusion that they had previously been denied, and that this may call for some sacrifices by white communities

Sheryl says “As a Reiki Master Energy Teacher and formerly a teacher in the New York City schools working in minority communities it is impossible to end racism or foster acceptance of all people as long as the focus is on the differences and not the similarities of all humans. By Identity Politics and separating people into groups according to race, religion or gender or sexual preference you are creating negativity and divisiveness. Segregation, War, Limiting people by class or economic differences, is the real inequality and has been encouraged throughout every society, not only in America. So in order to end racism, we really do need to accept each person as they are, not as government or certain political groups playing the racist or gender card seem to do, and which many people in society deem acceptable. That energy of acceptance and love will heal many of the worst problems we now face. As long as we focus on describing people as black brown women of color Jew or any other label which are blatantly racist, we will never make it right.

In Sheryl’s book A New Life Awaits addressing the labeling and false identification of an individual she wrote, “It goes back to our present-day views of what is important to us materially or spiritually and how society either values or devalues basic human decency. Everywhere we are assigned designations or labels: boy or girl, rich or poor, beautiful or ugly, smart or unintelligent. I feel labeling a situation or a person in this way—or with either an illness or a mental or social disorder other than to help them receive the services they need— might be detrimental. Labeling will set them on a path that is unalterable and will allow fewer opportunities. Our physical life, mind, and ego are obsessed and defined by labels and descriptions of who we think we are based on the perceptions of others, and buying into this thinking makes us forget our inner soul presence and needs.

At no time in my life have I heard more negativity, name-calling, and labeling than in the 2016 Presidential Election campaign. I was quite amazed by people who had achieved so much but who had declined in spiritual values, as evidenced in the way they handled policy and communication of their views about the important plans for the country. Several candidates, party members, and the media wasted so much time and Life –on accentuating personality flaws and attacking past indiscretions. But perhaps the stakes were huge. Corruption and mismanagement of the government by many misguided politicians were now even more overwhelmingly apparent, so a new leader dedicated to restoring the nation to life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness for all needed to be chosen. We needed a new vision and a tough leader to address the many problems our nation and world faced!’

Adia and Sheryl discuss that perhaps understanding her breakdown of inequity in business first will eventually lead to a deeper view of life as all individuals are connected by energy and a common divine purpose to cooperate and live in harmony and balance.

Understanding how America is different from any other nation in the world shows us our unique set of circumstances and how to work with them to improve conditions. Perhaps no conservative made this case against the ACA and for the AHCA more clearly than former Representative Joe Walsh. In a May 2017 conversation between Walsh and MSNBC commentator Ali Velshi, Velshi pointed out that health care outcomes, as a whole, in the US healthcare system rank last relative to those of other industrialized nations. Walsh replied, “You can’t compare the rest of the world to us. They do not have the big diverse populations that we have. They do not have the inner city populations that we have. . . . Sweden does not have our inner- city population. Norway, these countries do not have—you’re talking about countries the size of India with homogenous populations. You can’t compare them to what we have.”4 Contrasting the health care systems of Norway and Sweden, with their predominantly white populations, to the health care system of the US, with its “inner-city populations,” Walsh made clear that part of the reason why a more collective orientation to health care would not work is that it would necessarily require whites to be comfortable with their tax dollars paying for a health care system that, in part, supported minority communities. In this framing, then, the ACA involved a black president requiring hardworking white populations to pay for health care for “diverse,” “inner-city” populations whose expensive health care outcomes stem from a failure to lead “good lives.”

What do these divides mean for work in the public sector, which disproportionately services patients of color? To assess this, it is important to explore just how this arena has changed over the past few decades. It used to be that the public sector provided viable employment options that offered black professionals stable work and economic security. Yet in the post–civil rights era, as black workers gained more access to jobs in this sphere that could provide middle-class status and upward mobility, legislators and policy makers began to decry the public sector, characterizing it as a bloated site of wasteful spending that inhibited free enterprise

Privatization followed shortly thereafter. Furthermore, it had the intended effect of shrinking the public sector, where black professionals had been earning comfortable incomes that met or even exceeded the wages their black counterparts earned in the private sector This trend reverses racial and economic progress that had been occurring in the aftermath of the civil rights movement, and creates downward economic mobility for black workers who had previously had access to stable employment and wage parity via public sector.

After reading Flatlining Race Work and Healthcare in the New Economy hopefully readers will become aware of inequality or racist behaviors are definitely improving across this nation and as this nation sets the standards for the free world perhaps it will improve in many other nations.

Yet this point should not be taken to suggest that diversity policies, broadly speaking, have yielded no gains whatsoever. Clearly not every organization places so little emphasis on improving racial and gender diversity. In 2016, in response to the highly publicized police shootings of the unarmed black men Alton Sterling and Philando Castile, PricewaterhouseCoopers’s CEO, Tim Ryan, initiated Color Brave, a series of open, informal workplace discussions about race and racism that address these issues head-on. In other companies, affinity groups—collectives

Dr. Wingfield argues that when organizations wrestle with determining how best to reach diverse communities while, at the same time, trying to maximize market values and minimize the resources they devote to labor, this leads to a process I term racial outsourcing. Racial outsourcing occurs when organizations fail to do the work of transforming their culture, norms, and workforces to reach communities of color and instead rely on black professionals for this labor. As a result, I contend, black professionals do equity work, which I define as the various forms of labor associated with making organizations more accessible to minority communities. Equity work is driven by black professionals’ experiences with workplace racism and shaped by gender and occupational status, so that black men and black women workers in various occupations do this work differently. In some cases, equity work is explicitly mandated by organizations; in others, it is a result of the racial solidarity many black professionals bring to their work.

But ultimately, both racial outsourcing and equity work represent new mechanisms of racial inequality, where organizations abdicate the responsibility for creating diverse institutions and, instead, rely on black professionals to make the institutions and their services available to an increasingly minority population organized around common bonds of race, gender, LGBTQIA status, or other categories—can offer critical social support in settings where these members are underrepresented

Sheryl says that her son has mentioned he is aware of underrepresentation in the corporate structure and that needs to improve as it is and as it will and if we all work as a human spiritual force for fairness and what’s righteous, we might eventually be able to have our focus on the best within ourselves and end prejudice judgement: allowing for equality in the workplace, not allowing any one group to do all the work. Cooperation over competition has always been the key to success on so many levels.

We thank you Dr. Adia Harvey Wingfield, author of Flatlining for tackling a topic which is clearly not well understood by government corporate education facilities where the real changes on the conversations on race must go to begin to heal and unify the nation as a whole.

In summarizing today’s episode of “Healing From Within” we have attempted to tackle generations of understanding the need in American industries and government to work with African American business people to advance equity in as many workplaces as possible.

Dr. Wingfield writes, “I conclude Flatlining by reiterating my central argument: in the modern work world, organizations engage in racial outsourcing, leaving black professionals to do the equity work of connecting organizations to communities of color. While this process does not render black professionals as economically disadvantaged as their poor or working-class counterparts, it still has adverse consequences. Namely, it creates disappointment and disillusionment with how organizations treat minority communities; leads to racial isolation from white colleagues; and perhaps most importantly, leaves black professionals shouldering the added responsibility of making organizations more accessible and available to communities of color in an increasingly multiracial society. This book identifies racial outsourcing and equity work as new mechanisms of racial inequality for blacks in professional settings. I also use the conclusion to address the implications of this research in three areas. I discuss what these results tell us about the ways health care, as it adjusts to the organizational changes of the modern era, does so through racial, gendered, and classed practices. Following this, I consider what implications my findings may have for black professionals working in other fields. I conclude the book with an assessment of how we can use the results of this research to change workplaces to become better equipped to meet the needs of an increasingly multiracial America.

Adia and I would have those whose hearts are open no matter race socio- economic level. gender or religion stop thinking in terms of differences and begin to see the world and America most especially as a land of transformation and transcendence…a place where light replaces darkness, love replaces hatred, and fairness, kindness and love become emotions and behaviors that speak to everyone and bring harmony, balance and justice for ALL.

