Do you find conflict overwhelming in your relationships? Fights or moments of disconnection are actually a normal part of any relationship, but many of us were never taught how to navigate these ruptures in a way that facilitates healing. In this episode, Sarah breaks down the rupture and repair process through a multi-faceted approach, incorporating Polyvagal Theory, Parts Work, and Attachment Theory.

You’ll learn how to recognize when you're being driven by younger parts, the importance of pausing to regulate during a rupture, and how to communicate from a place of vulnerability. Whether you're in the thick of a tough dynamic or simply want to deepen your emotional fluency, you'll walk away with tools to foster resilience, build stronger bonds, and create more safety, within yourself and your relationships.

Episode Highlights

00:00 Intro

00:15 Why Ruptures Feel So Hard

04:02 Understanding Conflict Through Parts Work

13:56 No One Taught Us How to Repair

16:48 Steps to Healthy Repair: Pause & Regulate

18:06 Steps to Healthy Repair: Anchor in Adult Self

25:40 Steps to Healthy Repair: Communicate

30:00 “Do We Have to Be Completely Regulated to Repair?”

36:16 “Why Do I Over-Focus On Others in Relationships?” 

42:27 “How Do I Speak Up Before It’s Too Much?”   

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Important Keywords:

Rupture - A rupture is a moment of disconnection, conflict, or emotional break. While a normal part of any relationship, ruptures can also activate old wounding or past traumas that have yet to be resolved.

Repair - Repair is the process of reconnecting after a rupture through empathy, communication, and vulnerability. True repair fosters deeper intimacy, trust, and resilience in the relationship.

Parts Work – A therapeutic approach (e.g., Internal Family Systems) that explores different parts or aspects of the self and their roles in emotional healing.

Protector Parts - Protective parts are internal mechanisms (or versions of ourselves) developed to shield a vulnerable part from pain or harm, often formed during childhood. While they are well-intentioned, they can also keep us stuck in unhelpful patterns until their needs are addressed

Vulnerable Parts - Younger versions of ourselves that fragment off when we experience trauma, harm, or overwhelm and essentially get “stuck” in that painful experience until we can come to their aid as our adult self.

Adult Self - The adult self is our most confident, capable, and able self, which is also sometimes referred to as the “Self” or our “highest self.” We can only fully embody this version of ourselves when closer to regulation.

Your child needs your regulated nervous system. Whether you're raising little ones, guiding teens, or showing up as a leader in any area of life, this episode is all about learning how to embody your own healing so you can support others with calm, confidence, and care. With her signature mix of compassion and clarity, Sarah breaks down how our past often informs our parenting style, and how we can begin doing it differently.

You'll walk away with a fresh perspective on what children actually need to thrive. Plus, you’ll also get simple, practical tools for nervous system regulation and addressing your younger parts. It’s never too late to begin cultivating deeper levels of safety, attunement, and connection in your home.

Episode Highlights

01:10 Be Gentle with Yourself

05:16 4 Things Your Child Needs to Thrive

05:35 #1 - Safety

09:06 #2 - Regulation

11:10 #3 - Attunement

13:37 #4 - Be Seen As A Unique Individual

15:53 Only Need to Securely Attach 30% of the Time

19:59 Adversity Builds Resiliency

22:30 It’s Never Too Late

25:03 Parenting Through A Parts Work Lens

29:04 Nourishing Yourself

32:12 “How Do I Parent When I’m Dysregulated?”

43:53 “How Can I Get My Family On Board with This Work?”

57:00 “How Do I Manage Anticipatory Anxiety?"

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Important Keywords:

Nervous System Regulation - The process of supporting your autonomic nervous system to return to a balanced, calm state after stress. It’s essential for feeling safe, connected, and present in relationships, and allows you to respond to life from choice rather than survival.

Co-Regulation - This is the process where one person’s regulated nervous system helps another person return to a calmer state. For children (and adults), co-regulation is essential because it teaches the body how to feel safe and soothed in connection with others.

