How Do U Meditate

How Do U Meditate

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How Do U Meditate episodes

  • #046 How to Make Finding Time to Meditate as an Entrepreneur Easy

    Meditation is slow. It is the exact opposite of busy. When you meditate you are still. You are observing. You’re in a place of non-doing which means non judgement. 

     

    This episode is a little different than the others. We discuss meditation as an entrepreneur and then there is a 7 min meditation at the end to practice. Fast forward to somewhere around the 17 min mark to find it. 

     

    Theres a great quote that says “Mindfulness is to develop a capacity to shift from the small self, the body of fear, to the deeper self and deeper letting go of what it means to finding peace.”

     

    As a fellow entrepreneur, I understand the complexities of managing time, stress, people and yourself. So how do we find time to do something completely opposite from our normal and so different of an experience?

     

    Have you ever been to a cycling class or went for a run? Even a tough yoga class, something that exhaust you to the point where you need a min. You can’t go from a tough workout into a sit at my desk and focus type situation. 

     

    You need “transition time”. Time for the in-between. A moment to reflect, to adjust the body, the mind and the spirit to focus what it is you need to focus on. 

     

    Common transition times are sunrise, transition into later afternoon, sunset, deep in the heart of midnight. The earth doesn’t move from night to dark in the blink of a second. It easily rises and falls and transitions sometimes without us even noticing. 

     

    So how could you expect you to do the same? It doesn’t work that way naturally. 

     

    There is a book that if you don’t already own it as an entrepreneur, you need to go and get it right now called zen entrepreneurship by Rizwan Virk. In the book he talks about thought forms. He states “thought forms are things and you will need to become aware of them; your habitual thought forms will determine the direction of your life.”

     

    Did you get that? Your habitual thought forms will determine the direction of your life. 

     

    How many of you have thoughts of what you value? What your self worth is worth? Who is taking up space in your brain. As an entrepreneur you will need to focus on what is needed and be intentful about your time and energy. 

     

    You will need to be able to visualize the outcomes and clear away other competing thought forms so that you can hold onto one in your mind longer and more clearly. 

     

    Choose the right patterns that will help you and not hurt you in your search for meaning or how you define success. 

     

    and creating time for self care is having the ability to choose the right techniques that help you, not hinder you. Sure you can look at other businesses for their success and the techniques they used, but they are not you. This is where your own inner work has to come into play. You are you and who knows the patterns within you and what you do better than you? 

     

    This is acknowledging your thought patterns and creating a routine to show up to your temple. Having a meeting with yourself. The CEO. The head guy. Like holy crap. You’re meeting with the head guy in the morning. 

     

    So how do you manage your time for self care as an entrepreneur? 

     

    1. Move with the earth not against it. Make time to look inside at a common transition time. 
  • Understand that this is part of it. You want more money, look within. You want more success, look within. You want to stop self sabotaging- look within. You want to know what direction to take next, look within. 
  • Be intentful about your time and energy. Don’t give your energy to anyone and anything that isn’t serving you. What worked for someone else, may not work for you. The more time you create to learn how to focus your thoughts, the more you will see that you’ll want to spend time with things that lift you up. You’ll quit playing in the lower energy fields. 

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    Talk to any successful entrepreneur you admire and they will probably tell you their habits. Most of them don’t get black out drunk or even drink for that matter. Most make time to meditate and work out. Most are able to delegate what needs to be done and they don’t have to be chief of everything. Most have coaches and counselors and therapist and advisors. 

     

    Self care is part of your job description and flipping the perception of it will only make this that much easier to transition to into a daily habit. 

     

    “As I’ve said this before, this awareness doesn’t just happen in an instant…it starts off with a hunch, as a clue to a greater treasure, then as we meditate, as we rearrange our lives based on these hunches, it opens up.” - Rizwan Virk 

     

    #zenentrepreneurship #meditation #mindfulness #meditationpractice #createlastinghabits #doingthatwork #howdoumeditate #spiritualpractice #spirituality #howdoyoumeditate

    39 min
  • #045 Ready for Less Stress? Listen in to Learn How To Create Relief for Yourself

    How do you find relief from your stress? What do you do when you feel overwhelmed, anxious, like you failed? Learn how to lean into these feelings, change your behavior to build up emotional resilience, and fall in love with the ability to create your own bliss. 