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Welcome to Healing From Within with your host Sheryl Glick RMT Reiki Master Teacher soul energy healer, medium, and author of her new book in a trilogy A New Life Awaits Spirit Guide Insights to Support Global Awakening which shares stories and messages from Spirit that show us our challenges on Earth are not merely economic political societal but a disconnect from our true being or soul wisdom. I am delighted to welcome Sam Yau, author of Soul’s Journey, a beautiful collection of poetry that shares the essence of spiritual and physical life as a way to evolve, heal and find happiness by knowing the” truth of life” as this knowledge offers possibilities for completeness and love. The book is beautifully illustrated by Olena Zarakevich with color and intensity that restores working through the chakra energy system for healing and well being as well as Sam’s words which remind us of the true nature of eternal life.

As listeners of Healing From Within are well aware Sheryl and her insightful and amazing guests share intimate stories that awaken the quiet voice of soul within to remember more fully the true nature of spiritual beings having a physical life and how all in dimensions of life, both on earth and beyond we seek to refine energy and grow in higher vibrations of love and compassion as through the challenges of a three dimensional life, we learn to create our lives with purpose and dedication to the changes necessary for all life to thrive.

In today’s episode of Healing from Within we will discover the thoughts and encouragement provided in Sam Yau’s poetry that help foster personal and collective growth. Poetry is a special type of writing that deals with the deepest part of our emotions and spiritual awareness and can bring a great opening of the heart and soul.

Usually events in our lives guide us to our spiritual path and encourage us to use our gifts of art writing music to share the messages from Spirit into the world. What may have been an event or challenge that made Sam’s spiritual writing more important to him?

Sam wrote “In 2016, my son Ryan killed himself with a bullet through his brain. The moment I heard the news I knew my life was changed forever. To grieve, I retreated into seclusion. All my interests at that time dropped away. For more than 20 years, I had been on a journey of personal and spiritual growth. I always knew that I am a spirit. With Ryan’s death, and my desire to be close to him, simply knowing that I am a soul was no longer enough. One day, a question was stuck in my mind that would not go away. What if I live as a soul in human clothes, rather than as a human who has a soul. That pondering set in motion a startling inversion of priority. Asking my soul that question with persistence and commitment catapulted me into a surprising journey that I could not have imagined just a few years ago. I received clear messages from Ryan and uncanny sources to write poems. I had never written a serious poem in my life. But my soul’s whisper was unceasing. With a series of synchronicities and chance encounters, new friends became the angels in my poetry journey. The calling was unmistakable. I surrendered.”

One of Sheryl’s favorite poems in the book reads as follows:

The day you were born, you were given four gifts: self-awareness, free will, an ego, and forgetfulness.
Who animates your heartbeat, activates your breath, comforts you when you are sad,
celebrates with you when you are joyful, shines light through your darkest days, surprises you with joy in your deepest sorrow?
Who awes you with the sun’s first beam that pierces the hilltop, the sunset cloud that sprays golden rays, the wind that waves the green wheat field, the glint that bounces on a blanket of white snow?
Who nudges you to seek meaning and purpose, expand your circle of love, arrive at the unity in diversity, find your way back to Source?
You surge from the ocean of awareness as a desire of the Divine to experience Itself as the unique you: one strand of the infinite glory and variety of Its creations.
You are a wave rising up to the beautiful dance of life, remerging into eternity

Sheryl was asked to write an endorsement to Sam Yau’s book which came at a moment in her life where she needed to validate her own beliefs of eternal life and Sheryl shares what she wrote so perhaps our listeners will see what Sam and I believe to be true: life is not random and miracles are being given to us in so many ways to help us move through the most challenging moments of life we all experience.

Sheryl wrote “Sam Yau in his infinite beautiful creative and truthful vision of soul eternal life in his new book Soul’s Journey has moved my saddened heart and validates with his poetry and Olena Zavakevych’s artwork what lives within me: an uncompromising spirit of unconditional love for nature man and spirit. This week I sadly buried my younger sister and God in his infinite wisdom sent me this powerful book of love in poetic form to brighten my day and remember my sister lives beyond this physical world. She was a poet and artist also. Sam wrote, “May I cross the bridge between realms. I am a soul. I was never born. I will never die. Love will never end. May I live with awareness of veiled truths while shrouded in human form.” This book shares a message of awareness of the depth of our being that all readers may benefit from. Sheryl Glick Host of Internet Radio Show “Healing from Within” Energy Soul Healer/Medium www.sherylglick.com

Sheryl says….The other day I said to a client that we all come from star dust in the universe and your poem Unity in Diversity clearly shares what I was trying to express as over the many years of receiving messages from souls in Spirit which I can only describe as a language of poetry beauty and being in a place of complete peacefulness and calm when I receive these downloads of loving intention to shed light on the true nature of life here on earth and beyond which is expressed in what you wrote,

Fourteen billion years ago, you and I were born of stardust from the explosive expansion of the singularity.

We shared 99.9% of our genes, co-evolved with all of life in this rich biosphere of amazing beauty and diversity.

Formless divinity preceded the creation of form, imbued it with — and enveloped it in— infinite love, buried a spark in each of us, a light to guide us to our source, which is how the human mind discovers the elegant simplicity of mathematics that hold the secrets of the universe, which is how the human heart knows we are deeply connected— to all humanity, to our divine origin, to our collective imagination and manifestation of our future— in a glorious web.

Let’s rejoice in uniqueness, the intimacy in sameness, the admiration of difference. Each of us, a star shining in the tapestry of galaxies in the celestial dome

When asked to tell us of any authors or mentors who have awakened a greater understanding of himself or what it is he finds most wonderful in life

Sam tells us , “My verses, together with the love from my friends and family, have healed me. My poetic musings clarified, distilled, deepened and ingrained the essence of past spiritual experiences onto my being. As I sculpted my poems, my poems were sculpturing me at the same time. Writing poetry has become a most joyous and uplifting spiritual practice for me. The soul’s journey is one that discovers the true nature of the Divine and each soul is love itself. Peeling off all layers of reality, only awareness and love remain. My poems have healed and transformed me, by sharing them I hope they will heal and inspire others.”

Sheryl says It seems we are all being called to remember who we are and what the purpose of a physical life is all about and ultimately in one way or another, the soul responds to its heart’s needs and surrenders life in its most painful ways as it seeks to know the beauty of eternal life. Some need to leave life early and rejoin the others in Spirit at a time and in a way that they planned long before they incarnated into this lifetime and place. For their loved ones left here in life to complete their own soul’s mission, they actually may have helped them to find their life purpose and redefine their courage, by allowing accepting and surrendering to sometimes the most horrific events and pain. But out of suffering comes greater love and awareness, and a higher consciousness of the real beauty of each person’s soul, never perfect but with the capacity to create greater compassion through the challenges of a physical life. We are all fragile and can only heal through our experiences if all experiences are seen as either good or bad: just experience. Then we can begin to accept anything and grow from it in reflection and by allowing us to learn.

Sam Yau might like readers to take away with them after reading Soul’s Journey. What is in his poem Inner Garden is a thought Sheryl shared with her granddaughter Samantha from the time she was so little and when Grandmama asked Sam as everyone but Sheryl calls her, W do you wish for? ” Samantha answered, wistfully, ” I don’t know.” A week later while flying high into the air on a swing she answered me, “I just want to be happy.” and I told her something very similar to what’s written so beautifully in your poem Inner Garden.

There was a time you worried people would not be kind, life would deal you a bad hand. There is a garden inside of you. You are its sole caretaker.

You can plant flowers of love. You can sow seeds of wisdom.

When your garden is safe, your world is safe.
When it is beautiful, your world is beautiful.
When it is peaceful, you become a peacemaker.
Your happiness comes from within, no one can take it away from you.
When you are full inside, you see the half-full world and fill it.
You see the best in others, so they show their best to you.
People will be drawn to you, events will coalesce into what you envision.
Your outer journey takes you to the four corners of the earth.
Your inner one traverses across the universe. There is no outside world. Every time you look outward, it is a projection.
Tend your garden well.
Live inside-out.
The world you experience is within you.

