It can feel like we are taking on all the problems of the world but it's discouraging when it seems like nothing changes.

Today, I want to talk about finding clarity with what you value and being less ambiguous about what you actually want to achieve. When you refocus on what success actually means, you can build self-confidence and self-worth by acknowledging all the changes that you have created so far.

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Do you tend to worry about how smart you are? Or are you able to enjoy learning without it being an outcome-driven activity? Those are examples of different mindsets about intelligence and learning. One of those mindsets makes us get in our own way and the other can help us grow.

Carol Dweck is a world renowned Stanford University psychologist and the author of Mindset: The New Psychology of Success. 

Her groundbreaking research is breaking the myths of where success really comes from.

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Oftentimes we live in fear of other people judging us if we don’t do exactly what they want, but the reality is that other people will always judge. And, ultimately, you have to let them.

If you simply let others judge without giving it much meaning, then you are using less energy being yourself while they waste energy judging.

I want you to join me on this episode as we think about being our most authentic selves and not allowing the judgment of others to use up our precious brain juices.

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Teenagers are amazing observers. They easily pick up on things like instances when our actions don’t match our values, when we’re about to give them criticism, and the times that we make judgments about them.

From puberty to sexuality to self-concept, teen’s lives are changing in many ways. There is so much going on with them that it can be hard to understand their behaviors and attitudes. So how do we connect?

The answer lies in our parenting style. Parenting is an art and finding your own parenting style that is based on your personality and values can help you navigate all of the parenting decisions that you make.

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If we argue with reality, then we lose. So, don’t argue with it and learn to laugh at the ridiculousness instead.

Listen in to this episode as we talk about how we can change our mindset in regards to these truly trivial things and not let the little things bother us. I use a recent personal triumph over negative thinking to show how can you let go of these small bothers and enjoy the richness present in your life.

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Anger. You probably sometimes find yourself getting angry about work, relationships, or circumstances. It’s a powerful emotion, but is your anger effective at creating lasting change? Do you work hard trying to diminish your anger? 

Tune in to hear Harriet give us insight about our anger and how it can help our lives. We discuss how anger can be used effectively versus how it can be dysfunctional. Hint: ignoring anger or venting anger will not identify and address the underlying problems from which anger stems.

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What are the scripts that you have for others? Do you use these scripts as a test?

This episode is meant to break you out of those old scripts so you can have healthier relationships with yourself and others. I’ll share how we can dispatch with these scripts so we can be more of ourselves and let others be themselves in return. I’ll talk about how you can get rid of those expectations, how to deal with the scripts of other people, and what you can get out of freeing yourself of scripts.

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Former think-tank exec, business strategist, publicist, and one of the most popular and original personal development and career-advice writers online, Danielle LaPorte joins me in this interview which originally aired in 2012.  

Whether or not you are an entrepreneur, the concepts of trusting yourself, relying on yourself, and doing your own work can help to put you in the driver’s seat of your life. The entrepreneurial spirit is one of the best personal development experiences around.

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If you've been ghosted by a friend, you've probably asked yourself, "Now what?"

Today's episode answers the question of what you should do if a friend ghosts you. I'll offer you some questions to ask yourself when this happens that will help you get out of your own mind drama and consider that your friend may not be ghosting you with bad intentions. And I'll talk about how to understand what you want out of your relationships, how to have courageous conversations with a friend, and what to do if you're finding that your friendship is no longer a good fit.

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Motivation is based on drives: biological, reward + punishment, and purpose. For the most part, the nature of our work and tasks have changed significantly from the nineteenth to twentieth to twenty-first centuries. Have motivators kept up?

Daniel Pink is the author of four provocative books about changing the world of work including the New York Times best sellers, A Whole New Mind and Drive: The Surprising Truth About What Motivates Us. During Dan’s first guest appearance on the podcast, we discussed a changing work world and the new rules of work in an outsourced, automated age. 

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