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High-Functioning Codependency Explained: Signs, Patterns, and Recovery with Alyssa Kushner, LCSW


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Episode Summary: In this episode of The Affirming Minds Podcast, host Shaina Siber-Sanderowitz, LCSW, sits down with trauma therapist Alyssa Kushner, LCSW, to unpack the complexities of codependency, enmeshment, and parentification—especially as they show up in high-functioning clients.

Alyssa shares her expertise in helping over-functioners, anxious perfectionists, and people-pleasers recognize the subtle ways self-abandonment, hypervigilance, and external validation shape their identities. She explores how cultural and systemic messages reinforce patterns of self-sacrifice and people-pleasing, and offers evidence-informed strategies to help clients build boundaries, self-compassion, and autonomy.

Listeners will gain insight into how nervous system healing, EMDR, somatic approaches, mindfulness, and attachment theory can support recovery from codependency and create more secure, balanced, and fulfilling relationships.

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Learning Objectives (CE Eligible):

  • Define and differentiate codependency, enmeshment, and parentification, and describe how these dynamics intersect in high-functioning clients
  • Identify common clinical presentations of codependent patterns (e.g., over-extending, self-abandonment, hypervigilance) and analyze how external validation and worth-based identity reinforce them
  • Apply evidence-informed strategies to help clients develop boundaries, self-compassion, and autonomy, while considering the influence of cultural and systemic factors
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    About Our Guest: Alyssa Kushner, LCSW, is a trauma therapist and the owner of AK Psychotherapy, serving clients in NYC, DC, NJ, and MD. She works primarily with adults navigating the impact of relational and complex trauma, facilitates women’s support groups, and offers EMDR intensives for clients who feel “stuck” despite having insight.

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    Resources: 

    • Website: ak-psychotherapy.com
    • Instagram: @alyssaktherapy
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      Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only. It is not a substitute for clinical training or treatment. If you or someone you know needs mental health support, please reach out to a licensed professional.

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