We thank you Sam Yau for sharing from deep within your soul’s remembrance the quiet truth and drive to find peace and happiness and share with the world your spiritual gift of awakening so that others may move past childhood family or world traumas and live in the warmth and pleasantness of better thoughts actions and reactions and build heaven on earth through sheer perseverance for kindness and goodness which is at the heart of all soul’s awaren

In summarizing today’s episode of Healing From Within Sam and Sheryl have tried to convey the feelings emotions traumas suffering of life as well as the beauty joy love of a child a sunset a remembrance of our soul’s eternal nature…feelings bringing us to our physical world of constant change and upheaval, of loss and sadness, but then the reemergence and remembrance that one day we will join our beloved sons and daughters, teachers, angels, and higher vibrational beings, as life and love eternal when we truly experience in both the physical and divine realms that which helps us begin to know that all experience is neither good or bad, but needed as a way to share constant creative awareness and higher consciousness.

Unblemished by Sam Yau Listen as Sam shares the truthful messages of Spirit through his heart and mind that reflect a lifetime of discovering Who We All Are?

Do not cry when I return to spirit. Rejoice.
My heart was broken, but I am not shattered.
My mind was fractured, but I am whole.
My body was wrecked, but my soul is unblemished.
Trauma never tarnished the light emanating from me.
I was perfect in my imperfections.
The toils of living— sagging skin, wrinkled face, sloth-like movement— left no trace on my etheric body.
Forever young and ravishing, I will traverse realms in a flash.
I will see in all directions, be anywhere in an instant with mere intention.
I will soar into the light, a garden exploding with roses and harps, surrounded by peaceful mountains, embraced by all my loved ones on the other side.
I see divinity in all of creation: love is its essence.

Sam and Sheryl will have you join us in opening up to the beauty and miracle of life no matter how long or short, how easy or hard, but the plan of our soul to through the challenges of the physical world come to know we are spiritual beings having a physical life for a journey only the bravest and boldest souls embrace and in their exploration of a physical life of challenges, rise above it all to find and bring the magic of life to all souls throughout the Universe, whether in a body or in Spirit and knowing this makes the magic of life all the more wonderful.

Sheryl Glick is the host of Healing From Within and author of her newest book in a trilogy A New Life Awaits Spirit Guided Insights to Support Global Awakening and invites you to her website www.sherylglick.com to read about and listen to authors visionaries scientists spiritualists energy healers and medical professionals psychologists as well as artists musicians and poets share their discoveries of infinite life and potential in all it’s magical and purely fantastic ways. Shows may also be heard on www.dreamvisions7radio.com and www.webtalkradio.net

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Hello and welcome to Healing From Within. I am your host Sheryl Glick Reiki Master Teacher energy practitioner and author of my newest book in a trilogy A New Life Awaits: Spirit Guided Insights to Support Global Awakening and am delighted to welcome Lisa Boucher author of Raising the Bottom to discuss best ways to deal with living in troubled times and in a drinking culture. The Coronavirus pandemic lockdowns and schools closed along with economic problems across the nation has increased stress and naturally people trying to deal with it all sometimes overdue drinking leading to many other emotional and health issues.

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Hello Lisa and thank you for joining us on Healing From Within to address a subject which many fail to observe or talk about and in almost every family there is some kind of alcohol abuse going on.

Lisa As listeners of Healing From Within know my guests and I share intimate stories that illuminate the duality of spiritual energetic and physical aspects of life so we may come to answer age old questions of Who We are, how life originated and come to create better lives through knowing answers to these relevant questions. Life as an eternal energy force allows us to know that the answers lie within our soul wisdom and real happiness does not come from the outside world or a drink, drugs wealth and hedonistic pursuits.

In today’s episode of Healing From Within Lisa Boucher will offer hope to many listeners who may be struggling with alcohol and other addictions letting them know they are not alone during these especially challenging times and will help them examine and become aware of their behaviors identify any problem areas and stop destructive patterns before they make one feel so helpless to find ways to cope.

1. Lisa I alway around them the lifestyle and work they might embrace as an adult for I believe the life plan and destiny of each of us begins within the soul and we are here to find greater love and peace from within which has nothing to do with the outside world and the problems we perceive realistically or create through fear.
   
   Lisa tells us how grateful she is to choose not to drink and not follow the path of her mother and others who she saw suffer so much from drinking, She wrote, “The biggest testimony that I made a great decision in 1989 to quit drinking is that I’m not the same person I used to be. By God’s grace, my twins have only known a sober mother. I have changed in a big way—and all of the positive modifications allowed me to complete my education, hold a job, stay married to the same man for thirty-plus years, and raise my sons, both of whom went on to become Division I athletes, graduate college, and secure jobs. Not bad for what certainly would have been a very different outcome had I not quit drinking.
   
2. So how do people who have come from an alcoholic family and maybe genetically predisposed to alcoholism through genetic influences handle living in a boozy culture? Recovery meetings can be found all over the world. They’re free, and they work. Some people find sobriety in the church. Others have tried programs such as Moderation Management (MM), which asks people to set guidelines and women to keep to no more than nine drinks a week.5 The National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism’s guideline for women is no more than seven drinks a week. MM says they want to reach the early problem drinker who doesn’t want to be Women and Alcohol: It’s Complicated 81 labeled an alcoholic—but that panders to the denial and alcoholic ego that needs to be checked anyway. Not labeling yourself an alcoholic when in fact you are an alcoholic nixes any chance for real recovery. Recovery is about getting honest. Addiction causes changes in the brain. It’s a real problem that has nothing to do with willpower, which is another misconception that must be smashed. There are people out there, many working in medicine, who still think alcoholism or drug addiction is just a matter of will power, morals, or the ability to say no. That fallacy does nothing to help the suffering. As chemical dependency counselor John C. points out in his upcoming story, “The saddest thing is when a person asks for help and they’re pointed in the wrong direction.”
   
3. Why did you decide to write this book at this time?
   
   Lisa always felt destined to write but perhaps her most important project was to use her personal and professional experience to write about alcoholism and help others to see what starts out as supposedly FUN is really a deadly disease with consequences.
   
   Lisa wrote in Raising the Bottom, ”Early or potential alcoholism manifests in ways that, unless you understand the disease, no one labels as alcoholism: multiple marriages, anxiety, health problems, weight problems, lives plagued by resentment, and chaotic relationships with family and friends. I’ve been immersed in alcoholism since my first breath of life. Like others who were once immersed in the mayhem of the disease and now are recovering, I’ve become an expert at recognizing alcoholism and all of the subtleties that I hate: I hate what it does to women, their families, and especially their children, who have little say-so in the matter. We are conditioned to believe that alcohol is synonymous with fun, yet for so many families, alcohol bites back in the form of dysfunctional or broken homes, domestic violence, health problems, fractured relationships, and devastating mishaps. From afar, I recognize the disease swirling around families, yet they remain oblivious to the looming heartaches on the horizon, all because they lack knowledge and don’t understand the many faces of alcoholism
   
4. What are some of the ways a person can begin to deal with this addiction and what are some of the long -term consequences of those who become alcoholics and overdrink?
   
   Through reading their stories, as well as anecdotes from other women, you’ll come to learn the truth of the statement found in the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous that female drinkers experience condemned futures far sooner than males. No one wants to be the downer at the party, but for a lot of women, alcohol is an Introduction xv problem—yet they go to the party anyway. Talk of saturated lives and jaundice elicits nary a blink. Women tell me they drink because they have problems, when the truth is that they have problems because they drink. The solution stares us in the face, but we don’t like the option, so we move on to something else: antidepressants, therapy, self-help books, yoga, holistic healers—the list goes on . . . my God, just don’t tell me to quit drinking.
   
   Is Mixing Alcohol and Drugs Dangerous? Yes. This article starts by discussing the general and specific dangers of mixing alcohol with other popular drugs like benzodiazepines and opioids. Next, we discuss mixing alcohol with drugs to treat common mental health conditions like depression and anxiety. We end the article by exploring addiction treatment options for alcohol use disorders.
   
   Is Alcohol a Drug?
   
   Yes. Alcohol is a drug that affects the central nervous system (CNS). It has a proven ability to temporarily diminish mental capacity and create uncoordinated movement.
   
   Is Alcohol a Depressant?
   
   Yes. Alcohol is a depressant when drunk in excess. It works by blocking certain receptors in the brain. The result is slowed cognitive function.
   
   Is Alcohol a Stimulant?
   