    “The greatest glory in living lies not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall.”

    Nelson Mandela

     

    Takeaways:

    1. Start with finding your courage to look within. 

    2. You can be born with this trait, but the good news is, you can develop it for yourself. 

    3. What would have to be at stake for you to change a habit?

    4. It's a marathon, not a sprint. 

    5.  Laugh at yourself. This isn't so serious. 

    6. Find your support. Your community. Your people.

    7. The way to shift and take control of your inner emotions, your inner world if you will, and step out of a life of stress, unhappiness, defeat, is to start a meditation practice today. 

    "The secret of health for both mind and body is not to mourn for the past, worry about the future, or anticipate troubles, but to live in the present moment wisely and earnestly.”

     

    -Buddha

     

    #mentalhealth #mindfulness #meditation #howdoumeditate #howdoyoumeditate #personalgrowth #selflove #awarenesspractice #wheredoimeditate #howdoimeditate #buildinginnerresilience #stresslesslovemore #conciousness #transformationalwork #claritythroughmeditation #knowthyself

     

    29 min
  • #044 Simple Awareness Meditation

    Join me for this 15 ish min meditation on simple awareness where we focus on the senses of the body, labeling our thoughts, and practice staying in the present moment. 

     

    Awareness is a practice just like working out. All you want to do is build you mind muscle to get better at noticing your thoughts, what you are thinking, where you take your thinking. 

     

    Once we get good at awareness, we can simplify our life, create healthier habits and create a new possibility or way of being that we didn't know existed.

     

    Enjoy my friends and if you have any questions at all DM me @tyler_gravley or check out my website at www.tylergravley.com 

     

    Free community meditation Mondays @4:10-4:30p CST.  Join the FB group https://www.facebook.com/groups/community111

     

    #awarenessmeditation #practicingstillness #melodybeattie #journeytotheheart #meditation #mindfulness #mentalhealth #practiceandalliscoming #howdoUmeditate 

     

     

    18 min
  • #043 How to Create Lasting Healthy Habits that Take You To The Next Level with Micheon Cahill

    Ep #043 How To Create Lasting Healthy Habits that Take You to The Next Level with Michon Cahill

    Hey guys it’s Tyler. Welcome back to another episode of How do you meditate?. I am so excited for today’s episode! Micheon Cahill is here. This conversation was part of the Booze Free January Challenge and if you want to stay until the end, I have real-life reviews for you to hear. This episode is pretty much like 3 masterclasses wrapped in one. You probably are going to want to take notes. There is a lot of actionable advice here. 

    Micheon Cahill is a pilates instructor, a Licensed marriage and family therapist, mom and all around wonderful human being getting into the online world with teaching & leading pre-and post natal pilates courses. She has multiple clients here in San Antonio and is leading the way to a more thoughtful approach to your pilates body. She is also a lululemon ambassador and has been featured in local magazines as well. It’s phenomenal what she has built, but what is even more impressive. is how humble, genuine ,generous and down to earth she is. So get ready! She is here to share juicy advice today all about habits. You will probably want to repeat this episode. Side secret that I will let you in on, Micheon and I are partnering to build a retreat that helps you build healthy habits, helps you clear your mind and connects you to a bigger strength within yourself. If you would like to know more check out the link work with me @tylergravley.com 

     

