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When someone makes a decision that affects you - and it feels wrong, unfair, or completely illogical - it can trigger deep emotional reactions. In this episode, Gary Zukav reframes the question many of us ask: “How do I deal with this person?” Instead, he invites us to start somewhere far more powerful - within ourselves. What we feel in response to others’ choices reveals where our awareness is needed.

Rather than focusing on whether someone’s decision is rational or justified, Gary encourages listeners to turn inward and explore what parts of their personality are being activated. Is it a frightened part that reacts in familiar ways that feel powerless or superior? Or is it a loving part of your personality that can respond with clarity and compassion? This episode reminds us that how we choose to engage with others begins with how we relate to ourselves.

The solution isn’t about changing others - it’s about becoming conscious of our emotions and choosing responses rooted in love rather than fear. That’s how we stop painful patterns and create authentic power.

What You’ll Discover in This Episode:

(01:08) — Why your emotional reaction is more important than the logic behind someone else’s decision

(02:10) — How to recognize whether a frightened or loving part of your personality is being activated

(03:25) — What it means to challenge a frightened part of yourself by not reacting

(04:40) — Practical guidance on choosing loving, conscious responses even when you're triggered

(05:55) — Why dealing with yourself comes before trying to “deal with” another person

Embrace the Soul Step Challenge:

Think of a moment when someone made a decision you didn’t agree with—especially one that affected you. What did you feel? Did your reaction come from a loving or a frightened part of your personality? Write about that experience in your soul notebook. Notice where the sensations showed up in your body. Ask yourself: What would it look like to respond from love instead of fear the next time?

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