   No. Alcohol is not a stimulant. However, the first few drinks of alcohol cause dopamine (the happy chemical) to be released by the brain. This
   
   General Dangers of Mixing Alcohol and Other Substances
   
   Because alcohol is the most widely available mind-altering substance, it is frequently mixed with other drugs. However, mixing alcohol with other drugs can be dangerous.
   
   Overdose
   
   The risk of overdosing while intoxicated is increased greatly when mixing with alcohol. Alcohol tends to worsen the negative effects of other drugs or reduce their effectiveness. Common causes for overdose include liver failure, severe depression of the central nervous system, blood poisoning, heart failure, and asphyxiation.
   
   Accidents
   
   Alcohol affects decision making, reaction time, and the senses. Because of this, alcohol-impaired drivers cause almost 30 accidents per day. In fact, alcohol causes nearly 28% of all fatal traffic accidents. A majority of drunk driving accidents occur on the weekends or near holidays. The fine for a DUI can cost up to $6,000.00 in some states and can also result in being charged with a felony. Mixing alcohol, even when not operating a vehicle, can lead to accidental bodily harm caused by uncoordinated movement and lowered senses.
   
   Specific Dangers by Class of Drug
   
   Depressants and Alcohol
   
   Depressants and alcohol have compounding effects. Alcohol as a depressant works in conjunction with other depressants to severely slow the CNS. This can result in:
   
   • Labored breathing
   • Extreme fatigue
   • Poor memory
   • Delirium
   • Hallucinations
   • Liver failure
   • Seizures
   • Long-term dependency
     
     Depressants and alcohol have compounding effects. Alcohol as a depressant works in conjunction with other depressants to severely slow the CNS. This can result in:
     
   • Xanax (alprazolam)
   • Ativan (lorazepam)
   • Klonopin (clonazepam)
     
     Depressants and alcohol cause a number of negative effects in the body. The most profound effect they have is on memory. Depressants and alcohol can cause extreme memory loss. This happens due to a breakdown between short and long-term memory more commonly known as a blackout.
     
     Stimulants and Alcohol
     
     There’s a misconception that mixing alcohol with a stimulant can cancel out the effects of both. In actuality, alcohol and stimulates effect completely different parts of the body. This means they’re not so much canceling out but instead are working independently. However, the misconception that stimulants and alcohol cancel out can lead to further abuse of both drugs. The increased chemical intake of mixing alcohol can put massive stress on the liver. The resulting liver failure causes unfiltered toxins to be released back into the body. We’ve listed a few of the commonly abused stimulants:
   • Adderall
   • Cocaine
   • Meth
     
     The main concern when mixing alcohol and stimulants, or even taking stimulants alone, is heart issues. In excess, stimulants and alcohol cause a dramatically increased heart rate, high blood pressure, and confusion. The main causes of death are heart attack, stroke, arrhythmia, and seizure. Long-term abuse of stimulants and alcohol can lead to a permanently weakened heart. This is due to prolonged rapid heartbeats and small, unnoticed heart attacks.
     
     Opiates/Opioids and Alcohol
     
     Opioids vary between prescription medication and controlled substances. Opiates and alcohol have a synergetic effect on the CNS. The side effects of opiates and alcohol are:
   • Drowsiness
   • Sensory disruption
   • Hallucination
   • Manic behavior
   • Paranoia
   • Depressed breathing
     
     Here is a list of common opiates and opioids:
   • Fentanyl
   • OxyContin
   • Methadone
   • Heroin
     
     The greatest risk of mixing alcohol and opioids is hypoxia. Hypoxia occurs when insufficient air reaches the muscles and brain. Opiates and alcohol increase the risk of hypoxia by disrupting the CNS. Hypoxia can be fatal within minutes without help.
     
     Painkillers and Alcohol
     
     Tramadol is a name brand opioid that shares the same risk as other opioids. This includes drowsiness, confusion, and hypoxia. Using Tramadol and alcohol increases these risks. Any mixture of painkillers and alcohol can have severe side effects. Furthermore, painkillers are often prescribed after surgery or injury.
     
     However, alcohol lowers the immune system and slows down the healing process. As such, mixing painkillers and alcohol is as counter-intuitive as it is dangerous. Painkillers and alcohol also put a severe strain on the liver. Specific Dangers From Drugs That Treat Medical Conditions
     
     Chronic Pain
     
     Generally, chronic pain medication is a prescription to OxyContin or other opioids. This means they share all of the following side effects:
   • Drowsiness
   • Sensory disruption
   • Hallucination
   • Manic behavior
   • Paranoia
   • Depressed breathing
   • Sleep Disorders Sleep disorder medication and alcohol can be especially dangerous. During sleep, the heart rate is lowered along with breathing. Adding a chemical cocktail of depressants can lead to an accidental overdose.
     
     Common sleep disorder medications include:
   • Restoril
   • Valium
   • Ambien
     
     The combination of sleep medicine and alcohol can lead to hypoxia, brain damage from lack of oxygen, comas, and severe lethargy. Long-term mild use of sleep medication and alcohol can prolong insomnia and sleep-related illness. This is due to alcohol’s effect on REM sleep.
     
     Antibiotics and Alcohol
     
     Some antibiotics should be avoided when drinking alcohol. Metronidazole or tinidazole and alcohol can cause the following symptoms:
   • Feeling sick
   • Hot Flashes
   • Stomach pain
   • Irregular heartbeat
   • Dizziness
   • Drowsiness
     
     Combining linezolid and alcohol can cause dangerous increases in blood pressure. While mixing doxycycline and alcohol will reduce the effectiveness of the antibiotic.
     
     Dangers From Drugs That Treat Mental Health Conditions
     
     Anxiety
     
     Despite any short-term euphoria, mixing alcohol and anxiety can have negative effects. Alcohol can lessen the amount of serotonin (the other happy chemical) and wreak havoc on communication between parts of the brain.
     
     Alcohol and anxiety both disrupt logical thought which can make negative thoughts all the stronger. Typically, benzodiazepines are prescribed for anxiety. These drugs include:
   • Xanax
   • Ativan
   • Klonopin
   • ValiumThe main shared danger between these drugs is depressed breathing that borders on hypoxia. There is also a high chance of acute liver failure.
     
     Bipolar Disorder
     
     Studies have shown a link between bipolar disorder and alcohol. Alcohol affects mood and chemical balances in the brain. A person with bipolar disorder may already be dealing with issues regarding brain chemistry. This means alcohol runs the risk of furthering these issues. Alcohol can also induce a manic state in someone with a bipolar disorder. A manic state is characterized by a rush of euphoria, rapid speech, and a shorter attention span.
     
     Common medications for bipolar disorder include:
   • Equetro
   • Depakote
   • Lithobid
   • LamictalMixing mood stabilizers and alcohol can cause negative effects because alcohol and most mood stabilizers have similar side effects. This includes drowsiness, irritability, and confusion.
     
     Borderline Personality Disorder Unlike bipolar disorder, borderline personality disorder changes can occur instantly and disappear within hours. In contrast, changes from bipolar disorder can last months. There isn’t a shared consensus as to what causes borderline personality disorder. However, brain chemistry is assumed to be a major factor. This means mixing alcohol with borderline personality disorder can intensify the effects of the disorder. Borderline personality disorders can be treated with the same drugs as bipolar disorder. It’s worth noting that treatment for this condition can be a combination of medication for antipsychotic, anti-depressant, and anti-anxiety. However, the biggest threat in this case is the harm to natural brain chemistry. Mixing a borderline personality disorder with alcohol can cause severe synaptic misfiring, worsening depression, and more frequent mood shifts.
     
     Depression
     
     Having depression and an alcohol use disorder is a common occurrence. Depression affects millions of people every year. It is one of the most prevalent mental health issues. Depression and alcohol abuse can cause dependency and worsened depression. Alcohol lowers levels of serotonin and dopamine resulting in increased risk or symptoms of depression. Depression could be caused by genetics, environment, brain chemistry, or any combination of the 3. However, it is generally characterized by negative thoughts and moods. Alcohol can not only increase the likelihood of negative thought but also lower cognitive function. This results in negative thoughts that can seem inescapable. Depression medication can include:
   • Zoloft
   • Prozac
   • Lexapro
   • Celexa
     
     For the most part, depression medication and alcohol have compounding effects. This means one of the biggest risks when mixing is an overdose from acute liver failure.
     
