Boundaries can feel tricky, can’t they? Especially when it comes to adult children. For years, we managed their lives—bedtimes, meals, homework, playdates. But as they grow, our role changes. And sometimes, when they set boundaries with us—or when we need to set them ourselves—it can sting.

In this episode of Midlife with Brooke, Brooke Oniki shares why boundaries aren’t walls meant to keep us apart, but guideposts that help us love each other better. She explores what it looks like to shift from being the manager of our kids’ lives to becoming a supportive mentor (and only when invited), and why respecting their boundaries is one of the purest forms of love we can offer.

You’ll learn:

• How boundaries change as children grow into adulthood
• Why respecting a “no” builds trust instead of distance
• How to know when you’re still trying to control instead of connect
• Practical ways to set your own boundaries with clarity and compassion
• Real-life stories of boundaries creating more peace and deeper love

Reflection Questions:

• Where am I resisting my child’s boundaries instead of honoring them?
• Where do I need to set a boundary of my own so I can show up with love instead of resentment?
• How might honoring boundaries actually bring us closer?

Final Thought:

Boundaries aren’t rejection. They are an invitation to love more freely, to trust more deeply, and to let our relationships grow in honesty and grace.

✨ Want help navigating a boundary that feels hard?

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