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You’ll also learn the confusing or contradictory ways your nervous system may react when experiencing safe love for the first time and tangible steps you can take to begin finding more ease, trust, and safety in your relationships. Listen in for a compassionate and honest guide on what to expect when entering a close relationship and how to filter out social media advice that lacks nuance.

Episode Highlights: 

• [00:00] Introduction
• [02:58] How childhood trauma affects intimate relationships
• [06:54] A breakdown of what ‘roads of familiarity’ are 
• [10:15] Using somatic parts work to prepare for healthy relationships
• [15:08] What the ‘road of your deepest desire’ is
• [20:01] Building your capacity to receive safe love
• [22:23] How these concepts relate to your attachment style
• [30:33] Why your parts and nervous system need disconfirming experiences
• [37:16] Question 1 – Why do misunderstandings alway turn into big fights?
• [45:44] Question 2 – How do I stop caretaking my partner?
• [50:40] Question 3 – How do relationships impact the state of my nervous system?

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Quotes:
“When we don’t have the proper information that’s actually backed by science, we can end up going down the wrong roads of our lives.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:02:21]

“Even though those painful patterns of the past that we tend to repeat relationally cause us some pain, they are known, and that’s why we are drawn to them.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:08:37]

“We have to build the capacity to receive the good. You see, your nervous system only has the capacity for what it knows. – So when you receive that beautiful, healthy love, your system says: ‘It’s too much!’” — Sarah Baldwin [0:20:01]

“If a relationship is right for you and you have experienced a blueprint in the past of love not being secure and full and not just breadcrumbs, then it’s going to be very challenging at first, and so, you’re going to feel dysregulated.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:21:27]

Reflecting on her own experiences of pushing people away, Sarah unpacks how understanding the younger parts behind our decisions can help us replace self-punishment with compassion. She also discusses the importance of grieving what we've lost or never received, using the metaphor of pruning a rosebush to show how loss can make room for new growth. Listen in to discover how understanding your past can help you move beyond regret and open yourself to the life still waiting for you.

Episode Highlights:

• [00:00] Introduction
• [00:49] How regret can keep you stuck in shame and self-blame
• [07:52] Why regret usually happens after an experience ends
• [12:17] Sarah's experience of pushing away people who tried to love her
• [15:10] Understanding the protective parts behind self-sabotage
• [20:13] How younger protective parts can drive decisions you later regret
• [24:28] Exploring the protective patterns behind your own regrets
• [29:07] Reparenting your younger parts with compassion
• [38:15] Why grieving the past makes room for new experiences
• [43:08] Question 1 - How do I heal shame and regret over decisions I made because of childhood trauma?
• [48:54] Question 2 - How do I keep believing in the life I want when healing takes so long?
• [55:05] Question 3 - Does somatic completion need to be repeated to fully resolve trauma?

Join the 3-Day Expansion Experience:
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Quotes:
“I spent the majority of my life, unfortunately, pushing away the people that tried to love me the most.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:12:47]

“There are protective parts of you whose sole job is to ensure that the vulnerable part they protect never, ever, ever experiences the pain you experienced in the past again.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:15:50]

“[Your protective parts] don't want to blow up your life. They don't want to make things fall apart for you. They most certainly don't want you to miss opportunities in your life.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:22:42]

“Remember, it's not adult you doing [these things]. It's a younger part that is just trying to protect a vulnerable part of you.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:24:19]

“I'm walking you through this because I want you to actually feel the empathy for your younger parts and what you've been doing unintentionally to them.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:32:23]

“Grief means being with what was and also what never was, which makes room for what can be.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:39:20]

You’ll also learn three key components of expansion: working with your nervous system, understanding trauma feedback loops, and becoming the adult self or warrior your younger parts need. Rather than forcing change through insight or willpower, Sarah explains why healing involves showing the body that what was once dangerous can now be safe, one tolerable step at a time. Listen in to learn how working with your nervous system and protective parts can help you move toward the life you want.

Episode Highlights:

• [00:00] Introduction
• [00:42] Why every living thing wants to be fully expressed
• [02:27] What blocks you from becoming more fully yourself
• [10:46] Why healing is part of expanding into the life you want
• [12:44] Three components of living an expanded life
• [17:26] #1: The nervous system as the foundation for expansion
• [28:12] #2: Understanding roads of familiarity and trauma feedback loops
• [31:17] #3: Becoming the adult self your younger parts need
• [36:08] Taking tolerable steps toward the life you want
• [40:39] Question 1 - How do I balance purpose, relationships, and other parts of life?
• [45:19] Question 2 - Can trauma be healed when you cannot consciously remember it?
• [51:13] Question 3 - How do I navigate childhood trauma while caring for an ailing parent?

Join the 3-Day Expansion Experience:
​​You know you’re meant for more — so why does moving toward it feel harder than it should? Inside Expansion, Sarah is going to give you science-backed tools to help you regulate your nervous system, support your younger parts, and take tangible steps toward the life you want.