     PTSD
     
     PTSD is characterized by negative thoughts, uncontrollable mood swings, altered brain chemistry, and hallucinations. Alcohol and PTSD are a volatile combination. Alcohol can counteract PTSD medication and increase the severity of the symptoms. PTSD medication can include:
   • Zoloft
   • Minipress
   • Propranolol
   • ProzacMixing these drugs with alcohol can cause heart issues, liver failure, stroke, and high blood pressure. However, the biggest concern is the increased risk of suicide.
     
     All above information taken from Tom Anderson Education Coordinator for www.blueprintsforrecovery.com
5. What organizations or places or treatments are available to help people find support?
   
   Treating Addiction to Alcohol and Other Substances
   
   Getting treatment for alcohol addiction is better done sooner than later. This is especially true when there are underlying illnesses and other substance use. Addiction rewires the brain and relapse can occur because of emotional triggers, environmental changes, and more. Professional help for addiction will typically include the following.
   
   Therapy
   
   Therapy can help discover the cause of addiction. It can also provide coping mechanisms for dealing with emotional triggers. Therapy also provides a safe space to work through issues. Lastly, therapy can help smooth the transition from addiction to a stable and thriving life.
   
   Medicine
   
   Medicine can help ease the physical symptoms of withdrawal. Addiction can cause a number of life-long illnesses including reduced liver capacity, high blood pressure, heart disease, and compromised immune systems. Medicine helps abate these symptoms.
   
   Support System
   
   Finding a healthy support system is a key step toward recovery. Recovery is a lifelong process and involves a community. Without a support system, the chance of relapse is increased. Lastly, a support system can help separate someone with a dependency from harmful influences.
6. Can you tell us any of the success stories of people you have worked with and maybe some failures as well? First Lisa tells us her own choice to stop drinking and writes, “I quit drinking in my late twenties, and that decision mostly had to do with my then-sober mother, who pointed out that my drinking started to look shady. I chose to listen to her concerns, and because I listened, I saved myself from years of self-manufactured hell. With one healthy decision, the whole trajectory of my life changed. For twenty-three years I’ve been a registered nurse; I have seen and heard it all. I’ve worked in emergency rooms and psych wards, and both departments are magnets for dysfunctional drinkers and alcoholics. Lives implode all over the place, and much of the time the blame is placed on everything but the drinking or the prescription- or xvi Raising the Bottom street-drug use. Furthermore, most doctors know nothing about alcoholism or addiction—they can barely spot a real alcoholic, let alone a budding alcoholic. There, I said it. Health care needs a complete overhaul in this area
7. Is it possible for some people to have a moderate amount of drinking without being compromised or addicted to it? What type of person might this be in your estimation?
   
   Lisa wrote, “ I have come to learn one truth: women who don’t have drinking problems never get accused of having drinking problems. Twenty- eight years ago, when my own mother mentioned my drinking, she recognized a shift—it was in my behavior and the way I drank. When people start to mention your drinking, it’s because they’ve seen a change; your actions are no longer isolated. Your family, your friends, your employer—no one is going to tell you that they think you drink too much, unless of course it’s true that you do. And when they do speak up, what other motive would they possibly have other than that they care?”
   
   Sheryl says that drinking and drug addiction can also present as a genetic predisposition if parents or grandparents had a drinking problem. Could be genetic then.
   
   Lisa says, “I’ve lived with an active alcoholic in one form or another my entire life—and, well, it takes one to know one. Chaos and crises become a way of life that seems normal. Often women recognize they have a problem, but plenty of them are okay with that knowledge and party on until the bottom falls out. I’ve worked with hundreds of women over the years, and the common thread is that most all the women dubbed themselves social drinkers, myself included, until we learned that there was nothing social about the way we drank. In addition, most alcoholics are functional and hold jobs—people don’t realize that either. As for the mothers whose stories are in this book, all said their biggest regret was that they were not present for their children, mentally and/ or emotionally. They all agreed they got caught up in their selfishness, depression, and self-centeredness, and that they turned inward, failing to recognize that right under their noses their children were in jeopardy.
   
   Sheryl says in becoming an alcoholic or addict some person from a drinking background or family may have a predisposed or genetic factor and may take that one drink and the switch is turned on and they need to continue infusing their bodies with the addictive substance. Often these people come from families where parents or grandparents had a problem with substance abuse. So the key might be to tell children not to start in the first place. The consequences to health prosperity and long- term relationships are major and affect all areas of a person’s life once the disease spirals out of control. For listeners who would like to hear more about families handling this from Marc Treitler and his daughter Lianna who wrote about his family’s genetic predisposition to alcoholism and how they conquered it, read their book Alcohol Drugs You and Your Children and listen to the interview that can be found on Healing From Within website www.sherylglick.com November 2019 Special Edition.
   
   What would you tell your kids or teenagers in general about drinking or doing drugs? The women Lisa writes about range from the über bright—a board certified surgeon who holds a PhD in neurophysiology (she admits she learned nothing and knew nothing about alcoholism despite all her education and medical training)—to a former Washington DC socialite, to a teacher, nurses, a massage therapist turned jewelry maker, and another physician who admits she used to pass out while breastfeeding her fourth child.
   
   Most of the women had no idea their problems were caused by alcohol. None felt they fit the stereotypical mold of what they thought a problem drinker or alcoholic looked like. All of them, like me, were baffled by their behavior, confused by serial marriages, broken by an unexplained emptiness, and devastated by a loneliness and spiritual bankruptcy that only an alcoholic or addict can understand.
   
   Through all the misery, anyone peering at our lives from the outside in might see suburban normalcy, privilege, or even wealth. I purposely sought out women who were like me when they quit drinking—women who looked like they could not have a problem with alcohol. For most of us, it was inner turmoil that precipitated our higher bottoms.
   
   Families often contribute to the problem. It takes courage to stand up to the family members whose only idea of fun includes copious amounts of drinks, even when you insist that you want a better quality of life than cocktails, bars, and getting blotto on the beach.
   
   Sheryl says It has been discovered that the younger you become involved with alcohol or drugs the greater the risk of becoming addicted to it.
8. What would you like readers of Raising the Bottom Making Mindful Choices in a Drinking Culture to take away with them after reading the book?
   
   Lisa might want women to remember why they might not show up fully mature and independent and need alcohol as a crutch to face life’s challenges. What would a grown-up do? Sometimes we roar through life and have no idea how to show up as an adult.
   
   All of the women in this book showed up for life in a less-than-adorable manner. It’s not so much the things that happened to us in life that hurt us, it’s our reaction to those things and the way we think about our struggles that caused all the pain.
   
   If you think you’d benefit from not drinking but the thought of not drinking elicits a loud groan and an overwhelming sense of panic, keep reading. Maybe you will discover some shadowy but necessary truths about yourself.
   
   Women who drink too much or abuse prescription or illegal drugs seem to possess one of several unhealthy mindsets, and most of those mindsets are governed by fear. Fear wears hundreds of different outfits
   
   Fear may show up as a control freak who tries to micromanage everyone’s life, including family, coworkers, lovers, spouses, and friends. This woman wants to control the uncontrollable. She is terrified of letting go.
   
   Fear may also show up as a perfectionist. This is the woman who fears she won’t be good enough and genuinely wants people to like her. However, she may go about it the wrong way. She forces her will on people, places, and situations that she has no business trying to control. Then, when people push back, this same woman cries and wonders why everyone is so mean!
   
   Fear may show up with low self-esteem, and it can manifest in other ways too. For example, I felt entitled to bitch about everyone and everything, without ever looking at my part in the chaos. Other people crave special attention just so they can feel normal. Sure, women who don’t drink may have some of these personality defects, but we need not worry about the women who can have one or two glasses of wine and be done for the month. We’re talking about the woman riddled with deep-seated fears, emotions, and/or unresolved longings who has found her solution to be alcohol.