    Takeaways with Micheon 

    1. Habits are mindless. Become more mindful, you can create better habits. 
  • Identity emerges from habits, experiences influences those habits. 
  • Put on paper or say aloud what you want to change. This makes you more accountable for what you are thinking and feeling. 
  • Ask yourself. what would the person I want to be look like, feel like on a daily basis? 
  • What part of these habits are they in spiritual physical, emotional? If you are just focusing on what category… how can you start to distribute these habits into the other areas to feel more balanced? 
  • Make a list of 5 daily and mental habits that you would like to have. 
  • Example of a mental habit can be: all or nothing black or white, the story of comparing yourself to others, overthink ing something, making excuses, catastrophizing the future, putting yourself down. 
  • An example of an emotional habit can be learning how to unconsciously train yourself from responding to triggers. PTSD is another one that can be difficult because part of your brain is shutting down. You think something and you go to that self sabotaging place. Trauma you lived in. Those feelings become your baseline. 
  • Write down 3 habits you would like to take on. Those three habits won’t seem far fetched the more you become aware. 
  • The 1st habit to help you is being proactive and taking responsibility of acknowledging your behaviors.
  • Environment plays such a huge role in what you are influenced by. Is it hindering you because you’re stuck in a feeling or sensation? I can’t do this because I have all of these things I have to take care of.
  • Surround yourself with people that will help you get proactive. 
  • Set yourself up for the win and make realistic expectations.  Really prioritize. How are you going to get to that habit. 4-5 steps of how are you going to get there. Be specific. 
  • Adaptability. how you perceive it how you adapt is how you are going to live your life. 
  • The power is in awareness. 
  • If we can understand our why’s we can understand our purposes.

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    This episode is sponsored by: Arbonne 30 days to Healthy Living. The 30 Days to healthy living is a program that offers you an approachable plan to get you on track with good habits that can support long-term wellness. It’s a holistic approach focusing on a routine of whole foods coupled with vegan protein shakes and select nutritional supplements. It’s taken me years to find something without the chemicals in it that actually works. You can find more on my website at tylergravley.com. 

     

    #meditation #mentalhealth #licencedfamilyandmarriagetherapist #behavioralhealth #creatinghealthyhabits #mindfulness #jamesclear #sustainable #sustainability #boozefree #dryjanuary #wellnessconsultant #awareness 

     

    39 min
  • #042 Show Me How To Make Me Comfortable At Home with Diane Lowry

    #042 How Do You Take Care of Yourself When No One Else Does? 

     

    Diane Lowry-Professional Organizer and Home Coach. 

    You can find her @newyorkerathome

    DM her to get signed up for her newsletter or sign up at newyorkathome.com

    I absolutely loved this conversation with Diane. She is obsessed with spaces and how they work and really her speciality is taking your home to the next level to work for you. It’s the feeling that when you walk into your home you feel safe and cared for, and she creates that with deep intentional listening of what you really need to feel that way. How you live your everyday life. In her background, she studied installation art at the University of Columbia, worked on projects in central park, google, channel and opened her business, New York at Home five years ago. This is her story on how meditation has changed her life and her advice on incorporating into our own lives and home with the people we love. 

     

    1. Can we think of meditation as our quiet time. Our time to day dream, reflect??  Can we give our kids quiet time? how about our inner child? 
  • Perhaps consider pairing your meditation practice with the slow obsession of your coffee in the morning. 
  • Create your own temple in your home by grabbing things that affect the senses such as a candle for fire, coffee for taste, water, sound and sight. 
  • For her, meditation is how she creates the relationship with the outside world. She realized after 10 years it creates the space for her when she is not on the cushion, to have space between her response and reactivity. 
  • Meditation is a slow burn. It’s not something that you sit from 10 min you ll be free. You gotta keep it up.
  • Mediation creates the ability for you to watch your thoughts even when it is angry like the idea of “there are no shortcuts in zen”. 
  • Meditation is also the ability to sort of dip into yourself at a time when your emotions are flared. 
  • There is a feedback loop of how your space can communicate with you. What provides safety and calm for you?  Those little moments are sprinkled throughout your home and your space cares for you and part of that is the feeling that you get to feel like yourself within your own home, remembering who you are and what you’re bringing to the day.
  • We think as children that adults have it all together, but really what being an adult is, is taking care of yourself. 
  • A lot of what we do can be delegated. “What do I need to feel most cared for in the home where I am caring for others?” is a question we should all ask ourselves. 
  • Carving out space for yourself when you are a parent requires a lot of mental gymnastics that people don’t have the bandwidth for and because it is something that is a slow burn, even if you can just take 30 seconds or a minute, that’s a place you can potentially start. This is meditation also. Practicing being okay that maybe now is not the time to start a practice knowing that meditation will always be there for you. Give yourself some grace. 
  • If we learned anything at all , it’s that we are all just doing the best we can. 