Somatic Healing - A body-based approach that involves releasing trapped activation/energy stored in the body, regulating the nervous system, completing the incomplete response to past trauma, and reconnecting with the physical self. Techniques like movement, touch, and breathwork are commonly used to support this healing process.

Attachment - The way we connect and relate to others, shaped by our early childhood experiences. A secure attachment allows us to feel safe in relationships, while insecure attachment styles can lead to patterns of anxiety, avoidance, or confusion.

Attunement - The ability to deeply connect with and understand another person’s emotional state, beyond just their words.

Resiliency - The capacity to recover and bounce back after stress or adversity. It’s built through safe, supportive relationships and repeated experiences of navigating challenges while feeling seen and supported.

Many of us are quick to label ourselves as an “introvert” or “extrovert” — but have you ever wondered if this is actually representative of your most authentic self? In this episode, Sarah explores the role trauma plays in shaping our relational identity. Whether you fawn, withdraw, feel drained by connection, or are known as the “life of the party,” this episode will help you to begin distinguishing what patterns might actually be a result of unresolved trauma.

Through a powerful blend of science-backed modalities, Sarah breaks down what it really means to connect from regulation, not self-protection. She shares how to begin listening to your own internal rhythm of connection and solitude, how to recognize protective parts when they show up, and how to gently guide your system back to safety, so that you can experience deeper, more fulfilling relationships.

Episode Highlights

00:00 Intro

01:24 Connection Is a Primary Human Need

08:23 Being an Introvert from Past Relational Trauma

12:26 Why We Find Some Connection Exhausting

18:19 Being an Extrovert from Past Relational Trauma

21:31 Connection Coming from Survival

23:21 How to Become Your Most Authentic Self

26:17 Who Do You Enjoy Connecting With?

28:06 Finding Safe Environments

30:02 Anchoring in Your Adult Self

32:09 Disconfirming Experiences & Leaning Into Discomfort

34:22 “I Become a Verbal Firehouse in Social Settings”

38:30 “Why Do I Constantly Blush?”

42:04 “How Do I Navigate Awkward Silences?”   

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Important Keywords:

Nervous System Regulation - The process of supporting your autonomic nervous system to return to a balanced, calm state. This is essential for feeling safe, connected, and present in your life and relationships.

Trauma - Trauma is the overwhelm of activation (energy) experienced in our bodies, in the face of helplessness. If we do not have the conditions necessary for trauma to process through our bodies, it becomes stuck and stored, leaving lasting emotional, physical, or psychological imprints. It disrupts the nervous system causing chronic dysregulation, disconnection, and/or hypervigilance.

Parts Work – A therapeutic approach (e.g., Internal Family Systems) that explores different parts or aspects of the self and their roles in emotional healing.

Fawning - This is not a state in the nervous system but a self-protective behavioral response that can happen in any state of dysregulation. It often looks like over-agreeing, over-giving, avoiding conflict, or becoming what you think others want you to be in order to feel safe or loved.

Dysregulation - Active self-protection that occurs when the nervous system believes we are in danger, whether it is a real or perceived threat. Chronic dysregulation is often a result of unresolved trauma and can significantly impact daily functioning.

Attachment - The emotional bonds we form in early life and carry into adulthood that influence how we relate to others. Sarah references the insecure attachment styles (anxious, avoidant, and disorganized) that lead us to seek or push away connection as a way to maintain safety.

Somatic Healing - A body-based approach to healing that works with the nervous system to discharge stored trauma and create internal safety. Sarah’s entire approach is rooted in this method, helping people heal through embodiment and felt experience.

There can be so much shame around the ways we procrastinate and self-sabotage. But these behaviors aren’t just “bad habits” — they’re actually forms of self-protection. In this episode, Sarah uncovers the hidden roles our nervous system and parts play in keeping us stuck around the things we desire most. 

You’ll learn how to work with your nervous system and parts, rather than against them, using practical somatic tools to help shift these patterns. Plus, Sarah answers listener questions on discipline, self-care, and why some of us freeze when it comes to responding to text messages, emails, and other correspondence. If you’ve ever felt stuck in a cycle of avoidance and frustration, this episode will show you why it makes so much sense.