I want to thank you Lisa Boucher RN author of Raising the Bottom for addressing a topic I have been concerned about for a long time and now in these unusually heightened stressful times for mothers and other women dealing with a deadly plague that has affected every country every family and workplace in the world increasing political religious and economic changes happening just like a tennis ball machine shooting their balls out at rapid speed dealing with overkill tendencies towards alcoholism or other addictions or full blown alcoholic episodes which over the long haul damage the health and lifespan of the abuser is a must talk about story and we must find help for as many as we can. To read more about detecting and helping those with alcohol abuse go to www.raisingthebottom.com

In summarizing today’s episode of Healing From Within we have discussed the signs, symptoms and long term effects that excessive use of alcohol or other addictions can have on the health of family life, children relationships and work status that will all be affected if the disease is not addressed and conquered.

Lisa wrote, “ I’ve worked in emergency rooms and psych wards for over twenty years. That’s a lot of undocumented research; I have friends who work in hospitals all over the country. Their experiences mirror my own—substance abuse in one form or another contributes to an overwhelming amount of hospital admissions, either directly or indirectly. What I’ve seen is that people end up in emergency rooms and psych wards because of substance abuse. The traumas, the wrecks, the falls, the esophageal varices, the bad livers, the cocaine-induced heart attacks, the fights, the shootings and stabbings, the depression, the anxiety, the generalized malaise that seems to overtake too many young people and sends them in search of antidepressants and disability checks—all too often, these have the common denominator of alcohol and/or drugs.

Lisa and Sheryl would have our listeners know that life is a precious gift and the birthright of our soul is happiness and health, but the physical world relationships and economic stresses put a burden on the heart and mind of so many people often traumatized in childhood who carry the wounds of life that can lead to alcoholism and abuses. Finding sources that can help is the key to conquering this disease and Please begin to ask for help from family, friends and Spirit. Help will come.

I am Sheryl Glick host of Healing From Within and invite you to visit my website www.sherylglick.com to read about and listen to metaphysicians changemakers spiritualists scientists healers energy workers educators and those in the arts and music fields who seek to support the evolution of our human and divine process. Shows may also be heard on www.webtalkradio.net and www.dreamvisions7radio.com

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Welcome to “Healing From Within” and Sheryl Glick your host and author of the newest book in a trilogy A New Life Awaits: Spirit Guided Insights to Support Global Awakening which shares stories and messages to show us our challenges are not economic political or societal but a disconnect from our true being or soul wisdom and is so glad to have our regular listeners always with us to hear from amazing authors and changemakers, visionaries and leaders from around the world share their courageous and interesting stories discovering more about themselves and the human condition and am delighted to welcome Dr. Greg Hammer Author of Gain Without Pain The Happiness Handbook for Health Care Professionals for we all know you can’t do your best unless you are at your best, and that is the goal for all of us.

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As listeners of Healing From Within are well aware I am a Reiki Master Teacher energy practitioner/medium as well as a long-time Hospice volunteer who has spent the last 25 years searching for a clearer truth of our human and spiritual connections or “the duality of life” to help find ways to enhance all areas of our emotional, physical and spiritual life to improve health, find happiness and positivity, no matter what challenges we face. It becomes clear and easier to cope with any situation when we truly know that life is unlimited in opportunities for continuous soul expansion and our thoughts and actions generate much of what we experience. So in that sense we must learn to pay attention to what we think and do and improve many circumstances both personally and collectively.

In today’s episode of “Healing From Within,” Dr. Greg Hammer a pediatrics intensive care physician, anesthesiologist and professor at Stanford University Medical Center, will share his search for truth and the mysteries and realities of life healing and love. He will also discuss utilizing a non-duality and mindfulness based approach including the “Gain Method” he has devised to improve health and well-being. Dr. Hammer discusses ways to look at these challenging times rejuvenate and restore health as we try to help ourselves and others.

When Dr. Hammer is asked to think back to his childhood and remember a person place or event that might have signaled to him or others the life path and interests he might pursue as an adult he responds that nothing remarkable comes to mind about his childhood but at seventeen he began to question life and wanted to know the truth of “Who are we? ““Why do we have a physical life?” and “What are we supposed to do during our lifetime?” Already a born healer he wished to give as much to the world and help people and so he became a doctor helping others to develop a respect for and love of life and our uniqueness as spiritual beings having a physical life.

Dr. Greg Hammer wrote this book to explore what deeper thoughts and realizations readers of “Gain Without Pain” could become aware of which could lead them beyond suffering loss and illness. This book is filled with fascinating interviews with leading experts on relevant topics such as sleep, forgiveness, and nutrition. The elements of the book are artfully woven together by our physician guide, Dr. Greg Hammer. Dr. Hammer provides insights into how to transform personal and professional challenges into strength and wisdom. This helpful toolbox will provide important practical steps for any health care professional to find a more healthful way to live and work.

This book also and importantly presents a transformative path to happiness, resilience, and thriving that takes as little as three minutes a day, which is especially necessary for people in the health field to maintain their own well-being, health and happiness while dealing with serious illness and families in distress. There is nothing revolutionary in this book. Most of you already know the facts that follow. But there is a chasm between knowing and doing. It’s not your fault. To implement all of the mainstream medical advice about stress reduction, sleep, exercise, and diet is daunting. It appears to be far too time-consuming for an overloaded doctor, nurse, or any other busy health care professional.

Greg Hammer is a doctor, father, professor, and entrepreneur and people reading this book, like Dr. Hammer, are likely bright, well-educated, and well-trained medical professionals. Yet in spite of the plethora of expertise and experience, most health care professionals have not bridged the gap between science and practice. Most doctors have not translated their understanding of the mind and body into a peaceful, present mind, and a vibrant, healthy body. Burnout is on the rise, and that is a problem we cannot afford to ignore. This book can be your solution. It is an antidote to burnout. It took Dr. Hammer many years to distill the essence of the process that he is going to share with you. It is a rapid and easy path towards happiness, including a transformative three-minute daily practice.

In talking about Covid-19, an unexpected and tragic worldwide plague affecting the health economic well-being and creating an inability to do what humans must do for their emotional well-being be close to one another and socialize, disturbed because of social distancing and lockdowns imposed by governments, stresses/demands causing burnout in healthcare professionals has increased tenfold. Adding to these specific timely challenges Dr. Hammer points out another aspect of pain for many people and says in a conversation, “ I think that most of us feel inadequate in some ways much of the time. We try to make ourselves whole by reaching for relationships, substances, objects. This never brings more than very temporary relief. So, we strive for more—hence a cycle of needing and acquiring that never fulfills us. Much of this feeling of inadequacy probably stems from our early childhood experiences. This is not to lay blame on our parents—they had their own sense of longing and inadequacy, largely from their parenting. The cycle goes on and on. But we can stop the cycle. The greatest barrier to happiness is failure to believe that we deserve happiness. We do deserve happiness—it is our true divine soul nature and birthright. Sadly, this has been veiled by experience. The good news is that we can unveil our true nature and be happier if we turn our attention—and our intention—to doing so.“

Sheryl says the key to resolving much doubt and distress is simply to” know” we were born with everything within our soul memory and guidance system that we need to complete our soul mission in this time and place and by simply remembering that truth, we can stop thinking about what we don’t have, and focus on what we do have to accomplish our soul mission which need not be monumental but could be as simple as learning the GAIN method of reflection for finding peace and well being. We must realize our wondrous potential to create with our thoughts the best for ourselves and others while conquering the fears and limitations of the outside world. By simply changing our mindset and actions we create a path to well-being, peace, harmony, and happiness. Everything is indeed a state of mind and a good attitude is greater than any painful or challenging circumstance that presents itself.

Happiness has taken a plunge during this time of tremendous worldwide change. Happiness was recorded at 69% before Covid, and 49% after Covid. Perhaps it’s because in this fast moving technological society we have lost sight of our inner intuitive guidance or soul awareness and our ability to conquer even a horrendous disease like Covid. We are often not aware of our inner wisdom. All that we ever want is within each of us. There is nothing, “no thing” for which to search. All we need to do is sink into the awareness with which we are all born. Becoming more aware is a process. In fact, life is a process—there is no destination. Let’s take it one step at a time. Baby steps can transform your life when repeated as a daily practice. Sometimes we can take the slow and steady way to reach a new understanding of the world, and other times it feels like we’re on a bullet train. I have had both experiences.

