Admit it: you’re still thinking about that cringey thing you did 6 years ago. Maybe it was something you said. Something you did. Something that haunts you at 2 AM when your brain decides to rerun its most humiliating blooper reel.

Today, we’re breaking down exactly how to move past an embarrassing moment in 5 steps. We’ll talk about why your brain refuses to let things go, how the spotlight effect makes you think people care way more than they actually do, and the five fastest ways to shake off the cringe and move on with your life.

EPISODE OUTLINE

00:00 Intro 

02:06 Preorder Make Believe! Come see me on tour!

02:44 Why do we feel embarrassment? 

03:50 Embarrassment scale 

03:57 Tier 1: slight cringe

05:07 Tier 2: mild cringe

07:07 Tier 3: proper humiliation 

11:09 Tier 4: deep humiliation 

13:29 Tier 5: existential humiliation

15:45 Jean Paul Sartre’s the gaze 

17:50 The spotlight effect

18:44 Social media and the spotlight effect

19:30 5 tips for navigating embarrassing moments

19:3 6 Break - Book! Bali! Tour! 

25:25 1. Remember the spotlight is not real

29:51 2. Call it out as it’s happening 

32:49 3. Tell someone 

34:27 4. Figure out the root

35:58 5. Own it and then move on 

40:07 Challenge 

MY LINKS

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EPISODE LINKS

Spotlight Effect Study 

Spotlight Effect and Social Media Study 

Jean Paul Sartre’s Being and Nothingness