    • One of the reasons she thinks meditation may not be practiced may have something to do with this quote: “Patience takes courage. It’s not an ideal state of calm. In fact, when we practice patience we will see our agitation far more clearly.”  - Pema Chodron

     

    #homeorganization #mindfulness #meditation #uplifitingconversations #meditationpractice #everydaylifeskills #interiordesign #entrepreneur #newyork #howdoumeditate #howdoyoumeditate 

    39 min
  • #041.Inspiring You to Take The Most Difficult Journey of Your life with Michael Lahoud

    #041:Have you ever wondered how to start a meditation practice as a new meditator? Do you want more peace in your life and crave a lifestyle that caters to that? Have you ever thought to yourself " I wonder how to get my mindset into a place where I can fully grow into who it is that I want to be and what skills do I need in order to really love what I do? 

    Or "I have achieved all the goals, got all the awards and I don't know what I need to do next?" My life seems a bit like I'm floating around.

     

    Then this episode is for you!!

     

    In this episode I interview Michael Lahoud, Major League Soccer player from 2006-2019. Currently, he is a coach for Trinity University in San Antonio, TX and on a mission to spread knowledge of how to achieve overall wellness in your life, including how mindset plays a role in your overall success. 

     

    If you're one of those people that obtains all the goals, achieves all the milestones, has to know what's next on the list, and then you ask yourself "is this what I really want to be up to in life?" then this episode is for you. 

     

    You will want to listen in on this episode and I promise you, you will gain so much wisdom into the heart of someone who truly loves what they do and finds success in their true passion for the love of it, not for the accolades or the fame. 

     

    Connect with us on instagram @howdoumeditate or the Facebook group The C(OM)munity. 

     

    You can find Michael on instagram: @mikelahoud

    Twitter: Mike Lahoud

    Facebook: Michael Lahoud

    On air soccer personality @ESPN 

     

    Here are the takeaways with Michael: 

    1. Soccer/ sports never asks any questions. It’s a give get. If you perform, you get validated. 
  • From an early age, he realized that he plays because he loves it, not because he wanted something from it. 
  • Practice is where you hone your craft or skill and it’s the most important thing you will ever do. It's what you do when no one is looking that sets you up for day to day longevity. 
  • The key to success is consistency and showing up daily. 
  • Create small goals and big goals. Short goals for whats in front of you. Big goals to honor this fire that has been ignited within you. 
  • Sounds cliche but so much wisdom in taking the road less traveled when everyone else is doing one thing, you go the other way. This builds up resilience to life. To do the thing, to take on the goals, to do what your mind and heart are set on. 
  • Meditation is disruptive to that go, go, go. The “I have to push”. “The next best thing” When your life and your mind are centered around that, it’s never enough. 
  • Be grounded in something because life will come whether you’re prepared for it or not.
  • Are you looking to the external for your validation? 
  • Wellness is the day to day practice of doing things to get us there. 
  • The greatest thing we can ever feel in this lifetime is fulfillment. 
  • To the extent that you are aware, then you can actually change something. 
  • The most difficult journey you will take is the one within. 

    • #MLS #proathlete #soccerplayer #mindfulness #meditation #meditationpractice #createnewhabits #meditator #soulpreneur #conversationsthatmeansomething #satx