Sheryl says it is quite possible that this deadly plague happened because we had moved too far away from our spiritual source and needed to slow down and return to simple values once again having more meaningful interactions with people, not just computers, cell phones and technological games.

Dr. Hammer tells us that his son Max helped him find the truth. As a boy, Max was full of personality, full of life. He was joyful and present. But as he grew up, he became increasingly troubled and distracted. He would ruminate over his past and resist its realities. He was fearful and anxious about what the future might bring. He was no longer fully present. How did he go from being a happy child, living in each present moment, to being a self-conscious, anxious adolescent and young adult? Was social media to blame? My divorce? Hormones? Other factors?

Dr. Hammer writes “Max moved from Palo Alto, California, to Portland, Oregon, in his mid-20s. California was full of unwanted memories. Portland held the promise of a brighter future. Unfortunately, it did not pan out that way for Max. He continued to be unsettled, living life on the edge, reckless. He was descending into a dark place. Concerned, I visited him. I convinced him to fly down to Stanford to allow me to assist him in getting help. Then he stopped answering my calls and texts. Days passed. I was home on a Monday morning, catching up on some work when the phone rang. It was the hospital operator calling to tell me that the Stanford police wanted to talk to me. A few minutes later, the doorbell rang. I let in two campus police officers. They asked me, “Are you the father of Max Hammer?” “Yes, I am.” They came in and introduced themselves, and we sat down at the dining table. One of them said to me, “I am very sorry to tell you that he passed away yesterday.” Silence. Those words made no sense. Yet they did. After they left, I sat in my chair for what seemed to be a long time before calling his mother. No answer. I left a message asking her to call me. I sat there for an hour, numb, the only one in the family to know of this terrible new reality. Max was dead. I would never welcome him back home, never attend his wedding, never laugh with him again. A myriad of hopes and dreams for the future came crashing down like a house of cards. My son had died. Grief overcame me. Later, it became clear that he died of sleeplessness. His obsession with the past and the future was unbearable. He simply could not sleep.”

We must understand how emotional exhaustion is tied to burnout and a tendency to self-defeating emotional stresses. Dr. Hammer writes, “Medical professionals are in a unique position to help others, and most of us relish this opportunity. Nevertheless, more than half of the physicians in the United States are experiencing professional burnout. It may well be that other health care professionals are experiencing the same crisis. The costs of burnout are staggering. Clinicians who feel burned out make more medical errors. They often reduce their work hours, resulting in reduced access to medical care for patients. Physicians with burnout are more likely to change jobs—this disrupts the continuity of care. Replacing physicians is very expensive for institutions, costing up to $1,000,000 per physician at Stanford. Physicians experiencing burnout are more likely to leave medicine altogether. Turnover is disruptive not only to patients but also to staff, and the loss of respected doctors may diminish the prestige of institutions.”

Physicians at the “front line” are the most afflicted, e.g., internal medicine, family practice, emergency medicine, but most specialties across the board show similar trends. Sadly, rates of physician suicide are rising among physicians who are experiencing burnout. Burnout among doctors, attorneys and law enforcement remains higher than in other professions. As physicians, we are in a category all by ourselves, with nearly half of us suffering from varying degrees of work-related stress. Doctors absolutely must become more resilient. Burnout is stealing our minds, bodies, relationships, and threatens to take our very lives. This book describes the antidote to burnout. It provides a simple path to personal resilience that can be implemented by anyone, anywhere, in just a few minutes a day. Increased resilience could save your practice, your patients, your marriage—or even your life. In our rapidly changing world, personal resilience is not a “nice to have,” but an essential skill.

Sheryl says in her new book A New Life Awaits Spirit Guided Insights to Support Global Awakening as well as taking responsibility for our own well being and state of happiness vs. suffering she has found resilience to be indispensable to a well balanced lifestyle.

Sheryl wrote, “Therefore, it seems in one way or another, we are being given messages to elevate our hearts. As we tap into our intuition supported by meditation practices, we can strengthen personal resolve or resilience. Resilience is a great force, in my estimation, for spiritual growth. Recently Sheryl found an article in Time Magazine, the June 1, 2015 edition, in the section “Frontier of Medicine” and read “Bounce Back,” written by Dr. Dennis Charney Dean, Icahn School of Medicine, who wrote, “For resilience there’s not one prescription that works. Find what works for you.” As a psychiatrist, Dr. Charney knows there are many benefits to moving beyond your comfort zone for the development of resilience, which he says is a set of necessary skills. Compelling new research about resilience also is now focusing on “the state of mindfulness” that we are hearing so much about, as today’s culture is consumed with seeking a greater awareness of Self, energy, and a means to improve health and longevity. Mindfulness can be considered to be a state of conditioning or training in order to stay focused in the moment on the activity or event being engaged in rather than allowing the mind to wander and think about other distracting influences.”

Besides encouraging resilience and a happier state of mind for their physicians, it is also important for facilities or the institution (or department, division, etc.) to bear responsibility for creating a culture of wellness and for increasing the efficiency of physicians’ practices. It must develop and continue to invest in programs serving to improve the health and welfare of the doctors who support them. Examples include providing classes in mindfulness and physical fitness, doctors’ lounges where food and coffee may be served and where collegiality may be fostered, and physician retreats that include family members. The “mother ship” is also responsible for finding ways to improve the efficiency of practice, including providing ample IT training and support for EMR systems, sufficient access to computers and printers, and the right number of clinic rooms and personnel. It is demoralizing for physicians to be forced to interrupt their contact with a patient to race around the clinic, retrieving a printed treatment plan for the patient simply because there are no printers in the treatment rooms. Some solutions are apparent and straightforward. Failing to take remedial action sends a strong negative message to doctors. While the institution or department must provide resources that define a culture of wellness and the infrastructure to maximize practice efficiency, we are responsible for the third component of wellness: our own resilience.

Some concrete solutions to mitigate anxiety are one of the most important elements in correcting many of the problems our physicians deal with. The first course of events involves a clear view of who we are and what we are happy and grateful for. This is the first solution to mitigating any unhappiness or anxiety.

Dr. Hammer wrote, “I knew from my meditation practice that happiness was found only in the present. But I was unable to be present. I was unable to be happy. I was not myself. I am a doer, a pragmatist, a nurturer — a healer of the sickest of the sick children and their families. But I became a somber, directionless sufferer stuck in the past and worried about the future. How could I become myself again? How could I become present? I intended to get back to my true nature. I had an epiphany. I began to consider myself fortunate to have had 29 years with my beautiful boy, with this engaged, powerful, stubborn, big-footprint guy. Never a dull moment! I felt so much love for my son. My heart warmed with gratitude. I felt grateful for the wonderful daughter who was very much still full of life and personality, so brilliant, hilarious, and loving. Thankful for my health and prosperity, for the opportunity to work at a place as wonderful as Packard Children’s Hospital. Grateful for my family and so many wonderful colleagues and friends. Instead of trying to push my feelings aside, I began to sit with the pain. It started to become clear to me that to suffer less, I needed to let go of any resistance to the painful reality in which I was mired. I realized that suffering is pain multiplied by resistance, and that was another epiphany.”

“I continued to sit with the pain. Not only the pain of losing my son, but the pain and suffering of generations of enslaved brothers and sisters, of the ravaging of the earth’s ecology, of the families separated at our southern border. Pain and suffering are as much a part of life as joy and happiness.

It became clear that in order to be present and happy, I needed to accept the pain—that acceptance meant letting go of the resistance that amplifies suffering. Acceptance meant to let the pain come closer, to embrace it, to let it in. To befriend reality requires acceptance. We can use the power of our intention to face our pain and even to embrace it. We can rewire our brains to be more present and, therefore, happier. Intention matters. I understood with crystal clarity that the world is neither good nor bad—it simply IS exactly as it IS. I did not create it, nor did I cause the pain in the world, and I could not cure it. I saw that I needed to let go of any judgments of the world and its inhabitants. Nonjudgment was key.

Max led me to the truth. The house of happiness rests firmly on four pillars, four choices, four mindsets. I saw the simplicity of Gratitude, Acceptance, Intention, and Nonjudgment—GAIN. It was a natural acronym. Only four letters.

“GAIN” refers to Gratitude, Acceptance, Intention, Non Judgment. What a concept—What a concept—GAIN Without Pain.

