How She Really Does It

How do your thoughts affect your reality? Pam Grout is the author of the New York Times bestseller E2: Nine Do-It-Yourself Energy Experiments that Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality. She joined me in 2013 to talk about thoughts, reality, and energy.

Each morning, Pam wakes up and tells herself, "something amazingly awesome will happen to me today." This is a simple practice that can change your mind and thoughts.

Using methods like this to change and reframe our thoughts, we can practice joy and practice being happy.

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Our immediate reaction to when things go wrong is to wallow in it or blame ourselves or others, but we can choose not to and to think practically instead.

By choosing to prioritize the important things and not wasting energy on unnecessary emotions, we can navigate problems way more effectively.

Join me on today's show to think about how to approach missteps and listen to some recent examples of learning how to deal with things going wrong.

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Heidi Grant Halvorson, Ph.D. is a social psychologist, speaker, best selling author of Succeed, and the co-author of Focus: Use Different Ways of Seeing the World to Power Success and Influence.

Heidi joined me in 2013 to help us understand how people focus. The two main types of focus in her research are promotion and prevention. When you understand the different types of focus, you can motivate yourself and everyone around you by using language that resonates.

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It can feel like we are taking on all the problems of the world but it's discouraging when it seems like nothing changes.

Today, I want to talk about finding clarity with what you value and being less ambiguous about what you actually want to achieve. When you refocus on what success actually means, you can build self-confidence and self-worth by acknowledging all the changes that you have created so far.

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Do you tend to worry about how smart you are? Or are you able to enjoy learning without it being an outcome-driven activity? Those are examples of different mindsets about intelligence and learning. One of those mindsets makes us get in our own way and the other can help us grow.

Carol Dweck is a world renowned Stanford University psychologist and the author of Mindset: The New Psychology of Success.

Her groundbreaking research is breaking the myths of where success really comes from.

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Oftentimes we live in fear of other people judging us if we don't do exactly what they want, but the reality is that other people will always judge. And, ultimately, you have to let them.

If you simply let others judge without giving it much meaning, then you are using less energy being yourself while they waste energy judging.

I want you to join me on this episode as we think about being our most authentic selves and not allowing the judgment of others to use up our precious brain juices.

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Teenagers are amazing observers. They easily pick up on things like instances when our actions don't match our values, when we're about to give them criticism, and the times that we make judgments about them.

From puberty to sexuality to self-concept, teen's lives are changing in many ways. There is so much going on with them that it can be hard to understand their behaviors and attitudes. So how do we connect?

The answer lies in our parenting style. Parenting is an art and finding your own parenting style that is based on your personality and values can help you navigate all of the parenting decisions that you make.

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If we argue with reality, then we lose. So, don't argue with it and learn to laugh at the ridiculousness instead.

Listen in to this episode as we talk about how we can change our mindset in regards to these truly trivial things and not let the little things bother us. I use a recent personal triumph over negative thinking to show how can you let go of these small bothers and enjoy the richness present in your life.

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Anger. You probably sometimes find yourself getting angry about work, relationships, or circumstances. It's a powerful emotion, but is your anger effective at creating lasting change? Do you work hard trying to diminish your anger?

Tune in to hear Harriet give us insight about our anger and how it can help our lives. We discuss how anger can be used effectively versus how it can be dysfunctional. Hint: ignoring anger or venting anger will not identify and address the underlying problems from which anger stems.

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What are the scripts that you have for others? Do you use these scripts as a test?

This episode is meant to break you out of those old scripts so you can have healthier relationships with yourself and others. I'll share how we can dispatch with these scripts so we can be more of ourselves and let others be themselves in return. I'll talk about how you can get rid of those expectations, how to deal with the scripts of other people, and what you can get out of freeing yourself of scripts.

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