    40 min
  • 040.* Bonus Minisode* - What the name change? Plus a little preview of season 3
    What the name change? Yes, it’s happened. Formerly, The Pollen Show, now it’s How Do U Meditate? Today I want to know how you’re really doing + I give some insight on who’s inside of you trying to reason all those thoughts of yours into something meaningful or not so meaningful. Season 3 to air February 2021. #mentalhealth #meditation #makingtheordinaryextraordinary #spirituality #mindfulness #comefortheconversation #stayforthepeace #keepinitreal #meditationmadeeasy #howdoyoumeditate #howdoUmeditate
    11 min
  • 039. How to Customize Your Meditation Practice with Mudras, Mantras & Meditations
    #039. Today we are talking about Mudras, Mantras and Meditations! So excited to be here with you and I can’t wait to dive into this. I have really been looking forward to sharing this information to help you all find a meditation practice that helps ease your anxiety, transcend your thoughts and see what is really the truth of all this messiness. The head is literally the animal in us that helps us survive. The head protects us from dying. Literally. The hunter-gather mentality is what do we need to do to survive. Where will we get food, water, shelter, who will our partner be and how long will they be around to protect me? Mudras, mantras and meditations are the ability to transcend the survival thoughts if you will call it that with me. The thoughts that are negative in nature and our thoughts literally hold the power to our feelings. Isn’t that incredible to know. For me when I realized this, it gave me the power to choose how I feel. It doesn’t always work out as easy as it sounds, but I have more power now to choose the direction of how I want to feel than I did years ago and to be if allows me freedom in my being, choice in my partnership and the ability to feel happier and more content with life itself. Wouldn’t you want that for yourself? Like cmon thats incredible. You will get to know more about this as we continue on our chat, but first let me do the honors of inviting you on November 19th to Choose your Holiday event. It is free to join. You can find the link in my bio on instagram or email me if you need it [email protected]. I'll happily send your way. Okay, so with this show my intent is to show you more light into mantras mudras and meditations so that you can follow this into where you would like to practice that works best for you and gain access into a deeper sense of freedom today. right now. Today we are really about finding and showing you how customizable meditation is. Lets go! #mindfulness #meditation #mindfulnessandmeditation #mudrasmantrasmeditations #spiritualgrowth #mindset #coachingmindset #mentalhealth --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
    33 min
  • 038. How to Find Stillness with Art, Paper and Your Own Magic
    #038. Today on the show, we have Carolyn Edge @edgecraftatx, from Crafts with an Edge. She specializes in creating art out of paper and magic. She totally embraces the edgy side of life with her badass art for badass people, and she loves coffee, nature and dogs. She has been crafting and creating for as long as she can remember. For her, art is a tool for powerful self expression, whether that is joy or pain. I love how she makes these “edgier” pieces that shows that even in the tough moments in life, beauty can still shine through.
    She has been sitting still for awhile, and on the show today we talk about the importance of using your hands to focus and find peace. We also talk about our christian background, what mediation is for her and how she felt a little disconnected from a spiritual practice but she’s been able to turn that around by re-finding and redefining what it means to be in practice with the higher version of herself. I loved chatting with her and I know that when you hear what she has to say, you will find a little bit of your own self within her story. Go check out her art on insta @edgecraftatx and you can purchase at www.edgecraftatx.com. Lets’ dive in to todays episode.
    Takeaways with Carolyn
    The repetitive movement with paper is somewhat meditative. Start local by taking a class and see what your own style is.
    One way to find ourselves is to ask how did I play as a kid? What did I play?
    Be brave enough to put it out there and see what happens.
    Take the bootstrap mentality to put it out there. With a mIndset change and inner work you can redefine the life you want and have.
    By receiving the validation from what people purchase, this will give you the confidence to keep going.
    5-10 min is doable for anyone. You want to get the value in silence and focus with art, walking, gardening. We, as a society, don’t know how to do something without input and something like being still is hard at first because its’ been unpracticed.
    Take bite size pieces all the time to help.
    There is power in writing each morning and journaling to listen in and see where this stream of consciousness will take you.
    Ask a question before being still. Repeat this over and over, and use that instead of a mantra. Just listen or have an affirmation that you try repeating over and over.
    Having an anchor is important to being your own inner guide.
    Her website is: edgecraftatx.com
    FB: Edgecraft
    Insta:@craftswithanedge
    Podcast: Crafts with an Edge
    #mindfulnessandmeditation #paperquilling #paperquillinartist #meetthemaker #austinartist #customart #meditationwithart #mindfulmakingproject #slowliving #simplejoys #mindfulmovement #mentalhealth #awarenesspractice
    --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
    36 min

About How Do U Meditate

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Do you ever feel like you wish you knew how to find peace for yourself in everyday, ordinary life but you don’t think you can? Do you feel overwhelmed looking even for a place to start? Do you want to be able to create more space in your life and not react to every emotion that comes up? Do you wish you felt more balanced and centered?