Dr. Hammer began incorporating these four pillars of gratitude, acceptance, intention and non judgment into his life. As a result, he built a solid foundation of well-being. He began teaching GAIN as a 3-minute meditation to his trainees, and they were astonished by the rapid results. Everyone serious about improving their life can get up 3 minutes earlier, sit comfortably, and do a 3-minute GAIN meditation before heading off to work.

A Mindfulness practice mitigates anxiety. A Mindfulness practice finds ways to understand happiness and Dr. Hammer writes, “What is happiness? Although every person on the planet wants happiness, its definition is elusive. Happiness has been described as “the experience of joy, contentment, or positive well-being.” Peace, contentment, joy, wellbeing—these are often used as synonyms of happiness. It may have a variety of definitions, but we know it when we see (or feel) it. A growing body of research tells us that happiness improves physical health, including our cardiovascular and immune systems. This is a bidirectional process—fitness, in all of its manifestations, makes us happier; and happiness makes us more able to achieve and maintain functional fitness.

Two types of happiness may be described: well-being that arises from a sense of devotion or service to others (eudaimonic happiness); this is associated with long-lasting well-being and other benefits, including better immune health. The other version is hedonic happiness, which comes from making love, having a great meal, receiving a salary bonus, or acquisition of material goods. Hedonic happiness is not enduring.

Happiness leads to living a longer, healthier life. It is associated with longer telomeres, the tiny caps. By connecting with other people, by devoting ourselves to serving others, by meditating, by being present, we can “grow” our telomeres and longevity. Functional imaging of the brain when people focus on happy thoughts or meditation shows activation of neurons in the prefrontal cortex, where happiness “lives.” By learning to be more optimistic, we can lower the likelihood that we will develop cardiovascular disease and stroke. We can reap these benefits just by smiling and pretending to be happy! In other words, we can change the way we think, rewire our own brains, and become healthier and happier.

Since happiness is what we seek and we know it will make us better, what are the essential underpinnings of happiness? “The discovery that peace, happiness, and love are ever present within our own Being, and completely available at every moment of experience, under all conditions, is the most important discovery that anyone can make,” wrote Rupert Spira, a teacher of nonduality (Advaita). He teaches that being present means being happy. So, how can we learn to be more present? Human beings have been wired to think incessantly about the past and future, so being more present will require a substantial amount of unlearning or rewiring of the brain.

Sheryl often says to her students that there is no past present future. Life is happening in a continuous flow of experience and our energy can be in perhaps the past and well as the future and even a part of our spirit can be looking down and learning from this present moment. Learning that nothing is “good or bad” is just experience for the soul which is necessary to raise the soul vibration to generate greater love and compassion into the world in the present moment, and even beyond this life or in eternal life is essential for personal growth and happiness. As a medium, Sheryl is able to retrieve information from many stages of a person’s life and perhaps even while our soul experiences this physical life, a part of our soul energy resides in the afterlife and watches our progress achieved from our physical past, present, and future life experiences. As a medium Sheryl knows that “Consciousness’ survives physical death and we are very much more than our physical being.

Dr. Hammer wrote, “Mindfulness training is a well-established and straightforward way to increase our ability to be present. When you notice that you are becoming distracted, that your mind is time-traveling in an unproductive manner, bring your attention back to right here, right now. Easy-to-learn techniques include focusing on the breath, slowing it down, fully experiencing the passage of air as you inhale and exhale. When you walk, pay attention to the feeling as your feet connect with the ground. When you eat, savor your food as a sensuous pleasure. Close your eyes and appreciate the flavors, textures, warmth, sweetness, or saltiness. Understand the miracle of food being grown, nurtured, harvested, transported, prepared, and delivered to your table. When you shower, close your eyes, and delight in the sensation of the warm water cascading down your skin, the miracle of indoor plumbing. Life is pretty amazing when we slow down, become present, and fully sense these wonders.”

Older individuals seem to chuckle so much because perhaps life experience has helped them appreciate the present, not worry so much about the past and know the future will be okay. Maybe they have a sense of metaphysical values and don’t fear dying. Or perhaps they have conditioned themselves to be happy conquering the negativity quotient we all have within us.

Dr. Hammer writes, “The good news is that we can rewire our brains and teach ourselves to think more rationally—and more positively. More than 40 years ago, a study was conducted in a group of junior college students enrolled in a psychology class to determine whether personal happiness could be increased if the participants modified their behaviors and attitudes to approximate more closely the characteristics of happier people. The students that completed a self-study program, designed to increase personal happiness and life satisfaction, increased their happiness to levels significantly higher than those in the control group, in which students performed incremental regular class assignments. What was it about the program that helped the students become happier? The students developed sensitivity to their own happiness—this increased awareness was beneficial in and of itself. The participants came to value happiness more and realize its importance in their lives.”

As a pediatric intensive care physician Dr. Hammer might think one of the biggest issues parents in the U S are experiencing now could be social media, political inferences to racism, mainstream media being aggressive with opinions and cancelling culture being judgmental, being cruel to many types of people as well as bullying. Parents should want to set an example to their children in how to be kind, nonjudgmental, accepting, and to serve their families and society in more loving ways, Hatred has become an emotion and force destroying the health, happiness, and resilience of many of our young people.

Sheryl says she feels bullying has been a serious problem always, but in these times we are dealing with radical political indoctrination in our schools and social media systems Cancel Culture or the destruction of our history and civilized way of life now beset by violence, anger and induced racism by political factions trying to destroy constitutional freedoms and these problems should be the concern of every parent. We cannot improve anything through anger, negativity and pure hatred for that as we should know leads to dysfunction, disease and lower levels of well-being. History cannot be destroyed. We cannot wipe away what has happened. We can only be in the present as this show has shown, and that is what we wish to teach children.

Dr. Hammer might like readers to take away with them after reading Gain Without Pain, that remembering self-compassion is an essential ingredient to happiness, in all aspects of our lives. We have more than ample opportunity to beat ourselves up, to wallow in our failures. But the bottom line is listed here:

• Notice what you are feeling and thinking, i.e. become more self-aware.
• Rewire your brain to be more present, i.e., mindful Happiness
• Reconnect your brain to dwell on happier thoughts (try Three Good Things at bedtime!).
• Focus on gaining time more than money.
• Buy experiences more than “things.”
• Spend time with friends and family

We thank Dr. Greg Hammer, author of Gain Without Pain: The Happiness Handbook for HealthCare Professionals, for sharing a wonderful look at his GAIN Method for a way to reconnect to the real values of our lives, moving past any assumed pain or failures to allow, accept and surrender to challenges so we may move in the present moment to create new perceptions and hopes improving life professionally and collectively.

In summarizing today’s episode of Healing From Within Dr. Greg Hammer has provided many ways to incorporate a spiritual methodology to everyday life in order to help not only healthcare professionals but all people to understand that life with it’s many challenges must still be appreciated for the gift that it is and beyond suffering and loss, acceptance and finding grace and gratitude soothe the heart, mind and soul.

Greg when asked what made him happy today after expressing that his relationship with his father made him a people pleaser and always feeling a little inadequate as he could never really be perfect, shares what makes him feel happy today and wrote, “I gradually realized that the key to success in my personal and professional life was to be present. I was always searching for something—for the “truth.” I began to be aware that there is literally nothing for which to search. It is right here, right now. This was an epiphany. We do not have to please anyone or find anything. Peace and happiness are already “built-in.” Living with this awareness has made me a much more calm, genuine, loving person. That seems to please others, though this is no longer a goal.”

Greg and Sheryl would have you remember that each life has the right experiences needed to empower that soul to rise above their present vibration to vibrate at levels of greater love and compassion. Knowing that nothing is either good or bad but necessary experience brings about positive change and action. We cannot control what happens to us but we can control our reactions and always try to find reasons to return us to our natural state of being, which is our birthright, “To Be Happy.”

Sheryl Glick host of Healing From Within and author of her newest book in a trilogy, A New Life Awaits invites you to her website www.sherylglick.com to read about and listen to leaders visionaries changemakers share the magic and secrets of our soul and phyiscal lives in order to begin to merge the two for greater efficacy and happiness. Shows may also be heard on www.dreamvisions7radio.com and www.webtalkradio.com.

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