Co-Host Kenny Vaughan (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/kenny) My first-time guest Kenny Vaughan is the author of The Right Fight and founder of Shield of Strength. He spends a lot of time thinking about what love is, and isn't. For years, Kenny thought love was only a feeling...but then realized there was something deeper there. He didn't buy that "love is a decision", either. What does, "I love you, I'm just not in love with you anymore" actually mean? And what does Kenny mean when he says, "I feel love her because she loves me?" And how did we get to the point where so-called "love" is actually defined by transactions in our culture? According to Kenny, love is both your offense and your defense. What does that mean? How much is love about being "nice" to each other? Why can that attitude of being "nice" actually show you don't love someone rather than truly loving them? Okay, so then what does "tough love" really mean? And what does this all have to do with how women crave "emotional availability"? Why is it so important for us (and women) to know why someone is doing what they're doing when we're in a relationship with them? How the idea of protecting a woman integrally tied to love? (Hint: Just because you'd die for her doesn't necessarily mean you love her.) So what comes first, the feeling of love or the decision to love? And does it stay that way forever? When one partner blames the other for a relationship going badly, what might actually be going on there? So is the phrase "deserve what you want" in line with actual love, or is it too self-serving? And most importantly, is Kenny related to Stevie Ray? The everyday carry for "Big Four" men is VAMANOS. What is it? Find out here: https://vamanos.chat

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