Dr. Mark McConville is a Clinical Psychologist licensed by the State of Ohio with over 30 years of professional experience in adult, adolescent, emerging adult, and family psychology. Mark serves as a senior faculty member of the Gestalt Institute of Cleveland (GIC), a world renowned post-graduate training source for consulting and counseling professionals, and currently chairs GIC’s Advanced Training Program for Working With Children and Adolescents. Mark is the author of Failure to Launch: Why Your Twentysomething Hasn't Grown Up...and What to Do About It, a guide for parents of the 2.2 million young adults in America who are struggling to find their way in the world.

Highlights

02:30 Introduction to Mark and his background 09:15 The demands on youth today as they enter into adulthood are much greater. Parents and grandparents shouldn’t make the mistake of thinking that it's as easy as going out and getting a job. 11:20 Kurt and Mark discuss young missionaries and if it’s a good idea to send them on missions at such a young age. 16:45 Kids growing up right now have the most supportive generation of parents in history. This is a huge plus but also has it’s negative aspects. 21:30 Kurt asks Mark if there are any ways that we can better prepare our missionaries. 25:00 The presence or absence of community is one the the critical variables in predicting success of starting a new phase in life. Such as, moving and starting a new job or leaving on a mission. 26:45 Mark talks about the developmental stages of being a parent and tips for parents at each stage. He gives his 3 primary ways that parents influence their children.

Supervision

Negotiating

Consulting

34:40 How can we help youth reach out to other adults rather than their parents? 47:30 Mark’s tips for setting goals with youth. He suggests setting goals that are in the near future. 51:00 The importance of giving your kids responsibility 59:50 The concept of shame. Shame is one of the most toxic emotions. 1:03:00 The first thing a leader should do is de-shame the situation. Neutralize the shame and then go into how to fix the problem. 1:05:45 How parents can deal with older children in their twenties that are living at home and not progressing in life. 1:09:20 Mark’s final encouragement to youth leaders

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