Episode Highlights

00:00 Intro

00:42 Self-Sabotage Is a Form of Self-Protection

03:30 Understanding the Experience of Procastination

09:10 The Habitual Process of Procastination

14:09 Why Do We Self Sabotage?

17:41 Protective Parts at Work When We Self Sabotage

19:31 How to Befriend Your Nervous System

27:53 “Why Can’t I Stay Disciplined?”

41:31 “Why Do I Feel So Much Resistance Around Self-Care?”

50:48 “Why Do I Struggle to Respond to People?”

53:53 Relationships Are About Messiness 

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Important Keywords:

Procrastination – The act of delaying or avoiding tasks, often due to underlying fears or protective mechanisms in the nervous system. Sarah explains that procrastination is not laziness but a way the body tries to keep us safe from perceived danger.

“Self-Sabotage” - This term can often feel shaming, but it is simply a way our nervous system and parts protect us from what they don’t yet know is safe, often by pushing away or leaving things we might actually deeply desire.

Autonomic Nervous System - The body’s internal network that controls responses to stimuli and regulates our experiences of safety, fear, and connection. In the context of self-sabotage, it drives automatic reactions based on past experiences stored in our internal "database."

Protective Parts - Protective parts are internal mechanisms (or versions of ourselves) developed to shield us from pain or harm, often formed during childhood. These parts use behaviors like perfectionism, overachievement, or avoidance to keep us safe from perceived threats. While they are well-intentioned, they can also keep us stuck in unhelpful patterns until their needs are addressed.

Regulation - Regulation refers to the ability to maintain or return to a state of safety, presence, and connection within the nervous system. A regulated nervous system promotes calmness, focus, and the capacity to handle life's challenges effectively. Building regulation involves consistent neural exercises and creating disconfirming experiences that show your system it’s safe to come into a state of rest.

Parts Work - A therapeutic process that involves connecting with and healing younger parts of yourself that hold onto past wounds. It’s a core tool for building internal safety and reshaping how you show up in relationships and life.

Do you struggle to know what kind of boundaries to set? Many of us are taught to intellectualize our approach to boundary setting, which can leave us feeling confused or overwhelmed. In this episode, Sarah explores the embodied nature of boundaries and why unresolved trauma can leave us setting self-protective boundaries that aren’t actually aligned with our highest truth.

You’ll learn about three styles of boundary setting — diffuse, rigid, and embodied — and how to somatically begin coming back in contact with your truth. During the Q&A with Rachel, Sarah will also tackle real-life boundary challenges in work, relationships, and beyond. If you feel caught in cycles of over-giving, reflexively saying “yes” or “no,” or sacrificing your own needs, this episode will help you understand why — and how to create boundaries that truly serve you.

Episode Highlights: 

00:00 Introduction

00:15 What Are Embodied Boundaries? 

04:46 Why We Struggle With Boundaries

09:22 Self-Protective Boundaries: Diffuse

18:01 Self-Protective Boundaries: Rigid 

25:01 Embodied Boundaries

28:33 Steps to Begin Setting Embodied Boundaries

35:17 Q&A Segment With Rachel 

35:58 “Can I Stay in a High-Pressure Work Environment?”

43:25 “How Can I Stop Over-Giving and Being Resentful?”

56:20 “Am I Going Backward in My Healing Journey?”

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Important Keywords:

Embodied Boundaries –  A behavioral response that is rooted in one’s internal truth, limits, and needs. These boundaries are usually accessed when close to or in regulation and allow for deep levels of connectivity and autonomy.

Self-Protective Boundaries – When we’ve experienced trauma or our truth was chronically taken away, we learn to adapt and set self-protective boundaries. These boundaries are typically rooted in survival or a younger part that is seeking safety.

Diffuse Boundaries – An adaptive, self-protective boundary associated with the reflexive “yes” response. Think of these as “Swiss cheese” boundaries, where it is a boundary of sorts but it is permeable.