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Quotes:
“We don't heal just to heal. We heal so that we can be us.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:11:44]

“The life you want [is] for you, and it's our healing that gets us there.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:12:49]

“We need to overall bring regulation to our nervous system, and we need to show it, not tell it, that the things that were once dangerous are now safe.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:25:58]

“Our nervous system and our protective parts are saying, ‘Here is how I know how to navigate life and be safe.’ Because remember, their priority is not you living your full expanded life. Their priority is you surviving.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:29:42]

“Adult you is the only one that can lead the way into the expanded life you are here to live.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:33:50]

Real transformation begins not with willpower but with a felt sense of internal safety. Drawing on Polyvagal Theory, Somatic Experiencing, and Parts Work, Sarah shares tangible tools to help you shift from survival mode to genuine ease. Join Sarah to discover how regulation transforms not only your mindset but your entire lived experience, one safe, grounded moment at a time.

Episode Highlights:

• [00:00] Introduction
• [02:07] The connection between dysregulation and negativity
• [02:39] Understanding the six states of the nervous system
• [04:30] Why the nervous system is hardwired for survival
• [06:52] Neuroception and your orientation to the world
• [10:15] Your nervous system shapes your thinking
• [18:01] Working with your parts to find more ease and inner peace
• [26:31] Somatic tools to begin orienting toward the positive
• [37:50] Question 1: Understanding what regulation really means
• [46:10] Question 2: Why feedback triggers negative responses
• [54:40] Question 3: Healing the scarcity mindset surrounding money

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Sarah goes on to explain the difference between being a narcissist and having an avoidant attachment. While they can sometimes appear similar from the outside, avoidant partners have a deep desire for connection but often push it away out of self-protection. Listen in for a nuanced understanding of attachment wounding and how to find clarity on your own relational dynamics.

Episode Highlights:

• [00:00] Introduction
• [00:51] Difficult behaviors don’t always indicate narcissism
• [03:15] Understanding the origins of narcissism
• [07:54] Why narcissists often seek out codependent partners
• [11:50] Repair, ownership, and empathy
• [17:39] Common traits associated with narcissism
• [19:41] Why you can’t heal someone else’s narcissistic part
• [22:08] Healing changes your baseline for love
• [25:30] The difference between avoidant attachment and narcissism
• [28:20] Why avoidantly attached people want connection and push it away
• [31:08] Building capacity for closeness, connection, and intimacy
• [34:14] Using your adult self to distinguish narcissism from avoidant attachment
• [35:28] Question 1 - How do I heal when family dynamics pull me back into old roles?
• [50:24] Question 2 - Is my partner wrong for me if they remind me of a narcissistic parent?
• [01:02:43] Question 3 - Is my nervous system reacting to old trauma or something truly unsafe?

Get on the Waitlist for Sarah’s 16-Week Program:
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Quotes:
“When we are in dynamics with a narcissist, we'll notice that there really is no capacity to properly repair.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:11:52]

“[Narcissists] are unwilling to see reality in any other way than they see reality.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:12:14]

“The more that we heal, here's the beautiful thing that happens: I change my baseline for what love is.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:24:19]

“An avoidant attachment is absolutely and completely something that can be healed. Full stop.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:31:07]

“What we have to do, if we have an avoidant attachment, is build our capacity for connection, co-regulation, closeness, attunement, intimacy, being exposed, being seen, and being known.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:31:51]

You’ll also learn why protective parts may block you from pursuing what you want, and how healing unfolds through cycles of expansion and contraction as the nervous system gathers evidence that the present is safe. By taking tolerable steps and bringing this work into everyday life, you can build your capacity to navigate triggers and experience more of who you are. Find out why healing can feel so elusive and how to recognize progress even when it doesn’t feel like it.

Episode Highlights:

• [00:00] Introduction
• [00:49] The counterintuitive nature of healing
• [03:24] The nervous system as the foundation for healing
• [10:01] Building your capacity to receive the good
• [12:49] How becoming more embodied changes what you tolerate
• [14:20] Processing deeper layers of trauma as your capacity grows
• [16:05] Resolving coupling dynamics
• [20:43] Reconnecting with your needs and deepest desires
• [22:20] How healing can change your perception of reality
• [23:39] Renegotiating relationships as your needs change
• [24:23] Why regulation doesn’t mean never getting triggered
• [24:59] The expand/contract experience of healing
• [27:12] Taking tolerable steps toward the life you want
• [29:10] Healing happens through living, not just therapy
• [30:43] Grieving what you lose as you heal
• [33:29] Question 1 - What is the connection between physical and mental health?
• [37:51] Question 2 - Can healing result in physical symptoms or weight gain?
• [43:23] Question 3 - How do I navigate family members who refuse to heal?

