How To Make Love™

Adulthood asks us to confront a difficult truth: life rarely unfolds the way we imagined. In this episode, laura explores the difference between acceptance and approval, why acknowledging reality is essential for wise action, and how staying in relationship with what's true can become a profound practice of love, grief, and resilience.

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In this episode, we explore why truly living our values—like inclusivity, growth, and liberation—requires more than good intentions. It demands the uncomfortable, ongoing practice of changing our minds. Drawing on neuroscience and real-life examples, laura breaks down an actionable process for recognizing when our thinking is limited, pausing our defensive reactions, and expanding our capacity to hold complexity. If you've ever found yourself shutting down opposing perspectives or clinging to certainty, this conversation offers a powerful reframe: inclusivity isn't just a belief—it's a skill. And learning to update your thinking, even slightly, can transform how you relate to others and move through the world.

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This episode is about the habit of making someone wrong—-and how quickly that instinct shapes the way we relate to each other. I'm asking what becomes possible if we loosen our grip on blame and instead choose something more curious, and more human.

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What happens after you let go of forced hope? No breakthrough. No surge of inspiration. Just life—continuing. In this quiet, honest episode building off of last month, we explore what it means to stay put when nothing feels especially promising. Not grit. Not toxic positivity. Just the radical act of not turning away. If you're tired of pretending things will "work out" and still want to remain in love, in care, in contact with life—this one's for you.

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How do you hope when there's no logical reason to? In this episode, we explore what hope really is—and what it isn't. Rather than treating hope as optimism, belief, or confidence about the future, this conversation reframes hope as a present-moment orientation toward life, even when things feel bleak, overwhelming, or hopeless.

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What does it mean to stay human in a world that fuels disconnection, numbness, and productivity? This episode digs into everyday forms of dehumanization—and offers five messy, honest practices to help you rehumanize yourself and the spaces/relationships around you.

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laura reflects on the paradox of fighting for liberation while remembering we are already free. Through Buddhist practice, personal story, and practical tools, she invites listeners to live from wholeness now—even in the midst of struggle.

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In this deeply human episode of How to Make Love, laura invites us to practice despair—not as defeat, but as an act of love and honesty. Together, we explore how to face the unbearable truths of our world—genocide, displacement, climate crises, and quiet suffering—without turning away or being swallowed by numbness. This is not an episode of false hope—it is an invitation to stay human in a breaking world.

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Let's explore the radical, often uncomfortable practice of believing in others—even when life, systems, and personal history give us every reason not to. This episode challenges our instincts to withdraw trust and explores belief as a choice to see people as unfinished, capable, and still becoming. It's not about ignoring harm—it's about holding complexity with integrity, courage, and care.

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Letting go isn't often graceful, it tends to be gutting—and it might also be the truest path to liberation. In this episode, laura explores what it truly means to release relationships, roles, and illusions that no longer serve us—personally, politically, and spiritually. If you've ever struggled to loosen your grip on what once defined you, this conversation is your invitation to choose courage over control.

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