Rigid Boundaries – An adaptive, self-protective boundary associated with the reflexive “no” response. Think of these as “steel wall” boundaries, where nothing is able to permeate the boundary. 

Autonomic Nervous System: The self-protective system within the body that is responsible for our thoughts, feelings, sensations, behaviors, and perception of self, others, and the world around us, as well as regulating involuntary functions, such as your heart rate and digestion, and playing a central role in how you react to stress or calm.

What if the work you do isn’t just a paycheck but a path to alignment and fulfillment? In this episode, Sarah breaks down how our nervous system influences career choices and why so many of us end up in survival-based jobs rather than roles that truly inspire us. She explores the impact being misaligned in our work has on our nervous system, relationships, health, and overall well-being.

If you’ve ever felt like you’re meant for more, this episode will teach you how to step into a career (and life) that truly aligns with your gifts. You’ll learn how to create congruency in your current role, identify your true calling, and take tangible steps toward your desires. When you’re aligned with your purpose, it not only allows for deeper personal fulfillment — it also lights up the world around you.

Episode Highlights

00:00 Intro

00:27 Choosing a Career or Job From Survival

06:45 Human Beings Thrive When Purposeful

08:39 Finding Your Unique Gifts

11:03 How Being Misaligned Impacts Our Relationships

13:53 How Being Misaligned Impacts Our Health

14:51 Tools For Becoming More Aligned

22:50 Changing Your Role As You Heal

25:12 Our Systems Deeply Desire Alignment

26:47 Transitioning Careers and Finding Fulfillment 

32:51 Work Environments Can Replicate Dynamics From Childhood

37:55 Why Self-Like Parts Keep Us From Our Purpose  

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Important Keywords:

Protective Parts - Protective parts are internal mechanisms (or versions of ourselves) developed to shield us from pain or harm, often formed during childhood. These parts use behaviors like perfectionism, overachievement, or avoidance to keep us safe from perceived threats. While they are well-intentioned, they can also keep us stuck in unhelpful patterns until their needs are addressed.

Nervous System Regulation – Techniques and strategies used to calm and stabilize the nervous system. Regulation helps move the body out of a fight/flight, freeze, or shut down responses and into a balanced state of presence and connection.

Internal Safety – The feeling of stability and security that comes from within, rather than external circumstances. Sarah emphasizes that without internal safety, change can feel terrifying or overwhelming for our system and parts, making it difficult to step into a fulfilling career.

“Self-Like” Parts – These protective parts often sound like adult you but are in fact a protective part that is coming online to keep us safe. This often looks like self-doubt, avoidance, hesitation, retreating, or seemingly “rational” arguments that are based in fear.

Alignment – The state of living in accordance or congruency with one’s purpose, values, and natural gifts. Sarah explains that when we are aligned with our work, it energizes us rather than drains us, creating a ripple effect of positive impact.

Disconfirming Experiences – New, positive experiences that challenge and override old self-protective beliefs. For example, if it was unsafe in the past to use our voice, any time we tolerably step toward using our voice in the present, that is a disconfirming experience, showing our nervous system the past is over and it’s now safe to speak up.

In this episode of You Make Sense, Sarah dives into the complex layers of family dynamics, personal boundaries, and healing from past experiences. You'll learn how the dynamics within your family of origin created the roles you had to play, how those roles shape your adult relationships, and how to begin breaking free from those roles to step into your most fully-expressed self.

Through personal insights and therapeutic wisdom, Sarah discusses why our family of origin often triggers or activates us the most—and why we often see our caregivers as an extension of ourselves. If you’ve ever dreaded going home or struggle to set boundaries with your family, this episode will equip you with the somatic tools necessary to release the pain of the past and move forward with more ease.

Episode Highlights:

00:00 Introduction 

00:15 Why We Struggle with Our Family of Origin

12:57 Becoming the Primary Parent to Your Parts

22:45 Access Healthy Aggression 

27:41 Finding Belonging Through Chosen Family

30:58 Differentiating From Our Caregivers

37:37 Creating Safety & Setting Boundaries

49:40 Processing Recent Traumatic Experiences 

56:58 Healing From Abuse

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Important Keywords:

Family of Origin – The family system you were born into or raised in that shaped how you relate to others, your sense of belonging, and your identity. This dynamic then informs the way you show up in your adult life.

