Is couples therapy effective? Why or why not? What makes couple's more successful in their pursuit of getting the love they want? Give this a listen!

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In this episode, we explore the quiet but corrosive role that negativity plays in relationships — not just through conflict, but in the subtle daily ruptures that erode trust, intimacy, and emotional safety over time. Drawing from Gottman’s research, IMAGO relationship theory, and nervous system science, we unpack how negativity can show up emotionally, cognitively, physiologically, relationally, existentially, spiritually, and systemically. We challenge the idea that discomfort is always harmful, clarify the difference between harmful negativity and constructive truth-telling, and offer clear practices for eliminating negative patterns without falling into toxic positivity. This is about creating a sacred, secure space between you and your partner. A space where where truth can be spoken, pain can be repaired, and connection can grow.

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In this episode of Highly Successful Couples, we explore the concept of the “Couple Bubble,” a powerful idea from Dr. Stan Tatkin’s work that helps partners create a safe, protective space around their relationship. We talk about why this mutual commitment matters, how it strengthens trust and co-regulation, and what it looks like in everyday life. We also tackle one of the biggest questions couples face: how to balance prioritizing your partnership while raising children and why caring for your relationship first actually gives your kids the strongest foundation for security and growth.

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A great conversation with Ben Goresky from Evolving Man on why Men might struggle in relationships and what they can do about it.

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Affairs aren’t just about sex or betrayal. They’re often unconscious attempts to soothe old wounds left behind by childhood neglect, inconsistent caregiving, or unmet emotional needs. Today, we break down two common patterns of what we call “attachment affairs”: the detacher, who fears losing themselves in connection and seeks control through emotional distance, and the clinger, who anxiously pursues love to avoid the terror of abandonment. Understanding this doesn’t excuse betrayal, but it gives us a more honest and compassionate lens through which to view it. If you’ve ever wondered why people cheat or if you’ve been impacted by infidelity, this episode offers a grounded, eye-opening take.

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This episode is all about aliveness. The energy, spark, and vitality that makes a relationship feel worth being in. We break down the five pillars of aliveness: passion, purpose, presence, playfulness, and positivity. You’ll learn why aliveness fades over time, how to recognize when you’re just going through the motions, and simple but powerful ways to bring life back into your connection. If your relationship feels flat, boring, or disconnected, this episode offers a practical and heartfelt roadmap to help you both feel more alive.

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In this episode, we explore one of the most important (and often overlooked) ingredients in a thriving relationship: safety. Not just physical safety, but emotional safety. The kind that allows both partners to relax, open up, and show up fully. We’ll unpack what emotional safety really means, how to recognize when it’s missing, and why your partner’s sense of safety affects you, even if you don’t realize it. If you’ve ever felt stuck in defensiveness, conflict, or emotional shutdown, this episode will help you understand the deeper mechanics at play and how to rebuild trust from the inside out.

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What if your struggles in the bedroom aren’t about low libido or incompatibility, but about the cultural scripts you’ve absorbed your entire life? In this episode, Nick breaks down how hip-hop has shaped the way we think sex should look and feel. From performance pressure to emotional disconnection, we explore why so many people say “yes” when they mean “maybe,” why real desire takes time, and how long-term couples can find their way back to true connection. This is a deep, honest conversation about unlearning the fantasy and coming home to your body.

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We all talk about red flags, but do we really understand what they mean? In this episode, Nick breaks down the real story behind red flags in dating and long-term relationships. You’ll learn where the term actually comes from, why our brains are wired to scan for danger in love, and how to tell the difference between something worth walking away from… and something worth leaning into.

Nick explores how “red flag culture” can sometimes be a clever disguise for emotional avoidance and why being too quick to judge or too slow to speak up can sabotage connection. He also introduces a powerful framework for sorting concerns into yellow, red, and black flags, and offers practical advice for how to talk about your worries without blowing up your relationship.

If you’ve ever wondered, “Am I being too picky—or not picky enough?” then this episode is for you.

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Are you resisting change in your relationship because you fear losing yourself? In this episode, I unpack the difference between self-abandonment and relational growth, and why the right kind of change doesn’t make you less of who you are, but can actually help you become more of who you are. We’ll talk about why change feels threatening, how to spot the difference between growth and conformity, and what real evolution in a healthy partnership looks like. If you've ever said, “I shouldn’t have to change for someone,” this one’s for you.

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