Get on the Waitlist for Sarah’s 16-Week Program:
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Quotes:
“It can be really confusing when we hit certain points of the healing process, and what is forward might feel like backward to us.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:01:10]

“We have to show, not tell, our nervous systems that we are actually safe.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:10:28]

“The good things don't always feel good at first.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:10:39]

“The only way to live a fully embodied life is [by having] access to all of the human experience, to all of our feelings, and [by] living in our bodies today. We are not living in the body of a traumatized part of us from the past.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:20:24]

“[The goal is] not to orchestrate a life where you never get triggered; it's to know the route out of being triggered.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:24:53]

“We heal through our living, not just through being in therapeutic containers.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:29:17]

Much of the catastrophizing we experience is actually a result of protective parts that formed in our early childhood to keep us safe. You’ll learn how to come to the aid of these parts by first accessing your most capable, able adult self. Listen in for a compassionate guide on how to find lasting relief and step toward the thinking patterns you truly desire.

Episode Highlights: 

• [00:00] Introduction 
• [01:47] Focusing only on positive or negative
• [07:22] Why you may always assume the worst
• [15:46] Giving the vulnerable part safety from your adult self
• [21:28] Why traditional talk therapy isn’t enough
• [28:48] Accessing your adult self
• [33:38] The power of internal co-regulation 
• [40:32] Question 1 – How do I stop sabotaging my healthy relationship?
• [51:08] Question 2 – How do I manage fear and anxiety about my health?
• [57:51] Question 3 – How do I eradicate the shame I feel about my parts?

Get on the Waitlist for Sarah’s 16-Week Program:
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Quotes:
“I can be with what is not okay, and I can still be okay. This can only happen when we are anchored in safety.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:06:56]

“When we have a protective part that is anticipating a dangerous future or catastrophizing about how things will go wrong, it is going to put us in a state of dysregulation.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:11:50]

“Your protective parts will do anything to ensure the dangers of the past don’t happen again.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:13:55]

“We believe thoughts when there is an affect attached to it.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:24:53]

“When I experience hard things as adult me, it will never, ever, ever be like the hard traumatic things I experienced as a child because there’s an adult here now. And that’s me. And that is the work that sets us free.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:37:39]

Healing requires more than understanding where our wounds came from. Sarah explores how somatic healing and parts work are necessary components to bringing resolution to painful childhood experiences. By learning to become a steady, regulated presence for yourself, you can begin to release and shift old survival responses. Discover how healing developmental trauma can help you build greater safety within yourself and with the people you love.

Episode Highlights:

• [00:00] Introduction
• [00:56] Healing developmental trauma requires a somatic approach 
• [08:16] Implicit memory and how trauma lives in the body
• [10:15] How attachment trauma shapes adult relationships
• [15:25] Using somatic parts work to heal attachment wounds
• [19:23] Why intimate relationships can activate developmental trauma
• [20:57] Becoming the safe, regulated presence your younger parts need
• [22:32] Why healing developmental trauma requires consistency and support
• [25:13] Relearning connection through nonverbal experiences
• [28:37] Question 1 - How do I rebuild my sense of self after parentification?
• [35:44] Question 2 - How do I heal abandonment that affected multiple developmental stages?
• [44:24] Question 3 - How do I set boundaries as my role within my family changes?

Get on the Waitlist for Sarah’s 16-Week Program:
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Quotes:
“The number one most important thing that a baby or a child needs is a safe adult's regulated nervous system.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:02:05]

“Implicit memory is the type of memory that we have when it comes to trauma. It is not orderly, and it lives and is experienced in our bodies and our nervous system.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:08:59]

“The reason you struggle in relationships, if you do, is because your system had to adapt to a caregiver who could not successfully securely attach to you.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:11:23]

“A secure attachment means that you had a caregiver who was predominantly anchored in regulation in their nervous system.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:11:37]

“We have to also become the person that our parts feel safe with.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:16:10]

“When it comes to healing developmental trauma, our young parts aren't supposed to have to actually do anything, except be picked up and held by us, and for us to say, ‘Let me take what is too much for you.’” — Sarah Baldwin [0:21:59]

“You can't piecemeal your healing journey. You have to have support.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:23:40]

We explore the connection between our spiritual nature and the healing process, along with the spiritual and scientific foundations of parts work. Sarah explains how to begin working with your parts and what integration actually means. You’ll be invited to examine your self-protective behaviors with curiosity, compassion, and awareness, which is a powerful step toward deeper healing and a fuller experience of being alive. Your system already knows how to heal; it just needs to be shown the way.

Episode Highlights:

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Quotes:

You’ll learn about the four primary states of your autonomic nervous system and how each one directly impacts your lived experience. Then, Sarah will guide you through gentle steps to begin accessing your ventral vagal complex, which is the key to living a more free, empowered life. This conversation is a starting point to finding tools and support that lead to lasting change. If there’s an episode not to skip, it might be this one. 

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