Boundaries – Boundaries are not a cognitive process but a somatic one that is informed by our internal truth, limits, and needs. We are all born with an innate ability to know our internal truth, but many of us become disconnected from that truth as a result of trauma. 

Somatic Healing - Somatic healing focuses on addressing trauma and stress stored in the body, rather than just the mind. It involves practices that help release trapped activation/energy, regulate the nervous system, complete the incomplete response to trauma of the past, and reconnect with the physical self. Techniques like movement, touch, and breathwork are commonly used to support this healing process.

Healthy Aggression - A term coined by Peter Levine, this is our lifeforce energy, which is needed to set boundaries, protect oneself, and assert personal needs. It’s also the energy that allows us to experience full aliveness, connection, wonder, and awe. When suppressed, it can lead to unresolved anger, resentment, and even physical symptoms, but when expressed appropriately, it helps complete past emotional responses.

If you’ve ever tossed and turned at night, wondering why you just can’t seem to get the rest you need, you’re not alone. In this episode of You Make Sense, Sarah Baldwin breaks down how insomnia, struggling to stay asleep, and other sleep disorders are often deeply connected to what’s happening in your nervous system.

Sarah explains why stress, unresolved trauma, and even daily overwhelm can keep you stuck in fight-or-flight, making deep sleep and rest nearly impossible. From easy, science-backed strategies like movement and time in nature to simple bedtime routines and setting boundaries, this episode is packed with practical tools to help you experience better quality sleep.

Episode Highlight:

00:00 Intro

00:35 Why Do We Struggle with Sleep?

04:31 7 Things You Need to Achieve Deep Rest

12:36 Effects of Chronic Lack of Sleep

16:50 The Epidemic of Sleep Disorders

21:24 3 Categories of Sleep Struggles

30:02 Why Nervous System Regulation is Needed for Deep Sleep

32:57 Creating a Nighttime Routine

39:00 Finding Relief From Insomnia

43:30 Unresolved Emotions or Grief Can Impact Sleep

46:58 What To Do When You Wake Up During the Night    

48:40 Setting Boundaries Around Sleep

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Important Keywords:

Nervous System Regulation – Techniques used to discharge activation and bring the nervous system back into a state of rest. Regulation helps move the body out of a fight/flight, freeze, or shut down response and into a balanced state of presence and connection.

Dysregulation – A state of active self-protection where the nervous system perceives danger. This can either be caused by a real threat based in the present moment or stem from past trauma, danger, or hardship, causing our system to superimpose a past experience onto the present.

Sympathetic Nervous System – When our system believes there is something we can do about the threat, it will send us into this mobilized state of dysregulation, often sometimes referred to as “fight or flight.” This is where we experience things like anxiety, terror, rage, panic, fear, agitation, or irritation.

Freeze State – A blended state of dysregulation experienced as tonic immobility. It is made up of equal parts mobilizing sympathetic energy and immobilizing dorsal energy, rendering us stuck. This state of dysregulation can make it difficult to fall or stay asleep..

Circadian Rhythm – The body’s internal clock that regulates sleep-wake cycles. Exposure to natural light in the morning and evening helps align this rhythm, making it easier to fall and stay asleep.

Restorative Rest – True rest that recharges the nervous system, which is different from passive activities like watching TV or scrolling on your phone. Practices like meditation, sound baths, and deep breathing help bring the body into a relaxed state before sleep.

In this episode of You Make Sense, Sarah explores the profound shifts that occur as we heal—both within ourselves and in our relationships. She delves into the challenges of evolving while being in partnerships, the difficulty of letting go when growth outpaces connection, and the natural distance that can emerge between those on different healing journeys.

Sarah also answers listener questions about navigating major life transitions. From unfulfilling marriages and moving forward when a partner is unwilling to grow, to forgiveness and releasing resentment following a betrayal, these questions spark a powerful conversation about trauma, self-protection, and reclaiming life after pain.

