Working through getting into when the programmed aggression / tough guy mode needs to be switched over to patient / prudent. Like, at what age or career progression through life is it time to start evolving through an anger originated behavior pattern. At what point do you start to be the tired cliche and marginalize your own effectiveness?

Be the man you needed twenty years ago for someone else today. Hey Commander or Colonel or First Sergeant or COO or whatever, isn't it time to stop being all "operator" asshole aggro and tough nuts? 

It's a conversation I wish I had started with myself a little sooner in my career so to better help mentor the younger generation that the conversation needs to happen. You can't go through life to the end on asshole mode. Well, I guess you can, but that's pretty lamers.