Neurodiverse Love with Mona Kay

How Our Sensory Differences Are Impacting Our Relationship and the Road to Making Things Better-Lori Crowley


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Lori Crowley, M.A., LMFT, LPCC is a therapist and coach who works with neurodivergent families and couples.  During this episode she shares some of her lived experiences and her expertise as well as the importance of taking a somatic approach to psychotherapy. We discuss so many important issues for neurodiverse couples to understand and addresss including:

  • ​How to integrate sensory differences.
  • ​Dealing with sensory overwhelm.
  • ​Neurons that fire together wire together.
  • ​Sensory resourcing.
  • ​Understanding all of our senses including vestibular, neuroception, and interoception.
  • ​Understanding being sensory seeking, sensory avoidant, neutral or a combination.
  • Brain story on Neuroclastic website
  • ​Logicalizing or invalidating emotions.
  • ​“Toward” energy and “Away” Energy.
  • ​Rewiring your neural pathways.
  • ​Double empathy problem.
  • ​Changing the frame in which we are holding our experiences.
  • ​Opposites can “complete” each other.
  • ​Is it a “can’t” or a “won’t”?
  • ​Overwhelm, lack of agency/choice and sense of imminent demise can lead to trauma.
  • ​How do I repair?  1) Create safety in the environment: Person you are interacting with needs to be seen.  Look at them through a sensory lens: 2) They need to be heard.  Hold what comes at you; 3) Teding-people want to feel respected. This can help the other person’s energy relax.  Remember not to say “but”, however you can say “and”.
  • ​Unpacking some of the sensory issues in play that led to Mona moving forward on a divorce.
  • ​Understanding if it’s overwhelm or lack of care?
  • ​Understand that repair may not be possible, however forgiveness can be very healing.


You can contact Lori for therapy here or for coaching here.


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