Episode Highlights:

00:00 Introduction 

00:15 Processing Endings

03:26 Internal Safety and Connectivity

06:42 Unwritten Contracts and Change in Our Relationships

09:59 Healing Decreases Our Toleration for Suffering

12:15 Giving Ourselves the Things We Never Got

13:21 Healing Invites Space for Change

18:58 Meeting New Parts of Ourselves

28:14 Leaving A Stagnant Relationship

32:13 Navigating Betrayal and Resentment

36:41 Forgiveness and Resolving Past Trauma

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Important Keywords:

Resentment – Resentment often signals unmet needs or unprocessed emotions. Nervous system regulation helps in addressing these feelings by discharging the underlying dysregulation.

Forgiveness – True forgiveness can only happen when a person has processed the appropriate response and emotions related to their trauma, by accessing what’s called healthy aggression.

Relational Shifts in Healing – As healing progresses, people may feel disconnected from past relationships, social circles, or roles. This is a natural part of transformation, signaling new growth and self-awareness.

Somatic Experiencing – Created by Dr. Peter Levine, this therapeutic modality uses body awareness, movement, and nervous system regulation to release and resolve stored trauma. By building capacity to be in our embodied experience, we can teach our nervous system how to pendulate, resulting in the discharge of stored trauma and overall regulation of the nervous system.

There can be a lot of talk around forgiveness in the self-help space, but what does it actually mean to forgive? Forgiveness is not just a mindset shift or something we can “think” our way into—it is a somatic process that requires addressing the nervous system and accessing our healthy aggression. 

Using the latest neuroscience research, Sarah explains how unresolved trauma gets stored in our bodies until we are able to “complete the incomplete experience” or access the appropriate response to what occurred. If you’ve struggled to let go and move forward in life, this episode will give you a step-by-step guide to somatically resolve these wounds, so that you can find freedom from the past and release feelings of shame and resentment.

Episode Highlights

00:00 Intro

00:46 Time Does Not Heal All  

04:36 We Must First Process What Occurred

08:01 What is Healthy Aggression?

11:20 What is Unhealthy Aggression?

12:36 Building Your Capacity for Healthy Aggression

15:56 Practical Applications for Somatic Forgiveness 

21:31 Accessing Your Unmet Needs

24:09 Struggling to Move On After a Betrayal

27:21 Healing Shame and Anger from Childhood Trauma

32:48 How to Overcome Parental Guilt

42:07 Spiritual Bypassing Around Forgiveness 

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Important Keywords:

Polyvagal Theory - This theory, developed by Dr. Stephen Porges, explains how the autonomic nervous system regulates our responses to stress, danger, and safety. It highlights the role of the vagus nerve in shifting between survival states (fight, flight, freeze, and shut down) and social engagement, which is crucial for emotional healing.

Healthy Aggression - A term coined by Peter Levine, this is our lifeforce energy, which is needed to set boundaries, protect oneself, and assert personal needs. It’s also the energy that allows us to experience full aliveness, connection, wonder, and awe. When suppressed, it can lead to unresolved anger, resentment, and even physical symptoms, but when expressed appropriately, it helps complete past emotional responses.

Trauma - Trauma is the overwhelm of activation (energy) experienced in our bodies, in the face of helplessness. If we do not have the conditions necessary for trauma to process through our bodies, it becomes stuck and stored, leaving lasting emotional, physical or psychological imprints. It disrupts the nervous system causing chronic dysregulation, disconnection and/or hypervigilance.

Somatic Healing - Somatic healing focuses on addressing trauma and stress stored in the body, rather than just the mind. It involves practices that help release trapped activation/energy, regulate the nervous system and complete the incomplete response to trauma of the past, and reconnect with the physical self. Techniques like movement, touch, and breathwork are commonly used to support this healing process.

Titration of Trauma - This refers to the body's natural process of releasing stored energy from past trauma or stress. It can happen through movement, sound, breathwork, or other somatic practices that allow the body to complete an unfinished emotional cycle and pendulate through stress responses.